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@Poster

I am loving this thread. I love pets and I am pleased to see Naija changing its formerly brutal mindset about dogs. This thread warms my heart. Hopefully one day, the show can be like the Eukaneba dog show

[quote author=d#anie link=topic=537884.msg7010534#msg7010534 date=1288015014]thats it
women are so silly and foolish, that they can even fluting their friend's husband. such worthless creatures.
Any women, that comes my way, i will make sure i bombard them mercilessly[/quote]I guess your mother, grandmother, great grandmother, sisters and female cousins are foolish creatures too with the most foolish creature of them all being the one who made the biggest mistake of her life by carrying a dacaying cacass like you in her womb for 9 months instead of aborting you the minute she found out she was pregnant for your retarded monkey a.s.s

I pray you come across a woman like me. You will not live to see the next day. Even if you do, I will so reconfigure your face, no slowpoke in your maternal or paternal lineage will recognize you. Those decaying, crooked, wretched fingers you use in typing, I will grind them into powder and mix it with white garri and stuff it into your stinking rat infested mouth! UFA AKAI! SALUPRi!

There is nothing wrong with what he did per se. The only problem I have is Nigerians and their hypocrisy. If it was a female pastor or any other woman for that matter who lost her husband after already turning 50 years or above, the majority of male responders here will condemn her and ask why she married again especially at that age. Nigerian culture expects a woman not to marry again once she reaches a certain age yet applauds when a man who is drawing close to his grave get's married again. Some argue it is for companionship. I guess elderly widows don't need companionship. Some say "body no be fire wood". I guess a woman's body is fire wood or she is expected to suppress her desires. Oh the irony but whatever! Dark Continent with a dark suppressing culture that will never move forward while others sprint ahead! 

MzDarkSkin:
You can read? Surely you cannot. Because had you the ability you'd know that I hadn't dissed anyone. I stated FACTS. And even with its recognition and success America is STILL not what its cranked to be as it is the land of opportunity however lacks flavor/culture. And wtf is the purpose of the Cameroonian statement? I am not Cameroonian, I am Jamaican-American. You mistook my location which CLEARLY says "WITH my Cameroonian King" for my nationality/location. And you want to talk about hating? If my not being impressed by a RENTED car is hating then I'm hateful like a MF!

Girl, preach!! He looks like a scam artist to me. All this young Naija boys who come to america today and get into scam so that they can show off in Nigeria. Why do you think Nigerians are alway involved in every crime involving scam here in america and around the globe? That car is bought with credit or like you stated, it might be a rental. Everything in america is credit including cars and houses and loans and what have you. He might fool Nigerians in Nigeria but he cannot fool those of us who have been living in America for such a long time because we know the american society in and out like the palm of our hands. He is busy posting his picture like a villager who got lucky to get to america. How many times do we see Bill Gates posing with a car? and that man has money! But it is broke a.z.z negroes from Naija that will get into immense fraudulent activities just to show off their ill gotten wealth on Nairaland. Sigh!

I don't know what happend to this thread. A simple question was asked and some semi-illiterate posters started going off on a tantrum of why america is great and bla, blah, blah. Some people however did a good job in addressing the question that was asked.

To answer the question, america is an organized society and they put their national identity first over their ethnic identity unlike Nigerians who put their tribe first over their country. The founding fathers also did a good job with the way they drafted the constitution back then. This is why america is successful. I will not use the word "blessed" because like buzugee rightly stated on page 3 of this thread, americans are angry miserable people. I work in a job where I deal with the american general public everyday and it is physically, emotionally and psycologicaly draining dealing with americans. They all seem bitter, angry, miserable and some are lonely. My americans co-workers are no different. They are tired, over worked, living from pay check to pay check, and a couple of them are always asking me if I can lend them some money till the next pay day comes. America has changed now due to the economic recession and if you are not careful, this society will enslave you with debt, all kinds of debt. With that being said, it is an organized society that has come a long way and I give them credit for that but still I feel something is missing. Maybe because most americans are so stupidly ignorant, fake, pretentious, rascist, and smile in your face when in actuality they would rather want to slap you?

nikki4848dd:
Wow interesting thoughts, but I guess it's really up to the individual that is actually involved in this type of relationship.I think there are pros and cons to this type of thing.I've heard someone tell me once.If you never open your mind to all possibilities, then you have never lived at all.Hmmmmm, something to think on,

