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redsky1:
LMAO.

so its only women that have fertilty problems - i laugh in german.

so my friends that have had stress free pregnancies past 30 obviously have 2 heads. yes its best to have kids between 19-26 but a woman can still get pregnant at 30 - wow, i pity u men that have sisters that are not married yet, if any of them should reach 30 i guess u will take them to the centre of your village and burn them at the stake.

all i know is if i had married at 21 to my then boyfriend i would be divorced by now. the guy was a male slut

My sister, don't waste your breath anymore arguing with close minded people. Let me tell you something. When I was living in Naija as a child, I noticed that alot of Nigerians don't even even have the slightest clue of what marraige should be all about.  Even if a woman marries at 20 years old, by the time she is in her 40's, the so called husband is already out there carrying younger girls. You can't win as a woman in Nigeria.  There were women who married at the "ideal" age. All because they bore girl children, the man chose to bring in another woman. My aunt is a nurse. She tells us of women who got infected with AIDS all because of their husband's cheating ways. It is better to wait on God's time than to rush into marraige with the wrong person.

Marraige is not something to toil with. Alot of Nigerians like to pressure people into marraige and then when things spiral outta control, they will be the first to tell you stick in it and make it work. As for me, I luckily do not live in such society. As a spinster, I stayed away from Nigerians because I did not want them coming and trying to pressure me into marraige when I knew that it was not God's time. When God's time came however, I met the right person and we got married. The marraige is blesssed with a set of healthy twins (1 boy, 1 girl). And I married in my early 30's. Those saying that once you are above 30 you cannot find anyone, must be joking. That might be the case for those living in Naija but for those of us abroad and who are not into Naija men, the sky is our limit with God on one's side.

@Poster
Wait on God. God gives children and if it is His will that you have children, then no matter what age, you will have them. Children should not be the reason to rush into marraige. You do not want to end up raising kids in a broken home. Besides, life is too short to be stuck in a miserable union. In God's time, He will perfect everything. If you rush and end up marrying the wrong person, you will regret it! Focus on your goals for now and when the right person comes along, you will know. You don't want to end up with a myopic minded man that will treat you like crap. Be wise.

Daddy Mike:
@redsky1

Mes condoleances, Madame, that your man was a male slut. The fact still reamins that in our culture and according to science, marrying a woman 30 and above comes with significant reproductive risks. Mucho gracias!

So is marrying a man over 40 years of age. There is scientific proof that the sperm is also weak and can produce disabled children and also comes with significant reproductive risks. However, there are women who did not finish having all their babies in their 20's and had some in their 30's and the children still came out healthy. I have also seen women who had their kids in their 20's and also gave birth to disabled children. No one can predict life! If God says one will have healthy children, then so it will be regardless of what the I-too-knows out there will say.

In the presence of my God.

Theblessed:
[b] I don't need to re-read your essay. The mere thought of negotiating for someone's child to come and live with you in your own household and serve you/family, is disgusting! Since this concept of boy, boy thing is so marvellous, why didn't your parents send you off some where to serve. Maybe, you'd be here now writing about your own sad experiences.

YOU SEE, I DON'T BUY THAT IDEA OF EXPLOITING THE POOR BY PRETENDING TO HELP THEM.

IF YOU REALLY WANT TO HELP, YOU KNOW EXACTLY WHAT TO DO, DON'T YOU YOU WOULD NOT ASK FOR ANY REWARDS WHATSOEVER AND CERTAINLY, NOT THEIR CHILDREN COMING TO LIVE WITH YOU AS A RESULT, AS THIS GIVES RISE TO ABUSIVE AND CRUEL SITUATIONS WE ARE ALL HERE, READING ABOUT.

Because of poverty, I don't blame people for their wicked/cruel attitudes towards others as that's why, people find it so difficult to help others. Also, the problems we have in Africa are not only poverty oriented/linked but also, grandiosity - our need to be recognised/worshipped. Because, we have money and know we have the ability/access to most things in life, we tend to show our wealth in many negative and oppressive ways thus, the evil.[/b]

Thank you my sister! I agree with all you have said. Nigerians and their quest to be served. You even see it in many Naija marraiges. They carry that master-servant attitude into their marraiges with the man thinking he is the master and his wife the servant or slave. I thank God I am out of that place called Naija. Terrible, terrible, terrible! No wonder we are not moving forward.

