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AntiWailer:
Calm down. Sit her down and talk to her.

Let her know how frustrated you are about this, Give instances and what your expectations were.

Hear her out too and try to work things out. As for sex drive, it is normal ladies lose their sex drive because of several factors. Just sit her down and hear her out.

Let divorce be last option, suicide is not an option at all.

sound advice bro

advanceDNA:
Na 50/50....
If it works out as u want...good...
If she change and follow another man with settled status then ghost you....no vex... humans can be unpredictable..understand say na survival mode she switch to...

Wateva happens, u go dey alright las las .but no overthink the matter right now...

very sound advice

miyagi01:
Why you self rush marry. Marriage matter nah serious matter. You should have prayed well to know the kind of person wey u wan marry. Some spouse get badluck that you might never make it if u're with them

100% right o!

captaininiobong:
Hy guys, I don't know if you have been in this, my woman that agreed to be the mother of my kids as stated by her recently stopped talking to me, picking my calls because she needed a 3million naira marriage.

I told her please why not we do moderate and use the remaining for investment. She said no. The three million is even small.

When I asked her what will we use the 3million to do, she said to buy furniture for the home. Uptill now she doesn't pick my calls, reply my chat if not that no be God showed her to me I would have deleted her number off my phone but am still keeping it for a reason I don't even know.

We have been together for long, not until a friend of mine got married and I told her they did thier marriage not less than 300k, then she said it's a big lie.

Pray and fast for God to show u your wife, broken relationship is better than broken marriage

DesChyko:
So the court order has expired laidis since they obeyed it and resumed? Wahala. Still better than FG that are still holdingKanu hostage against court order

We should keep maltreating your lecturers o, who devoted time and finance to get to where they are today. By the time they get an easy route out of the country to where their efforts will count for something, we will start crying brain drain. Like we're doing with medical professionals today.

My sentiments exactly

WibusJaga:
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She should have poisoned herself instead.

Life that she cannot create!! She should have killed herself jare

Beverlyjean:
A good woman will not cheat on u, to mk it worse, did it without protection and lied thst it belongs to u... any woman thats capable of this can kill... just know that ur life is already in danger

1 million percent right!

Microwhy:
Its not about marrying who they don't love.
I know a couple that dated for 26years (since primary school) but couldn't hold the marriage for 6 years. Its about their attitude, behaviour and character. Also
They're not bored, they just want to practice what they know how to do best and they're what they're "A hoe" .
Most of the so called boring husbands are trying their best to make the family happy but a hoe will always be one.

God bless you

MrFinbarr:
Nonsense!!!

Yet you'll be paying Med. Drs. 5k monthly as hazard allowance, and have refused to implement the new hazard allowance that we agreed on with same Ministry of Health since last year. Who does that??

Bunch of idiots in Government. Japa is and will continue to occur until a drastic measure it done to improve the health sector and appropriate incentives implemented. Until then, y'all are bunch of jokers and morons.

Well articulated!

Born2Breed:


Vado and the Voodoo Gold Chain.

Correct!!!

Wizywiz:
if you allow am bring u down to ur grave oga that will be easy passport to Congo shinning of ur madam from her male sharapovas ...if u kpai na u loose oooo...ur peace of mind is important if d center no fit hold make u free her to go...life no get duplicate........since I parted ways with my ex wife honestly u won't understand the peace of mind I now enjoy..(although my case is different from urs because she wasn't cheating but the wahala and lies too much) always remember u are the source of ur own happiness... marriage is not a do or die affair...Las Las ur pikins Dem go dey alright

Wizzified come in peace

sound advice!!!!!!

hotspec:
I wish PMB can just let Oshibajo take charge till May next year

I second this, at least let's compare

Mercury12:
Nobody is perfect.
So before you go for her then you must be such that she listens to you.

Maybe you not doing enough to warn her and beside not everyone is good at spending money wisely and that is why you are the perfect person for her.

Many men also have their wife as the person that puts a break on any of their reckless spending.
So I would say that you the perfect person help plan her finances but you must make sure she opens up to you and listens too

sound advice, particularly if she comes from a good home, as the OP said earlier

MarveworldG:
Not safe anywhere

Jesus is the only security anywhere in the world

Fahdiga:
This is a case of killing for ritual. Nothing else

i Nothing else but the truth

PALAPALA02:
Good day all.

I want to share with you all what the Lord did for me yesterday o.

While at PHC on a business trip from calabar.
I arrived phc on sunday and decided to sit out with friends on Wednesday night. After dropping my friends at their house and heading to my hotel room with the aid of the google map, a truck was parked on the speedlane at attilary road at phc at about 2am without having backlights or even putting c-caution.

While trying to look at my phone to check where i was heading to and moving at about 100km/hr, as soon as i lifted my head up, a truck was parked at the speedlane with NO backlights and caution sign placed on the road.

And that was how i rammed into the truck. But to the glory of God, i came out unscathed. No injury sustained at all.

The police said i was wrong to have rammed into the truck from behind regardless of where it was parked or even if it was stationary. They said i ought to have been more careful.
Buh i thank God, i am alive, my car got destroyed, but I sustained no injury which is most important.

