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CareerRe: Access/Marina/Capital Banks to Sack All Polytechnic & State University Graduates by Ndipe(m): 11:42am On Oct 26, 2006
Inferiority complex in the bank and furthermore discrimination exhibited against Diploma graduates. This should not be tolerated, and there is no way anybody can convince me that only graduates from Federal Universities (I graduated from a federal university in Naija) are the only top performers in the bank. Circumstances occur in life that derails one's attempt to be admitted into the university. Anyway sha, that's Nigeria, cos, if it was in America, that bank would have been sued and boycotted by the masses.

Shame!!!
CareerRe: Should I Return To Nigeria To Work? by Ndipe(m): 11:24am On Oct 26, 2006
A bird in a hand is worth 2 in the bush.

Dont abandon your seemingly comfortable life in London to an uncertain life in Naija. You may regret it. Rather, acquire as much skills as you can in your stated profession and on vacation to naija, you could hunt for a new job.

I get question to ask, is 30,000 thousand pounds really a lot of money in Uk? From my understanding, London is a notoriious for taxes, coupled with their high cost of living.
LiteratureDouble Tragedy. Short Story By Ndipe by Ndipe(op): 9:44am On Oct 26, 2006
“Mommy”, the little girl, in a flowery frock called out delightedly on the merry go-round, “come and join me”. Nkoyo adjusted her black shades and looked up in equal happiness when she saw her daughter riding gracefully on top of the rides at Disney Land and she waved back at her. Today marked their first trip to Disney Land, and she had been bowled over by the rides at the theme parks, just as she had been when her husband, Edem had declared his love for her the previous week with an expensive gift, a glittering diamond ring.

It was a gift from her husband for their fifth wedding anniversary. She had been swept off her feet when Edem slipped in the glittering diamond crusted ring into her finger. Tears streamed freely when her husband proclaimed in a soft romantic tone “This is for you, honey”, he said, “the woman of my dreams whose presence illuminates my path at night and brightens my disposition all year round”. Then, he clasped his hands into hers led her into their bedroom and sat her on the Kings Size bed. He handed her a brown envelope. She tore out the envelope and led out a shout of joy when she saw the Disney Logo on the white sheet of paper. Her husband, with a smile plastered on his face nodded. “We are celebrating our fifth wedding anniversary at Disney Land”.

"Honey, I am touched by your romantic gesture towards me, the trip to Disneyland means a lot to me”. She wiped away her tears. “You have now fulfilled my dream to visit the “Happiest place on earth”. “I know that of course”, He hugged her and wiped her tear stained eyes. He stared at her and affirmed his love for her. “I love you from the bottom of my heart and to prove it, I have decided to spare no expenses for our fifth wedding anniversary. “I have always known of your love for me, but this certainly tops it all”.
Together in a warm embrace, the couple engaged in a passionate kiss and then fell asleep.

Nkoyo had a great marriage. Unlike her mother, her in-laws were kind and considerate people. Her father had died young and subsequently, her rearing had fallen under the care of her mother. Following her father’s demise, his relatives had thrown them out of the house. Her mother was determined to survive, so she eked out a living, selling firewood and fish at the market to support their life together. Her daughter’s academic prowess was her consolation. She would remark to herself, “Hopefully, a great guy would come along and wipe away the sweat from my brow”. Her wish would be answered, when her daughter finished college and rode home in class with a rich gentleman.
Edem was his name. A decade older than Nkoyo, he looked considerably younger than she looked. But the most important aspect was that he was loaded with money.
He was a successful businessman with vested interests in the booming oil industry in the country. Within the twinkle of an eye, their fortunes changed.

Edem had fulfilled his traditional responsibilities of a future son-in-law. Aside from the hefty dowry that he paid to his new mother in-law, she had requested and received a luxurious Mercedez Benz car with a driver to squire her around the village.
Soon, the hardscrabble life that mother and daughter led was now a distant memory clouded with money and gifts. Nkoyo was the biggest beneficiary of her husband’s largesse. Their house, a ten-room story building was lavishly furnished with furniture imported abroad. Hired helps compensated for the domestic work at their residence. They had three butlers; each assigned to prepare their meals depending on the time of the day. Then there was the drivers all five of them in the same ratio as the number of luxury cars in their garage.
The seal of trust was cemented when her husband responded to a friend’s question if he planned on having another lavish naming ceremony for the next child. “No naming ceremony in my house will rival this event, for Susan will definitely be our only child”. His comment drew gasps from the audience and he heard it. “One child is fine with me, irrespective of the gender, it is better that way, so that the mother will be in good health to take care of her, rather than losing her life in an attempt to give me a male child”
The female guests who were all elegantly attired for the occasion drew a thundering applause at his comment.