Ndeewonu:
@ GABRY

AND DIE TOO. MODERATOR, PLS GET US A SMILEY FOR 'DIE'


@POSTER

IF THAT HAPPNS, IT MEANS YOUR MAID:
- IS MORE ATTRACTIVE
- GIVES IT BETTER
- GIVES IT MORE OFTEN
- MORE GENEROUS
- TIGHTER
- MORE CARING
- MORE EXPERIENCED

GO ASK YOURSELF SOME QUESTNS!!


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That's a big fat lie. A chronic cheat will always remain a chronic cheat. Since that is the case, why does the man not divorce the wife and marry the maid? Afterall, she is everything that the wife is not. Anyway, only in Naija. Try cheating in America as a married man and see what happens.

Theblessed:
The more reason, a woman should get a life, bag proper education and careers. Honestly, why take sh-t from any son of Adam when you can quickly get rid of the joke! Especially an ugly one that's marinated in HiV/Aids and garnished with Syphilis and Chlamydia by jumping from one trash to another.

Abeg people, una don see in ugly face? Im belle, nko? Wey nearly reach in knees? Na wa o o o! Women, una don't suffer! Abi, na this example wey una dey set for una daughters, eh

Abeg, na dey thing wey lack of confidence/low self esteem dey cause - getting a man at all cost instead of being lonely, eh? Damn! Anyway, if you worth your salt in gold, there's no hell you'd end up with these low of the lows of society, trust me!

Dem say, birds of a feather - na them dey flock together o o o! Next time wisen up though, as there's always gonna be next time.

My sister, I agree.

donjon:
These whites are so smart & yet so gullible

Smart for where? I dey live for their land. Especially the oyibos from yankee, them dumb pass dumb. Fear sef dey catch me make dem no contaminate me with their dumbness. They are only good at brain washing.

Fhemmmy:
The love of Kpomo is the beginning of satisfied meal

LOL, but so true. I loooove kpomo but its expensive here and I can only find it in the African market.

KB1:
I don't know why some of you'all are acting so surprised that most of us AA are of Nigerian descent, because I've been telling you this ever since I first came on this board as Hero years back. Beyond just being of Nigerian descent, studies have pinpointed the fact of that the majority of us are SE Nigerian ethnic descent and more specifically Igbo descent. Nearly 60% of us are fully so and or of some significant amount of Igbo descent, making us the second largest holders of Igbo descent in the world behind the Nigerian Igbo population itself.

I beg, stop lying! Enough already.

Secretz:
Please I hope people know there is a difference between Body Odour and a 'distinct smell'. I know when I land in naija at the airport, there is this 'distinct smell' and it is not necessarily body odour. Just like when I open my suitcase back in UK, it smells of 'Nigeria'.
Some people should carry go jor with 'african smell', have your nostrils never been insulted with that 'oyinbo smell'? Especially the ones who no fit bath for days and it's not BO they smell of, it's dirty skin.!

Exactly, well said.

girl22:
why dont nigerians ever compare themselves to other people besides black american?

The last time I checked, the thread starter is black american. No Naija forumite will name themselve "New[b]akata[/b]". So, let's not jump to conclusion.

37 pages of junk. I did not even bother to read 99.9% of it. I see that ewu slaveship, anukpam who calls himself KB1/benin/king benin/you name it, was on here too yapping rubbish. This is the reason why I cannot allow my kids to grow up in America. I do not want them having an identity crisis like KB1's wife and most importantly, I don't want them marrying akata either. They need to marry someone who can trace their roots and did not decend from the slaveship. Not like people like KB1 who want to claim Ibo heritage. Who dash monkey banana?! Na so e easy? Na yam? LOL

@Newakata

I am a Naija woman and HATE chewing gum. My mom hates chewing gum and my female members of family do NOT chew gum fiercely. So my question to you is, what's up with the generalizations? Do you know how many Naija women they are in this world? Have you met each and everyone one of them? Can you really identify each Naija woman out there based solely on looks since Naija women come in all different complexions/features and have Naija and/or foreign accents? I hate people like you who generalize. You don't even have the common decency to use the term "some", "alot", "most". You just generalize! How will you like it if I opened a thread and asked the question "why are black americans bastards?" considering that many of you are products of parents who never married each other before bringing you folks into this world

Abeg, no vex me! I blame the internet, seriously. Since you have been to Naija, why didn't you ask a Nigerian woman this questions to her face and see the answer you will get? Now get off the Nigerian woman's back. We owe you nothing, leave us alone! Go focus on the white american woman or something. This a Nigerian forum and we don't need you Akatas spewing rubbish on here considering the shit we have to put up with you people on a daily basis here in yankee! Now vamoose!

