₦airaland Forum

My brother it goes both ways...men do worse things, just that our society has a way of nailing the woman whenever she's caught in the act.

A man will impregnate his wife, her two sisters, their maid, his side chick, a random street hawker...and his wife will be told to forgive him for the sake of her marriage and kids.

I'm not taking sides here, but to be honest we men aren't saints ourselves. It's all about your discipline and integrity.

Most times when an independent lady you're dating requests for such huge amount it's for business. Either she wants to expand her business or she wants to invest...etc. it's not to buy wig, hand bag, clothes... etc as she can easily sort out those stuffs since she's financially independent. And supporting her can always come in handy cos you can easily fall back to her for assistance if things become rough with you.

Unlike the urgent 10k girl who is completely dumb with zero IQ, all she thinks of is how to buy iPhone, bone straight hair cream, soap, clothes...etc. then snap upload pics for social media to pepper her haters. She's not industrious and can't add any value to your life aside sex.

Fingers crossed... waiting in progress.

Latidoh1:
Throw more light please.

1. Prevention of Sexually Transmitted diseases

Condoms are not 100 percent safe in preventing STDs from coming in contact with body fluids, they might be cases where these condoms will mistakenly break and should such sex worker happen to be a carrier of any sexually transmitted infection, the man may be at risk. Not only that, other forms of sex such as MouthAction do pose a great deal of concern. A sex worker who may be infected with such disease may have issues with bleeding gums and thus, such infections may be transferred through exchange of fluids into the man's body system unknowingly.


2. It destroys a man's destiny

1st Corinthians 6:16 writes, do you not know that he who joins himself with a prostitute becomes one body with her? For it is written, the two shall become one flesh. Chapter 7 says, it is well for a man not to touch a woman, but because of the temptation to immorality, each man should have his own wife. Verse 8 goes on to advise, it is better for a man to marry, than to burn with passion.


Nowadays, from my research and discussions with friends, I am being told that prostitutes secretly take used condoms to sell. Nobody knows the reason behind such acts, but it will do a man a lot of saving to practice the art of self control than to have his destiny thrown away in the wrong hands.



3 it reduces your self control

How many of us men can actually stay on for years without actually having sex? How many of us men can turn down sexual advances? I'm pretty much sure only a few. Whenever these sexual urges aka "konji" sets in, the next thing our minds rush to is how to locate the nearest brothel to ease off. It is very possible that these sexual urges will eventually die down, irrespective of how long they can trigger off in a man. It's just all about the mindset. By the time u practice to live past two to three sexual urges, u'll be able to improve on your ability to have self control which easily saves you a lot from unwanted issues.



4 Saves Money

For those who are really inexperienced especially the young ones who are beginning to have high sexual hormones, visiting the brothel will just be the first and only option to cool off. These sex workers know an inexperienced dude when they see one, and they will really do whatever it takes for such guy to "cum" very fast. Now don't ask me how I know all these things, like I said, I do my research. And after such guy "cums" too early, he is compelled to pay for more rounds, just because he is inexperienced, thereby investing his money which he would have ought to use for something else far more important. And as Time goes on, he gets addicted to patronizing sex workers and spends all his money on them, thereby having little or no savings. Isn't it better to give to charity? Than waste all your money patronizing sex workers? Think!




5 prevents stereotype

A frequent customer to brothels now sees women as sex objects. They think that the only thing a human being who has breast and vagina can offer is just sex and nothing more. Hence they are seen as misogynists. They can hardly sustain a platonic friendship with the opposite sex as any type of woman appeals to him. In as much as womanhood is concerned, females are useless. This notion has to stop! The importance of womanhood to the human race cannot be far fetched, not only did God create eve as a mate to Adam, she was created to fill that loneliness gap, to be a helper, and a friend. Seeing women as just only meant for sex is in itself perversion of the highest degree.

The economy is bad. If she's working she can compliment it with her money. After all isn't that what love is all about?

ZIINI:
Yeah we good bro
Happy new year to you

Aiit stay safe.

ZIINI:
Hmmm am beginning to understand gradually
But he no mean now death craze gan
He fits come anytime take anybody away
May we not go now sha

Happy New year bro...it's been a while I saw your post. Hope you're good?

CrazyMan:
Sports and romance are totally different.

The examples you gave are strictly business. Love is emotional. If a girl whom you love cheats and leaves you, it would be difficult to get it over your mind let alone accept her back.

Well said

Rip to him

What is ASUU feeling like? That they're the only ones with government's mumu button?

