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thecommunist:
do you really believe you can "pay to God"?. The all sufficient God?

I will just assume you meant to say you have done your duty of given to support the work of God on earth.
God does not take payment from anybody!

It's all semantics, and I didn't mean pay God.
Maybe 'given' sounds better instead of pay, most times we use the statement 'pay your tithes' and 'give your offerings' subconsciously that's how the sentence I used initially formed.

Whatever any Church does with my Tithe and offering they are accountable to God, as far as I am concerned I have paid to God.

If you feel anybody will chop your money go and pay it to heaven direct shikena.

Chai and there's no pedestrian bridge there.

Crossing at that Iganmu underbridge down to costain roundabout one needs extra patience and crossing skill, the way those vehicles speed at that axis is something else.

What a trauma for the mum, she will never forgive herself.

hurtlery:
I How can I convince her that traveling to Ogbomosho is not that important? I have talked to her about the option of paying her parents’ travel expenses to Lagos and we can meet there, but she’s clearly against that because it’s not the traditional way to go about it.

Did you seriously suggest the bolded?

Like they should come to Lagos, you pay their tfare so you can meet them officially there? Seriously?

It's not everything you throw money at bros.
People have suggested flights and routes for you above.

mrblessed:
Yes, the things you put in her head. Continue!

Generally speaking.

She doesn't have to say anything to the child, children are more observant than we think. They see a lot and say what they see. Even if the mother is trying to cover up for the Dad they know. They are smart.

It's the duty of Men to ensure their children see good things about them.

Reginaoyah:
God bless you for me. Some of these ppl sounded like they know my husband more than I do. It's a provision business...with two kids that have daily needs I don't ask him for.

About working, who will hire me without experience in any field and already in my 40s with kids? He's not wealthy but I know he has money to support me but he won't. That's why he hides his phone. You need to see my husband when I pick up his phone. What he does is hide it when I am home. A man constantly telling you I don't have money even you know the least 200k should be in his account is what? I don't want to go into too much detail because I would cry.

You just have to try to find something to augment the business and make more money legally.


Now you see that petty provision business -

1. It's not profitable except it would be run strictly as a business only not a pantry where the family will just pick their needs ( which is understandable especially children's needs because you can't turn a blind eye to feeding them) it hardly grows with the pick this pick that.
You make 5 naira profit, you eat 50 naira and so on no way it will grow over the years, you need to re invest but as una dey chop both profit and capital nko what happens?


I do appreciate your honesty in expectations from your husband anyway, you have a right to your expectations.

dominique:
Go through her post and replies and see that she's having it better than a lot of married women out there. Her husband foots the bills, drops money for weekly upkeep. What is making her upset is that the money is not enough to fund certain lifestyles. Her husband does not have a fixed income yet he never misses out on his responsibilities. This is a man that is not on a fixed income. The economy is at the lowest, everybody is feeling the impact including artisans which her husband happens to be but madam still expects him to be shelling out cash steadily so she can have enough money to buy clothes and fix hair. She needs to be more patient, understanding and considerate.

I understand your position, but she said she needs a solution, so she needs to make more money so she can have excess for those stuffs she's lacking.

Reginaoyah you really are not asking for too much don't let people feel you are. It's not out of place for him to do these things for you.

The problem is economic realities are different. Your husband may not be making as much money as you think he is except you have evidences which I doubt and the business that you should have grown for the past 6 years is being run down consistently by household needs.

I am suspecting it's provision business, you can't have such stuffs in your shop and watch your children suffer food and necessities, it will always be run down once there are needs that are not met it's a cycle in petty provision business.

Even if he is making as much as you think he is it doesn't matter. If you can get something better that will fetch more income, maybe a good salary job do it and ignore his not buying you personal stuffs. Once you can make more money on your own you guys will be fine.

Lots of men only pay house rent, school fees to drop even feeding money sef na war even if they have the money shey it's those in that category you will ask for hair and cloth money?
They have not bought cloth for children is it wife's hair they will pay for?
Heck some don't even do any at all it's their wife carrying all the family burden suffering and smiling.

Some it's alien to them that the wives too need taking care off.
They are in different categories.

So


Try and get something better to do that will bring more income that's all.

The school is doing a lot of things right. Their teachers are trying.

The wife has followed her instincts on this matter, she knows something is not right

But as you said he doesn't listen to anyone and won't even take advice from you he listens to nko?

Advice him as a friend that's all you can do, it's the lady I pity most.

The responses on this thread is why lots of Nigerian women will NEVER build with a man. If heaven fall them go just dey look you.


Women are smarter these days anyway.




OP it's nothing but a pure scam, if both of you contributed your name should be there because you are a co-investor married or not that's the proper way it should be.



My advice moving forward do your investments seperately, no need for fight, no trouble no wahala, don't even ask him about it. The way the men are rigmarolling round the truth on this thread is the way he will be defended when shit happens and you will have no choice.

It's a Man's world, protect yourself as a woman if you are not married to a protector.