;d ;d lol

buffnaija:
1. THE AVERAGE AMERICAN IS DEEP IN DEBT.

THOSE BIG HOUSES U SEE THEM LIVING IN ARE PAID FOR WITH BORROWED MONEY. IF THEY DONT PAY THEIR MONTHLY MORTGAGE , THEY GET KICKED OUT. THEY DONT OWN THOSE HOUSES.

The cars they drive, most are paid for with loans. 80 percent of all car sales are backed by loans.

their clothes and electronics, most are paid for with credit cards.

2. Americans are not welcoming.

A lot of Whites dont like blacks, and even blacks dont like africans. dont expect a friendly disney world. Expect to be told to "go back to africa". Your children will be made fun in school and will come back home crying. trust me , numerous stories abound.

3. MOst americans are working class and theres poverty here.

Dont believe the hype you see on TV. most people dont live like Jay Z or Puff Daddy. America has a huge working poor that they dont show and they want you to come and join them too, so if you think u will be working in an office anytime soon, then sorry.You have many people that live paycheck to paycheck. Theres also substantial poverty here ,you have 35 million americans that depend on government food programs . yes thats right 35 million americans depend on government for food.

4. America has the largest prison system in the world.

and most of the prisoners are black. theres a huge population of black people in prison, and even in some neighbourhoods if you are black and never been to prison, they look at u like u are not normal. by last count, there were something like 1,000,000 black men in americas prison. thats about 1 in 7 black men in america locked up. think about that 1 million blacks !!! even Nigeria does not have that many criminals. So if u are a black guy , people treat you suspiciously and if u ever got caught up with the law , you might not get a fair chance.

So true!

sage:
Nah dude, you are the one that is clueless.

It does not matter how light or dark that they are. Take a half white person who is dark to Nigeria and people will look at the person and correctly identify the person as half white in a split second.

You seem to think bi-racial is only about half white and half black. What of people like Kimora Lee who are half asian half black but look Asian? What should they be classified as-black or bi-racial? What are you going to classify somebody who is half Japanese and half Mexican?.

Guy clueless racists invented the one drop of blood rule. Africans are under no obligation to adopt such a rule, especially given the fact that once they see a half white, half asian of half whatever, they know.

Africans are correct to identify any bi-racial as such

@ Sage
I agree 100% with all you have said.


@9jaganja
I don't understand how a person who is born of two black parents are seen as black and then someone with one oyinbo and one black parent is equally seen as black. How can that even be? I understand that due to the one drop rule which was aimed at keeping the white race "pure", biracials in the U.S where brain washed into thinking that they are black folks. In places like South Africa, biracials are known as "colored" and not "black". In the Dominican Republic, they are called "mulatto" not "Black". In Nigeria, they are called "half caste", a term that the britons cloned together when they introduced their language to us. A Nigerian did not come up with that term, the whites whose English language we use in Nigeria today are the ones who did. Most Nigerian languages do not have a terminology/word for someone who is biracial.

I always keep saying it, if a black person wants "black" kids, then have kids with a fellow black person. That way, there won't be any confusion and we won't even be having this debate right now. We all know that the majority (not all) of the white race are not crazy about Africans and their descendants. So, any black person who chooses to go and marry them and have kids with them is on their own. Do not expect non-white societies like Naija, to see biracials as just "black" when genetically speaking, they are not.

Just because the Whites have said that biracials are not part of them does not mean they are black people either. Even if there are Naija folks out there with wavy hair and light skin, the bottom line is, they are not offsprings of a Caucasian parent. They are offsprings of 2 black parents and that makes them "black" and not how light their skin is or how wavy their hair is. I have relatives who are light skin but they don't have a white parent so they are black just like me. I have had some biracials tell me that biracials are a race of their own and that they are neither fully accepted by blacks nor whites (Atleast here in the U.S). Many years ago while still in college, a white american lady asked me why biracials of white/black parentage call themselves "black" when only 50% of them is. Honestly, the only answer I could give her is because of the one drop rule.

