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Blackteeth:
iice, please read my previous response again. I NEVER said temperament makes someone intelligent, I only said that it makes it appear like one is too intelligent or dull. For instance, you may watch those with a loud kind of temperament, they always talk with boldness and confidence, and that may decieve people to think that their brains are flaming hot. Those with a quiet nature on the other hand who don't say much may be mistaken as unintelligent fellows. Do you get me?

Blackteeth:
The cardinal point of what am saying is; THE ISSUE OF WHO IS AN INTELLIGENT MAN OR NOT, SHOULD NOT CREATE MUCH OF A BUZZ. EVERYONE IS INTELLIGENT, BUT WITH SLIGHT NEGLIBLE VARIATIONS.

Missy85:
his deputy should step in as acting chairman, pending the outcome of any appeal.

using the lodging of an appeal to stay execution and keep himself in office, whilst technically right, is morally wrong.

Guess our  politicians dont do morals

jamace:
I can not find these sites quoted by OP and Gbawe.

This is what I got:

I used the search function and got the same info.

Abeg, people confirm the information. This is injury time and anything can happen. Political opponents can use propaganda to scather things. This is a period when there is absolute need to confirm every story. Abeg, people confirm story.  

jennykadry:
@Topic

[s]Financial security(e.g good car, a moderately big and comfy house,a fat bank account, have access to his bank cards and internet banking logon details, vacation atleast once in a year, transfering money into my account every fortnight e.t.c)
[/s]
Good sex, I mean extremely good sex

Cute kids

Love.

e.t.c

e.t. c

dayokanu:
Spikedcylinder for the comment in bold, I offer to marry you tonight sharp sharp.

I am not in support of partners dependent on the other but would it have been wrong if the girl was the one without a job and the guy paying for him?

I cant depend on any woman and I dont expect any woman to depend on me

Ujujoan:
Companionship!
Security

chaircover:
I wouldnt say that Marriage is dead and there are quite a number of people enjoying a good marriage.

I think once one comes to realise and accept that you wont find and cant marry Mr or Mrs perfect and that neither can one have a 100% perfect marriage, then one is halfway there towards making the best of what they have.

chaircover:
ahhhhhhhh The beauty of being a woman is being able to change ones mind every 2 seconds and blaming it on horomones etc

I have changed my mind already. . . . .  I dont want the BMW anymore, I now want a White Range Sport 

Ive bought a very good book from Amazon and by the time I have perfected position number 20,345 he wont know when he signs the cheque 

Lagosboy:
[size=13pt]The award is for the decade which is from 2000 to 2010

In this period Wenger won the league twice, won the FA cup 3 times, consistently got to the quarter finals of champions legue for 10 years. Arsene won the communuity shield at least 2 times and finally the only manager to have won the leugue UNBEATEN in the premier leugue.

We should analyse objectively and not based on club loyalty as we do not know more than the football pundits who voted him to win. Producing players of high quality is not the same as buying ready made players. Mourinho is a wonderful great manager but i am not aware of much players he groomed and developed except one or two at Porto.[/size]

jennykadry:
I did love someone a few hours after I talked with him, and in 3 months I was tripping, before a year I changed from my fathers name to his. This was many years back and believe me the love is still strong infact stronger than it used to be.

jennykadry:
There you go OAM4JENNY.

Now I know you are after my money, the relationship is over I don't wanna end up cooking ewedu for you everyday and the only thing you use to pay me back is your weapon of mass destruction.  I no do again

chaircover:
Genius please take it easy OK especially on this school of men that you want to take me to LOL.Although I am not getting the cheating argument no one can stop you from your opinions.

OAM4J since you have still not seen what she said, here we go again;

I am a very generous person at heart but i recently developed this feeling that the reason he's keeping me around is because i offer some sort of financial support.

IMO The best type of woman a man can find  in this kind of situation, is one that can think ahead and look long term, way past next months rent & this evenings rice and beans.

