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Divorce wasn't part of God plan for marriage , so when going into marriage ur mindset should be to stay in the institution till death do u part.

Courtship is as important as going thru college/secondary school before going into the university, the former qualifies u for the latter, so courtship tells how far the partners can go in marriage.
it is a time of getting to know each other better. Marriage is more than loving each other, it also entails understanding each other. there is conflict in any relationship when there is no understanding , even if both parties love each other.

these are the ffg reasons why courtship is a must;

1. u get to know each other-weakness and strength
2. know how to complement each other
3. understanding eschother
4. know how to tolerate each other weakness
5. understanding each other background
6. understanding each other needs and interest etc.

so dear, it is very important ,don't ignore the process. everything in life is a process. so pls following the process so that u don't rush into it and rush out.

l am looking for the best because l deserve the best


@mickplus - good job. that's loaded.

she only look attractive and that doesn't mean she is beautiful , it goes beyond the look

@GENIAL - U are very funny. how do u know that l don't believe what l post? do u really read to understanding before u reply? because l don't think u do.

Beauty entails the outward apperance and the inward appearance. from my research, the outward appearance attract people while the inward appearance will determine if these people u hv attracted will stay.
Beauty is the expression of the inward appearance, the outward appearance can be fake but the inward appearance is the real beauty because the state of the mind is the state of a man.l am not saying that the outward appearance is not important, l also love ladies that look good but the most important one is the inner person, which we need to pay more attention to.
let me give u an example, hv u realise that most miss world are not the most outwardly looking person. there are a lot of ladies that has a better look but beauty has gone beyond the outward appearance what is upstair is as well important, good character, fear of God etc.
l meet a lady recently, when l saw her from afar for the first time l wasn't attacted but the closer her got close to her the more l saw that she is beautiful. so it is more than the outward appearance.

Hearing God is an everyday habit that one has to cultivate. God speaks to different people via different media. For example, God spoke to Joseph the husband of Mary,joseph the son of jacob,jacob etc thru dreams. some were thru open vision like moses, peter, ezekiel etc .some thru audible voice, the like of samuel,moses etc.
anyway, God speaks to us most time thru more than one means, so it will take u to study urself to find out how he speak to u. one thing that is sure is that u will know his voice when he speak because he said, his sheeps knows his voice. he also said those that l lead by the spirit of God are son of God, so as l child of God u will know is voice.
A very good way to confirm that is God that is speaking is by examine the voice and making sure it tallies with God's Word , it must not be out of context with his word.
God speaks to everybody is just that we are always too busy to hear him, must of us are more of matter and not Mary.
the catalyst for hearing constantly from God is by obeying the ones he has spoken.

@genial - that answers what love is, so l need not to explain or interprete that, as far as u are literate.

@damsel - thanks for ur comment. guys look at the wrong places to get a good wife, u can never get a good one at a party, bar parlour etc.


l beleive it is more difficult to get a good wife than to get a good job. the bible says, he that findth a wife findth a good thing and obtain favour from the lord. so coming across a good wife is a favour from the lord while getting a job can be thru favour from a man.
so it take a man that is highly favour to find a good wife, while it isn't compulsory to be favour by God b4 u get a job. if u are Mike Adenuga's relative or a family friend, u can easily get employed into Globacom.
A job can be change with time, wife is not meant or planned to be change so that tells u what both entails and the consequence of ur choice.

The bible in proverb 31 v 10 says
A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.

the bible asked a million naira question there, who can find? and l hv answered that b4 now. Only a man that is favour by God. so it takes only a man's connection with God to get a good wife. so it is very difficult to get a good wife in this age because guys are not ready to be connected.

she is worth far more than a good job.

l will advice u to quit the wedding, because ur purpose is not in marriage but in u. if u rush in marriage and marry the wrong person u might not fulfill ur purpose. if she has hid that from u b4 now then they are still alot of things u don't know about her.pls quit, she is not truth.
The quality of ur marriage depend on both of u and not u alone.let me give u an instance imagine if u fry a good egg and a spoilt egg how will it look,smell or taste . it will be horible. so don't be unequally york.
if u know u are alos homo then u can go ahead because it will take the grace of God before she can be delivered.this is a deliverance case u guy need to visit MFM for treatment.

love is 1 cor 13

1 Corinthians 13
Love
1If I speak in the tongues[a] of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames,[b] but have not love, I gain nothing.
4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

8Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. 11When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. 12Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

13And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

the best way to break up is not to go into a relationship when u know u don't love the person, u are not ready to be faithful and commited and u don't understand what is love.

