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@Poster
Nope! Not really. Though Naija society / backward culture might want to tell you otherwise.

@Poster

So do most Naija men so what's the problem here? But not to worry. You can always date your female relatives. You can be rest assured that they won't pretend or maybe they would who knows.

@Poster

what kinda men? Naija men? That's because most of them are crooks. Date them at your own risk or live to regret your decision down the line.

@Poster
Then you are in trouble but if you lived in the western world, then he has no choice but to tuck his tail between his leg, fold his ears backward like an embarrased doggie and go sleep on the couch. Shikena!

@Poster
I don't know since I am not married to one. The question should be "what will you do?"

@Poster
Yes of course! It does not suprise me though.

@Poster
Na una know!

@Poster

I do not know. Its an individual thing. All I know is when one meets the right person they will know. This does not apply to Naija ladies in Naija where there are put under so much pressure by family, friends and society at large, they cannot differentiate between Mr. right and Mr. wrong.

@Poster

What difference will our opinion make? Why don't you just go knock up somebody up since you still do not know in this day and age that the number 1 reason marraige was created was for companionship. When the kids grow up and leave the house then what? Will you jump off a bridge? All this silly threads sef.

Pwaves:
Thank GOD its nt a nigerian again

I was actually hoping it will be since they take the crown in things like this.

@Poster
Did you not notice this before you guys chose to excahnge vows?

@Poster
Nope! That is because I am not married to a man that suffers from a severe case of amnesia.

@Poster
If they know how to knock a woman up, then they should be there to give her that emotional support. It is only in Nigeria and many parts of Africa that men are not allowed into the labor room. If I was mistakenly married to someone from there, that will be the first and last child he will get from me. He can have his mother give birth to the rest of his seeds!

@Poster
That's because that is how they saw their useless fathers treat their mothers. A child's first learning place is in the home. What they see their fathers do to their mothers is what they will do to their own wives. Beware of wild animals in human skin!

@Poster

If you are not sure who to marry, then I guess its back to the drawing board. what the heck?!

@Poster

Na una know!

@Poster

Good luck! when you were messing around with both, did it occur to you to ask us for advise? Now sort yourself out!

@Poster
Unfortunately I have no idea. Mine passed away already.

@Poster
Who exactly is harrasing you? Have they nothing better to do with their lives? And why are you generalizing? can't you use terms such as "some", "most", "alot"? I am Naija too but I can care less if you marry a rat. I am also married to a non Naija gentleman so kini big deal? Change your circle of friends and hang around more open minded people I guess and stop whinning on a public forum. People will be people sometimes!

Men who beat their wives come in all nationalities. The only difference is that the practice is accepted in Naija society which is to be expected. After all, its a jungle out there. Try that rubbish here in the States and get reported to the cops. You will ruin your life forever after you get slapped with assault charges.

Yep, don't Naija men do the same? So why are you complaining? what is good for the goose is equally good for the gander!

That's his business!

It goes to show you that alot of Naija peeps marry for all the wrong reasons and don't trust each other. Marraige scam!

@Poster

Why are you asking this question to begin with? If you cannot protect your family like a real man and head of household should, even if it means you risking your life, then you should have no business going into the institution of marraige to begin with! Enough said.

@ Poster

No keep it a secret! Do you see why I said that most Naija marraiges are scams? If you don't trust someone and want to keep secrets, why marry them in the first place? A real man will not ask this question, only BOYS will!

[quote author=kay-pawpaw link=topic=380161.msg5315030#msg5315030 date=1263480428]I will cheat on my wife if I have the opportunity, cos women are pretenders and liars.[/quote]I guess that includes your mother who made the mistake to risk her life by carrying you 9 months in her womb, go through labor pains to give birth to you, breast feed you and nurture you. And don't even tell me that I am being disrespectful to your mother because you never said "some" women. So, since your mother and grandmothers are women, I assume they are included. I feel sorry for the woman who agreed to marry you. In short, I feel sorry for Naija women back home. No wonder Naija is in the pathetic state that is!

ojust4real:
see what dis world is becoming d wife is dead and he colected money 4rm d airlines now he is using d money to marry another woman.if it was a woman pastor that is showing her teeth on her second wedding Niga will call her names. na wha o.

What do you expect? Not Naija and their double standards? No wonder the country is not progressing! If it was a woman whose husband died after she has passed child bearing age, society expects are to remain a widow for life as if she has no needs. If it is the man, he can go ahead and marry again sharp, sharp.

Hardtalk:
Na lie, tell the truth, who wants to marry someone full of scandal, except he is interested in her money, that's all.

Why is it so hard for the average Naija bred man to understand that marraige is not for everyone? In this day and age where women are making money and all, not everyone wants to be in prison. It is a well known fact that especially in Africa, marraige benefits men more than women anyway (No wonder alot of the married women are looking haggard over there). Here in the States, no one cares if you are married or not. You also need not be married to have your kids either, so please! Let the woman be. Most Naija marraiges are scam anyway. If you want to know real marraige, check out Barack and Michelle Obama. Not the kind of marraiges I see in Naija. The married men sleeping with college students and infecting their wives with STDS!

dangelo222:
Naija;;daft people, daft government, silly nation.how can someone put a thread about regina askia. wtf, African american kids loooollll, i cant believe this thread, u need to move round the world and see better things to post a thread on.nonsence

Take it easy ok? The person who opened the thread is not a Naija but a black american so before you begin to throw verbal insults at the nation and its citizens be sure to know the nationality of the thread starter first. Thanks and welcome to Nairaland.

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@ Topic:

Its really up to you. It also depends on where you live. Here in the West, washing machines and dryers are easily accessible. When doing the kids' laundry and yours, you can do his also. I don't see the big deal really. Now if you are in a place like Nigeria, then good luck. I have never liked washing clothes with the hands anyway so I was glad when I got outta there and back to a place where you have machines to do the washing and drying. It also depends on the kind of man you are married to. If you are married to a kind hearted, considerate guy who really sees no big deal on who does the laundry or house chores, then it should not really matter. If you marry an African/Naija, then good luck because his inflated ego will expect you to do everything in the home including his laundry. In short, expect not to live long or end up looking older than your age and haggard if you marry most Naija males

On a differnet note:

Why are most people here always trying to dictate other people's lives for them? Look at this simple question garnered 9 pages and counting. The way Nigerians are so hyped up when it comes to gender issues is amazing. If Nigerians where this hyped up about fighting corruption and tribalism and demanding we put our country in order, we will not be the laughing stock of the world but rather the envy of other nations. While other nations are moving forward, we are hear arguing like 3 year olds about who should do a man's laundry. I mean, are you people serious? What most people fail to understand is this, no two marraiges are alike. What works for one couple may not work for the other. You and your spouse should sit down before getting married and discuss which set up will work best for the both of you. Here in the U.S, most times, two incomes are needed because cost of living can be quite high. So, quite a number of husbands and wives contribute to the paying of bills and the house chores. I don't know how people choose to do things back home but whatever works for the both of you.

What a way to start a new year with unnecessary gendercentric shallow arguments and bashings. I am getting too old for Nairaland and this nonsense. Seems like the forum is infiltrated with kids, teens and confusionists I am outta here.