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freecocoa:
My God, just where did I say she's entitled to the car? I've said it a zillion and one times that her crime was presentation but that there's nothing wrong in wanting to share stuffs with your partner for feck's sakes, she further went on to say she's only asking to use the car for a while, not like he's giving it to her to keep yet people won't back down, you can share your most intimate parts with someone but can't share a car? A car fa for jesus's sakes, I must really not be from this planet.u

I wasn't even saying girls make such demands everyday but I know a few people in relationships who have given car gifts to each other so what's so special here if her man can afford it? I'd be saying the same thing if the tables were to be turned for crying out loud.

My annoyance is that most people here are acting like they've never had to ask their partners for anything, just like giving someone a few bucks is no big deal so for some people, so is a car,na just wa abeg, make una continue but we know what's up.

I don't know if working on her presentation would have changed anything. But you're right about her being wrong in her presentation. And the fact that she called her BF selfish is clearly obvious she feels entitled to one of the vehicles.

Btw, if a guy decides to give his babe a car, all well and good (even though I personally will kick against it; you never know how the relationship ends). But when the gf DEMANDS for same vehicle.......well..

CHoccolaTE:
But is it ok for a woman to let her boyfriend drive one of her cars because he doesn't have any and maybe his place of work is far? Is it ok for women to do this? Or is it forbidden?

No, it is NOT okay. As a matter of fact, I view such men as shameless gold diggers with zero iota of self respect. Most men with our pride won't do that.

freecocoa:
Then you practically nothing about most women, what makes you think most of these girls won't think same if they were in the OP's shoe? as far as I'm concerned, the crime OP committed was not presenting her case in a good manner, forget all the rants you see here, majority of the girls here demand from their boyfriends so don't be f00led, how many of them do you even think are working class ladies? I can bet on one of my balls that most of them are students, so let's try to be realistic when we do things, it's the internet therefore everyone wants to appear perfect when we know that in the real world things aren't that way.

It's not a crime to want to share your boyfriend's stuff so long as you are willing to do same for him, just leave matter abeg.

Uh mm....i grew up with some, and I'm married to one, so I think I at least know a thing or two about women. Then again, you may be right, you gals are complicated.

That said, a MAJORITY of girls I know have never made such ridiculous demands from their respective boyfriends or fiancée.. For the men same. Using myself as an example, I owned a car before I met my wife, and got a 2nd from my folks when we were courting. In our FIVE years of courtship, my wife NEVER EVER made such demands that I hand over one of the vehicles to her cos we were dating. Did I take her out for a ride or pick her up from a place or two with either cars? Definitely! But did she make same demands as the OP? ABSOLUTELY NOT, cos of self respect. Same goes for every lovely and self respecting girl I've known.



Btw, What happens if the relationship goes south? I've heard, read, and even seen the consequences (horror stories) of this. Still can't forget one here in Uyo. Dude buys a neat Kia Cerato, loans it to his "lovely" gf. The relationship later turns sour and the girl runs away with the vehicle. Now guys are smart.

Anyway, I'm pretty sure there're some guys and sugar daddies out there who have no qualms giving out cars, but note this: unless you are MARRIED to the man, you are NOT entitled to his cars. IT IS NOT A RIGHT.

freecocoa:
This thread has gone a long way to show that women are really their own worst enemies, one of the reasons why some men will keep disrespecting the f00lish ones, just imagine ganging up on a fellow woman just to save face/gain favor with the men folk when in reality most of the ones talking crap can't pay a guy a visit without requesting for transport fare, tufiakwa! inferiority complex laced with jealousy is a killer disease.

The day some women will grow some balls and stop seeking approval from online touts who parade their miserable selves as men, that day the men will start respecting you, shediots.

I'm pretty sure most of the ladies didn't gang up on firstEVA cos they intend to please the men here (I seriously doubt they even give a rat's tushie about us). The reason for their action is simple: the op ' s reeked of greed, hence the venom.

Btw there's ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG in paying for one's gf/fiancee ' s transport fair. But a car?! Haha, she should tame her long-throat na!

One more thing, if same thread is opened with reversed gender roles, I assure you that reactions will be waaaaaaay worse from same men folk as the op will be called names from shameless man to gold digger to lazy couch potato.

So the thread is still alive. Anyway, happy Sunday oh. Don't forget to invest in your respective cars oh.

AgapeCharis:
he is ur boyfriend nt ur father or husband....mtchew

Mbok tell the parasite.

Julieee:
shut the he'll up stingy thing, why is he my boyfriend if he cannot be there for me, shior

Abeg take your PMS and it's wahala somewhere else!! Did you buy the car for your boyfriend? When he was busy working for his money, what were you doing with your own time? Oh, waiting to feed on him like a parasite? Can you imagine this crap.

GO AND BUY YOUR OWN CAR!! or trek till Kingdom come.

Julieee:
When you date a "Big boy" it should at least rub off, too many [size=58pt]SELF CENTERED GUYS HERE[/size] and [size=58pt]HYPOCRITICAL LADIES[/size]

Feel free to buy YOUR own car with YOUR own money.

It shouldn't be that hard.

freecocoa:
I'm sure I've mentioned somewhere that I don't have a sense of entitlement but somethings are just too obvious.

No it's not. It's just sheer greed. I'm still dating you, yet you expect a car from me? You dey craze? I'll rather give that vehicle to those who have actually invested in me (dad, mom, siblings) than a girlfriend I'm just dating. When marriage comes, it's a totally different ballgame, but till then keep TREKKING till I pick you up.

freecocoa:
Ofcourse she can get her own transportation but in a situation where she couldn't afford it and her man coild help to make it easier for her, then she is entitled to the help, otherwise why waste time with a heartless and selfish person? Can we be realistic and stop trying to dance around this?

