₦airaland Forum

Rtk5:
Men you need to hussle and if possible avoid marriage. The worst thing that can ever happen to a man is going broke.

Please I am not trying to poison anybody's heart. It is good to fall in love and marry the right partner. I tell you most solemnly, until things get bad, you will never know the real attitude of your partner.

I remember when I lost my job and things became so bad that I planned to kill my self on a certain day, what stopped me from committing suicide was I fell into a deep sleep that I didn't wake up till the next day at around 8am. On waking up i relaized that God did something to me that i couldn't explain till today and the thought of suicide vanished.

Back to my topic, there was a day during my times of trial and hardship that my wife told me she wanted to go and visit her male friend in his house, I stopped her by saying why will a married woman do that and you even have the guts to tell me. It ended in a fight, anytime we have any slight quarrel, she will pack her things and leave to her mum's place and the family always support her actions without knowing from me what happened.

There was a time when our child was just barely few months old, i left the house for an interview, i trecked about 3km to the venue, she left him at home and went to only God knows where, only for her to call me that she has left the house and my son for me, that i should get home before he wakes up from sleep, i couldn't wait for the interview to get to my turn, i begged a random person on the road and he gave me #1,000 that was after i begged more than ten different people with other refusing to answer me not to talk of helping. I ran home and thank God i met him just waking up. I took him back to the interview and a kind lady helped me with him until it got to my turn and i finished and went back home.

In the night at about 7pm while i was preparing to bath him, she entered the house and carried him to bath him, i didn't utter a word and i forgave her.

Guys, you need to see how thin i became during those trials, no single food to eat. I became a shadow of myself, i became so shy of walking in public because of how frustrated i became. I have many experiences but i rest my case here.

The sad reality right now is that we are still married, while the good is that things have improved 10times better than it has ever been but i've placed her where she belongs. The only thing stopping me from divorce is what people will say and my image. Do you know that honestly she hasn't learnt her lessons as she is still a problem to me, always nagging and i don't have peace in my own house.

Right now i'm on the process of divorce and i'm building resistance to whatever people will say.

dre11:
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shigishege:
But I think these ibecile Yamirins are shouting here the other time that it's going to be Orji Kalu that IBB will support?? I will support anyone as long as he is a Yoruba man contesting for the presidency.

Arda1000:
even the son is mentally sick is that enough reason for soldiers to brutalize and murder him?
Make una Dey reason like human with conscience na, in a sane climate the dude would not have died even if his mentally challenged

Arda1000:
God punish those who tortured that young man to death and God punish u two times for supporting them smh

InTheCloudySky:
1. Move your family far away from them (the aunty and her children) so they will no longer have access to you or to visit you.

OR

2. Be a man and take control of your home and family. They see you as a mumu they can treat anyhow but you can put a stop to all that.

Mercychen:
This your story ehn.. e dey pain brain.

If I got you right, you want your wife to disconnect from her aunty?

Well, it will be very difficult because like you said, she was with her for 18yrs. That's a long time to form an unbreakable bond, that's why she can't detach her self easily from her.

I'll advise you relocate to a place they'll not be able to access your house easily. That's the only thing I think can put a stop to all these.

God1000:
The moderator should please push this to front page abeg.
I'm writing this to address some falsehood, misapprehension and misinformation out there regarding igede tribe because when you mention benue state, there's this erroneous assumption that benue comprises of Tiv and idoma only, maybe due to inadequate information about other minorities. I'm proudly an igede guy, So please read.

Let's start here, Igede tribe is located in benue with two local government areas of oju and obi with a population of nearly 1million industrious people, we have rich culture and tradition, our main occupation is farming, we grow and export all kinds of staple food such as garri, yam, rice, potatoes, cassava, millet etc and perishable food items as well.
Our cultural festival is celebrated every September with funfair.


Though We're not on a par with Tiv and idoma politically, but we have had some prominent people in the past, some igede juggernauts include
1. Ode Ojowu, Chief Economic Adviser to President Obasanjo and CEO National Planning Commission.
2. Oga Okwoche, Former Nigerian Ambassador to France.
3. Peter Okwoche, host of the BBC Focus on Africa TV news magazine programme and the former/late deputy governor of benue state chief ogiri ajene who served under governor akume between 1999-2007.
Today there's hardly any faculty or department in benue state university and federal university of agriculture Makurdi where you will not find igede prodigy occupying a prestigious position, we have uncountable professors teaching in various higher institutions across the country.
Indeed igede sons and daughters have made tremendous strides, but those remarkable feats are not enough, we will continue to aspire higher and higher because right now we produce one house of rep member which Is inequitable considering our population, we need more local governments for the sake of equity and fairness.