What kinda possibilities? So, in this day and age, there are still women who think like you? No wonder Naija is not moving forward. Are you that desperate? With all the STDs out there, you are willing to exchange body fluids with several people? So, if the first wife catches craw-craw in her p.u.n.a.n.i, after your husband is done sleeping with her, he will now pass on the p.u.n.a.n.i craw-craw faithfully to you LOL But then, what do I know? Its all about opening the mind to all possibilities including STD and AIDS! Nigeria will hail thee!

sophy09:
I met an old couple who told me they just got married. I was wondering, is it necessary for old people to get married when they lose their partners? I'm sure they are not having sex and it is mostly for companionship but what is the point of getting married to someone who has few more years to leave.

I know back home many of our aged parents don't get married when their partners died. They devote their time and energy to religion, their children and grandchildren.

Back home the old men still get married again even in their 80's when their wives die. However, the women are expected to remain widows for life. If there is one main thing I hate about Naija and the culture is how mean and unjust they are to women! They expect women not to marry again if they are 50 years and older and their spouses have passed yet society makes it a point to force women to get married brain washing them with "do you want to die old and alone?". Well you die old and alone anyway even if you do marry because as soon as the man kicks bucket, you are expected to stay single for the rest of your life on earth. By then the kids are all grown and living abroad or in other parts of the country. Who are they fooling?

luap:
Why Nigeria? You have the whole world available. Every try Central or S. America? That place is nice.

Did you miss the part where she said that her husband-to-be is a Nigerian and that her husband-to-be has a family business he is responsible for? South America maybe nice but some people are not trying to go through the hassle of learning a new language especially as an adult! If she wanted to live in South America I am sure she could have hooked up with some South American and moved there ASAP. That is like me asking, why you an american are on a Nigerian forum when you could be hibernating amongst your fellow americans or an american forum. Gerrit?

fender:
Nnna please don't derail the thread. Go to alaba, idumota or its environs and open a shop.

LOL

@Poster

You seem addicted to sex. Be careful and pray before you find youself making love to demonic spirits A word is a enough for the wise.

Its funny because most of the women in my immediate family earn more than their husbands and they have been married for a long time. My older sister is a career woman and she started making more money than her husband long before they even got married. My aunt makes alot of money because she owns a pharmacy in addition to being a nurse and midwife. Her husband on the other hand does not make much. But they have been married for years which tells me that it all boils down to the individuals involved. It also depends on the individuals' personality.

Personally, I will hate a circumstance where I will be making more than my husband. If it happens temporarily then fine. But permanently would be a disaster. I don't need a grown ass man for a dependent permanently. My kids should be my dependents not a grown man with a beard, just saying.

And the poster that said somthing about single rich ladies are not respected in naija shows that nigeria has a long way to go. In advanced societies, single and married women are accomplishing great things in life. Not everyone is cut out for marraige and the earlier nigerians realize that, the less stories we will hear about husbands killing their wives and constant violence in the home. Lastly, my dad is late so my mom is a widow yet all this broke nigerian women who are married constantly come to her for financial assistance. I find that so annoying! And their husbands are alive and breathing. So being under a man can have its advantage and disadvantage. My 2 cents!

Gamine:
Because you don't see them doesn't mean they don't 'run' things.
Those in the background are usually the most powerful.

Besides, did you conduct any survey to ask the 'whites' and 'Asians' why?

Abi o! Good question.

3kay945:
they all want bigger things, good for you if you are beautiful otherwise,  just keep waiting for tall thing,  your 'akara' will get cold before you realize.

Give it a rest or is it by force? I don't understand Nigerians and their weird mind set. There is something called preference. It has nothing to do with biological clock! Can you be intimate with a woman you don't find attractive? Same way some women cannot fall in love with a minie me. Besides, back in the day when I waa single I dated some short man and he was insecure telling not to wear even a 2 inch heel! Who wants to put up with that kinda headache for the rest of one's life? Besides, height runs in my family and I do not want short engines for kids. Luckily, I am tall and so is hubby. So there!

spikedcylinder:
Not really.
With the kind of things that go on these days, I don't blame the woman for taking major precaution. Unfortunately for her and everyone else, whisking them off abroad is not going to solve the problem as there are predators everywhere.

