pslm23:

[b]Part 1:

I live in the US and I've been married for 9 years going on 10. I'm also in my late 30s. I started actively trying to concieve about 3 years into my marriage but it wasn't happening. I thought at first that it was my husband's fault because he's way older than me. Anyway, my ob/gyn refered me to a fertility clinic in the hopes they could help. I had a fantastic health insurance then and i will never forget my first consultation visit with the RE and after taking a very brief history of me and husband and verifying our insurance, he declared that we should do IVF. I was taken aback because I thought lots of tests needed to be done before advising a couple that IVF was their only choice. I was only 29 when this happened. Anyway, before we could say jack robinson, he had called in our prescription meds which ended costing close to $8000 but thank heavens again for insurance or how would we have paid for that? He now did a sonohysterogram on me to check my uterus and make sure it was ok. He said it was fine. Unfortunately, a week after this consultation, I was laid off my job and there went the insurance and I was stuck with a box full of different hormonal injectable medications without knowing what to do with them. I did think about selling them online but the fear of being caught by the FEDS or police and getting locked up knocked that idea right out of my head. I put everything in my refridgerator and just prayed about this problem.

My husband and I decided to dig out of pocket and see if we can convert the IVF to IUI. We started the IUI journey with the same clinic. This time a se-men analysis was done on my hubby and another sonohysterogram and HSG was done on me by a nurse whom I reall think didn't know jack! I was told the HSG would flush my tubes if there were any blockages but during the proceedure, i noticed that a lot of fluid was flowing out of me as the nurse was injecting it supposedly into my uterus. I wish I had said something then but I was in excruciating pain. For those of you who are planning on doing HSGs, it hurts oh! Well, after the HSG i was told i was fine, my blood level numbers were great and i was given the green light to start IUI. Thank God I saved all the medication from when I was about to do IVF, it turned out I needed some of those meds for the IUI.

Needless to say, the first IUI was unsuccessful. So was the 2nd and 3rd and I started wondering what the heck was wrong? It struck me as funny that it was the nurses performing these IUIs and i kept getting conflicting information especially for the times i had to take my injections. I did all 7 IUI's at this clinic and each time we paid out of pocket for the proceedure. We were broke by the time we decided that we something wasn't right with that clinic.  I have since come to realize that even in advanced places  like the US, costly mistakes can happen in hospitals, clinics and even their judiciary system.

In my next post, I will talk about the next step we took after the failed 7 IUIs.

God bless[/b]

jennykadry:

she made a terrible mistake of buying with both their names.

ronkebp:

This is wickedness, (God forgive if am judging) but some men are just like that, wicked, thinking evil, that is why i do not support all this nonsense!!!!

GoldCircle:

Hi Peeps,
   Anyone got an idea of a good & affordable Chinese restaurant in Lagos. By affordable, I mean a modest budget of like 5k per person. preferably on the island pls.

& pls not Jade or Saipan!

thanks

quadrant4:

Nikkgal where are you?

dayokanu:

Looking at the guys picture and his lips you would know he smokes weed wella

He looks somehow familiar, Can someone get the biodata of this guy?

Kilode?!:

That's some alarming statistics

I hope nikkygal is wrong about how light-skinned-struck or foreign-struck we are in Nigeria, but with the little I've noticed, I doubt she's exaggerating.

ekt_bear:

I should have posted this in foreign affairs, actually. But kind of an interesting read. . . India and Nigeria are kind of in a similar situation, so useful to learn from challenges that they are dealing with too.

Basically, churning out large #s of half-baked grads is probably not the best way to really run an education system.

delaice:

I think some of you are missing the point. Yes I agree the poster should have addressed it to UPPER middle class parents, and by that I dont mean the Dangotes or Otedolas. I mean the oil big boys, Banks Mid-level management to upper management. Entrepreneurs with small thriving businesses. Trust me, there are alot more of these than you think. I know a few of them. Some of them are my friends.