Tiv produces the governor and two senators from zone A and zone B while idoma and igede produce one senator from zone C, zone C senator has always been idoma.
Tiv tribe being the fourth largest ethnic group in Nigeria has the numeric advantage over igede and idoma, but we need to discard the born to rule mentality whether at the national or state level because it is dangerous to the concept of democracy.
The story of former American president Barack Obama and goodluck Jonathan is a testament of the government of the people, by the people and for the people, what we need are men and women of goodwill that will bring good governance, listen to the yearning and aspirations of the people and deliver dividends of democracy. Igede has such intellectuals with expertise.

Igede tribe is bigger than some sovereign/independent countries and islands in the world.
Here are some countries with little population.

1 Cape Verde 561,898
2 Maldives 543,617
3 Malta 442,784
4 Brunei 441,532
5 Belize 404,914
6 Bahamas 396,913
7 Iceland 343,353
8 Vanuatu 314,464
9 Barbados 287,711
10 Sao Tome And Principe 223,368
11 Samoa 200,149
12 Saint Lucia 184,400
13 Kiribati 121,392
14 Micronesia 116,254
15 Grenada 113,021
16 Saint Vincent And The Grenadines 111,263
17 Tonga 106,760
18 Seychelles 98,908
19 Antigua And Barbuda 98,731
20 Andorra 77,355
21 Dominica 72,167
22 Marshall Islands 59,610
23 Saint Kitts And Nevis 53,544
24 Monaco 39,511
25 Liechtenstein 38,250
26 San Marino 34,017
27 Palau 18,169
28 Tuvalu 11,931
29 Nauru 10,87

Marginalisation, intolerance and nepotism are bad practices, noisome and unholesome act, it is time to do what is right by giving everybody a chance instead of political expediency.
Igede should be given ministerial slot and other federal government appointments.

I believe igede should produce the next governor in benue state come 2023, it is very much feasible with the support of Tiv and idoma.
The current hostility between igede and Tiv which has claimed so many lives is unfortunate, we shouldn't be at variance and loggerheads because of land, not seeing eye to eye isn't what benue needs, we can't make headways with antagonism, disharmony and dissention.
I call on governor Orton to address the issue diligently.
Joseph Egbodo
The moderator should please do the needful.
https://www./480257455447889/permalink/2166976353442649/?app=fbl

God1000:
The moderator should please push this to front page abeg.
I'm writing this to address some falsehood, misapprehension and misinformation out there regarding igede tribe because when you mention benue state, there's this erroneous assumption that benue comprises of Tiv and idoma only, maybe due to inadequate information about other minorities. I'm proudly an igede guy, So please read.

Let's start here, Igede tribe is located in benue with two local government areas of oju and obi with a population of nearly 1million industrious people, we have rich culture and tradition, our main occupation is farming, we grow and export all kinds of staple food such as garri, yam, rice, potatoes, cassava, millet etc and perishable food items as well.
Our cultural festival is celebrated every September with funfair.


Though We're not on a par with Tiv and idoma politically, but we have had some prominent people in the past, some igede juggernauts include
1. Ode Ojowu, Chief Economic Adviser to President Obasanjo and CEO National Planning Commission.
2. Oga Okwoche, Former Nigerian Ambassador to France.
3. Peter Okwoche, host of the BBC Focus on Africa TV news magazine programme and the former/late deputy governor of benue state chief ogiri ajene who served under governor akume between 1999-2007.
Today there's hardly any faculty or department in benue state university and federal university of agriculture Makurdi where you will not find igede prodigy occupying a prestigious position, we have uncountable professors teaching in various higher institutions across the country.
Indeed igede sons and daughters have made tremendous strides, but those remarkable feats are not enough, we will continue to aspire higher and higher because right now we produce one house of rep member which Is inequitable considering our population, we need more local governments for the sake of equity and fairness.