In the evening when mother and daughter retired back to their hotel suite, Susan had regaled her mother on her joys on riding the rides. “You should have seen how high the horses took me to, when I rode it”. She laughed when her daughter also told her that “Cinderella told me that she will be visiting us in Nigeria”. A phone call put an abrupt end to her giddy mood. “Can I speak with Mrs. Udosen”?, the caller asked. “Speaking”, she replied back. There was tension on the other line. “I am sorry to announce to you that your husband died in a car crash yesterday, en-route to Lagos. His remains have been found and your presence is needed right away”. Nkoyo panicked, ignoring her daughter’s continued plea, “Mom, when is dad joining us for the trip”. She was shattered, she called her in-laws again, and the news was indeed true. Edem had died in a motor accident. That night, she packed back her belongings, along with her daughter, slowly. The agility that had characterized her persona the previous week had now faded into oblivion.

They departed the following week to Nigeria, and thereafter, Edem was commited to mother earth. Nkoyo had wailed so much that she thought she would die of a broken heart. Her relatives (her mother had died the previous year) had cautioned her, “If you cry like this, who will take care of your daughter”? Her tears intensified the following week when she recoiled with horror at the contents of the Will, brandished to her by her in-laws. Soon, it dawned on her, that she was a victim, like her mother had been of the female property rights in Africa as a whole.

All the affirmation of love that her husband had pledged to her was a ruse, for she was leaving her matrimonial home empty handed. All his jewelries, their luxurious cars, and even their joint savings account and their house was now her sister in-law’s property. Even the energy she had invested in for the success of her marriage was apparently forgotten.

What pained her most was when she was ordered out of her matrimonial home. As her sister in-law rudely informed her

“His will states that I should be the sole inheritance of the house when he dies”, another one was throwing away her luggages out of her bedroom.
A woman usurping her of her legal rights in her own matrimonial home!

Nkoyo could not recover the shock of the betrayal. She continued dapping her eyes with the black shawl that was covered on her head. She was now faced with a double tragedy , the pain of being a widow and the fear of being homeless again. She could not even answer her daughter’s question, “Are we still going back to America to visit Disney Land”? She could not tell her young daughter that Cinderella resided in a fairy tale land different from their world, which was hostile to widows.
LiteratureRe: The Next Nigerian Writer Who Should Win The Nobel Prize by Ndipe(m): 9:41am On Oct 26, 2006
Whom are you referring to, Hollywood, cos, the guy you just mentioned is not on this board.

And besides, he won the "British Borders" award that sent him abroad. So, your assessement that he is a 'struggling writer' does not quite apply to his case.
FamilyRe: Nigerian Men Don't Marry Early Enough? by Ndipe(m): 8:45am On Oct 26, 2006
I wont encourage anybody to marry early. Marriage is not a 'spur of the moment' act that you engage in. It requires commitement for the rest of your life, and maturity on both partners. And don't forget that finances play an important role in our culture. When you are out of college in your early 20's, you may still have some road blocks ahead of you. Nigerian women, some of them are materialistic, and they want to date a well heeled guy, with a car and a house. By the time you finish renting your apartment, buying money, and fulfilling your family responsibilities, if you are the first born, ol'boy, you don old finish. Wedding itself is expensive, and when you have to do trado and white wedding, that is a drain in your pocket.

In America, you don't need that ceremony to be married. All what you do is to go to Court, pay ten or 20 dollars and you are married in the eyes of the law. Organize party the following weekend to celebrate your status as a married man. Nigeria, you pay dowry, buy gin for your father inlaw, lace for your mother inlaw, chocolate for your little brother inlaw, kolanuts for your grandfather in law, walking cane for the , and the money don disappear.

The reason why guys in yankees have kids quite early is that the system is different. Here a girl in high school gets pregnant, and she is automatically qualified for welfare. Can you imagine that? Before welfare was restructred by Clinton, some narrow minded women had kids in order to get more money from the federal government, without working.

Teenage pregnancy is a factor. Dont be suprised to see a woman in her late thirties being a grandmother. I have seen at least 2 cases.
AutosRe: 4,000 naira fine for use of cellphone while driving as from 1st of July (FRSC) by Ndipe(m): 4:55am On Oct 26, 2006
I support the fine, actually think the sum of money is a slap on the wrist.

