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 Properties / Re: Lagos House Rent: How To Reduce The Chances Of Being Scammed. by NifemiOlu(m): 9:06pm On Feb 26, 2016 |
nikkyshyne:I didn't bypass the agent, I put myself directly with the landlord in company of the agent. No stories. I got firsthand information. |
| Properties / Re: Lagos House Rent: How To Reduce The Chances Of Being Scammed. by NifemiOlu(m): 11:07am On Feb 26, 2016 |
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| Romance / Re: No Lady Should Get Married If She Is Not Ready For This One Thing... by NifemiOlu(m): 11:04am On Feb 26, 2016 |
Crapest post ever. I salute the post. 6 Likes |
| TV/Movies / Re: Breaking News: DSTV Subscriptions Slashed by NifemiOlu(m): 8:57am On Feb 24, 2016 |
guy1234:They should have sent you a text. They sent me an sms yesterday morning. It's true. |
| Travel / Re: 15 Dead Others Injured In Auto Crash In Ogbomoso by NifemiOlu(m): 6:49am On Feb 15, 2016 |
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| Health / There Are More Mentally Unstable Women Than Men. by NifemiOlu(m): 12:58pm On Feb 13, 2016 |
I have noticed that a large number of mentally unstable people roaming the streets of Lagos are women. Statistics show that in almost every place, the percentage of women who suffer from mental illnesses are more than that of men. The statistics from the UK suggest that in England, women are more likely than men to have a common mental health problem. 10% of mothers and 6% of fathers in the UK have mental health problem at any given time. Sadly, there is no comprehensive data to support that of Nigeria. Why do we have more mentally disturbed women than men? Could it be that women are more stressed than men or are they terrible at stress management? Are women more predisposed to some variables that men are not? Do they react differently to these elements than men? The following factors, aside from medical and biological factors, (highly preventable though) may be responsible: Poverty and substance abuse Studies have shown that there is a direct correlation between poverty and mental illness. The lower the socio-economic status of an individual, the higher the risk of mental illness. Impoverished people are actually two to three times more likely to develop mental illness than those of a higher economic class. Poverty is a disease in Nigeria and I feel the majority of people wallowing in the quagmire of poverty are women. Financial issue is the leading cause of suppression in women. Women who are in terrible financial stance are prone to mental breakdown and having low self-esteem. Also there is a strong association between poverty and substance abuse. Substance abuse, from street observation, is very rampant and cheap too. In cases where money cannot be exchanged, sexual services are exchanged. I was told the story of a girl at Ajah roundabout whose father will send her to street ‘roughpharians’ to get drugs for him even to extent of mouth servicing them in exchange for weed. From findings, a wrap of weed is N200 to N500—an equivalent price of cheap sexual exchange in Lagos especially in the slums. Substance is a great debacle to mental stability. Emotional stress It is reported that treatment in childhood and in adulthood, including sexual abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse, domestic violence and bullying, has been linked to the development of mental disorders, through a complex interaction of societal, family, psychological and biological factors. Negative or stressful life events more generally have been implicated in the development of a range of disorders, including mood and anxiety disorders. Poor parenting, abuse and neglect In some parts of Nigeria, the girl-child is less important but that mentality is changing rapidly and more needs to be done. Poor parenting has been found to be a risk factor for depression and anxiety. Severe psychological trauma such as abuse can wreak havoc on a person’s life. Children are much more susceptible to psychological harm from traumatic events than that of adults. In Nigeria, we hear stories of sexual assault, girl-child abuse, home violence/neglect, social isolation, loneliness, homelessness, social disadvantage, poverty or debt and so on. Neglect most often happens during childhood by the parents or caretakers. Oftentimes, parents who are guilty of neglect were also neglected as children. The long-term effects of neglect are reduced physical, emotional, and mental health in a child and throughout adulthood. Relationships Many women are in abusive relationships both physical and psychological; the end result being mental breakdown. If abuse in a relationship gets to a certain point, divorce is likely. Divorce takes a toll on both children and adults alike. Divorcees may suffer from emotional adjustment problems due to a loss of intimacy and social connections. Social Expectations The woman is expected to be everything. She is a daughter, a wife, a mother, the home keeper. This has earned them the title