But to cut long story short, I think that people should call a spade, a spade. A person who is black is someone with 2 black parents. A person with parents from 2 different racial groups IS a biracial or of mixed race ancestry. I don't go by what the Caucasians determine is "black" because they want to keep their race "pure". I go by what a person's biological, genetic make up is. If the Caucasians choose to call all Nigerians Asians, are we going to start seeing ourselves as Asians? Of course not! Therefore, anyone who wants black kids should have black kids with a black person. Anyone who chooses to have kids with a white person should accept that they will now have genetically biracial/mulatto/half caste/colored kids. It is what it is.

My 2 cents. Peace, out!

binhozie:
I'm not trying to be sexist but do you know the stress a guy goes through to find a 'wife'?
A successful young man trying to settle down and has to go through the laborous task of sifting through the enormous junk out there.
Fhemmy you say it goes both ways but i tell you, when it comes to marriage ladies run out of time, men dont. So at the end of the day, the lady doesnt have much choice. My 2 cent

I am not trying to be sexist but do you know the stress some ladies go through to find a 'husband'?
A successful young lady trying to settle down has to go through the labourous task of sifting through the enormous junk out there.
You say it does NOT go both ways but I tell you, when it comes to marraige men run out of time too (or maybe you want to have your kids at 65 years old and not live to see them get married and have kids of their own. Even worse, have disabled kids due to old sickly semen that was used to pregnate that unfortunate lady. Seen that happen quite often in Naija).
So at the end of the day, a lady has choices espcially if she is fortunate enough NOT to live in Naija and is not much into African/Naija men.
My 2 cents.


By the way, I am already happily married , na una know with all these myths and delusions and constant Naija female bashing. I am glad I do not have to deal with that nonsense in real life.

@Poster
I don't know. Here in America, husbands are not scarce unless you would like a Naija spouse, then probably. I wouln't know.
Peace out!

madambini:
The site is not opening. Can u help?

LOL

Can't you see that he is pulling your leg? Don't take his post seriously. He usually does that when someone asks for a recipe, LOL

Chai,

See beautiful babes and someone is talking of horn of Africa girls? I mean, that yoruba girl is absolutely gorgeous and all the girls posted after her are equally gorgeous. Black is just beautiful and it does not crack easily. Thanks for posting Amaka and Nene1.

agathamari:
@ Miss Ife you asked about what it is like to be a white woman married to a Nigerian. Let’s face it no matter what any Nigerian woman will say, they don’t know what it is like no more than if they wanted to know how it is being a Nigerian woman married to a Scottish man, they would want to hear the answer from a Nigerian in the same position. You have gotten plenty of answers from many foreign women on their personal experiences and observations. No one is going to tell you the down sides of their own people and they are going to sugar coat their answers. If you want to see how people here view foreign wives, marriage and fidelity read the other posts on the site and the replies therein. Some other posts are “should an American wife change for her husband?”, “would you date an engaged man?”, “real men cheat” and “why do women date married men?”.

And as usual, you missed the point the white women married to Naija men on this forum were trying to tell you which is: STOP GENERALIZING!! Since you are in the business of always bad mouthing Naija people, then for Christ's sake, why did you marry one? Or are you one of those over weight, ugly, oyinbo women with bad skin that no oyinbo man wants and so you decided to settle for an African man? You sound so bitter. Is it by force to stay married to a man whose country and people you so dispise? I fear some of you white women oh! Tufiakwa!!

I pray for his safe return. I really like his acting skills. Naija, where art thou heading?

I once drank five alive and it tasted nasty. Lateron, I realized the juice had long expired and was still being sold. I also thought it tasted bitter.

DaudaAbu:
post by xoxoxo.

thats a lie. capital lie. African are the most tolerant pple i know of. When an african sees a white man, he's ready to listen to anything he says, well mayb in 9ja. Y, some pple even have more previleges than u in 9ja!

Most of the things we do we copy the white (pardon my using the word 'White'), white wedding, suit (Even when it hot as hell) and wedding gown, tataoos even though our skin is dark and the tattoo is uncospicous.

