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Niyinficient:
Repeat yourself

Lool

Lukaku should not play if they want to win. Terrible control, horrible linkup play, off target shots etc. They don't need him

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Phinalphantasy:
most ex I know end up hooking up over and over again. from my experience. so I don't see that in your list

That's number one: sometimes an ex.

Op, do you know that Luke, the writer of the book of Luke, was a medical doctor?

misreal:
I am the invincible ex.i even congratulated who she is dating now to her surprise..no time to waste on a woman oh..

Confirmed

Dyt:
Team invisible
Mio raye oshi mehn
This is what they call good riddance to bad rubbish
Oshi ati iranu

Nice team. Me too

Only a handful people end up marrying the person they first fell in love with or…had a romantic relationship with. I can say they’re lucky; it takes a while before people get over an ex and some have feelings that run through them till they die. When a breakup does happen, no matter how polite, it’s an awful feeling that often leaves hate, hurt and resentment. But then, what type of ex has our previous relationship(s) made us to become?

WHEN YOU ARE SOMETIMES AN EX
The circumstances leading to your breakup is quite confusing. You couldn’t really make sense of it. The breakup may have been triggered by a slight disagreement or distance issues. At this point though, you seem to have found another person to fill their space. On lonely days, you would choose to place to a call through to your ex just to feel the presence of something you miss so much. When you call your ex, he/she tells you there is a new relationship on their hands or you found out they are now dating someone richer, more attractive and more successful than you but it doesn’t really bother you. You have a strong conviction they’d be back.
In your mind, you still fancy a chance of a sexual hook-up or maybe it has already happened a couple of times. Finally, your best friend wants to date him/her, you feel a little angry and kinda possessive. All these all show you’re sometimes an ex with the person…something like an on and off switch button.

WHEN YOU ARE A GUILTY EX
The circumstances leading to your breakup is horrible. It was really messy. You acted immaturely at the time. You seem to be the cause of the breakup. At this point though, you seem to have found another person to fill their space but on lonely days, you would choose to place to a call through to your ex requesting to take him/her to dinner or something. When you call your ex, he/she tells you there is a new relationship on their hands or you found out they are now dating someone richer, more attractive and more successful than you and all you felt was happiness for them. It appeared as though someone has redeemed your sins.
However, if presented with a chance of a sexual hook-up, it would appear as though you’re doing it out of pity. When your best friend wants to date him/her, you demand that they treat them well and you suddenly turn to a relationship expert. All these all show you’re a guilty ex. You’re looking for atonement for your misdeeds towards them.

WHEN YOU ARE A VENGEFUL EX
The circumstances that led to your breakup was heart breaking. You couldn’t really make sense of it. The breakup was triggered by the other partner. At this point though, you have found another person to fill their space. On lonely days, you would rather die of boredom than call them up for chat or a dinner. When you find out they are now dating someone richer, more attractive and more successful than you, you start spreading rumours about their weaknesses and shortcomings. You may have thought of taking things too far by exposing their intimate pictures online or to their new partner. You don’t wish them well at all.
If presented with a chance of a sexual hook-up, you would rather have them watch you have sex with someone else. Finally, your best friend wants to date him/her, you feel so angry and question their intelligence and immediately you start plotting against the relationship that has not even started. All these all show you’re a vengeful ex. Your ex’s happiness is a poison to your heart.

WHEN YOU ARE AN INVISIBLE EX
The circumstances that led to your breakup was insane and dramatic. You seem to have had a full dose of the drama that came with the relationship. The breakup is something you have forgotten. You can’t even remember the details of the relationship and breakup. You are like out of sight is out of mind. On lonely days, your ex NEVER comes across your mind. Later, you found out they are now dating someone richer, more attractive and more successful than you but you appeared to be the last person to know this and you don’t bloody care.
A chance of a sexual hook-up is totally ZERO and when your best friend wants to date him/her, you tell them to please themselves, what is in the past is in the past and gone forever. All these all show you’re an invisible ex.

WHEN YOU ARE A JEALOUS EX
The circumstances leading to your breakup is underwhelming. You couldn’t really make sense of it but at the same time, you felt hurt by it. At this point though, you seem to have found another person to fill their space but you still want to know what’s up with their lives. On lonely days, you would never leave a chance to let them know you’re thinking about them. When you call your ex, he/she tells you there is a new relationship on their hands or you found out they are now dating someone richer, more attractive and more successful than you, jealousy takes your body. You feel this rush in your system like you have lost a body part.
Having a chance of a sexual hook-up that will break your ex’s heart will be a welcome idea to you. Finally, your best friend wants to date him/her, you begin to feel what good does your friend see in your ex that they might want to have a relationship them. All these all show you’re a jealous ex.