You know the type - Went to a school like A Hall (I said like o, dont crucify me), after that never fought for admission into uni, it was like the admission was just handed to them, to a foreign uni or one of our private ones. Never had to work, infact their parents insisted they do not work while at uni. After that came home, served (obviously in Lagos), their posting already arranged (with an allowance to rival a banks entry level staff). After which a well paying job was already waiting for them without having to even learn the meaning of the acronym CV. I know the type because I would have probably fit into it, but the passing of my dad forced me to sit up.

The poster is not talking about poor families, very valid subject but a subject for another post.

On the work experience factor. I will give you an example. My sis is currently studying in the UK. For this summer she has been working for free (not even expenses, and this is not Naij where you will be getting gara here and there). She is doing that because she wants the experience and knows it will help her in the future. She could have saved her transport fare and used it on shoes, booze and parties. Thats the type of initiative youths should show. Now I know there are alot more opportunities in the UK for students and Nigeria has its peculiar problems, but tbh I think the poster is talking more about the mentality of these youths. The mentality currently is i need money, i need alot of it, i need it now, and i must get it by whatever means with as little effort as possible. And thats because their parents have basically thought them that you do not need to work for money, people will just give it to you whether you deserve it or not. Instead their mentality should be work hard now, the money will come eventually.

Also I should add this is not all parents. Some UPPER middle-class parents do a good job of teaching their kids the value of money and the proper way to go about getting it.

Kobojunkie:

That is how income tax works even out here. The income tax rate in Nigeria IS NOT 32% according to FIRS itself. If you can be more specific as to tell us how much you made last year and how much you paid, we can look at it.

Jarus:

Of course, it was very glaring from Steve's bombshell that he too was guilty. He knew all these was going on and he kept silent until he was sacked. Also, he narrated instances when he had to do the unethical bidding of Azu. I even learnt Musikilu Mojeed resigned because of the disappearance of his investigative reports. That was an honourable thing to do, and he's now with NEXT. So I'm not saying Steve was a saint too.

On Azu, I'm not very convinced as he still did not answer many other questions raised by Steve:
-[b]Did he truly personally distribute money to invited journalists at the parley with Rockson in Sheraton?
-Did he receiev bribe(ok, let's call it money) from Aondoakaa?
and many other allegations contained in Steve's outburst, but which he never replied in his response.[/b]Anyway, we are still waiting, as, to borrow his words, the story is just beginning. . .   quote]

@Jarus&Mbulela,

I've been following this Azu-gate saga & this thread closely but I've just been hesitant to respond. . . . I agree with you guys that Steve Ayorinde is a cry-baby who finally decided to blow the whistle when he was out-played in his own game.

However, Azu is also being economical with the truth. He has refused to respond to the allegations whole-heartedly. The allegations surrounding his distributing money to journalists, currying politicians for favours during his in-laws burial, being on the media payroll of LASG etc. All he has tried to do with his article above is whip-up sentiments of the reading public & try as much as possible to play to the gallery.

Azu, thank you very much. . . . .We are not impressed neither are we convinced!!!

texazzpete:

Congrats for being the only person using his brains here.

This is nothing new: companies like Dell and HP have since moved their customer helpdesk lines and a few other jobs offshore to cut costs. It's nothing racist or anything like that, it's just a cost saving measure.

Don't demonize the company, instead let the Government offer incentives to companies like these to help reduce costs. Perhaps lower taxes and a few exemptions may make them reconsider from a business point of view.

AjanleKoko:

On second thoughts, let's keep it here. Noticed it made front page. And hence my comments.

Someone told me yesterday that in Ghana, there's a standing rule that any expat must be assisted by a Ghanaian, and the expat cannot hold the position before 5 years, after which a Ghanaian national must take over. Apparently the Nigerian banks in Ghana are beginning to comply.

I find it shameful, that all the governments do here is steal money and stuff. Nobody even cares about the economy or long-term national development. You have MNCs in Nigeria 100% foreign-owned. It is disturbing.
Only a few days back I saw something on LinkedIn about how few Nigerians are existing at C Level, whose CVs can be placed alongside that of foreigners. That may become zero Nigerians anytime soon. In a huge and prosperous nation like this, it is nothing short of tragic.