But good job, FRS for watching out. In America, traffic violations will cost you a lot of money.
Christianity EtcRe: Jehovah Or Yahweh Is Not The Same As Allah! Beware by Ndipe(m): 3:00am On Oct 26, 2006
Read this link.

http://www.menorah.org/allahtrc.html

Abeg, forget sista, you know she is not a Christian. She is perhaps one of those people who believe that Christianity was brought in to subjugate blacks.
Christianity EtcRe: What's Least Amount You Can Give As Worship Offering On A Sunday Service? by Ndipe(m): 2:50am On Oct 26, 2006
Your offering should come from the heart, and please dont tell people how much you donate. We all make mistakes, on our part, so a little admonishment from Omogenikky is right on target.
Christianity EtcRe: Was There A World Before Genesis 1? by Ndipe(m): 2:45am On Oct 26, 2006
The story of the pre-adamic age has always been a controversial one. But if the Bible does not explicity talk about it, why do we have to dredge over it? Forget am sha. The most important aspect is the Salvation that He has freely offered to us through the Blood of His Begotten Son, Jesus Christ.
Christianity EtcRe: Muslims Who Have Encountered Yahushua (Jesus Christ) by Ndipe(m): 2:27am On Oct 26, 2006
Read this:

I stumbled upon this on the internet.

http://www.answering-islam.de/Main////Gilchrist/al_masih.html#1
HealthRe: A Cure For Malaria? by Ndipe(m): 4:55am On Oct 25, 2006
One of Kwame Nkrumah's son is working on eradicating malaria in Africa. That is quite an uphill task, because Mosquitoes, the primary vector of malaria thrive in tropical climates (Even California has had incidents of Mosquitoes that causes the red nile virus, I think) like countries in Africa, and their breeding ground is commonly found in open sewages. So, tell me, how can we combat Malaria when we have poor drainage system in Nigeria?

As far I am aware of, there is no cure for Malaria,  one can prevent them by sleeping in Mosquito nets, taking Sunday Sunday  cheesy or Nivaquine when one gets infected. And yeah, it is a cycle.
TravelRe: What Is The Best City In West Africa To Live In? by Ndipe(m): 3:11am On Oct 21, 2006
Abidjan, before the war was regarded as the "Paris of West Africa". The city is considered the most beautiful in W. Africa.

Another city worth looking into is Dakar, Senegal.

Has anybody ever visited Conakry?
CelebritiesRe: Most Nollywood Actors And Actresses Are Poor by Ndipe(m): 1:28am On Oct 21, 2006
Orikinala, comparing the Naira with the Dollar is like comparing apples with guavas. The exchange rate should never be a yardstick in guaging the cost of living in both countries. Some people back home think that if you are making 7 dollas an hour, they are quick to multiply that with the conversion rate (1-135) and quickly assume that you are Royalty in Yankee. that is far from the truth. Let me give you an example. You go out to eat at a restaurant here and spend 20 bucks for a plate of food. There is no way one could convince me that the same plate of food that I ordered in my neck of wood would cost 2600 Naira. As a matter of fact, it may even be less than half the price.

Another factor is real estate in the valley. At times, our people are in a conundrum whether to buy a house back home or invest in Real estate out here. It is very pricey here, despite the downturn in the market. An average, nice house could go for 700k in Silicon Valley, which is more than 70 million Naira in Nigeria. In Ewet Housing, I can easily get a showplace for about 20 million Naira. So, please don't use the conversion rate to measure the cost of living. Those actors/actresses, making 3 million Naira a year in Naija, to me are not doing bad. It may not be a nice sum of money to survive in posh places like VI, but 25k per year, isnt enough to pay your rent/bills for the whole year in Manhattan.
PropertiesRe: Need A House In Vi/lekki by Ndipe(m): 12:51am On Oct 21, 2006
Imoh, abadie?

450k? is that monthly or annuallyhuh Quite curious to know that. E be like say rent for Lekki amounts to rent in Silicon Valley, very expensive.
HealthRe: Very Important For My Sistas by Ndipe(m): 8:52pm On Oct 20, 2006
Etete, abadie?

Lipstick alone? What of other makeup that ladies smear on their face? Have they been any investigation that they may be linked to cancer?
PoliticsImpressive Feats from Africa. by Ndipe(op): 9:58am On Oct 19, 2006
Irrespective of the sorry state that the African continent is currently in, its storied past and accomplishments deserves to be publicized. Unfortunately, that probably wont be the case, unless we Africans step upto the plate and tell our version of the story. As a saying goes, " Until the lions produce their own historian, the story of the hunt will only glorify the hunter" is more apt in this case. Stories of starving kids, poverty, corruption, famine and all ills that has reduced us to the laughing stock of the world are regular highlights in the western media. While there is this element of truth that bad news is good news for the journalists, by reading some of this articles with no berth whatsoever highlighting the storied past of Africa, many, without prior knowledge of Africa would come to the conclusion that Africa is a perenial loser in the affairs of the world.

