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Be careful with all these online stuffs, they might just be interested in your 2k registration fee. Any other thing after that will be one story to another.

As big as Nairaland is how many people do they pay not to talk of one website that's struggling to stand on its feet. Just be careful.

Shortyy:
Chai ya. So this is how the interesting topic ended? Eiya ndo o

Next time, know your mate.

Cry me a river...I don't trade words with failures and lowlifes. A useless entity who everyone around her is avoiding because of how useless she is to herself. What was I even thinking trading words with a frustrated soul like you in the first place?

You internet is the only consolation you have that gives you joy and happiness so go on with it.

Shortyy:
Which topic am I changing?

You're the one who brought up the topic of education, that's your point. And I'm telling you not everyone is as educated as you are to know
What a girl child right is.

And please we're not talking about bride price lmao. You truly did your research as I asked you, but you forgot to finish it.


We're not talking about the price of the bride you dumb , we're talking about the RIGHT. Oya stick it in your brain, THE RIGHT of the girl.

And I never said you're marrying one on credit.

You're so dumb, it bring tears to my eyes.

Now let me give you some instances because obviously, you're very very dumb lol and of course, your fellow dumbos have already started liking your trash a usual lmao.


In a certain family where they're not doing well, and happen to have a girl, this family having nothing to fend for themselves gives their daughter to the highest bidder, in exchange for maybe the education of this child, and overall well being of the family.

Now in this situation, is the girl aware of the fertility of the man? Does the family have time for a fertility check when the man is taking care of them? Are they even that enlightened to know that all these things are necessary? Does the girl even want to marry this man?

Now go back to your google and research again. Don't just read the part that interests you. Read every damn thing.

And PS, all those places you listed there are a bit exposed. Lmao. See his mouth like Afikpo. Afikpo was the capital of Ebonyi state before it was moved to Abakilii. Why won't they be exposed? Yet there are still some unexposed places there. Like Afikpo south.

And no, the township is not a village. Township people are enlightened enough.

And again we're not talking about bride price you dummy, we're talking about a family being enlightened enough to know that a man is supposed to take a fertility test before marrying their child, and we're also talking about the right of this girl.

Don't just jump in and comment, read and assimilate!

Again, I never said, you're marrying someone on credit, read my post please lmao. Stop embarrassing yourself.

You're obviously deranged, lonely, timid, insecure, unable to keep friends, always pissing people off. That's why you come to the internet to make yourself feel better. But deep down you know that you're as useless to yourself as you are to those around you that's why they all avoid you.

So stop throwing your frustration at me, I'm not the cause of your misery. See all the nonsense you sat down to write just to make yourself feel better. See I don't have strength for your stupidity, today is Sunday and I have better things to do with my life and time than to trade words with a failure like you. If you're tired of life, sniper is affordable get it and end your misery.

Go get a life and fúck off my mentions...I'm done with you.

Shortyy:
Oh please shut it! Just as y'all do here, once someone hits you with facts, you call it insults.

Don't get all emotional on me please, I can't insult you cause you honestly don't worth it lol.

Like I told you, you know absolutely nothing! You might know about your gender, but you know nothing about the female gender.

Women are being coerced or should I say pressured to marry. You think a lady who's pressurized to marry, will care about the fertility of a man? Even the mother won't care.

The main thing is "marry, no time for you again"

"Marry, others are marrying"

You're still here talking about 21st century, like I told you earlier, go to rural areas and see how women are being treated. Don't come here and form shît which you're obviously not!

I'm a child, but I'm schooling you right now. Take a trip to any rural Area in Ebonyi state and ask them about how marriage is done there.

Some even give out their female children on collateral, so when I'm telling you facts, shut the fck up. Your emotional rants won't work on me.

I'm telling him real stuff, he's talking about Educated people. You think it's everyone that's as educated as you think you are?

The day Nigerians realize that the rights of an ordinary girl child is threatened in this country, the better for them.

Please next time, research before you come for me! Peace out!

This girl you're truly sick, we're talking A you're just changing the topic anyhow just to suit yourself. Don't they force girls to marry in the towns as well? Or is it only in villages they're being forced to get married. When I talked about the town you changed to the village now you're giving a reference that's synonymous to the town as well. Biko quit jumping up and down like a frog to make a point.

And lol, you're so funny whose sounding emotional. You don't worth my emotions believe me. I just feel disgusted trying to talk sense into a myopic arrogant teenager.

The Ebonyi you're making reference to I did my NYSC there, so there's nothing you'll tell me about that state that I don't know so quit your whining.

No family will give out their daughter in Igbo land to you without you fulfilling all or more than half of the items on the list they gave to you. So quit lying cos you're already sounding so miserable.

Afikpo has one of the most expensive bride prices in Ebobyi state cos of ceremony they do during the marriage can't spell the name properly.

Ngbo isn't left out

Is it Effium

Ezza

Izzi

Tell me where in these places you'll marry wife on credit. Ebony people that follow tradition to the core would give you their daughter on credit. Go and get your facts right you little teenage liar.