So, what type of ex are you?



Source: http://nifemiolu..com/2016/06/what-type-of-ex-are-you.html

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kenonze:
There is nothing like "more correct"

In contemporary English,



Correct doesn't have superlative.
[b]Correct have attained Its highest level of intensification[/b]

An average school leaver knows this, I only used it to stress its level of correctness. Don't you get it?
In your own response, kindly change "Correct have attained..." to "correct has attained..."
Kindly discuss the topic at hand. Thanks for your observation.

‘Opposite’ and ‘Adjacent’ as used by many Nigerians is way out of line. To get this one spot on, I will make use of two dictionaries and try to forget my own head knowledge.

According to Encarta Dictionaries and Oxford Advanced LD (7th edition), the words are defined as follows:

OPPOSITE: (Encarta) positioned as to face somebody or something from the other side of an intervening space.
OPPOSITE: (OALD) on the other side of a particular area from somebody or something and *USUALLY facing them.
Note: take note of the asterisked word USUALLY.

ADJACENT: (Encarta) situated near or close to something or each other, especially without touching.
ADJACENT: (OALD) next to or near something.

ANALYSIS OF OPPOSITE AND ADJACENT

I have a house opposite Shoprite.

This statement above, using the definitions, means that the speaker has a house positioned as to facing Shoprite. This also means that there is a space, probably a street, in between the buildings. By extension, the use of ‘usually’ by OALD suggests that it may not be 100% directly facing each other. This means that provided the buildings have an intervening space in between, regardless of whether they are directly facing other, they are still opposite. Summarily, what makes the buildings opposite is the space in between.

I have a house adjacent Shoprite.

Kindly pay attention here. The speaker here has a house adjacent Shoprite and this means that the house is next to or close to Shoprite. This also means that his house could be on the same lane as Shoprite. Let’s say his house is number 10, Shoprite could be number 12 (according to Encarta). The statement also means that, the building could be actually ‘touching’ Shoprite (looking at the word ‘especially’), so his house could be no. 10 and Shoprite is no. 10b or 11. This also satisfies OALD.

The dictionaries have clearly explained it. Adjacent, being next to or close to something, could also be opposite. Adjacent indirectly means ‘opposite’ and ‘next to’ regardless of position so far the objects are close. This means that in Ilorin, the Xerox company sharing the same fence with the stadium is adjacent (next to) and Eruda junction is also adjacent (but mostly fulfils being opposite) because it is not far from the stadium. This also means that Tantalizers, Glo office, Femtech and Eruda junction are all opposite the stadium and could also be adjacent because they are not far from the stadium.

Funnily, Tantalizers, Femtech and Eruda junction are also opposite again because there is Taiwo road passing in between them and the stadium. We Nigerians have made ‘adjacent’ to mean indirectly opposite only and we have made ‘opposite’ to mean directly opposite only.

So if you use ‘adjacent’ to mean ‘next to’ or ‘opposite’, provided the entities are not far from each other, then you’re right.

By: NifemiOlu
Admin (Olukoni relationship Blog https://nifemiolu..com.ng )

The words ‘welcome’ and ‘welcomed’ belong to different classes (in context). ‘Welcome’ normally is a verb, an adjective and a noun…and sometimes an exclamation while ‘welcomed’ is mostly an adjective.
Those who have a penchant for English know that the language is HIGHLY contextual. This is perhaps the root of many grammatical blunders and influence of Black American English cannot be disregarded too.

Analysis:

PREMISE 1 (CONTEXTUAL)

You may say “this is a welcome development” (CORRECT)
You may say “this development is welcome” (INCORRECT)
In the first statement, you are suggesting that this is a gladly accepted development
You may also say “you are a welcome guest” (CORRECT)
If you’re going to use “you’re welcome”, then a noun must follow as in ‘guest’ above so you may say, “you’re a welcome guy anytime” (and note the article too).

NOTE: THE CONTEXT OF ‘WELCOME’ IS GLADLY ACCEPTED, FREELY ACCEPTED, EAGERLY ACCEPETED ETC. This may not be the most appropriate response to “thank you”, the reason we use “you’re welcome” in the first place.

PREMISE 2
ACTIVE AND PASSIVE VOICES

Examples of ACTIVE VOICE:
This bores you. (or: I bore you.)
I accept you.
I love you.
I trust you.
I excite you.
I welcome you.

EXAMPLES OF PASSIVE VOICE:
You are bored. (not "You are bore"
You are accepted. (not "You are accept"
You are loved. (not "You are love"
You are trusted. (not "You are trust"
You are excited. (not "You are excite"
You are welcomed. (not "You are welcome"
In fact, you may say, “you are cursed” not “you are curse”.