True that predators are everywhere but in Nigeria most predators go scot free while in advanced societies like England and the US, you will end up in jail for a very long time. Therein lies the huge difference.

@Post

Na hunger and lack of adequate pay in wages

Agh Becomrich! You have come again with your maps Can you not get your point across without maps huh?

Stanfordx:
@poster,Wait a minute u met her in 2007 on nairaland tru chat.U registerd wit nairaland forum on 16,oct.2008 are u 4 real.Explain more

Let it rest naaaaa! Just congratulate and keep it moving please.


@Poster
Congratulations and wishing you happy married life

@Topic

Is chicken and goat meat finish in the market? Definately not where I live so the answer is NO, I don't eat snakes!

THE AMAKA:
haters. . . while all of you people are talking. . . my question is



source?

For real! That was what I thought too. Besides, Naija tabloids are good at coming up with fake tales anyway. I will take whatever they claim with a grain of salt.

aieromon:
Nah,they all secretly fantasize about having a family.

How do you know this? Are you in their brain? Besides, don't most Nigerians marry mainly just to give birth to children? The girl already has a child and she does not need a man to provide for her since she is doing that quite well on her own. So, whether she chooses to marry or not is her perogative. In advanced societies, no one gives a damn if you are married or not except if you are in politics because ordinarily, your marital status does not change the price of fish. Now in Nigeria AKA the cesspit of confusion, 419 scam and consistent darkness and lack of basic amenities, it is a whole nother story LOL

Good luck to him

[quote author=Aloy_Emeka link=topic=493313.msg6536336#msg6536336 date=1281292617]Are you sure she is happy?[/quote]Does she look unhappy to you in those pics? She looks content to me. I once asked a gay co-worker of mine why she choose the gay lifestyle and her response was that she does not feel happy and fulfilled with men. So, there are people who are happier in a same gender relationship than realtionship with the opposite gender. I can't explain it either but it is what it is.

Chuks84:
Demented Fowl! I hate it when fools call themselves Nigerians then go ahead and whine about its inadequacies,if you hate Nigerians so much then emigrate to Niger or Togo. Fool. If you have a problem with a particular group of people please refrain from generalizing! Besides nobody is perfect,all this rubbish you just mentioned exists everywhere in the world and not just in Naija, so just shut your trap and contribute constructively if you have anything to say instead of abusing a country and its inhabitants!

And that is why you had to become foul mouthed and verbally abusive as young as you are huh? You forgot that people don't get to choose their biological parents' nationality because if they did, I know I will not choose Naija as the country I want my parents to come from. Most of you obviously have psycological problems and a Nigerian psyciatrist confirmed that and a thread was opened about it right here on good ole Nairaland. It is why, with all the natural resources God has Blessed Naija with, most Naijas are still living in abject poverty. Its either that or you people are too busy running around the world looking for where to migrate too while Sudan has begun deporting Nigerians back to Nigeria! I don't mingle with Naijas in real life. The internet is the furthest I will go just to have a lil internet fun. My reason being, most of you are so backward in your way of reasoning, it is not even funny. You people's mindset resonates with people from the 18th century and it is no wonder Naija and Africa as a whole is the laughing stock of the world! Outside of Nigeria, the international community are distrustful of Nigerians because of all their dubious activities.

Chuks84:
My Dear Nayah, I'm not taking the issue the wrong way, you probably misinterpreted what i said about the woman being the helpers. It is my belief that the man is the head of the house, he should be the bread winner (unfortunately its not always the case). The wife should recognize his authority. I am not saying the woman should play a passive role, but like someone said earlier, anything with two heads will eventually become a monster, I will treat my wife as my better half, cherish her, respect her as long as she does the same to me. Its so sad that Africans have chosen to embrace the western culture with no holds barrred, in my opinion feminism only serves to imprint the false notion that the woman is being marginalized which is a blatant lie. look at homes where real love exists between the spouses, no matter how domineering the man is, he listens to his wife first and foremost. How many feminists have fulfilled marriages today? Pleas lets be realistic!