If this were me, I know that I cant afford to carry on giving him money and what I give is not enough for both of us to spend. (the account being in red proves that)
I know that eventually I will become fed up and frustrated with the situation, I may (I didn't say will) become snappy and raise my voice a few decibels when I talk to him due to my frustration & fears about my bank balance. I also know that we need a bit of savings for a rainy day.

I am also not 100% sure if he genuinely loves me or he is just around me because I am of financial assistance to him; so this is what I would do . . . .

Rewind back to my post on page one.

[b]In a nutshell, I will put on my most comfortable shoes and walk with him the length and breath of London looking for job with him. I will buy all the job newspapers and start applying for jobs & even filling application forms in his absence on his behalf.

I will ditch Eastenders or Big brother and in the evening scour the net for jobs, I will open up an Ebaay account for him and investigate what Items that I can buy cheaply and resell at a profit.

I will buy a lyca mobile sim card and call all my friends and acquaintances up even the ones I haven't spoken too in 5 years asking them if there are any vacancies in their places of work.

When I log onto face book it is not to talk about Jenny's new dodgy looking brazillian hairstyle not JK o!   but to network and find out information on any jobs that may be available that my friends know of.

I will buy books on interviewing skills and practice different interview scenarios with him. I will make sure that he looks presentable at interviews. I don't even mind paying for his CV to be professionally written

By the time I am done with him he will be picking and choosing jobs.

I will support him, encourage him and stick by him like ham in a sandwich until he is able to stand on his own too feet with his dignity intact. Forget the handouts.Handouts are temporary and do more damage than they are worth. Poster needs to be proactive not reactive.[/b]

Infact is girls women like me; Mrs CC who with my attitude and character that are hard to find (not my words LOL)  so please lets put sentiment to one side & face reality.

Sefini 

( NB: Mr CC am not stylishly toasting o  )

bhusayor:
na wa o, why are some guys here being so defensive?Not every woman has a 'big heart' like the poster, (at least,i dont), any bf dat expects me to give all the time should be ready to see me as the 'head' in the relationship, you guys are so quick to point out that you want a submissive lady hu u want to exercise 'authority' over,yet you dont want to take responsibilities!if you really want to be in charge,then do all it takes to be in charge! N all the 'he doesnt ask,i do those tins outta love' is BS,he's definately enjoyin it! plus he doesnt need to ask becos he knows u have a big heart already,at least he could tell you to stop or drop some dough once in a while to support, There's nothing wrong in giving in a rlt as a gurl(i buy gifts for my fiance once in a while)but please dont play double roles SOLE PROVIDER AND THE CARING AND SUBMISSIVE WIFE TO BE at the same time

queensmith:
It will take much longer than 6months for a woman to justifiably be loving a man with her money!
read all you want you have just read that!
plus you should look at the post I was responding to, ify was comparing it to lending money to a friend, Personally I dont know of any 6 month friendship that will see me emptying my pockets!
and even if not I STILL dont think you can love someone in 6 months!

Please, i need advice and opinion from matured people. Married peeps and those in serious relationships.

I am a Nigerian young lady presently dating a Nigerian man here in England. He's just recently completed his degree and he is yet to get a stable job.

We have been together for about six months and things have been okay between us expect the issue of finances.

It seems that i am bearing all the financial burden of this relationship. Although we stay seperately, anything i cook. . . . pot of soup, rice. beans, anything. . . . i always split it into two and give my boyfriend most times over half of it. He has never given me a penny just to make up for the money i spend on all the meals i cook for both of us. He has never asked me specifically to cook for him. . I prepare the meals outta love and for the fact that he cannot cook and most times he eats out (kebab, and some other junk).

On one occassion, he had issues paying his rent and i had to lend him money. He didn't return the money back to me when i expected and he wanted to give me the money in installments but i refused and told him i needed the money to sort out my own issues (which was the truth) and it was only then he gave me back the money.