I thank God for your life, even the cigarette make u try stop that one too

TarOrfeeek:
I remember watching the wedding ceremony of these people as a child.

I actually asked myself then, why would a young pretty woman marry someone as short, ugly and unattractive as JA.

Well silly me. It was the money. It is the money. It will forever be about the money.

Now Stand up comedy is obsolete. JA has literally no source of income. And guess what, she just suddenly realised that JA is a fool.

Or that he was unfaithful while sick. Or some other flimsy excuse. But you woke up, wore white gown and swore with a bible to be with him through it all.

Young men. I don't know what to say, but you can't ever be actually loved. Maybe your mother will try.

But that's just about it. TFU this woman sha

on point!

gasparpisciotta:
If she says she doesn’t love you anymore and wants to leave, let her go.

Na Wahala commot for your life so!!!!

100% correct!

donbachi:
Every man should marry a woman he can afford.

Very wise! It's a way of achieving long life

TechspeciaIist:
If she isn't coming to my mama house then she should fucck the hell off.
What do these useless naija ladies have to offer in marriage sef

U 2 much

Kellzzyy:
One thing you have to understand is that there are a lot of shitheads on Nairaland who spread so much negativity here.
From your OP, I can deduce you have a nice guy with a great future. If you're really compatible with him then you have to give it your best shot.

If you allow the negativity here to spoil your mind from something really good, na you sabi o.
These fools here vilifying the man and not even giving him the benefit of the doubt wouldn't be there for you when you lose a good thing.

Amen

Fiscus105:
You haven't married ooo

Be on look out

Meanwhile, are you not having sex? What happens to several sex you had in the past?

I guess ur man is sterile and dnt want you to know about it.

My candid advise, report him to his people and threatening him for divorce if he refuses to follow u for medical check up.

Ur time is ticking second by second and closer to menopause.

Too true

everythinggirly:
Do you love her?
Maybe you may need to marry her first before too much spending.


This is why ladies should work. How can he not expect something in return when she is expecting something from him? Are they related by blood that he'll be Father Christmas? Dating doesn't turn a boyfriend to a father figure to foot all responsibilities mbok.

Jr head day there

Rtk5:
Men you need to hussle and if possible avoid marriage. The worst thing that can ever happen to a man is going broke.

Please I am not trying to poison anybody's heart. It is good to fall in love and marry the right partner. I tell you most solemnly, until things get bad, you will never know the real attitude of your partner.

I remember when I lost my job and things became so bad that I planned to kill my self on a certain day, what stopped me from committing suicide was I fell into a deep sleep that I didn't wake up till the next day at around 8am. On waking up i relaized that God did something to me that i couldn't explain till today and the thought of suicide vanished.

Back to my topic, there was a day during my times of trial and hardship that my wife told me she wanted to go and visit her male friend in his house, I stopped her by saying why will a married woman do that and you even have the guts to tell me. It ended in a fight, anytime we have any slight quarrel, she will pack her things and leave to her mum's place and the family always support her actions without knowing from me what happened.

There was a time when our child was just barely few months old, i left the house for an interview, i trecked about 3km to the venue, she left him at home and went to only God knows where, only for her to call me that she has left the house and my son for me, that i should get home before he wakes up from sleep, i couldn't wait for the interview to get to my turn, i begged a random person on the road and he gave me #1,000 that was after i begged more than ten different people with other refusing to answer me not to talk of helping. I ran home and thank God i met him just waking up. I took him back to the interview and a kind lady helped me with him until it got to my turn and i finished and went back home.

In the night at about 7pm while i was preparing to bath him, she entered the house and carried him to bath him, i didn't utter a word and i forgave her.

Guys, you need to see how thin i became during those trials, no single food to eat. I became a shadow of myself, i became so shy of walking in public because of how frustrated i became. I have many experiences but i rest my case here.

The sad reality right now is that we are still married, while the good is that things have improved 10times better than it has ever been but i've placed her where she belongs. The only thing stopping me from divorce is what people will say and my image. Do you know that honestly she hasn't learnt her lessons as she is still a problem to me, always nagging and i don't have peace in my own house.

Right now i'm on the process of divorce and i'm building resistance to whatever people will say.

I can relate, I've been there. The Lord is your strength. The worst thing that can happen to a person is to marry the wrong partner. It shortens life span

Sonnobax15:

Op,I pity you in advance...If you like, allow your quest and love for big nyanch to make you loosegaurd who go give you peace of mind..

Abi na banny wey get big nyanch wey go make you get competition with other men you want?


Las las,one day one day small nyanch go vex shake

Correct

Myexdisturbs:
My mom--50k

My dad--60k

My mother/father-in-law= 25k

You have tried

Ishilove:
If you say so. Shine ya eyes

Good luck in your search and no matter what DON'T disclose your abroad status, if not my sisters here will use you to travel and when they are yonder, collect the small kabukabu wey you dey use manage life.

On point

bjtinz:
Why use a private facility when u lack the funds??

well said, cut your coat according to your cloth

SenecaTheYonger:
Why is her family pressuring u for money? You could have married into a burden family lol

good observation

You don't need to kill yourself. Look for a school u can afford conveniently

God bless you, my brother. You shall live long and prosper

Very very very, very, 100% correct