At bolded part, I always knew most Nigerians are the worst hypocrites I have ever had the displeasure of encountering. Is it an African/Naija that created the internet or the computer or technology? So since everything western is bad, why are you embracing western culture by using the internet and computer that was created by the western world? And don't try to tell me that the computer and the internet is not partially a western culture because I don't recall Nigerians knowing anything about computers and technology before the arrival of the britons or even in the 1980's. Secondly, why do I see Nigerians queing up and sleeping at British, America, German, Australian and what have you embassies just to get out of Nigeria to the same Western societies we so bad mouth? Why do I see Nigerians who have never stepped foot outside Nigeria speaking with a fake, messed up American or British accent? What ever happened to their natural accent? Yet, we are quick to knock down western societies that Nigerians will gladly run to if given the slightest opportunity.


@Poster
In regards to submission (A topic that comes up over and over again on this forum), this was never an issue in my family. My father loves my mum to pieces and he pampers her. She too makes sure that he is happy. My father never went about thumping his chest like an aggressive ape demanding submission because it was something that happened naturally. My mum did not even know she was being submissive because dad and mom treated each other with RESPECT. My dad did not make a final decison before asking mom what she thought about it. He respected her intelligence, her imput and opinion and who she is as a person. He held unto the part of the bible that clearly said "love your wife like Christ loved the church." In other words, my dad was not a typical Naija/African male. He possessed common sense and knew what it took to keep his family happy and content.  He is also a peace loving man. I also married a man who has a similar character like my dad. He respects me and I respect him and we never argue about submission or who is the head. He is the head but I am not the doormat either. He accords me respect  and I accord him respect and we make Christ the centerpiece of our home. I showed him this thread and he just shoke his head though he was not suprised at the comments. I guess both of us (hubby and I) will never understand the archaic mindset of most Nigerians. As for feminism, I don't even know what it is about so I won't go there. You guys can go ahead and keep arguing, cussing, and giving each other headache on this forum. At the end of the day, it all ends here and we all live our lives as we see fit.

Peace, out

Drinking apple juice and water

@Post

With fried plantain I guess

ogbeche77:
Amala Again?

Yep, amala again

@Poster
So what the heck do you want us to do? Send you some urge through the internet? And where are the chuvinist pigs? I guess if a woman posted this it would have garnered 10 pages by now. Go back to being single and let her find herself a man worthy of her love. Bush thing, Bloody hypocrates, Ufas!

@Poster

Why do you care and how does one's dressing affect the price of fish in the market? Here in America some teens also dress revealing but do you see American society loosing sleep over it? Have you finished wondering why in this 21st century, in the year 2010 you people back in Naija are still living like cave men and women without electricity and lack of basic infrastructure? And you are here loosing sleep over how people dress! Talk about misplaced priorities!

@Poster

Don't mind them. They want to reap love when they went about sowing hate! Look at all the tribe and gender bashing threads on Nairaland enough to make one puke!

@ Poster

Why are you disturbing one with your marital problem? And as usual the Nigerian chuvinist pigs come flying out from every corner! Why do alot of Nigerians DECEIVE themselves and dabble into marraige when they know nothing about it? Let me ask you this, don't  you have marraige counselling where you live? If we were not in an age of technology, where will you run to, to report your spouse? Seriously Nigerians make their marraiges seem very unpalatable and UGLY. The constant female bashing bastards on Nairaland are always on the loose as well. If Nigerians are not busy hating on each other due to tribe then its due to gender. You all are cursed and that is why Nigeria can NEVER move forward due to the the calibre of people it has as citizens! Even Sudan is rejecting Nigerians. Countries around the world will continue to reject you because God don't like ugly.

No one forced your sex addicted ass to get married. You ought to have discussed sexual compatability with your spouse before walking down the aile. Maybe you are a lazy bum who never helps out with the kids or the home and allows the poor woman take care of everything and when she is all burnt out, you wonder why she does not want to sleep with your black, lazy, sweaty, stinking, hairy, craw-craw filled, probably herpes infected monkey behind! Abeg free the woman! You Naija males are not worth being married to in the first place. Marraige to you people is like a curse and will lead to an early grave! Go marry oyibo!  Also, since Nigerians are in the business of forcing people to get married and equate being married to happiness and contentment, why the hell are there so many threads created each day complaining about the spouse? Bloody hypocrates! Ufa' Akai!!!!

source please?

glorina:
Heard D'banj fukced Genny real hard with his big KOKO to the extent she couldn't walk for weeks. Is it true?

Why don't you go ask the parties involved?

Nairaland is really becoming something else these days