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Zoharariel:
What you're feeling is normal. Men are polygamous by nature. It was religion that brought about these man-made marital restrictions.

In spite of some people's beliefs that polygamy is morally wrong, the majority of men know that it is not natural to have only one sexual partner at a time - even though they will never come out to say it in order not be ostracized & stripped off their social statuses in their churches & social gatherings.

Psychologically, it is impossible for any man to be limited into eating only Akpu & Edikaikong soup decorated with Goat meats everyday for the rest of his life. A day will come when he would crave to have Pounded Yam & Egusi soup laced with different specie of fishes & edible reptiles such as crocodile.

My advice to you is to be smart about it and do not make a habit of it.

Pay no mind to all the people that will come on this thread telling to hold on for Jesus & the holy spirit - with their lying tongues & deceitful lips. They know how to speak peace to their neighbours but inwardly setting an ambush for them.

Do not allow man-made laws written & compiled into a book by some Roman charlatans under the influence of alcohol in the 6th century deprive you of your natural instinct & liberty to explore all the good things that life has to offer.

Balderdash! How will you feel when you find out your wife has been ministered to by another man? Whatever is good for the goose is also good for the gander.

Trexnemesis:
Honestly, marriage sucks. If I had known, I would have stayed single and asked God for grace to sustain me.
A relationship that takes energy from you at every contact or interaction is not worth it. A relationship where ur partner cannot accept a fault or willingly say sorry to any wrong, is not worth it. A relationship where you add to your God-given roles and responsibilities what your partner should naturally and flawlessly take care of, is not worth it.
Things become more and more unbearable as you age, and resentment creeps in. The thought of continuing to do this till you die drives you crazy until eventually you explode and look for avenues of escape.
This is what so many homes particularly christian, where a partner confidently feels you are stuck with him or her and makes no effort at changing, face.
Regret.

Not entirely true dear. Marriage is beautiful for a hardworking, sincere, dedicated, trustworthy and mature couple. It is best amongst true Christians.let me give you a few reasons and instances:
Hardworking - means both are ready to make the marriage work, contributing their quota in whatever ratio, financially and otherwise to the success of their union.
Sincere - means both are open to hard truths from either partner with a bid to make amends, apologize, get better not even, in an atmosphere of love.
Dedicated - means the hard work, sincerity, trust, love is for as long as either partner is alive. It requires frequent appraisal with a view to do things better.
Trustworthy - means a partner can be in sokoto and the other partner in Lagos can go to sleep knowing that nothing will be done to tamper with the bond between them.
Mature - this is the summation of the successful marriage armamentarium. When kids get married, all you opined above and more are bound to occur. Please don't misconstrue age for maturity. It is a given that under 18 are minors. After 18, one is classed an adult. I have seen some 30's and 40's who behave like they are 16, both in reasoning and character.
It's maturity that makes each partner alive to their respective responsibilities and roles. With maturity, role swap can be carried out so long as both agree and it eases things up in the home.
It's maturity that makes room for 100% openness in all areas of the home including finances. A lot of issues arise when there isn't total financial transparency.
It's maturity that makes partners yield to each other, accept faults, apologize to one another, selfless, put the interest of their partner first, want to become better etc.
Finally it's maturity that makes a couple keep themselves in shape, attractive to each other, do those things they did while courting all in a bid to keep the fire of love blazing hot!
I do these and more, got married at 28 to my agemate. We are both 40 now and after 12 years and 5 children, it's like we just started"eyeing" ourselves yesterday.
Yes, there is a God factor but you have your part to play.
Marriage is wonderful dear.

Yian1:
I think we will be at the end of the bottom of the group after 3rd match cos I don't see us getting a point against Argentina who are also desperately in need of points, and we can never beat that Mighty Iceland. The best for us is to get a draw. Who is with me?

I am.

Anigreat:






Go guys, go and bring the trophy back home i see you guys winning.



To all of you quoting me, So someone cannot dream again?