Always remember the distinction between ACTIVE VOICE and PASSIVE VOICE: I welcome you, and you are welcomed (by me). Note, there is no article at all.

The words: bored, accepted, trusted, loved, welcomed are also examples of participial adjectives and their roles as adjectives can also be understood in the following examples.
Used as an adjective, we would have:
The bored guest.
The accepted guest
The loved guest (or the beloved guest)
The excited guest
The welcomed guest.

From the foregoing, "You are welcomed" is more correct across board.
By the way, the -d ending in these cases are not an expression of past tense at all.
You may wish to state that:
You’re a welcome guest (Correct but it means you’re a gladly accepted guest)
You’re welcomed (more correct across board)
If you still have doubts, you need to ask for a refund of the schools fees you paid in secondary school. Lol .

By: NifemiOlu
Admin:
https://nifemiolu..com.ng

It is not uncommon to see and hear people write and say or use the words ‘contact’ when talking about an infection or a disease.

Speaker 1: He contacted HIV from unsterilized needles.

Speaker 2: He contracted Zika virus while on holiday in Brazil.

Let’s refer to dictionaries for help.

Oxford Advanced Learner’s Dictionary (OALD) defines:

CONTACT (n) (medical) a person who may be infectious because he/she has been near to somebody with a CONTAGIOUS disease.

CONTRACT (v) (medical) to get an illness.

Encarta Dictionaries defines:
CONTACT: disease carrier: a person or an animal seen as a possible carrier of an infectious disease.

CONTRACT: (Trans V) get illness: to catch or develop an illness.

Speaker 2 is correct.

I hope this improves your grammar.

By: NifemiOlu
Admin: Olukoni relationship blog (https://nifemiolu..com.ng )

The rates at which domestic violence is going is very unsettling. Many people have lost their lives to domestic violence and some are still in it and bearing the agony. People who treat other people badly didn’t just start like a rain. There is certainly a buildup to events that parents and caregivers miss.

In the course of playing with friends and pets, kids show certain behaviour and that which needs attention most is that of the relationship with the home pet. Some kids are just so mean to pets. They seem to enjoy inflicting pain on animals.

Since the 1970’s, research has consistently reported childhood cruelty to animals as the first warning sign of later delinquency, violence, and criminal behavior. In fact, nearly all violent crime perpetrators have a history of animal cruelty in their profiles. Albert deSalvo, the Boston Strangler found guilty of killing 13 women, shot arrows through dogs and cats he trapped as a child. Columbine shooters Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold boasted about mutilating [cutting or dismembering] animals for fun.

Children who abuse animals have been reported to be children from homes with domestic violence. They channel their inner hunger for dominance onto the helpless pet. Inflicting pain on an animal is like an experimentation of the bigger things to come. These types of children don’t really care about others. They may sometimes bully their age mates or sometimes withdrawn. A teenager, some years ago, who went on a shooting spree that left scores dead had been found out to have strangled birds with his bare hands.

Animal cruelty in children should not be taken lightly. Children who abuse animals should receive immediate professional psychological intervention for both their own welfare and that of the community. A number of studies have drawn links between the abuse of animals and violence against people. A 2001-2004 study by the Chicago Police Department "revealed a startling propensity for offenders charged with crimes against animals to commit other violent offenses toward human victims." Of those arrested for animal crimes, 65% had been arrested for battery against another person.
A child who abuses animals may also be acting out against violence in his own home. Professional intervention can remove a child from a potentially abusive situation and divert him or her from future abusive behaviour.

As a parent or caregiver, once you notice this in a child, wrap up your shit. The domestic violence around the kid is obviously showing its toxicity.
If the kid isn’t from a violent home, report to the psychologist at once. Teach the child how to treat animals. The child should be taught that animals have feelings and are not Barbie toys.

Sadly, Nigeria is still a place where even children with psychological educational challenges, who obviously need an educational psychologist, will get extra or remedial lessons instead. Until the right people come into the right places, most of these preventable events will continue to happen.


Source: https://nifemiolu..com.ng/2016/05/animal-cruelty-grave-sign-parents-must.html

You forgot to add that those lights are powered by generators and inverters.

Nairaland and Punch newspaper headlines...Hazard and Liverpool...bread and butter.

Funny

Maybe you don't know that Falz is the son of Femi Falana SAN. Falz schooled in the UK. He's a lawyer. His English is by far more polished than that of an average Nigerian. He puts up that crazy accent for his acting skills and to be different.
Alaye, remove Falz. You clearly don't know the guy.