Tiv produces the governor and two senators from zone A and zone B while idoma and igede produce one senator from zone C, zone C senator has always been idoma.
Tiv tribe being the fourth largest ethnic group in Nigeria has the numeric advantage over igede and idoma, but we need to discard the born to rule mentality whether at the national or state level because it is dangerous to the concept of democracy.
The story of former American president Barack Obama and goodluck Jonathan is a testament of the government of the people, by the people and for the people, what we need are men and women of goodwill that will bring good governance, listen to the yearning and aspirations of the people and deliver dividends of democracy. Igede has such intellectuals with expertise.

Igede tribe is bigger than some sovereign/independent countries and islands in the world.
Here are some countries with little population.

1 Cape Verde 561,898
2 Maldives 543,617
3 Malta 442,784
4 Brunei 441,532
5 Belize 404,914
6 Bahamas 396,913
7 Iceland 343,353
8 Vanuatu 314,464
9 Barbados 287,711
10 Sao Tome And Principe 223,368
11 Samoa 200,149
12 Saint Lucia 184,400
13 Kiribati 121,392
14 Micronesia 116,254
15 Grenada 113,021
16 Saint Vincent And The Grenadines 111,263
17 Tonga 106,760
18 Seychelles 98,908
19 Antigua And Barbuda 98,731
20 Andorra 77,355
21 Dominica 72,167
22 Marshall Islands 59,610
23 Saint Kitts And Nevis 53,544
24 Monaco 39,511
25 Liechtenstein 38,250
26 San Marino 34,017
27 Palau 18,169
28 Tuvalu 11,931
29 Nauru 10,87

Marginalisation, intolerance and nepotism are bad practices, noisome and unholesome act, it is time to do what is right by giving everybody a chance instead of political expediency.
Igede should be given ministerial slot and other federal government appointments.

I believe igede should produce the next governor in benue state come 2023, it is very much feasible with the support of Tiv and idoma.
The current hostility between igede and Tiv which has claimed so many lives is unfortunate, we shouldn't be at variance and loggerheads because of land, not seeing eye to eye isn't what benue needs, we can't make headways with antagonism, disharmony and dissention.
I call on governor Orton to address the issue diligently.
Joseph Egbodo
The moderator should please do the needful.
https://www./480257455447889/permalink/2166976353442649/?app=fbl

Skyfornia:
You don't trust that woman one bit...so what are you still doing with her? I'm even irritated with your actions...why let your marriage get to this level ? Has she done anything in the past that prompted you to start questioning her moves?

Personally once trust is lost in a relationship, then it is no longer worth it.

Nksleek:
A hilarious note left by a yet to be identified student to her roommate, Amaka has gone viral online.

Focus Naija can report that the student kept the note inside an empty pot for her roommate who is fond of eating her food.

According to her, all Amaka does when she returns from class is to open her pot to check if she cooked without contributing anything.

She ordered her to immediately close the pot which she left empty.

What do you think about the act? If you are Amaka, how will you feel?

cooooooks:
Guys should stop patronising runs girls.

There is zero upside. You're wasting money for bad product that could kill you.

aryzgreat:
This Ezenwanyi and her herbal stuffs.

They won't mention ppl that died there

Oga your time never reach

tutudesz:
Madam don dey hustle for Commissioners for Agriculture small smalll

seborrhic:
Disgraceful.
For him to even have the nerve to publicly air this rubbish shows he believes there are still many gullible out there that believe such poorly scripted narration.

Mylordmygod1:
Hello nairalanders.

I will not call the name of my church for some reasons, but my church is that type that dosn't have a parmanent pastor.

So, we always have a new pastor almost every four or five years.

Recently, a new pastor was transfered to us, this my new pastor is very good when it comes to preaching the word of God, and things that helps in the development of a church.. infact, so many good things have been going 'on' in my church since his arrival.

But the problem is that, he is that kind of pastor with swag, He goes to beer parlour to drink, he can go to gathering to play draft, (imaging the kind of people u see in a beer parlour of draft gathering), and because of this things he does, some people (expecially other churches) use it against us the members..

People we be like, una pastor wey dey drink beer.. And we don't even know how we can deffend him or ourself when we are being attacked by these people..

We are currently loosing members on a daily basis, and i'm not happy with it.

obembet:
At 23 I got married immediately after my first degree. Had my first kid at 24, got a master's degree in my area of study, yet without a job. My ex was doing well in his business and he carried all the financial responsibilities of our home while I shoulder all the manual work; ranging from cooking, laundry, cleaning, buying groceries, making sure that every bills are paid, school runs, etc. All he does is to provide the money to carry all of those. I'm all- must -be -tidy kind of person so I made sure to maintain that.