of ‘the multi-tasker’. The expectations from the female is so enormous that a little failure in an aspect will draw criticism. Not fitting in with the masses can result in meltdown and other types of emotional abuse. Although in advanced countries, the mental health of women is not friendly, Nigeria can lower the statistics and life cases we see on the streets. The Government should set a commission that will be empowered to locate and prosecute families of wandering mentally unstable people. Homes for the mentally challenged must be up-to-date in research and equipment. The government should mandate mental evaluation from government clinics for all Nigerians once every three years. Psychologists, psychiatric doctors and educational psychologists should be employed across board at all necessary facets of the Nigerian sector. We may not be able to eradicate it, we can surely reduce it. 1 Like |
| Nairaland / General / Re: Photo: Armed Robber Leader Shot Pregnant Woman In Her Pr!vate Pa.rt by NifemiOlu(m): 9:26pm On Feb 12, 2016 |
Safety is now rare. |
| Nairaland / General / Re: Graphic Photos From The Terrible Robbery Incident In Ikirun, Osun State Today by NifemiOlu(m): 9:22pm On Feb 12, 2016 |
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| Celebrities / Re: Chinyere Wilfred And Angela Okorie In New Photo by NifemiOlu(m): 1:07pm On Feb 11, 2016 |
And her cleavage? When did Nairaland start personifying cleavage? I noticed it some time ago thought it was a moderator-edit mistake. 3 Likes |
| Romance / Re: Guys Release Transexual's Compromizing Video by NifemiOlu(m): 11:19am On Feb 11, 2016 |
She's not a transgender. She's using reverse psychology to save her face. Psycholinguistics... 1 Like |
| Romance / Re: I'm In Love With An Older Lady With Two Kids by NifemiOlu(m): 1:07am On Feb 11, 2016 |
You have nothing in common with this babe. You need to re-evaluate the reasons why you feel you love her. On a lighter note, a woman with 2 kids will have big yansh, maybe that's what is attracting you. 4 Likes |
| Family / Re: On Boyfriend/girlfriend, Husband/wife Snatching. by NifemiOlu(m): 10:21pm On Feb 05, 2016 |
jadelyn007:On the long run, the snatcher will have trust issues. |
| TV/Movies / Re: Greatest Nigerian Movies Poll by NifemiOlu(m): 1:51pm On Feb 05, 2016 |
ikubch: Then Oko Aye, Saworode and Maagun will compete with Owo Blow. People loved all these movies almost equally all movies could not be represented. Sorry for having a different opinion from yours. |
| TV/Movies / Re: Greatest Nigerian Movies Poll by NifemiOlu(m): 6:14am On Feb 05, 2016 |
ikubch:It was hard choosing between Owo Blow and Yemi my lover. We needed 10 best movies.  |
| TV/Movies / Greatest Nigerian Movies Poll by NifemiOlu(m): 10:17pm On Feb 04, 2016 |
Hello, we are conducting a survey of the best Nigerian and foreign movies ever. Kindly use the link below to rank the following movies. The results of the poll will be posted here as soon as the poll is over. Thanks. Nigerian movies Blood money Domitila Figurine Igodo Last flight to Abuja Most wanted Mr and Mrs Osuofia in London Scores to Settle Yemi, my lover Rank your best foreign movies, from the selection below, on a scale of 1-10 Harry potter series Lion king Lord of the rings No country for old men Toofan Prison break (seasonal) The godfather Hotel Rwanda The good, the bad and the ugly 12 years a slave https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/5J9NJJY |
| Family / On Boyfriend/girlfriend, Husband/wife Snatching. by NifemiOlu(m): 12:45pm On Feb 03, 2016 |
We’ve read and heard tales of people who snatched other people’s significant other. It’s not new but the psychology of snatching is worth examining. Snatching or talking someone out of a relationship requires gut and intense desire which is fuelled by a motive—a goal in essence. I have two positions on this issue. One, the idea of snatching is not even ‘real’. Taking a simple analogy, would someone offer you something in exchange or replacement of something that has got no value? If you’re going to replace something with me, what you’re bringing must match up or in most cases surpass the present stuff I have. Now, if a girl is thinking of snatching me away, if it’s real, she has to offer what my current girlfriend is not ready to or cannot offer. This is the bargain. Bargaining is the pursuit of happiness. If you feel someone has snatched your partner, you need to realise that he or she was not snatched. It was a decision to leave you because you did not offer something the ‘snatcher’ is offering or offered. Two, supposing the idea of ‘snatching’ is real, the people who snatch and the person snatched are not always happy. Below are the views of some people: Paul Pierre …As populations grow [more dense], we become more interconnected and social circles overlap. It becomes uncivil and unacceptable to approach social situations with a selfish/narcissistic "may the best man/woman win" attitude. Ian Peters-Campbell The real problem I see with pursuing someone in a relationship