Please take an antimalarial as soon as you wake up. Don't forget to add vitamin C, B-COMPLEX and paracetamol

Just occurred to me that SOLUDO and OLODO may pass for homophones. What on earth is Soludo talking about? Have we tackled the menace of nepotism, tribal sentiments, religious affiliation and its attendant problems, weak institutions etc? There are more fundamental issues plaguing the country other than 1president and 5vice Presidents. Mchewww.

I hope he is not among the "codeine-consuming" group!

Ojojo and custard! What a combo! Carbs and more carbs! What happened to ojojo and beans(agoyin/oloyin/olodo)/fried bean cake/boiled bean cake(moimoi)?

Ojigbani, please take a comfortable seat and open your bible to the book of song of Solomon.

NwaAmaikpe:




A couple that can not watch porn together should not be called a couple.
Porn has been mistaken to be a sin that feeds our lascivious hunger when in reality, it is an instructional sex guide.

They are sex positions you'd never be taught in a marriage class, your pastor will never even mention them.
But you need to be armed with such knowledge. Because even in law; ignorance is no defence.

Couples should be able to watch porn,
Watch each other masturbate and learn their sexual preferences.

Sex in itself is a sin; but marriage sanctifies the act.
All sexual depravities and perversions are termed holy as long as they are carried out in the confines of marriage.

That's why the sin of fornication carries a greater punishment than that of adultery.
Simply put; if a married man shags another married woman, it is less of a sin.
But if a single man shags a single woman, their soul is in the risk of hellfire.

I only wanted to read comments and leave till I read this mega warped thrash above. Every line is toxic! To think some people still reason like this means the church ain't doing enough in the area of sanctified sexuality.
First, porn is to condemned wholesale. It is not permitted, neither married nor single. There are books and verses in the Bible that reinforce my conviction that we have been pre- programmed to know what sex is all about and how to go about it without any lewd, unrealistic "sex instructional guide". The Song of Solomon, 2Pet 1:3 - "His divine power has given us everything we need for a godly life through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness", etc.
Have you ever wondered why you are naturally excited at the presence of a member of the opposite sex? Why your members get stirred up when you hear the voice of, perceive the cologne of, get unintentionally brushed by body parts of, etc the opposite sex?
It means we already have what it takes to enjoy sex and our sexuality, but must be bridled /kept in check, as Children of God, till the right time (1Cor 9:27 living bible translation -"Like an athlete, I punish my body, treating it roughly, training it to do what it should, not what it wants to. Otherwise, I fear that after enlisting others for the race, I myself might be declared unfit and ordered to stand aside".
About different sex styles, you also do not need porn! If you are imaginative, you will arrive at these styles and more. This is not textbook stuff, I am talking from experience.
Till tomorrow, there are two funny things I still tell my wife about our wedding preps.
1. I cannot remember what the wedding day sermon centered on. (My best man kept passing the phone to me for instructions to those organising the reception!)
2. The only new thing I learnt from our marriage counselling classes is this: Every sex style is permissible, allowed, just ensure your partner is neither hurt nor uncomfortable by it.
Finally, Abstinence till marriage, remains the best policy. God's grace is more than sufficient to help us in any and every area of need.

NwaAmaikpe:




A couple that can not watch porn together should not be called a couple.
Porn has been mistaken to be a sin that feeds our lascivious hunger when in reality, it is an instructional sex guide.

They are sex positions you'd never be taught in a marriage class, your pastor will never even mention them.
But you need to be armed with such knowledge. Because even in law; ignorance is no defence.

Couples should be able to watch porn,
Watch each other masturbate and learn their sexual preferences.

Sex in itself is a sin; but marriage sanctifies the act.
All sexual depravities and perversions are termed holy as long as they are carried out in the confines of marriage.

That's why the sin of fornication carries a greater punishment than that of adultery.
Simply put; if a married man shags another married woman, it is less of a sin.
But if a single man shags a single woman, their soul is in the risk of hellfire.

I only wanted to read comments and leave till I read this mega warped thrash above. Every line is toxic! To think some people still reason like this means the church ain't doing enough in the area of sanctified sexuality.
First, porn is to condemned wholesale. It is not permitted, neither married nor single. There are books and verses in the Bible that reinforce my conviction that we have been pre- programmed to know what sex is all about and how to go about it without any lewd, unrealistic "sex instructional guide"

Pls continue scrolling down to see my full response. This was submitted before I could finish my composition. Thanks.