If you were in need and know for sure that your partner can help but wouldn't, what would you think/do?

Entitled to what? Is she married to him? Did she pay for the cars?

Some of you ladies and your false sense of entitlement.

Pamcrest:
Yes...I knew d guys would whiplash this lady for her daring request. She's not his wife kwo, so she has no right to drive his car but she can cook n clean for him......aren't those wifely duties? Hypocrisy n male chauvinism everywhere!
My dear, pick d key n drive that car. Let him complain first before u know what to do!
My humble submission.

Oh please spare us that "male chauvinism" crap. Is it a must that one's girlfriend must cook for him? And how does cooking contribute to the man's earnings. This is not a case of hypocrisy at all, but that of lack of contentment (long throat) and pure gold digging. Let her go and pick up the car keys, and let's see if she won't get the worst of it.

firstEVA:
we are in a committed relationship

I see....go buy yourself your own car. You're not his wife yet.

firstEVA:
He just bought another car, isn't he suppose to give me one, is it that he doesn't genuinely love me or he's just being selfish.

Are u married to him? If no, go buy your own car.

tit:
all these men are losers.
as a man you are supposed to cook, clean, pay rent and take care of your house-hold.
you are supposed to bath and dress-up your children by yourself.
your wife is only a helper, a servant.
if you leave your wife to do all those things, and tomorrow she does coup and takes over the house,
you start crying.
DO NOT LEAVE YOUR HOUSE FOR THE HELPER/THE SERVANT.
DO NOT BE LAZY AND DO HOUSE WORK.

Okay hold it right there....The man (and head of the home) is to cook and clean? And what does the woman do? One question: are you married? 'cos if you were, you won't have posted that piece of crap you call a post.

Fruitilicious:
https://www.nairaland.com/617280/give-birth-usa-cost-procedure/222 read this post from page 1 to current page,you will get loads of info for childbirth in US

Will do. Thanks

bj2012golf:
CONGRATULATIONS!

My wife and I are scheduled for interview to renewal of our visas thursday next week, she's pregnant and we plan to have our baby in US. Yours is an indication that obtaining the US visa is grace n favour, not just by getting Doctor's letter of responsibility etc

Please one question: how much does it cost to give birth in the US? 'thinking of doing same.

And some Nigerians fall for this stunt? Funny.

I don't like it at all. It looks more like a club.

ocholawealth:
It beats my imagination to hear or perhaps read online, adults of all stand spurting and spewing words as though they lack rudimentary knowledge in government as a subject. Tambuwal still remains the speaker not until he is removed. I humbly believe that a speaker from a different party other than the ruling party is healthy for parliamentary disinterested scrutiny of executive bills. Hence, a good omen in furthering the course of our democratic experimentation.

That is your opinion. BUT the norm across every democracy is that the position of the speaker and deputy is meant SOLELY of the MAJORITY PARTY or in some cases the LARGEST coalition, NOT the minority. So why is Nigeria's case different cos of Tambuwal ' s greed? The post of minority leader is there if he wants it.

The security serves should be exempted from paying utility bills.

I've NEVER heard any case in other democracies around the world were the minority party still retains leadership in the parliament/House of Assembly. Tambuwal must do the honourable thing and resign his position as the speaker.

ActivateKruger:
No it's not under-armed, the vehicle you're referring to has the same number of machine guns - 2.

Anyway it was a suggestion.

The WMIK out guns this vehicle weapon wise as it is armed with both a GPMG and a HMG/AGL.

ActivateKruger:
I know this is off-topic but this fictional pickup would be great for SF..

Only 2 GPMGs and a couple of smoke launchers? The vehicle is under - armed compared to the British Army WMIK. But it's design is impressive though.

Phegar:
Circuit theory (pye 313) another dreaded course,

Circuit theory? Huh....It wasn't that bad

Thermodynamics. I had a passionate hatred for the Course.

Keneking:
Jonathan is gone with this statement

Keep dreaming.

Great man, lovely family. God bless your home.

Tomis14:
Newly single actress Ini Edo has acquired a brand new 2014 Mercedes Benz G65 G-Wagon worth a whooping #38million.

Can Nollywood money fetch her this car?

And how is that your business? Focus on your own work.

Sile12:
2. Video Cassette Player/Recorders (Upper loader)

Aka Chaka kpom

Ha! I almost missed the black dude under the bed!

Centrifude:
Maybe I'm just too paranoid but there's nothing I hate more than seeing African troops being trained by Americans, it just feel really wrong to me.

We can learn a thing or two from them.

Henry120:
This is not true. Soldiers are humans like everyone else, they take photos and selfies of everyday life, like everyone else.

Not even american specials forces wear those fancy gear, we see, all the time.


You can see from the photos, U.S special forces in Afghanistan. Nothing fancy, no SPV, no tactical gear, Hilux vehicles. Nothing, WOW.

Nothing fancy? Look again. Apart from the civilian tops those SF operators are wearing, they're equipped with tactical vests, M4s with laser dots and high tech optics. The Toyota Tacoma trucks, favoured by these SF ODA operators, are pimped out with reinforced suspensions, GPMGs/M60s, and of course communication systems. Look at the back of those Tacomas, the X - shaped antenna? Yep, that's for SATCOMs.

So yeah, they do have a number of fancy toys there.