is one of trust. Say you find someone who you really like, but she's already in a relationship. You decide to break her up and go to work at it. Eventually she falls for you, leaves her current partner, and you wind up together. Now everything's awesome, except that now you're with a woman who is unfaithful, and you know for a fact that she's someone who can be stolen away by someone else. Do you really believe that you're so special and unique that you're the only person who would be capable of convincing her to be unfaithful? There's an old street preacher trick where the preacher asks a woman in the crowd "would you consider sleeping with me for a million dollars?" If she says yes, he asks "and would you consider sleeping with me for five dollars?" When she responds with outrage, asking what he takes her for, he says "well we've already determined what you are. Now we're just haggling about price." If you start a relationship by convincing someone to leave her last partner, then you already know what she is. You'll spend the rest of the relationship worrying about price Ben Newhouse It's acceptable, just not very smart. If you do manage to pull someone out of a relationship, he or she may initially appear to be relieved and happy but at some point nostalgia and sadness will kick in and you'll have to deal with the consequences. For example, such consequences might include your partner going back to his or her original partner. Speaking from personal experience, it's no fun for anyone involved. As stated above, [If you start a relationship by convincing someone to leave her last partner, then you already know what she is. You'll spend the rest of the relationship worrying about price], people who snatch are not happy. They are haunted by their own shadows. Why should you be sad or fight? They’ve dug a hole for themselves and they’re surely sinking. Psychologically speaking, when we fight those who snatch people from us, I think it’s a fight against betrayal and not a fight to win the person in particular. To me, snatching does not exist, it’s a case of people deciding to leave in pursuit of happiness which ultimately, in most cases, ends in sadness. After going through such betrayal, the only person that can make you happy is you. You need to live life to the fullest and upgrade too. Note, snatching and home wrecking are not the same concept in entirety. Snatching definitely leads to home wrecking but home wrecking does not always have anything to do with snatching. Some people are sad, they want you to be sad too. If you’re doing something that could wreck your home, you had better stop it. Source: http://nifemiolu..com.ng/2016/02/on-boyfriendgirlfriend-husbandwife.html |
| Properties / Re: Lagos House Rent: How To Reduce The Chances Of Being Scammed. by NifemiOlu(m): 6:46am On Feb 03, 2016 |
mrking3:Even if the receipt is available, they can deny they issued it but a bank transfer will show details of transfer which is valid in any court of law in case of eventualities. 28 Likes |
| Properties / Lagos House Rent: How To Reduce The Chances Of Being Scammed. by NifemiOlu(m): 6:34am On Feb 03, 2016 |
I've been intending to post stuff on house renting in Lagos but it has always skipped my mind until I saw the story of a guy swindled by his landlord. One the highest scams in Lagos state is run in real estate. When it comes house renting, estate agents and some ‘landlords’ are notorious for renting out uncompleted buildings, houses not up for rent/sale, double renting etc. The following ways should help in reducing the chances of falling victim especially if you’re planning to come to Lagos. The agent: Pay attention to the attitude of the agent. Be careful of agents that are in a rush. They tell you to pay on ASAP, they tell you to pay for an uncompleted building that your money will be used to finish the house…Agents with real stuff are always calm. When inspecting a property, make sure the agent has the keys to the building. Never pay for a house you inspected from the window. Whenever you’re about to make payment, never pay by hand—do a bank transfer. In this present day of BVN, you’re a bit protected. While filling the transfer details, write something like “House Rent” where necessary. Also ask to meet the landlord before you make payment. Your instincts should tell you the rest. Do a background search: When I wanted to get an apartment, I searched online and got an agent’s number. I ran his number on True Caller and it revealed his name to be “James agent Lekki”. I was 10% assured he was an agent so I called him and he took me to a property. After inspecting the property, I came back there on my own to ask other occupants in the compound what’s up. I asked for the landlord’s number too. The rest is history 101. The payment: As I said earlier, do not pay by hand. This is 2016. If the agent is available, both of you should go to the bank with the keys to the apartment in his hands. As soon as the landlord confirms the transfer, both of you should head to the property. Most importantly, trust your instincts because there are many dynamics to house renting in Lagos state. Stay safe. Source: http://nifemiolu..com.ng/2016/01/lagos-house-rent-how-to-reduce-chances.html 23 Likes 4 Shares |