Timaya will sing another song

mysticgal:
I have been in one too, and sometimes it's hard to run, he even threatened to kill himself and I was scared. Finally finally, when I went home, with encouragement from nairalanders, friends and sister, I broke up with him and I thank God I did it at home, far away from him, who knows he would have stabbed or slapped me
Just today on Facebook, he is celebrating his new chick. Life goes on oh

I celebrate my freedom and I personally will leave any restraining relationship, even if it means I will be single till I die

Really happy for you...

sweetcocoa:
OP, from what I know, paragraphs haven't hurt anyone before, maybe you should try them, will make your article easier to read.

Paragraphs are there but if you mean block paragraphs, I'd do that.

Possessive boyfriends are deadly. They can be deadly to themselves, the partner involved and as such the relationship is a ticking time bomb. Possessiveness in a relationship is tied to some psychological factors and most possessive relationships are like a master-slave relationship.

About three years ago, there was this guy who was dating a certain girl but the relationship was a possessive/controlling one. The guy controlled who she could talk to, who she could greet, what she could wear and so on. He always wanted her in his sight. It got so bad that this girl and the guy were walking down the street one day, they met a friend of mine. The girl had to make a signal to my friend to walk past them as if they didn’t know each other. At night, this girl would call my friend to lament she was fed up of the relationship. One day, she told him she was quitting the relationship. She did it face-to-face. That is what adults do. She then left his house that day. The guy, obviously distraught, started flooding her phone with text messages which she ignored. At this time, she was updating my friend with full details.

However, two text messages stood out. The first text indicated that he was going to commit suicide. She ignored it too. Later the second one came in which indicated that he was in pains and dying. With doubts and yet not leaving anything to chance, she rushed to his house only to find him bleeding and gushing out whitish stuff from his mouth. He had drunk the popular pesticide Sniper. She shouted for help and the neighbours came in to find his dying body. They pinned the incidence on her. This is the reason many people don’t help accident victims in Nigeria. Well, back to the story, she advocated for her innocence meanwhile he was being rushed to the hospital. The guy’s family came around and said if the guy dies, they would hold her responsible.

On the third day, he died. The family of the deceased made the arrest but in the process, she made a call to my friend, the narrator of this story. He met her at the police station and they starting discussing the cause of events to the police. The Nigerian police, as usual, don’t really care so much. They didn’t bother to make further enquiries since grieving family members had made an arrest, then they must be right. It was a lot of trouble getting around the case but the girl had told my friend she received a message from the deceased which he (my friend) had warned her not to delete. It was this time that the message was useful. She explained to the police that she had received a text from the deceased. They demanded to see it. In short, that was how the case was dropped. Presently, she still trying to pick up the pieces of her life because such experience is a traumatizing one.

This is a classic example of how a possessive/controlling relationship could end. What a tragedy! Many people are in these types of relationships. I don’t have a scientific data but I feel ladies are more victims of these types of relationship as men tend to be the controlling ones. How do you manage a break from a controlling/possessive relationship?

A revered policeman once said “you’re your first line of defence”. Your first line of defence in this type of relationship is that you make reliable people aware of the state of the relationship. I said “reliable”. It is not enough to have people told, it is when you inform reliable people. People who could comfort and stand by you through thick and thin. From the story, imagine if my friend had not been reliable or had not stepped up to support her, I’m sure she would be in jail by now—in Nigeria, it doesn’t take much time for that to happen. Also make sure your own family members know about the relationship. NEVER keep a controlling/possessive secret. When its tragedy happens, the police won’t care.
By the time you start noticing some tendencies of maniac controlling, start archiving messages, emails and record conversions during an argument. DO NOT DELETE ANY. If the lady had deleted those messages she received in the last moments probably due to anger, she would be behind bars. Keep a cool head at this time. On any day of an argument, keep record. If need be keep a diary with dates and locations.

Lastly, I believe most controlling relationships do involve being physical sometimes, report to the police. You decide not to make an arrest but let them be aware of what you are going through. Most importantly, quit the relationship early.
There may be no foolproof approach to managing a possessive relationship but I’m sure some of the above tips will help.

Saucepan: https://nifemiolu..com.ng/2016/05/how-to-safely-breakup-with.html

zayhal:
Dyt, you're talking about the ideal, when the reality stares you in the face, no one will beg you to change your stance. It's you only that'll know you're treating them same way you'd treat yours. Even your spouse won't share that view.

Exactly. Just like a Yoruba adage that says, "Help me beat my child" is not really meant by the owner of the child.

Dyt:
Humans are not same
Me oo
As in me oo
If I end with a man with kids
Toddlers
They are mine
I will do to them what I do to mine
Shout
Yell
Spank when need be


When I can be a mother to kids I dunno their parents
Then my own spouse will be different?

Impossicant

Well, balance is the key

chriskosherbal:
Hmmm what a write up.

Thanks

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