Tajbol4splend:
He doesn't seem to see it that way, so buddy, why don't we respect his perspective on the issue

Sorry, but I beg to disagree. Which way other than Christ Jesus way? Respect his perspective you say? I'd rather respect the Bible perspective. Bro, this is spiritual fraud, daylight episcopal robbery and to say the least, it churns my tummy!
#What happened to the Bishop, being the husband of one wife, blameless etc (1Tim 3:2)
#Job said he made a covenant with his eyes not to look lustfully (Job 31:1)
#Let anyone who names the name of God depart from iniquity (2Tim 2:19)
#"Like an athlete, I punish my body, treating it roughly, training it to do what it should, not what it wants to. Otherwise I fear that after enlisting others for the race, I myself might be declared unfit and ordered to stand aside" (1Cor 9:27; living Bible translation)
I could go on and on but will conclude with
#Jesus Christ charged His disciples and followers and children to be the Salt of the earth (Matt 5:13)

Bro, let's quit defending the indefensible, call a spade a spade and #STANDOUTFORJESUS!

Tajbol4splend:
The pastor be like

"Don't use Jesus Christ to kill action for my body, because body no be firewood"

Ride on jare mr pastor

My dear, there is a daylight-nightime kind of difference between being a "Christian" and being a "Child of God". While the former is a bastardized label, the latter places emphasis on the son/daughter of who you are. This brings me to the real question - Will a Child of God be found in a strip club?

He has just formally intimated those who see him as a demi-god that he is a man, first and foremost, with blood flowing in his veins. As such companionship with a suitable member of the opposite sex is in order. If still in doubt, ask W.F. KUMUYI. God has blessed their union already. May they continue to walk in obedience, amen.

Its all in Your Name - Cece Winans
You are Great - Steve Crown
No way, no way, you won't lose - Fred Hammond
The greatest love - Phil Driscoll
I will follow Him - Panam Percy Paul

I smelt prof. Pius in the write up even before I saw his name at the end. Nice write up though it doesn't apply to all who plan to exit this shithole! A thoroughbred professional who is licenced to practice abroad will continue to live in affluence all his life over there whilst being able to pick up his/her bills without batting an eyelid.
Bottom line is be legit in all you do. If you migrate legally, chances that you will settle down quickly are much higher.
@ishilove - nice you acknowledged the original source.

Please go ahead sir. I promise you that naija will not blow up. On the contrary, you will be vilified for being forthright.

alsudaes1:
Courtois Na BIG Hen


Laying eggs anyhow

Nutmegs you mean?

freebuddy:
Man utd against big six teams so far this season:

Played 8
Won 4
Lost 3
Drawn 1

Two more big six games to go (against Man City away and Arsenal at home)

Arsenal? A big team? U must be kidding me. Definitely not this season.

SirLakes:


Why you no put your address.....e go shock you the kain beating you go receive

Dodan barracks!

raphealolami:
Where is the road? or is it just me.

The generation of voters are jokers. Celebrating gross mediocrity. I dont know what we have done wrong.

I am also asking myself the same question. Having lived in Enugu for close to eight years and traversed that market as a shortcut thoroughfare connecting the old teaching hospital site (UNTH) and the main entrance into the market (lions, lionesses etc will bear me witness), I see absolutely nothing new! Let me shock you further, I left that area over ten years ago! Maybe the op was too excited and failed to capture the " new road(s)"

Fine! But never bring your family s**t to social media! It has helped no one & I stand to be corrected.

Dosmay:
where's solomon dalung ahbeg?

Do sane and mad men have anything in common? Do progressives and retrogressives parley together?

Agba kii wa Loja ki ori omo tuntun wo, and if the elder does not rise up to the occasion, he/she is referred to as agbaya. This summarizes Sir Lai Mohammed - an epitome of disgrace, cowardice, doublespeak - you can add more expletives.…..