love is 1 cor 13


1 Corinthians 13
Love
1If I speak in the tongues[a] of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames,[b] but have not love, I gain nothing.
4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

8Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. 11When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. 12Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

13And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

l hv a different opinion, l see the relationship is built on lust not on love. that is the first stage, the next might be on the bed and in another 3 weeks or more the guy tells u he is no londer interested because he has gotten what he wanted.
l just laugh at ladies when they cry and say the guy broke their heart, when theycouldn't keep and watch the person they were given their heart to, they see a handsome guy that tell them they a looking cool and love her, she looses her head and can't control her emotiom until the flower is trample on.

a person u really love , u will not hurt.so it is very wrong to cheat on ur partner. and sex is meant for marriage and shouldn't be done outside marriage.
If u can't keep faithful to a partner before marriage, u will never be faithful to ur partner when u are married.
also remember what a man sow u will reap. u can't sow unfaithfulness and reap faithfulness, so pls stop cheating so that u will not be cheat.
cheating is never fun, it is a furnace that hurt.

l can perceive food burning. who is burning what is cooking ooooooooooo ?

fufu and egusi is good enough, anyway l don't really select food.

this cool, it took me about 3 mins

l read computer science at Yaba college of Technology. l am processing DE to Uniben so l am an intending student.

@silans
Do u hear from God? if u have been hearing from God, it will be very easy to understand God's calling and his will.So cultivate an habit of hearing from God, if u haven't been.

@harpero20
Thanks for article, it is loaded, l just hv to copy it now and print.

@vostel - thanks for the topic and ur analysis is excellent. l raised an issue on Agriculture in this forum and nobody has post anything as regarded that, that show how non- chalant everybody is when it comes to Agriculture but we are all ready to eat good food and a lot of it. alot are even become glutton by the day.

it is just a pity that we hv not been able to get out of bad leadership in this part of the world. for God's sake, using Nigeria as a case study we hv all it takes to feed the whole world round the clock- human, weather, soil texture, farm machinery etc but because of bad leadership and unproductive programme we hv not be able to accomplished that.
countries with fewer land areas with unfavourable weather and soil condition are doing beter than we are. it is just a pity!

it is just lack of infomation, pta level is less that 500 naira

primary and secondary education are very affordable some don't even pay anything except the PTA level, so what are u talking about?

@ishmael,
Thanks for ur comment, l understand all u hv said and l appreciate ur contribution.l hv already apply for the HND programme pending when the DE will click.sincerely,l still don't want to return, That why l am trying other better option. so pls whoever have any contact in either Uniben or Futa should help me out.
Thanks Nairalanders, u are doing a great job, l hv learnt alot from this forum.

ya! Chelsea forever

Thanks to those signing. l can't wait for next season to see teams like arsenal and the next be thrash in the premiership and uefa

But l don't think it is reasonable going for Roberto Carlos, that guy is too old he is 33 years consider that number 33

Germany are winning the world cup.there are some countries in the world excluding Nigeria when they host a competition they win the cup, example is Germany and the North African.
Brazil is in a good form right now so l see them playing germany in the final that if they don't meet before then and Germany will carry the day.take it or leave it

this is my point, l am not saying there must be a big partying./ceremony. what l meant is if ur parent don't agree with the union it is wrong and if they are , no problem u are on the right track. my emphasis is on the conception of ur parents, they must in agreement with the union.

the truth is urbanization has does a lot harm to the human existence. why do people travel out of the city for holiday? becos the peace u find in the villa u can't get it anywhere else. u are closer to nature , man wasn't created to live outside nature, while in secondary school, l was taught ecosystem, how man depends on trees and other organisms in his environment, if u go and study carbon cycle, water cycle etc u will see what the city guys are missing.
let me put this question to u. why is it that people live longer in the villa then in the city? it is just because of the peaceful atmosphere, they hv there. just watch out very soon u will see a change in my location because l can't stay in lagos for long.

@labyb she will hv no choice than to love the arrangement because u will not be a thing of imposing things on her. we will hv thesame view to issue so that will make things work out

labyb u are beginning to make me visualise the night of the wedding it will be heaven on earth, because expectation will be very high, and the bed will be the biggest size. l think l would rather spent more on the wedding bed than on the wedding ceremony
lol

@helen123
what is the make as in the name of the maker?

does that mean that if the govenment is not responsible, u won't be responsible for ur life. let me give another example l guy from liberia had to flew to Nigeria for safety during the war, while in Nigeria he started all over again, enrolled into university in nigeria and he is now a graduate. he had all the reasons to either be a beggar or a failure. what do u have to say to that?