Tallesty1:
Why are you people intentionally ignoring the man's chaotic family? What if he dies and they accuse her of killing him? Strip her of all his wealth and send her packing or are we going to pretend it doesn't happen? How about they divorce, he will now walk away with her investments? I thought we all stan Hakimi because we are good people, didn't know it was because he is a male.

30 minutes of me seeing things from the woman's angle and I feel totally drained. Nawa ooo

You don't mean the bolded? so you never knew it was because he's a man?.

Welcome to the world of women and hypocritical men. All of a sudden they are legally married. Let a woman just buy her own with her own money and put her own name all hell will be loose and you see this 5 pages it will get to 20.

Over 80percent of houses in Lekki and by extension Lagos.

If lekki people don't have approval even on lands that are okay is it ikorodu and Badagry people.

Bobbynobobby:
This is Africa indeed. Had to stop reading after your first statement. Where did you read it in the Bible that a believer's fate is to be inheriting spiritual problems? And what is the meaning of 'authority in Jesus Christ'? You people need to stop misinformation. He has created in you the spirit of victory, not of fear. OP please advise your friend HIMSELF to put it in prayer and make a decision from there

You read the last paragraph though so you didn't stop at the first.

Which statement in the first paragraph is wrong, the foundation matters part or which one?

It's the inheriting part that's the issue right? Loool.

If you had taken your time to read all you would have seen the praying part to take the same authority in Jesus name which obviously most are not ready to pay the price of praying through.

But first one has to have the understanding of patterns, foundations and how the spiritual controls the physical, how your bloodline can affect you which obviously lots of chirstains don't even understand.

I only responded to you because you mentioned prayer.

IyfeNamikaze:
Hi I have a friend of mine who stays in Lagos, he has a problem and has been unable to pay his rent for almost a year, the rent has expired since July and now his landlord is telling him to pay by next week or pack out of the house. He's arguing that the landlord is mandated by law to serve him a 6 months quit notice before he can leave but I'm telling him to find his way out of there as soon as he can since his rent has expired.
Is he right with what he's saying or should he instead take my advice ?

He still wants 6 months rent free duration after owing almost 10months?

Nigerians ehn.

This sounds more like a verbal situation, no notice nothing

The landlord is even lenient by telling him to pack out.

He is wrong na he should just move out quietly as the landlord is not even interested in the arrears.

Even the 6 months notice he's clamoring for after expiration if the matter gets to court he will pay for those months.

He should just leave as the landlord doesn't seem interested in pursuing the matter legally

That Lagos badagry own its pure water nylon waste and sand that fills most of the gutters to the brim, you will be seeing the gutters filled with silt and dirt.

Scandinavian02:
The Cole Family of Victoria Island, Lagos, is indeed a great and prestigious family, in Nigeria. This fact, is truly acknowledged by the Ewa Family of Ugep, Cross River State. But, it's important, in the prevailing circumstance, for the Cole Family to know that Ewa Family, is a great family in Ugep. Wofai, is a progeny of the Ewa Family. It's therefore ludicrous for anyone to go to the media, just to disparage the lofty image of wofai. An image attained through determination, hardwork and resilience. The Ewa Family does not intend to join issues with the Cole Family, but wish to state that absence of decorum in their publication, is a low point and therefore debasing. For the purpose of clarity, I hereby state that
(1) Wofai is 33years old. Even her elder sister is not up to 38
(2) The mother of Taiwo, Wofai's husband, was present at the traditional marriage ceremony in Ugep.
(3) Taiwo's father, Engr Cole knew about the marriage plans and even called and promised coming to Ugep to see me . But changed his mind at the last minute. The spurious claim of the lack of information and awareness about the marriage is borne out of ethnic sentiments.
Egu Ewa, for the Ewa Family, Ugep.

@admin
@seun

I don't think ethnicity should come into this matter at all.


Point 2 and 3 was admitted by Engr Cole in the audio.

I thought both families meet before marriage as in Introduction in almost all cultures maybe if this process was followed this mess wouldn't have occurred.

Questions should have been raised when the father who had been spoken with didn't show up.

Either way theTaiwo guy should have known better. There are ways parents from polygamous families and those that are Seperate come together to agree for marriages. His won't be the first or last.

It's the sausage roll part that got me rolling, thank God he didn't buy the egg roll maybe it would have been quarter egg inside.

Everybody forming phonetics

The father has every right to be pissed. Every father whether poor or rich will be pissed with this narrative, the guy didn't handle it well. He no try at all.

The family didn't ask for too much You want to marry her let us do our own investigation.

Those who understand Yoruba should listen to the conversation.

He was not even against the marriage Gan sef, He and another member of the family had already spoken with the girls father too.

Just do things the proper way, you printed I V without telling your father and his people. Palace too was involved, haba. I can only imagine over 40people calling you one morning that your son is getting married and you are not aware.

The papa has said 'Ti alo ba lo abo ma nbo ni'

"Marriage is about the two families"

" He has elder ones that are married is that how they did the process"

The woman sef was like 'Awon omo ti a na owo le Lori yi'. Loool.