Oh! I only wish Archbishop Chukwuma is the presiding minister. That Church service would have been too hot for them. OBJ would have booked the next available flight to Lagos before service ends.

Neyoor:
Hypocrites everywhere.

What's bad in Inter-religion marriage?

Amosun's in-law was an Anglican Bishop, yet he allowed her daughter to marry Amosun, a Muslim.

Saraki daughter just married a xtian.

Fashola, Ajimobi also married xtians, yet heaven didn't fall.


How does that change the fact that the guy is even from a Muslim background.

Should he now disown her mother, Alhaja Bola Shagaya because he is marrying a pastor's wife.

Wait sef! Is Osinbajo still a Pastor or Politician?

My dear, you seem blind wen it comes to spiritual matters. Marriage is not only about love making, rather more of two compatible people in every respect, spiritual inclination inclusive, who complement each other as they go on to raise a generation that Wii be useful to God, their parents, themselves and the society at large. Got it?

mrugochukwu021:
account boosting procedure

Mods, please posts like these - advertising betting odd, free recharge credit etc should be banned forthwith. Wherein lies the dignity of labour?

VP, pls call a spade a spade. This is a breach of trust, law of contract, between APC & the people of Nigeria. Will the excuses help anyone? No! So do the honorable thing and resign with your principal. I see only pathetic failures in you both.

ebuka1511:
Nice writes up OP, but i would want to disagree on number one where you stated that;
([b]It’s advisable you have your brakes checked every 6,000-7,000 miles [/b]to help you avoid the danger and expense of damaged brake discs.)

This thinking and thought in fleet management needs to change. Aging in brake pads of vehicles varies, this is as a result of use, the road condition, the weight of the vehicle, the traffic situation and many more other factors. The best practice on brake pad to me, still remains Bi Monthly Physical checks of your brake pads. Nothing beats it. When you get to physically have your brakes checked in a workshop twice a month, there is no how you will not know when the brake is due to be changed assuming all other factors like brake fluid leakages and others are fine.

I have managed Soft Vehicle and AVs and have come to understand that using the traditional Mileage method exposes you risking your brake discs. I have changed a brake pads from a vehicle that just covered less than 2000km , Had i Left it to cover the traditional 5000km, imagine what will happen to the Disc and also the safety part of it.

To me, the best Practice is always conducting a weekly vehicle checks that incorporates the wheels, Oil Check, Filter Checks and other fluid level check.
Nice writes up OP, keep it coming.

Even Caucasians don't do this kind of fortnightly check you propose. Please ensure that service parts (brake pads inclusive) are of high quality. More expensive? Yes, but guarantees 99% peace of mind.

ebuka1511:
Nice writes up OP, but i would want to disagree on number one where you stated that;
([b]It’s advisable you have your brakes checked every 6,000-7,000 miles [/b]to help you avoid the danger and expense of damaged brake discs.)

This thinking and thought in fleet management needs to change. Aging in brake pads of vehicles varies, this is as a result of use, the road condition, the weight of the vehicle, the traffic situation and many more other factors. The best practice on brake pad to me, still remains Bi Monthly Physical checks of your brake pads. Nothing beats it. When you get to physically have your brakes checked in a workshop twice a month, there is no how you will not know when the brake is due to be changed assuming all other factors like brake fluid leakages and others are fine.

I have managed Soft Vehicle and AVs and have come to understand that using the traditional Mileage method exposes you risking your brake discs. I have changed a brake pads from a vehicle that just covered less than 2000km , Had i Left it to cover the traditional 5000km, imagine what will happen to the Disc and also the safety part of it.

To me, the best Practice is always conducting a weekly vehicle checks that incorporates the wheels, Oil Check, Filter Checks and other fluid level check.
Nice writes up OP, keep it coming.

Even Caucasians don't do this kind fortnightly check you propose. Please ensure that service parts (brake pads inclusive) are of high quality. More expensive? Yes, but guarantees 99% peace of mind.

Power is disastrous without control. In addition, pay attention to the ABS indicator.

This means all the "sit tight" education given to Zuma by Okorocha is all a waste please as you bow out in SA, kindly tell Rochas to knock down your statue