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The classic emotional deposits move,
He offer lots of stuff and make the calls but ask nothing in return, she feels obligated to return the favor, he holds back a bit and then goes for the kill...

And the cycle continues

Hey,, life isn't rosy at all, know what you gain from being there, if you're going to further your education or learn a trade, it should be your primary focus.

If you are learning a trade,you should focus on improving and saving enough money to have a place of your own, if it's education ,then you should work on doing it well enough until you get a part or full time job then move out.

Have a plan, if the reason you are there is because your dad can't feed you and food is the only thing you gain..it's wise to return home to farm or die of hunger.

I didn't grow up with parents as well, and it wasn't an easy ride, (can't even say the full story without getting depressed), but at some point you have to know the reason to endure suffering, not every suffering brings rewards, some are just useless suffer, you must have zero tolerance for useless pain.

I can't and would never employ someone who has such mentality or offering such, you can ask me why,.. lemme finish you with reasons

The lion set a trap for him.

Sadly I have no idea how these feels..

Overwowo dey worry me

Hey, Sister 80% of marriages are like this after a few years, sometimes you can't do much about it. You have few options though,

1. Exit the marriage and pray to find someone, it will break your husband / child but you may gain your sanity later on.

2. Find happiness elsewhere, instead of focusing on the problem, seek for things that make you happy, a job, new skills, your child etc that takes your mind from it.

3. See a specialist to seek advice about it

4. Life is too short to live unhappy, what you can't find inside the marriage, you may seek outside, sex, etc. but then you'd need to keep it separate so he doesn't figure

This is why most first child aren't kids of their husband.

The gods laugh whenever we complicate our lives, little candle lights like us, shinning today and gone by Moro. Can't we see that this life is too short to worry about regrets or live for others.

There are no rules in life, do what thou whilst is all of the law.

Do what you must, do what makes your soul happy.. Las Las you'd live and go like the rest of them. Why live in regrets of the road not travelled, enter the road ,make thy own mistakes and enjoy the little.life we have. It's yours bro and there are no rules. Seeking advice here won't even help you, everyone has their own opinion, you'd only get worse than you came. If you're seeking for validation, you won't find them here, do you thing bro, you offended no one by falling in love, if you comfortable then do it..Fvk de rest of em

Your wife is Bi

This one na big man protest, e never touch your soul yet..a protest that you have to write to police for provision of security, gather at an elite spot Eko hotel, have time to buy shoes, Handkerchief ,water and power bank, it's not a protest ,this is just for social media.

Real protest begins from the soul, it erupts when we can't have any of it. This is trash, look at the Arab spring and all..

Make them go siddon abeg, the people going for this protest have enough food on their table already

heartofcity12:
That thing looking like brain can not occupy a man’s head. That is too huge... Probably a dead animal.

It's a human brain blown out if the skull, brain tissue are very soft and easily compress into the skull

The caretaker will be going around telling people he fvkced ur girl, someone who calls you Big bro dey fire ur babe... Oga, you care too much and she taken advantage of that.. cut your losses and move on punk ass

Tell us your own problem, I've never seen a man that his wife cheats with him in such manner and instead of going for a divorce, instead he turns himself into a CIA planting camera and unlocking phone for chats.

Tell us your problem, what is it that she has on you to made you this naive?. Could it be for some reasons you don't perform well in bed?

The thing is, there's a lot of apprehension between Bosses and their household workers now.. Last week , I joined one of the madam in her car since she stays close by, she went with another top madam, while I sat in front with the driver, they gossiped in their local dialect but I could hear them.

Most of the discussion were more about how they need to be careful about who they let into their homes, they shared many stories of cleaners, electricians and other artisans who come into homes of wealthy people with intentions to kidnap their kids, steal or even harm their bosses.

Most have set up cctv camera in their homes and keep a very long distance between them and their workers e to not share valuable info.

If she's the type, she may find your compliments disturbing and wonder where you had the audacity to say it. She may also doubt your intentions working for her.

There's something called emotioal intelligence, and it also includes self awareness, you've been cleaning up the office alone with a young lady, you asked her to rest and eat, she refused, you continued yet she declined, you must have understood the situation that she isnt interested in eating or in having a conversation why go into her private space to touch her?., Someone you just met for the first time?.

Let's be guided pls.. she may have had a bad experience of people always trying to take advantage of her, she just reacted to it, because she may have read your approach, felt disgusted by your constant intrusion and decided to make you a scapegoat.

It's a cold world, whatever your intentions was, we were not there and don't know her side of the story.

I stopped reading at the point you said ,"I don't ask for money also", as if he has an obligation to give you money even if you were having sex with him.

Typical problem with our Ladies, if you have sex with him it means he must cater for all your needs.

Las Las, Someone who loves to would stay sex or no sex...

Wetin woman want?

Most tenants know about the legal system, so what they do is look for a very lenient landlord who likes to go with the law and rent for the first year.. they won't pay again , knowing very well they can stay for over 3 yrs rent free after the quit notice.

There are often few ways to work around this;

1) Give yoir property to real estate agents, they'd get rents and take a percentage. It will save you from all these unnecessary stress.. they handle errant tenants well, right from the agreements and you won't have a business with tenants but with the agents. They also help maintain the building. Don't be greedy , use their help for peace of mind

2) Go rogue, disconnect their access to power, water and even entrance. Report to police (not court), on a Friday night.. let them come and pick the man up, he sleeps there and bails himself, the next Friday, pick him up again, continue like that...police case upon police case. (Especially for the new one that wants to go rogue). Change the key to the main entrance, remove all windows to the house, and burglary saying you want to renovate. Then last last, tell them you've sold the property entirely .and get a fresh agrresive face to kick them out.

You'll only have yourself to blame if you let the unholy union to fester, don't ever hand over your sister to their family (one that could not train their own son).

Don't ever allow such union between family to occur, take her out of that neighborhood, change her phone number , send her somewhere far and do the "needful".

Some things are what they are, mistakes, not destiny, and if they aren't taking care of, it's downhilll for your sister and your family from there.

For most mothers, it's not just about what the child wants but what the mothers friends will say . The need to show off

Take Malaria drugs and you'll be fine.. its malaria

Someone already got there recently, no use pretending to you again.. this is why they say nice guys finish last...

Most times, the husband is very much aware and it's all a plot.. first, you need to ask her if her husband is aware of it, if she says "NO", then let her know the only way you can help is if her husband consent to it..

Don't get caught in the middle of a plot because in the end, you'll be the loser and no one would buy your story..

All the best

For the head of the home, you seem to be too petty, dabbling into unnecessary discussions and activities with your house help and wife's sibling.

Lame discussions like that is what breeds disrespect, I'll expect the head of a home to go to work, take care of real things and show leadership not engage in kitchen gossips.

Imagine asking your house help if she's a virgin, holding her hands and advising her on how to get a good man, or settling quarrels between a house help and your kid sister.

What's going on here bro??

The very fact that you came here to write this out in naira land says a lot too