African love all white pple wether from asia or any part of the world.

Exactly! Please tell her. And what is the arrant nonsense of learning how to love like black americans? please!!! If anything, I learnt to HATE from them since I have experienced more discrimination from American blacks than I have experienced from any other groups of Americans. And xoxoxo needs to preach to Americans too because they do not exactly like foreigners either with all those corny treacherous "smiles" they throw at you without showing their teeth . I know what I am talking about since I have lived in the U.S for a long time. Some people will be hating on Africans yet want Africans to keep loving them in return like they give us the oxygen we breath. Abeg! I will love those who genuinely love me and HATE those who hate me. Who no like, make dem go die!

Peace, out!

[quote author=IGWE_USA link=topic=305010.msg4294388#msg4294388 date=1249349594]Some of my black friends always tell me that Asians are not better than KKK, although most of the ones I do things with are cool.

    Personally, I also found out that most Asians have this feeling of Negrophobia inbued in them. Poster are you also Negro-phobic? [/quote]LOL @ bolded

@Gabry
It is kinda difficult to  judge all Asians as each Asian group has its own behavioral trait. I am sure the way a chinese behaves might not be the same way a Japanese behaves, or a Vietnamese or South Korean behaves. I noticed that when one goes to Chinatown in any major city here in the U.S, the Chinese have a way of looking at you when you are of African descent. Their looks make one feel quite uncomfortable but the same Chinese will gladly open businesses in black neighborhoods and communities here in the U.S and thrive (so much so, we now even have Chinatown in Lagos, Naija ). So, as long as they are getting your money, they can care less what color your skin bears. I cannot speak for other Asian groups because I have had little or nothing to do with them.

As for a relationship with an Asian, ummmmmmmmmm, no thank you! I am only physically attracted to men of African descent and I already happily settled down with one. Besides, relationships are complicated enough without further complicating things with all the interracial dating hoplahs! As for perception, I also think most are Negrophobic (except when they are making money outta you) but hey, I might be wrong.  Just stating my humble, sincere opinion.

Peace, out!

Theblessed:
Imagine the blind trying to lead a fully-sighted person - How RIDICULOUS!!!!!!. My own profession, that this lady is trying to inform me about on here when she hasn't got a clue and couldn't even defend her own assertion or prove it's CREDIBILITY with RESEARCH EVIDENCE - too sorry indeed. She's just opening her mouth and bringing out things no one asked her about. To be honest, there's no point trying to have a dialogue on here with an IGNORANT, no point. People are talking from their a-ses instead of using their brains. Please, be well informed, get some education and show some decency. It would do you much good, huh!

My sister, don't mind that confused ignoramus who calls herself agathamari. If she is not on this forum bad mouthing Nigerians and Nigeria, then she is busy bad mouthing the man she married like anyone forced her to marry him in the first place. And then if it is not that, she is disrespectfully making inappropriate comments about the private parts of other women. She is not worth communicating with. The topic is about American women who marry Naija men and not Asian women and the shape of their punanies. She cannot stick to the topic of the thread for nothing. Please, my sister ignore her and engage in conversations with intelligent folks on this forum who have something meaningful to contribute. Stay Blessed and keep the posts coming.

@Poster

Why does the couple look so miserable? Maybe they were forced to marry each other because there is already a bun in the oven

Consultant:
That's similar to what we do in my house. First, both incomes come together, then we discuss the budget, then everyone takes what they need, and whatever is left over stays in the joint account.

I am a strong proponent of marriage with 100% openness and oneness.

I agree.

I cannot eat in the bus. I rather wait till I get home.

@Poster

Na you know. The way you make your bed, so will you lie in it. Learn to grow a spine. You are an adult. You see me, no one can force me to do what I do not want to do. You cannot keep pleasing others and displeasing yourself. The final decision pertaining to your marraige rests in your hands. Shikena!

@Poster

Learn not to generalize. You could have said "some" or "most" or "alot."

I do not have a weird name even though I am a Nigerian so I cannot answer your question. Sorry.

@OP

Intimidated? Puhleze!! Is he a god? I happened to be married to one. No biggie. And he came chasing me and all. A woman with a healthy dose of self esteem and/or good looks should not be intimidated by an attractive man. Abeg, leave matter. What planet do you reside in poster? Is that how it is in Naija?