Abeg they should let us head word, they're fighting the selfish government for themselves and not the students. So as far as I'm concerned they're in no way different from the government they're fighting.

Keep your money for something better. Trust me, it will come in handy. Prostitutes are nothing but bad luck

My brother save the little money you have and get married. Prostitutes are bad news. If you know you know.

Carrywent:
Guys pls how can I stop masturbation totally. shit has ruined my life pls lecture me . i need to stop it as soon as possible. I promise myself not to carry this act to 2020 but now i just finished two rounds and heading for more sooner. I masturbate almost every day. No girl in my life right now as a result of that. Because the moment I jack off i looses all feelings for ladies . I am 25 years old this year . I am more or less a gay but to myself. I am tired of this . Pls Suggest me a quick solution.. Thanks and God bless you all as u contribute

Masturbation happens when you're idle. Try to engage yourself in activities. If you're a student engage yourself with your books, games like PS, movies, sports, hanging out with friends, you can even look for a roommate just to ensure that you're not alone.

Also, stopping masturbation takes discipline. Tell yourself that you wouldn't do it and stand by it regardless of how strong the urge is, do not succumb. Successfully restraining yourself from urges that controlled you in the past and is still doing so presently is your first step in proving that you've got what it takes to become a successful man.

Men should learn to control their sexual urges. Imagine loosing his job because he lacked self-control plus a possible jail term if found guilty. So sad.

I know a Nigerian policeman can never do this...the day our policemen do this is the day I'll believe that Nigeria will be great.

Rip to hungerbad. I really missed that dude.

justbash:
Perhaps churches and Mosques should make it mandatory for every Nigerian parent

I concur...fraud is something that must be banished from our beloved country regardless of the kind of face it wears.

Gradually this country is being islamized

StacyO:
Entering into the marriage as a virgin won't guarantee she remains faithful though.
But,any woman who gets married as a virgin, will have every higher chances of being faithful to her husband all through their marriage.

I strongly believe as this applies to females,it should most likely apply to males.

A lot of bias attitudes from the male end.

I wasn't bias with my submission. I said virgins (meaning males inclusive) not female virgins only. Males are the ones who disvirgin the females so if male children are properly trained on how to control their sexual urges, there would be no one to defile the female virgins.

And like you stated, although being a virgin doesn't guarantee that you'll have a successful marriage, the chances of having to endure the pain of a cheating partner would almost be non-existent thereby eliminating paternity fraud.

I totally agree with you, paternity fraud is evil, and should be frowned upon. In marriages where trust no longer exists, the man can run a DNA test to assertain the geninueness of his kids and must be prepared for the worse should the results revoke his status as father.

But one of the problems why this paternity fraud exists because of stigma of not being married here in Africa and Nigeria as a woman. This is what drives desperate women into jumping on any committed man they see.

In most cases they don't really love the man and might even have one or more lovers who they maintain constant unprotected sex with thereby increasing the possibility of paternity fraud.

But since the prospective husband is the only one showing reasonable commitment towards her, she'll give in to marriage to remove the shame of being unmarried then continue her promiscuous lifestyle.

The only cure for this is for every man to enter relationships with his eyes fully open, so they can easily detect when the woman is playing them and when her love is geninue.

Also, parents too have a very big role to play by encouraging their children to keep their virginity till marriage. Marrying as a virgin will definitely eliminate any kind of unnecessary suspicion in your home.

Congratulations...she's a beauty.

SweetBuns:
he has registered a new account as we speak

It's so obvious...he might even be here replying himself.

Good...covid 19 isn't fatal in Nigeria. Edo and ondo states elections along with the end SARS protest proved it.

Run a Google search on that name.

And be very careful o, don't be so desperate to send money to anyone you can't verify their physical address. Boys aren't smiling these days.

I agree with him. I see no reason closing a crossover service by 10 or 11pm. I can as well stay in my house and observe it. Gathering in the church wasn't necessary.

Nwodosis:
Her biological clock of puberty is clocking, it is a clock one can't stop no matter how religious you are.
Be close to her and educate her on the pro and cons of indulging in sex. Please don't take advantage of her.

Op take this advice...

The girl in question will forever be greatful to you when she attains full maturity.

God will step in when you make an effort. Don't just sit there praying and expecting God to perform magic for you. He doesn't work that way. Make efforts and he'll crown those your efforts with success.

EdricBond:
I'm starting to realize how alone I am, and how nobody actually gives a fvck!!!
Stire up my motivation please!!!

Calm down...are you a graduate?

Have you learnt any skill?

What do have on ground?

Let's start from there.