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Next time, dont have sex, until you legally become a MRS.

Nollywood is taking its 'first baby steps". Encourage our local movie actor, for if we dont, who would then? With time, our great industry would be a force to be reckoned with.

Rome was not built in a day!!!

I love Nigeria, but this post is about America. Now, why dont you start a thread about our reasons for liking Nigeria? I am sure people would respond to it.

There is nothing wrong in imbibing/incorporating some elements of a foreign musical into our beats but some of our artistes tend to overdo it. If you are singing pure trado african music, then imbibing hiphop into the flow would only reduce the quality of the music. At times, one may even wonder what the genre of music that our artistes are recording, because of so many incorporation. As for rap, which is an African American music, I am not a fan of it and I don't approve of its sometimes derogative portrayal of women. But don't be surprised, if some of our artistes join the bandwagon and quickly incorporate these much despised action into their songs.

L.A. man sues to take wife's last name
Updated 1/12/2007 10:24 AM ET E-mail | Save | Print | Reprints & Permissions | Subscribe to stories like this Subscribe to stories like this
Mike Buday and Diana Bijon outside their home in Marina del Rey in December.
Enlarge By Richard Hartos, Los Angeles Times
Mike Buday and Diana Bijon outside their home in Marina del Rey in December.
By Martin Kasindorf, USA TODAY
LOS ANGELES — Michael Buday is petitioning a federal judge for the right to take Diana Bijon's last name in marriage as easily as she could take his last name.

Bijon, 28, an emergency room nurse, asked her fiancé to change his last name to preserve her father's family name because there are no sons. Buday, 29, a technical manager at an advertising firm, promised he would.

"I had a rough childhood with my father," he says. "We never really got along. Diana's father stepped up, gave me career advice. He's family."

ON DEADLINE: Would you take your wife's name?

Keeping his promise has been more onerous than Buday expected. A woman can choose her husband's name or her maiden name on a California marriage-license form after the couple pays a county application fee that ranges from $50 to $97. California and 43 other states provide no place on a marriage-license application for the groom to choose the bride's surname.

To officially change his name to hers — and for future Social Security benefits, Buday says — a man must pay a $320 court fee, advertise his intention in a newspaper for four weeks and get a judge's approval.

"The law makes it burdensome, if not close to impossible, to adopt the wife's name," says Mark Rosenbaum, legal director for the American Civil Liberties Union of Southern California. "It reflects the archaic notion of a woman's subordinate place in the partnership."

The ACLU sued California and Los Angeles County on Dec. 15 to have the separate treatment of Buday and Bijon outlawed as gender discrimination and a denial of equal protection. The couple were married in August 2005 under their separate names after state and county agencies rebuffed them.

Six states — Georgia, Hawaii, Iowa, Massachusetts, New York and North Dakota — give either spouse the right to choose the other's last name.

A marrying couple that wants a combined or hyphenated name in California and most other states must go through the red tape of a court petition. That's the route Antonio Villar of Los Angeles took in 1987 when he and his wife, Corina Raigosa, combined their names as Villaraigosa. He's now mayor of the city.

A groom seldom asks to adopt his bride's name, says Myleta Miller, a clerk at Atlanta's Probate Court. No national statistics are kept, but Miller says she's seen "no more than five" such applications in six years on the job.

Los Angeles County Registrar-Recorder/County Clerk Conny McCormack, named in the lawsuit, says her office uses a state-dictated form and will comply with any change judges or legislators might order.

"I certainly am in favor of the law … being clarified," McCormack says.
Posted 1/11/2007 10:23 PM ET

Yeah, so that means Hollywood film producers should take into account that vegeterians abstain from flesh, and as such, movie scenes depicting the consumption of flesh should not be filmed to avoid the ire of these vegeterians?

Right?@loverbwoy

Question, Question, which kin question be this? Obviously, the person posting this question would know that it is absolutely wrong!!!

Some of you guys are quite funny. What is the difference between killing a dog by strangulation and killing a cattle with a knife? Are they not the same? Someone might advocate for a 'humane' killing, but seriously, what is the difference between 'humane' killing and killing a dog by force? And the same people who come in here and advocate for animal rights, I suspect, are not even vegetarians.


So, what is the next agenda? That humans should not consume plants/vegetables, because they are living things? Why is PETA not calling for the total ban for the consumption of fruits and vegetables, being that, they also have life? Oh, I see, PETA is against humans eating animals, and as such eschew eating meat, in favor of consuming vegetables, when these plants are also living things.

Hypocrisy!!!

@ikamefa, nothing wrong in editing your posts to elucidate what you had written earlier

Cant understand your complaints. I did not post any link to your profile. That's my picture that I took at San Jose city hall.