So, on campus, I came across an African publication about some of the notable accomplishments of Africa. I glanced at it cursorily because I had to get back to work. When I got home, I decided to research them on google and came across this impressive feats of Africans.

Here is the website

http://saxakali.com/COLOR_ASP/historymaf.htm
EducationRe: Covenant University by Ndipe(m): 9:51am On Oct 16, 2006
Jogego, you are right on point. 250k being levied upon students from a Private Christian University is a rip off. I say so. How many people in Naija can afford to pay such an outrageous amount of money? Do they offer scholarships in the University? What incentives are offered to justify these outrageous fees, especially coming from a Christian institution. I am sure that the missionaries, who came to Africa, to save souls, and offer free education, in the country would be shaking their heads at such a travesty of injustice in our society. No way can someone convince me that the money is justified. In America here, the mere mention of a private college, though associated with prestige, is expensive. But the incentive is that most of these private colleges/universities offer scholarships to the lower class of the society, those who would not have been given the opportunity to go to such colleges. Harvard is currently offering a full ride to households earning less than 40k a year. And their fees, while high, and seemingly out of reach for the middle class, can be offset via scholarships.
PoliticsRe: Chief Judge Collects Bribe by Ndipe(m): 7:58am On Oct 16, 2006
Odeku, how old you be sef? Arent you from Naija? why are you acting all surprised about this scandal, as it if is a new precedent in Naija? Not that I am condoning this practise, but it is not newsy. Quit belaboring over it on this forum and seek a more appropriate angle to address it.
PoliticsRe: Chief Judge Collects Bribe by Ndipe(m): 3:51am On Oct 16, 2006
Nothing about Naija and money fazes me anymore.
PoliticsRe: Duke Lacrosse Players by Ndipe(m): 3:49am On Oct 16, 2006
This has no correlations to power at all, rather, it portrays a flawed system whereby men's rights have no meaning in the American society. Women ought to stop portraying themselves as victims. Yeah, what the men did, were wrong, having sex with the women, but in our imperfect world, that is considered acceptable, because it was consensual.
PoliticsRe: Education In Naija Or Yankee, Which One Is More Challenging? by Ndipe(op): 3:03am On Oct 16, 2006
Education in Naija is just too challenging. America makes it easier for their students. Counsellors to help decide for students on their future career goals, Even college admission staff, visiting high schools to market their schools to high school students. Now, we did not have a choice. On the contrary, in Nigeria,  some of the Universities you applied to, would reject you, based on your affilation with a certain ethnic group, JAMB scores, SSCE. And the abundance of research materials, in this vicinity, may make education seem like a breeze here. Factor in the financial aid and scholarships that students are awarded, plus the ability to finish the programe at your pace (finances could play a role) without being rusticated is an added advantage.

But still , , why would this incident happen? Would it have to do with their leap from tehir parents nest at an age, when most of us were independent or, what could lead to this pressure? I schooled in Naija, and yeah, it was a relatively smooth ride, not counting strikes by ASUU, and here I am here and comparing the two. No, Nigerian education can't be compared to Yankee's educational instution, period!!!
CultureRe: Are You Proud To Be A Nigerian? by Ndipe(m): 2:56am On Oct 16, 2006
In our African society, where your father hails from is regarded as your ancestral land, your village, irrespective of your birthplace. That was why I was quite perplexed when American kids would be telling me along this line, "My father is from Tennesse, but I am from California". Lets accept people's differences, Different cultures for different society.
FashionRe: The Tyra Banks Show by Ndipe(m): 11:15pm On Oct 15, 2006
Not that I care about the show, but the success of her show is even trouncing the Oprah show in the 18-34 age group, coveted by advertisers.
Nairaland GeneralRe: Pictures Of Nigerian Independence Day Parade In New York by Ndipe(m): 2:59am On Oct 14, 2006
It warms my heart to see my people celebrating our independence day. Memories of Nigeria, very wonderful indeed.

www.nigerianmemories..com
RomanceRe: Moving In With My Boyfriend: Advisable Or Not? by Ndipe(m): 2:57am On Oct 14, 2006
Premarital sex is a no no. Wait till both of you get married.
NYSCRe: Advice: Zenith Bank Career Through NYSC? by Ndipe(m): 2:51am On Oct 14, 2006
What are your job duties as a marketer for a bank? I live abroad, and the story that I have heard is that it is your responsibility to bring in clients to the bank. You have a certain target, that if you dont meet, might lead to job dismissal. Is that true? If so, how do people go about bringing in clients to the company? Just curious.

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