I'll make sure I keep the house clean, prepare his favorite meals which I do by following the meal time table cos he loves three different meals for each day. Most times he will come back with a different meal to be prepared for him after I must have made dinner. This must be accompanied with fruits or nuts to crack, extract, slice and serve. As this continued I became perplex and may complain but he never listened or appreciated all my efforts.

As years come by our population increased and I begged him to buy a washing machine. This is a no go area as he believes it makes one lazy. After much begging and no compliance for about two years I stopped washing his main clothes, but washed only his inner wears. I saved some money and got myself one. He was happy I did so and gave me 25% of the amount I bought it. I later learnt that that was a bribe to start washing his clothes again. All my married life I never had a full house help. His relatives will come, stay for some time and leave. Even while they're still around I prefer to do some things myself for some reasons.

Now this is my round the clock non paid job from from year to year. I'll wake up by 4:00 am to prepare children's snacks or meal for school, wake everyone up by 5:00 am for morning prayers, bath the children and at the same time have clothes rolling in the machine while breakfast sits on fire simultaneously. By 7:15 am I'm with the children on the road to school. Keeps them at school and gets back home to continue the outstanding works. I may come back to meet ex still sleeping or brushing his teeth. I will serve breakfast, help him choose his day wear and most times look for one document or car keys.

I tried to get a teaching job which can help me continue my “rat race” at home. None of them lasted for more than four months, reasons I couldn't figure out till today cos I believe I'm very good at that.

By the time I could say “ehee, time to rest” it's already 3 to 4 pm, time to get the children back from school. Preparing dinner, helping in homework, correcting complains from teachers if there's any, bathing and feeding them. Sometimes I still find time to play and tell stories with the kids. I buy everybody's wears including ex's, especially during festive periods. I guess that's the only time I have to get new things for myself. It never bothered me cos I'm happy putting smiles in the faces of people around me. I'm always preparing home-made groceries cos I'm good at most of them.

I could remember vividly a friend advising me on improving in my outward appearance which I gave little attention to.

By the time I'll retire to bed, it's already 11 or 12:00 midnight. And so it continues.

I never received any form of appreciation; either in kind or in cash. And to worsen it all, he became so abusive; verbally, physically, emotionally and would complain and blame me in every misfortune of his life. Life was so terrible living with him. Yet, I did not complain until he pushed me out and finally left.

Most times we focus all our energy into building our homes, that is wonderful, thereby neglecting ourselves which should come first, it's not being selfish. I celebrate every member of my family every year but I was never celebrated for the thirteen years we lived together. After reading a book, “what kids need most in a mom” by a retired white nurse; Patricia Standforth, I started changing my status but things have started going sour in my marriage and I was kicked out by hubby. He got a nullification note from the church, refused me access to the children, etc. Though I'm working towards getting a civil divorce from the court.

It's been two years now and alot of people could not believe it when they meet me, as a mother of five who's so young looking, energetic and sophisticated. I've got a lot of space and time to travel, learn new things, meet new friends and recently working towards getting an MBA.

And more importantly, I wouldn't want to be seen where I was left.

Edited : Obembet

Abfinest007:
You're married and you are happy why not allow others to marry and be happy .
2)why do you have to refer to her as common nanny
3)you don't have the right to decide for your father in-law who to be with weda nanny or not .it all about his happiness




Finally advice take her as a mother forget the age difference or her status if you be the one to be kick out of the house

crackhaus:
This woman don't have sense. She will just die for nothing..

I wonder what makes her think she's more special or on a higher level than a maid.

Abi is it not the same vagina both of them are carrying, or does her own taste like strawberry and smell like fresh roses?

Wonderful!!

I've said it before and it's a fact that women look down on other women than men looking down on women.

ndizzle:
Its simply vote buying. Thats what needs to be tackled in all nigeria elections. Who buys most wins the most. Nigerians are hungry so most sell their votes even if they dont prefer the candidate the most.

IvarDboneless:
The sit at home was cancelled

grandstar:
Despite all

Despite all that, the economy was much better. Buhari singlehandedly wrecked the economy by introducing an exchange rate policy which Lamido Sanusi said never worked anywhere in the world. Soludo and Utomi all said the same thing.