What are you all talking about? I posted my pic on my profile, and someone is saying what? that I posted your pic on my profile? I dont get it.

how is it impersonation?

I am just shocked, wheewwww!!!

How una dey do with this banking job for naija? I am so curious

God is wonderful, I am always happy to hear of the good news that our people have written on this board about their success in their quest for gainful employment. He will never disappoint you at all. That is an assurance. The only desire we should harbor in life is to remain obedient to His Commandments.

I like the US better, overall. The weather is nicer, the people are more open, and the cost of living is more reasonable than the UK. From my understanding, the taxes in the UK is very high, higher than the US. Even renting an apartment in the UK (like London) requires the renter to pay taxes. Geez, and how much is the salary sef? I flew into UK once, enroute to Naija, and was amazed by the high cost of living. It is too much, and the weather does not even help matters at all. Moreso, when you realize that your taxes are being put into supporting the royal family, you start wondering, "Why should I work hard just to make ends meet, while the royal family are living in ostentatious luxury from the brow of my sweat? Your health system may be excellent, but in the US too, our healthcare is not bad either. I would rather live in Nigeria, than reside in the UK.

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My broda, Calabar's real estate used to be very cheap, because it is a very big city. Now, with the rate of influx of investors into that city, I wonder if that will change the prices of real estate and unfortunately, displace the inhabitants of the city. Sha, I miss that city very much.

could not even post the link

Says file is too large to be accomodated, so I could not post it.

Seun, how can it be reduced? I have tried cropping, but it is not working

My picture.

Wao, Ryley, how can you write that about YOUR own mother?

Jesus Christ is Lord of Lords and King of Kings. Even the demons know that

The white man is not as evil as he is painted by some other races.

@ The one, you have admitted that you grew up in a seedy part of Lagos (Ajegunle), but I am surprised to read that you may have been insulated from the struggles of some students on campus. Assuming you were interested in a political office back home, and you came up with an agenda convincing your constituents that poverty was almost non -existent on college campuses, because less than one 1% of the student limited their meal intakes to one a day, do you really think that university students would accept you as their future leader?

If you feel that the hotel overcharged you, you could have picked another hotel. But since your company was paying for it, why even complain in the first place? Are you really trying to rile up Nigerians by indoctrinating them that the white man is oppressing them in their country, because Sheraton billed you 400 dollars a Night? I doubt if any Nigerian would even bother siding with you. They would even assume that you are only bragging that you stayed at the sheraton hotel. Please, there are more headier stuff weighing the average Nigerian, and racism isnt part of it.

Being an "Eyen" Akwa Ibom, does not mean that I have to fall hook line and sinker to the mamy water story. I schooled at Obot Idim which is very close to some streams in the Afaha village. I used to go to the stream to fetch water, as a junior student, and never, I repeat, never did I witness any surreal experience at the stream, even at evening time.

Have you ever seen these mermaids before? Dont get me wrong, I believe in the existence of evil, but that mermaid story sef, get as e be. How true are these stories that if you see a mermaid combing her hair, she will get startled, and then dash to the river, leaving behind her hair accessories? And if you even leave with her stuff, she will haunt you in your dreams? How true is it that when they 'kidnap' you to their abode, at the bottom of the river (a miracle that you wont drown in the first place), that you will serve them for some years, before you are being released? Please educate me. I don see things for my eye, but that stories surrounding the existence of mermaids eluded me, till I moved abroad. If there are no verifiable proofs, then it should be shelved side by side with the great book of fables and myths of the Greek legend. That way, one can also point out the contribution of Akwa Ibom State in Nigerian mythology.

P/S: If they do exist, I don't even want to see them!!!

Let Nigeria and other African countries join ranks together and focus on rejuvenating their own ailing (as in Nigeria's case) aviation industry. It is better that way, instead of succumbing to playing second fiddle to the west. So long as they keep doing so, then these insensitive airlines would be disposed to humiliating us at all costs.

What a shame!!

Chichima, I would like to think that our criticism is constructive. We just can't fawn that Nigerian music are the best, because we are from Nigeria. I don ask this question, and some people seem to agree with me, "Why do some of our musicians, especially the upcoming ones, tend to emulate/inculculate Western rhythm in their choreography? Why can't we be original? Some of our people always overdo thing at times. Tell me, has any of these Western Musicians like Beyounce or Jayz or Patti Labelle ever incorporated any African theme in their music? Why should we copy theirs then? Please, dont even mention globalization as the factor for this copy copy syndrome that is quite prevalent amongst our people. Stick with originality, and you can attain success with it. Dont duplicate, you will always remain second best.