The guy is not Genz naa he should know better. Shey the wife's people too didn't ask about the Father that they spoke with earlier?

RealTrump:
@tallesty1

I assure you that family can readily allow their son marry an unemployed girl. Men don't carry money for head the way women do. After all, even if she has money, not like she will give the guy shishi...so why bother?

The girl is doing well for herself, so it's not a poor girl, rich girl thing.

The only scenario I see is that d boy's father has probably payed private investigators to run a thorough check on the girl.

Does her earnings correspond with her asset? Did she pay for those designers bags out of pocket or was it a gift?

This huge transfer into her account, where did it come from? Where does she lodge when she travels? In whose name is the hotel booked? Did she stay in a $100 per night hotel or a $700 per night room abroad?

Trust me, these info is quite easy to target for those big men.

Add this to the age gap, n the fact d boy doesn't look street smart, then u can understand why d family sense some manipulation.

I wouldn't date u if your family doesn't accept me let alone marry.

The amount of young feminist who would have listened to this girl's preaching about how u can do it all without a man, but 40 starts knocking, desperation enter.

I think the bolded might be the case. They might have gotten some information.

He might even be allowed to marry an average girl as long as she has a good rep.

"As such, person(s) parading themselves as new members of the Cole heritage by virtue of this purported event, are not known nor accepted by the family. All publications and documents being circulated about this are to be disregarded.”


Well they have said their own.

Wait first he went to marry on his own?

kingthreat:
Thanks all for your comments. From what was shared here I was able to give a better advice to my friend who I talked to over the night.
I told him that if he wants to run a serious Christian marriage, the background of the girl will affect it so it is better to quit now except the girl is ready to be a prayer warrior and have less to do with her family. But if he wants to run a normal marriage, he can go ahead.

My guy told me he wants a Christian marriage o. He told me he just spoke to his uncle pastor about it and the Uncle told him to quit. One, for him to complain that means he is no longer 100% sure about the marriage and that can raise issues in the future. Two, he said most occult men do spiritual things that eventually affect their children and marrying her will be fighting unseen battles he had no idea of. It is better he finds a way to breakoff slowly or let the lady know that his parents are not comfortable with the marriage because of her family background. He himself knows that his family will not accept that but he is willing to turn rebel and do what he wants to do. But now he's having a rethought.

At a point I could hear sounds of crying in his voice over the phone. Guy is still saying that this is the best lady he ever dated. Chei

What do you define as a christain marriage? Just curious.



As for your friend, it's better he let's her know his decision on time not rigmarolling around it so she can consider other offers.

Awon bad Belle never see good in anything have invaded the thread, this pretty ebony lady is who they are talking nonsense about.


Happy married life to the couple.

I like it as jamb is not announcing highest scores, schools are using the opportunity to show off their best candidates.

Parents should try to give their children solid education, the school matter, the teachers in the school matter, they help to shape a child.

Loool.

Irresponsible neighbors, irresponsible tenants.

As long as they are not benefiting from the water you are pumping go on soun.

So they don't contribute money for compound cleaning. The landlord needs to know about this one, others can't be paying to clean the compound you live in without your input.

Na them, tenants from hell, they will stress neighbour's, stress landlords.

Forgot ke? So why posting it online after you were told? Very unnecesary Is it to trend?

With the robes I can see I am thinking it's Anglican, If it's Anglican, they are strict and disciplined.

Foundation matters, do not let anybody deceive you except if you guys will deal with it before you get married.

When you guys get married you both inherit spiritual issues from both bride and grooms line as 2 has become one having an understanding of this will inform you both on steps to take.

Even the friend sef has his own in his family as long as you are African just that hers is her father directly and is closer to home.

If you will deal with it before marriage good
But as people especially the woke chiristain generation don't seem to believe in prayer, patterns and all that these days everything na wokeness, grace, coincidence bleh bleh bleh.....

Some churches before wedding you the couple run through different prayer programme's because of issues like this as it's rampant in lots of African families you hardly find families who doesn't have such for 3-4generations.

Can your friend and bride pay the price? If they ask them to fast for 3 days and pray can they do it. If they tell them they will run through deliverance several times can they do it?


We once did not rent a place because the owner was into some some of deity worship. And most people in the area never knew.

This is Africa.

I love the adire shirts very colourful

So result can't be checked online with scratch card like before?

Abegiii how many years have they been on it. Just Atan - Agbara oo.

For a road that houses an industrial hub that road is still an eyesore.

The dust accumulated by passing there on a daily basis can make someone sick. I don't understand the problem of Ogun state govt. Even if it's a federal road, the money they make from there nko. Lagos will not abandon such place.

It's those that live there that know the true story. You will see them with nose masks red from laterite, even the bike men that ply that route you know them from the laterite dust at Agbara bustop

Mtchew.

Anything can happen for this our Lagos I don't doubt the story one bit.

Lasgidi for show.


250k well at least it's a fair price for living in Ikoyi