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Ebony Silk, believe it or not, i no be naijan.

i no understand what you dey say.

ah beg, make you translate now.

Ebony Silk,

"jagbajantis"



too much.

Your ID just depicts your mood,

my son please, you are full of problems -

how many other identities do you have here?

Love is a sacrifice Silly boy

but the hard truth is severely corroding the all important foundation of Trust and Respect is really
no way to enter a marriage.

You may be sorry but man, if i was D girl, i may have a lot to loose but i will seriously always watch my back.

After all they say, a man who learns to beat or cheat is like a dog that learns how to bite, it just never stops
(save for 1/2 percent of all cases)

Sorry, but you hurt her man. In advance that is, cause assuming you havent tell her yet.

talk to women, they will try and best predict her thought patterns and what the best cause of actions may be.

somehow i get the impression this girl is either

*not carrying his child

*not pregnant at all


please do a DNA if she is preggaz



its not the end of the world.  grow up and take responsibility for your mistakes and thereafter make choices geared to your future success.
as a repurcussion you may either loose the relationship with the girl OR your relationship will be crap for a very long time or forever.
thats just a consequence.  YES OUR BAD ACTIONS DOO CARRY CONSEQUENCES WHETHER WE LIKE IT OR NOT. 

sorry, been there done that myself to learn this.

Hard truth is: Justice, punishment, discipline are a part of love too you know.

I WISH I COULD DELETE MY POST FROM THIS THREAD.




ITS WAY TOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO DISGUSTING I WOULDNT WANT TO BE ASSOCIATED WITH THIS.

Amazing how Barrack's dad rejected him and now all of a sudden
when he is President "his people" finally remember him.

funny how men walk away from their kids and then when these
same kids become something these men come out of the woodworks,

I just hate how they all want to move into the whitehouse and get
free visas.

finding a guy who agrees to a relationship without sex is a one in a million.

oh no let me change that, 1 in a gazi-milli-trilli-billion

not even that, the next time you "please" her,
she could land up pregnant on purpose or not,


and then you will properly be stuck with her.

@T Bag

I am fine O. How are you my son? y did you change your name?

What do you guys think,

Do you think men will want to have 2 or more women anyways, whether it is through
honesty (i.e. polygamy) or through dishonesty (i.e. adultery)

Do you think its better they be polygamous cause then even diseases can be reduced
etc.

Hey, am a woman and i hate the very idea of my husband cheating on me, but if
it was agreed, i would be better off than him doing it behind my back - i.e. adultery.

guys on this forum tell me your thoughts  (and girls too)

@poster,

women struggle to believe their beloved is cheating, so evidence is needed in believing, unless you see it you will always be in denial.
always always listen to your gutt. if your gutt is telling you some's up, better find out, you can look for evidence and then match it up
by spying or properly finding out.

@chisomquee,
its rough.

we all know who the kids father is. theres no denying it.

i used to think if i was in that situation - cause i think theory is different to practice,

i used to think i would give them their father's names cause biblically we blessed through
our paternal side and you have to be named according to your blood whether the man is good or
bad cause reality is, its just your blood.

from what we saw he really did try for her, but he just withdrew all of a sudden,
a commitment elsewhere is a great explanation for this,

honestly i dont know what i would name these kids in such a case,
he keeps saying he is coming and is just getting further and further from her,

this life nawaO!

ya shes been through a lot bless her,

and can you believe she even gave birth to his twins!

what man would abandon twins!

african men out there arent you concerned about passing your names on

and being looked upon as fertile having gotten a woman twins!

which is why i say it has to be borne of love and sacrifice,

letting go of your flesh and blood, growing in your OWN body, must be hard,

You guys help a friend of mine,

She had this guy who made her pregnant but helped her with the birth of the kids
as far as finances in that, she never worked whilst pregnant, he fed her, he paid
for her kids to be born in a private hospital and was present just in an absent way.

Whilst she was pregnant he wanted the kids to be named after him, his grandfather and great grandfather.

I think they had a difficult relationship so things didnt go quite well. My friend ended
up giving birth alone, and her kids are 6 months, he keeps saying he will see them but
he hasnt yet.

QUESTION

Should she name and especially surname her kids after him?
How can she as a mum have one surname and her kids another, does this not affect legal things?
Is it not "weak" to carry your mother's surname especially if your a boy?
From the bible perspective are names not supposed to be of a man?
Do you think at one point in his life he would be proud of these kids carrying his name or
would you say he has rejected them?

I told her to dump his bum but when it comes to carrying your father's name its your identity,


what do you all think?

Thanx

Assuming you want your DNA replicated i see why not.

As far as carrying, these things are done out of true love and
tremendous sacrifice.

I believe one also has to be selfless. I am careful to say
what i would do, cause you dont know till you get there,

To all the posters that are just not co-operating well, ,

Anyways, Mukina, sup gurl? Been so long since i seen you. I seen you posts are like 19 k gurl!

Married people cheating?

Well, people marry too early, societal pressures, pressures from the husband to be or wife,
fornication - therefore pregnancies causing people to jump in because "they will look bad".

Sometimes women are just crazy, a guy cheats on you as a boyfriend, and then you expect
him to change his spots when he marries you - you knew what you was committing to.

Some people hold on to a very very bad marriage, when maybe the man wants out, or the
woman wants out,

Its not always true, but a person who cheats is subconsciously saying "i want out".

Not always truue but can very very well apply.

NEXT.

Mad Max, atta girl.

People think serving God is all about holy holy churchy churchy whity whity.

He tests us in the muckiest of circumstances, to see what we will do.

I bet God would be more proud of her if she didnt murder this baby,
but chose to look like a fool to others.

Her reputation is not more important than a life.

Respec

David why did you change your post?

naughty boy.

and yeah if it was a simple puzzle why couldnt you solve it yourself

you are looking for an excuse to dump her.


after 1 year all of a sudden you realised she is short?

goat

Davidylan

what do you do for a living? ever since back in the day i always seen you on this nairaland.

I am all for wanting to make marriages work, but sometimes cheating consequences can be all too painful.

Sometimes you must make the choice between

1. STD
2. risking them cheating on you again
3. pregnancies

i dont know, do you guys think that these days jut as long as you got your children is enough?
can being a single parent be your safest worry free bet?

Ask away, lets see if we can not put our heads together and find a solution.

OgaMadam

The same bible that says forgive 70*70 times is the same one that says adultery is the only reason for marriage dissolution.

I dont know, no body can make that decision for you, only YOU can. Because only you know the state of your relationship
and who your wife really is.

Your marriage may have a fighting chance. Even the God of heaven and earth will not make that decision for you - CHOOSE.

Or, find out what went wrong to make it condusive for her to cheat - are you emotionally unavailable, do you abuse her
emotionaly verbaly et al?

Ask her to make up her mind to work her butt off for the marriage or move on. Cheating makes for a dishonest person.

Lastly, in my opinion, when men get cheated on, they dont forgive, even if they take 20 years to dump your sweet buns.

But am serious, put your all in this and even higher a councellor.

nuff said.

that just wasnt helpful

When you get the sweet divorce papers in hand, then you can move in on the kill.

For a young fresh one like you that is too much buggage though.

A real man ends one commitment before starting the next

I question a dad who loves you but wants his reputation saved at your expense.

Has he ever had an abortion before? Or better yet, to relieve guilt from yourself,
just give birth to the baby, and let him be the one to kill it. so he can bear the pain for once.

its the same thing, in or outside the womb - call a spade a spade, murder is just murder.