| Family / Re: Her Parents Wants To Cancel Their Wedding Because Of Church Denomination. by NifemiOlu(m): 4:37pm On Jan 27, 2016 |
Acidosis:The post said different churches not different religions. |
| Family / Re: Her Parents Wants To Cancel Their Wedding Because Of Church Denomination. by NifemiOlu(m): 5:50am On Jan 26, 2016 |
Hmmm |
| Sports / Re: Some Difficult Names Of Players In The EPL by NifemiOlu(m): 5:03am On Jan 13, 2016 |
Criticism absolutely allowed... |
| Sports / Some Difficult Names Of Players In The EPL by NifemiOlu(m): 4:38am On Jan 13, 2016 |
I was watching Sky Sports one day when a guy called the show. The presenters had to take some seconds to process the names of the players he was mentioning. We Nigerians love pronouncing mostly out of convenience and also our mother-tongue limitations. However, based on commentaries on TV and PES/FIFA 2015, I have compiled some difficult names of players in the EPL. The ones in brackets are the regular Nigerian pronunciations while the one on the right is the nearly most accurate pronunciation. ARSENAL Coquelin (Kokelin or kokwelin) Corklan Giroud (jirod) Jiroo MANCHESTER CITY Sagna (sagna) Sanyar *not the Yoruba pronunciation* TOTTENHAM Alderweireld (aldawered) Aldoweireld WEST HAM Jelavic (jelavik/jelavich) Yelavich MANCHESTER UNITED Rojo (rojo) Roe-hoe McNair (mcnair) MacNair Januzaj (januzaj/januzai) yanushai Blind (loss of sight pronunciation) Blind * the 'i' is produced as 'e' but not 'blend' Depay (Depay/Dipay) Dipai Martial (Matia/Matial) Mashial LIVERPOOL Mignolet (as seen) Minolay Coutinho (kortinho) Kootinho Sturridge (sturidge) storidge STOKE Crouch (Crutch) Crauch CHELSEA Courtois (kortois) Kortooah Ivanovic (Ivanovik) Ivanovich Matic (Matik) Matich Willian (maybe too much garri makes people not to see the difference between William and Willian) Willian ASTON VILLA Agbonlahor (Agbolaran * Ilorin, Ibadan and Ile Ife*) Agbonla-hor NEWCASTLE Janmaat (as seen) Yanmat 1 Like |
| Family / Re: Challenges Of Marrying A Single Mom by NifemiOlu(m): 1:24am On Dec 28, 2015 |
From experiences of my peeps... PROS: Mostly friendly Mostly honest Most are good cooks Most are good in bed Most are matured CONS: Most have psychological issues. Many still have feelings for the baby daddy. You have this feeling you're in a stranger's baby's life. The baby father is in the shadow. He calls her at will. Most decisions she takes evolves around the child and the baby father. The child may not like you especially if the dad is responsible e.g always available, buys gifts, calls for birthday wishes etc Three of my friends dated single mothers, none of them married them. Too much baggage. All the best. 1 Like |
| Family / Re: Please Help! My Girlfriend Has Really Changed by NifemiOlu(m): 1:10am On Dec 28, 2015 |
Let 'my people' go. |
| Family / Re: My Christmas Celebration, The Worst Ever. by NifemiOlu(m): 8:29pm On Dec 25, 2015 |
Location? |
| Family / Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by NifemiOlu(m): 8:19am On Dec 25, 2015 |
kweenkong: Exactly 54 Likes 1 Share
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| Family / Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by NifemiOlu(m): 7:00am On Dec 25, 2015 |
Cheers to your friend for being a man. He's heading in the right direction. Using myself as a yardstick, I must have talked to her about it severally before telling my cousin that I may have to break up since she is not yielding. Maybe he has talked to her and got fed up. 28 Likes 1 Share |
| Romance / Re: 10 Things I Have Learned From Dating Naija Girls by NifemiOlu(m): 6:19pm On Dec 23, 2015 |
saasala: 2 Likes
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| Family / Re: Mentally-Unstable Woman Seen With Her Baby Wondering In Ogba, Lagos by NifemiOlu(m): 11:03am On Dec 23, 2015 |
The job of social workers on the loose. Tell people you want to study Social work in the university, they'd be like... 2 Likes
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| Romance / Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by NifemiOlu(m): 10:44am On Dec 23, 2015 |
donTbone: Only dumb people need consent from others to get married. And intelligent people don't throw insult online. |
| Romance / Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by NifemiOlu(m): 12:37am On Dec 23, 2015 |
donTbone: Consent means approval. I hope you know, and if you know, it's really funny that you need approval from your pastor, siblings and friends. Really funny.
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| Properties / Re: Clean Miniflat At Sangotedo - Lakwe - Axis by NifemiOlu(m): 11:47pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
eiffel: Pictures for the following, please? Miniflat @ Sangotedo - N250k Miniflat @ Sangotedo - N300k |
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