And yes I'm in support of the rights of the female child. Every girl deserves happiness, I've never been against that...

Shortyy:
I'm talking about reality, you're talking about Church? Are you okay? Is it everyone that goes to your Pentecostal church? You haven't met traditional men? How old are you sef?

Please get lost. You're giving me headache.

I'm talking reality, he's telling church. Mtcheew.
My friend, go and wash plates and sleep.

And please avoid my posts, you're too dul to comprehend them.

I won't trade insults with you cos that's the defence mechanism fools use when they're challenged with superior argument and have nothing sensible to say.

So as a mother based in the village even if you don't go to church you'll give out your daughter to a traditional man without educating her on the basics of marriage. Do you even read what you type at all. You'll sell her into marriage in this 21st century without considering her happiness. It means you're more useless than I even imagined.

If you don't know let me educate your myopic brain. Vllages now have electricity,
roads, schools, polytechnics, college of education and even universities. So I don't even know the kind of village you're even referring to, families have educated son's and daughters who can always speak up for the uneducated in cases like this.

You're obviously a child who knows nothing. Data is cheap these days so every teenager can easily access the internet and begin to vomit meaningless comments.

I'm done replying you, when you wake up to reality maybe I'll consider your comments.

Shortyy:
Forming what exactly? That is a church believe.
Obviously, you aren't exposed at all. Maybe you're those who grew up in the city and know nothing of what women are facing in the rural areas.
Women have no right in Africa, that's the point I'm trying to make to you.

A village girl who wants to be carried out will have no right to ask her husband to be for a fertility test. It's only the girl that will be tested, that's if any test will be carried out at all. While the man, as the man does nothing.

At the end of the day, no child for years, and this girl starts to face fire from all angles for not producing any child, meanwhile, the man is the problem. Finally, who's to blame?

The way you're seeing this life no be so bros.

I'll stop here for now. Maybe when you're enlightened enough, we'll continue.

You're just struggling so hard to sound logical but believe me, you're doing a terrible job at it. Let me educate you.

Rules in penticostal churches apply to all their branches world wide. Meaning if a rule is issued in RCCG, MFM, depper life or Winners in Lagos, the least branch in that interior village must comply to it.

Churches have what they call marriage commitee, the job of these committee is to ensure that every information you gave them about yourself is true.

They verify your place of work, your house, your medical status, if you've been married in the past, of you have kids already...it has nothing to do with whether you're in the village or in the city. As long as you're a member of the church that's their marriage procedure and you must comply to it.

My church in the village live streams the headquarters program, they obey all the rules of the headquarters in Lagos.

So your argument about being in the village doesn't stand.

Also my dear you're the one who needs enlightenment.

Bennysam:
See as he’s looking at them like mumu

He's calculating the total cost of what they ordered in his mind, and hoping that the little money in his pocket will be enough to foot the bill.

We're still in the first week of January, the year is still young. There's every possibility that you can get a job if you put in more effort and back it with prayers.

I'll also advice you to intensify your search. Jobs won't come knocking on your door. You have to go out there and struggle to get it. Make a move.

Here's mine... anytime I see this pics I weep. Poor guy.

Shortyy:
Lmao typical of men, doing the blame games. Shebi na for this Africa where men think they're alpha and omega?

Not all women will garner the courage to do that. Even those that do, the men will do everything possible to conceal it.

What is this one saying sef.

Are you not aware that in most penticostal churches here in Nigeria you will be asked to do several tests including fertility test before they wed you?

What has that got to do with forming alpha and Omega?

Stop forming what you're not Biko.

Respectedguy:
spot on. She is only faking

For women, the craving for emotional attachment is even worse as they have been biologically wired for this.

She can only deceive the naive with her submission

Exactly!

Shortyy:
It's not just my opinion but my belief.

Not everyone needs stress in their lives.

Exactly... happy believe and happy stress free life.

Shortyy:
Why did you lie to your wife that you're fertile when you're not? Na wa o.

Abi u no wan make the lady carry her own child ni? Ig a bu ogbenye buru amusu?

What you can't do, another man has done it for you. Be grateful.

It is the right of every woman to demand a fertility test from any man she wants to marry. If she doesn't do that, then she has herself to blame.

I personally will run a fertility test on any woman I plan to get married to, I must be sure that she menstruate and ovulate and must be certified fertile by my doctor and it's her right to do the same for me to make sure I'm not suffering from weak erection, low sperm count... etc.

Sleeping with other men to correct an error she entered into due to negligence on her part is like trying to make two wrongs to become a right.

1234Tee:
My gf of 7 months refuses to pick my calls and reply my chats because I complained about her uncaring attitude

She's obviously not into you.

You guys should stop killing yourselves over girls who don't give a shit about you. You deserve much better.

Shortyy:
See this one. You think everyone is intrigued by marriage. You'd be surprised.