I have no issues helping out someone i love in times of need but i am beginning to feel used and stupidly in love.The final straw was recently when i had to lend him money inorder for him to sort out his visa issues (a tangible sum).
By the time i lent him the money and paid my own rent, my account was overdrawn leaving me broke with piling overdraft fees    He is yet to tell me when he's going to return the money back to me and i am feeling a bit awkward regarding asking him about it.

I earn  higher than him and my source of income is steadier than his. I am a very generous person at heart but i recently developed this feeling that the reason he's keeping me around is because i offer some sort of financial support.

He talks about marriage and tells me that once he gets a regular job that he is going to marry me. He does appreciate me and tells that me that girls like me with my attitude and character are hard to find and he does not want to lose me. He also tells me that he has never felt so loved by any girl  in his life.

I see nothing wrong in standing by my man in need (especially with this tag on nigerian girls in london that we are all gold diggas) but do you people think i am overdoing it?

Am just really down now. Especially when i think about the fact that my account is in red and thats because i lent money to him

[size=14pt]Court throws Out Zoning Suit against President Jonathan[/size]

An Abuja high court presided over by Justice Ishaq Bello has again thrown out a suit filed by Ambassador Yahaya Kwande, Honourable Dubem Onyia and Alhaji Lawal Kaita challenging the eligibility of President Goodluck Jonathan to participate in the presidential primaries of the Peoples� Democratic Party [PDP].

Delivering judgment on the suit, Justice Bello says article seven sub section two relied upon by the plaintiffs was not breached as the PDP is yet to conduct its primary elections.

Justice Bello added that the said section did not provide relevant mechanisms for the enforcement of the provisions of the party�s constitution on zoning.

While dismissing the suit and upholding the preliminary objections filed by counsel to the Peoples� Democratic Party and President Jonathan, Justice Bello stated that the suit is premature.

A similar suit filed by Mr Bala Takaya seeking to stop former Vice President Atiku Abubakar from participating in the PDP primaries was also thrown out for failing to show any reasonable cause of action.

http://www.channelstv.com/global/news_details.php?nid=25113&cat=Politics

[size=14pt]Jonathan signs amended constitution[/size]

President Goodluck Jonathan says that the controversy over the signing into law of the amended constitution of the Federal Republic of Nigeria was not necessary.

Dr Jonathan said this while assenting to the first and second amendment of the 1999 constitution in the presidential villa.

In his speech, the President tracked back to 1999 when the constitution was drafted, describing it as a unique occasion.

�The first of its kind in the democratic dispensation� Dr. Jonathan said and asked that change should be allowed in any society including Nigeria.

President Jonathan thanked the leadership of the National Assembly for accomplishing the first stage of the amendments in collaboration with the state assemblies and the executive arms of government even in the midst of controversy.

The President stated that he is optimistic that he will still be here to sign further amendments of the constitution and also commended the cordial relationship between the executive and the legislature in the country, observing that laws made by man are subject to constant change to meet the challenges of the times.

The President�s commendations continued as he also acknowledged the National Assembly for carrying out the enormous task of constitutional amendment and that more amendments will come until the constitution reflects the will of the people and not be seen as a material handed over to Nigerians by the military.

President Goodluck Jonathan signed the two documents under the watchful eyes of the vice president, Architect Namadi Sambo, the Senate President, the speaker of the House of Representatives, the Attorney General of the Federation and the Secretary to the Federal Government and other principle officers.

After the signing ceremony, the Senate President, Senator David Mark told journalists that the nation must be made to move forward not minding the controversy surrounding the signing into law of the amended constitution.

http://www.channelstv.com/global/news_details.php?nid=25114&cat=Local

queensmith:
No we certainly cannot! What is unacceptable for a woman is quadriple HELL NO for a man! If he cant handle his bizniz now with barely any burdens he can never handle a family!

@ify they cant be that good for freinds they have only known for 6 months
no2 I dont think its sensible of plausible to be in love within 6months
Its definitely unplausible to be loving someone with your salary ESPECIALLY if youve only known him for 6 months!
What kind of happiness can you wish her with a sponging tramp for a boyfriend?Ive never agreed with you for one miniute on this site but I 100% agree with you on this!