If PDP performed as much as Buhari, you'd be calling them unprintable names. You're all blinded by the man's integrity that you fail to realise integrity does not mean deliverance.

Under Buhari, the economy has barely grown an average of 1% yearly since May 2015 till date unlike the average of 6% annually from 1999 - 2013.

Note I blame Buhari and not APC. It's Buhari's policies that have ruined the economy.

Nonpartisan1:
By using €12.5m to purchase golden bras and panties?

Also finished eating $500m worth of cassava flour bread in a weekly FEC meeting and $1billions arms contract awarded without supplying a single bullet?

Like Abuja CCTV camera contracts and rural women stove money that ended up in PDP leaders private pockets?

I forgot to tell you that SERAP has dragged Buhari to court about missing #880 billion, under PDP at least somebody was in charge please who is in charge in this regime because Buhari is usually not aware of anything (like not knowing that the IGP disobeyed him on Benue killings).

Sir, affliction will never rise again in Nigeria,so PDP never again in our country.

Nonpartisan1:
By using €12.5m to purchase golden bras and panties?

Also finished eating $500m worth of cassava flour bread in a weekly FEC meeting and $1billions arms contract awarded without supplying a single bullet?

Like Abuja CCTV camera contracts and rural women stove money that ended up in PDP leaders private pockets?

Sir, affliction will never rise again in Nigeria,so PDP never again in our country.

Biafrarep:


This is getting more dire as the day goes by. It seems like the more federal government is distracted by IPOB, the more Boko Haram, bandits, jihardists and all manner of terrorists closes in on Abuja.

I heard that Northern politicians are now hysterically begging airlines to open up new routes between Abuja and other state capitals in the North so they can avoid traveling by road. Let's even assume that it's viable for airlines to operate such low traffic routes, what about risks of being shot down?? Which airline would want to risk that now the terrorists are getting anti aircraft missiles?!

How safe do they even think they're in Abuja now??!!!

Puissant:
Saddening

“He was called on phone during the service as he walked out of the church to receive the call. The sound of gun shots rend the air, which drew the attention of the congregation,” Okasanmi said.

What if the assailants were the ones calling him? It appears that he’s probably the target for this horror.

Trevor012:
You are typing more nonsense. Infact give me your girlfriend contact let me toast her too since toasting is free according to you. Mumu man

Starz825:
Mtcheew...
You are just being unrealistic....
You just being one sided...reason am ...
Ode....how many guys will toast your girl when you are with her...
What I mean by toasting is free is .. anybody can toast a girl regardless whether she is engaged or not.....
How many guys dem don arrest for toasting a lady....

The said driver wooed the lady when she wasn't with her guy...did wooing her cost him anything...

Mumu....you go report for police say I woo your girl... wetin police man wan do to me ... arrest me say I toast your gf....

If you don see another guy we dey fucckkk your gf for the apartment wey you rent for her ...break the guy head, make him die..may be you no go go prison...
Woman wrapper...
Carry woman matter for head.....

brainpulse:
This man spells everything about fraud and lies. He perfected plans to ensure that all traces of his fraudulent schemes were cleaned and marketed himself has a saint politician with lies. How can you come out to say you do not know that you have to declare joint assets you have with family members and business partners, who does that except a rogue.

A lot of buildings purchased by proxy have be linked to him in Ikoyi when he was serving governor, while selling fake narration to his gullible followers of having one wrist watch, one shoe, glasses and cloth.

With no significant development in Anambra when he was the governor spells failure in his entity.

But he is lucky to be in the only tribe that protects and defends its corrupt criminals

FutureIsFemale:
What's his wet worth? Let's start from there. I can never suffer with a man after all my years of suffering.

tradepunter:
You are absolutely correct why they would take a plant solidly built by russia and give them Chinese to manage is madness.

The russians would have done a better job in completing the plant and handing it successfully to FG

lalajnr:
https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.vanguardngr.com/2021/09/russia-ready-to-assist-nigeria-revamp-ajaokuta-steel-okonkwo/&sa=U&ved=2ahUKEwj-l9bc6J_zAhUP3qQKHav5AOIQlO8DegQIBBAD&usg=AOvVaw2nlL8ArV0SVWjnHSXQlPf7