Like I said, everyone is a warrior, Alfa male/female... etc, on the internet.

Reality is a total different ball game. You can say whatever you want to say. It's your opinion and you're entitled to it. So there's no need arguing.

So you carried this character into 2021 ?

Shortyy:
Bruh, I don't trust no one. This isn't a pretending thing. I only have just one or two people I'm close to. My elder sister and my boss (female).

Like I told you, only an inexperienced girl will fall for that trick, because las las it will end in premium tears.

No one should fool herself or himself around anyone all in the name of love.

Let's not be deceived by telemundo and zeeworld biko.

You can't expect me to fall for you because you're being nice. Kolowerk na.

Me I nice pass you o.
Let everything be neutral. Simple.

If anyone comes at me with that pattern, I'll know damn sure it ain't for real.

BTW, the person wey get my mumu button, dem never born am

Na so...So you have no plans of setting down, you live your life for yourself, you're the only one that makes yourself happy you'll marry your sister and boss, marriage and love is for the weak and foolish. This your submission has fakenss written all over it.

I know you're just catching cruise....fire on nothing do you.

Shortyy:
Only an emotionally weak and naive girl will fall for this. Come at me like this, I'll chop your money instead and vamoose.

So you're simply saying you've never fallen in love, you've never loved anyone, you have no friends no one you trust to share certain secrets about yourself with...you know it's so easy to type anything you want on the internet. But reality is a different ball game entirely.

No matter how hard you might want to pretend, you and I know that there's that one guy who has your mumu button, who you'd rather starve and support him with your last Kobo than see him suffer.

That one guy is who my post is referring to.

The person I really feel sorry for is the poor late husband... he's only crime was loving and trusting the wrong woman. May his soul rest in peace.

blinking001:
From the very first day I engage a woman. I'll make it known to her that performing DNA test on my kids is a must and its non negotiable. I don't care how she takes the news but it is what it is. I'm a very straight forward person. No time for pretense.

My brother telling a girl you claim to love such thing is a direct insult. You're clearly accusing her of cheating without any proof. You must give her the benefit of doubt most especially if she's the loyal type. I wouldn't advice it, I mean why destroy your marriage before it even begins.

The best would be to do it secretly, if the kids are yours then it remains a secret, if they aren't, then you can take whatever action you dim fit to take. But it wouldn't be wise accusing her of sleeping around based on what you heard or read from social media.

But you have an Android phone with data...why not use it to contact family members and friends who know you much better and can easily help you than coming here to beg?

Kestolove:
U don't even have to let ur wife know about it, just take the children out and bring dem back home then wait for d result

I agree with you on this

blinking001:
Running DNA test on my future kids is a must. No woman can deny me that right.

Like a poster rightfully suggested, just take the kids out for the tests without the knowledge of your wife. If they're yours, you can pretend as though nothing happened. If they aren't then peacefully separate from their mom and her bastards.

fineboynl:
she is insisting on the cake, she said she will complete it I should send what I have. the problem now is having sent her the money she want me to come to her work place in the evening where it will happen.

this is what I'm avoiding and don't like.

2k is nothing, if it won't inconvenience you, give her. About being present, just know that your going there would mean you spending more.

But if you must go, make it very clear to her that you don't have, so you won't just go there and get embarrassed.

The struggle for relevance is real.

The sad truth about fake life is that you won't be able to maintain it for long. No matter how many girls you catch online with it, the day you meet is the day she'll know you're fake.

Besides most would begin requesting for urgent 2k cos you've already given them the impression that you're financially loaded.

There's nothing as easy and peaceful as being yourself.

If you're real I'll be real...I easily reciprocate a good deed.

Lightangel65:
Don't worry am a pro

I just hope you're catching cruise...cos if you're planning to actually murder someone, krama is a bítch, you'd never know when she'll come knocking.

Lightangel65:
Only if you get caught

No one kills to get caught, loop holes are what gives them away.

Lightangel65:
I would forgive all and act like nothing happened then kill her in the night and say she had a stroke.

For option 2 this would be after I get the promotion

Murder is a crime I hope you're aware of that. It's beat to just end things with her than further complicating your life by committing murder.

You owe no one any explanation. If you choose to quit then do so and make it clear to them (your friends) that you no longer indulge in such.

If they find you lesser of a man by your decision, you should know that they were never really true friends in the first place.

A true friend would respect your decision.

thebosstrevor1:
Wedding planner job is to organize the event not to teach sex. Telling couples to watch porn is a bad advice.

Before porn, inexperienced couples had sex in marriage without the help of no one and they were contented and happy.

It is porn teaching couples that they can not be satisfied, telling new couples to watch porn is the problem that causes sexual dissatifaction in marriage.

It's bad advice to you not them. Like I said that's your personal opinion... what you feel.

Outside there, it's quite different. Many couples even have adult movies in their homes.

That you dislike something doesn't make it bad, as logical beings, you have to try to reason with those that like that particular thing by seeing and understanding things from their own point of view.