@poster take it from someone younger who has been there a million years ago, if you love this man, watch how much MORE youll love a man who takes care of himself, handles his business and sets an example!

chaircover:
@Likeme sorry but I disagree. Even if the gf offered him the money, it was selfish of him to accept it knowing that his girlfriend will be disadvantaged and her account will be in the red.

He also did NOT return the money on the agreed date further putting her into more financial hardship.

. . . . . And if you tell me that how was he to know the real state of her account; then they probably dont know each other as well as they like to potray

Anyhow IMO, a man accepting rent and food money from his girlfriend does leave a very bad taste in my mouth. Shelter and food are fundamentals and if we were talking about a gift then that is different.

Of course if they were married, then that is a total different ball game.

philip0906:
@bluetooth
a man who could not unite his country 2gether,left trails of poverty,divisions,corruption,insecurity and other problems dat led 2 d death of many nigerians,is whom u r eulogising and calling a hero?if obj is a hero,Mandela must be a villain. . .pls tell all those your yarns 2 yar'adua. . .what a pity

jennykadry:
Thank you, the other day the Tv wouldn't turn on .I did not even bother finding out what the issue was, I waited until Mr Jk came back from work and told him what had happened and in 2mins the Tv was back on. He actually accused me of "of not wanting to be electrocuted" but hey it's normal, If my car wouldn't start the next thing I do is call him on the phone(if he isn't home). The last straw that broke the camels back was when I had to travel to a very rural town for work, one day I saw a snake, did I almost pee on  my undies? and silly me instead of finding my way , called My oga up first and told him I could see a snake from where I was standing, not until he told me to run for my life did I run. After the whole incident when I got home he banned me from travelling to rural towns and asked me to go clear my brains out for ringing him first before running.

But it's something I just do, if I find something too difficult to handle I just leave it for him to handle.

Financial security comes under the security I want from a man. Even if I end up having a good paying job, I still expect my hubby to earn something .

jennykadry:
She is desperate , i've said it again, oya bite me

jennykadry:
Then you take the GADDAMN money, no be you kill messiah

But seriously how do these men that take boxers/rent/chop/car/school money from gurls feel?

What wastes of manhood

pslm23:
all these men saying women are selfish for telling the poster to stop giving the guy money, na una sabi! Y'all shld stop comparing men giving their girlfriends / wives money to women giving their boyfreinds money. there's a big difference there as in we humans have been programmed to believe and rely on men being the provider. Men do not hesitate to tout the popular saying "I'm the man, I'm the head of this household, I'm the provider, I'm the one wearing the pants" when it comes to money issues etc. So, my thing is if you say u r all of that and above, do not let the woman give you money, be the man you claim to be. Even when she offers, say "NO BABE, I GOT THIS" Work 3 menial jobs if you must and if thats all there is out there so you will always have money in your pocket. It's one thing if they are married and maybe have a joint account then maybe the man can willfully spend as he wants, but as long as they are still in the dating mode, the money is hers and she needs to save it.

Someone asked what if they were married and he lost his job? Well, tough luck! If he lost his job, he needs to go out everyday and keep searching for a new one. And I'm sure that he would have received a severance pay or at least saved up some money before getting the boot. Of course she will carry the load on her shoulder but it should be only for a while. Working married couples that i've seen and know, share the responsibility of the day to day running of their homes.  My husband takes care of our mortgage payments and car notes while i take care of the utility bills and food shopping. We both take care of fueling up our cars and doing the maintenance. He lost his job a while back and i shouldered his share of responsibilites. As soon as he got another job and made his first pay, I passed it back to him with happiness.

Some people may say i'm evil or harsh, but when life has taught u a few valuable lessons when it comes to relationships, you tend to be cynical and cautious when it comes to issues regarding money, boyfriend, girlfriend.