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udmydearest:
Hello guys, please I need ur constructive advice on this.. Really don't know where to start but i'll make it as brief as possible. Am from the southern part of nigeria, a graduate of political science and I just clocked 27. Mum died last year and since then, dad has made life unbearable. Am not surprise though, cos he's always been like that even when mum was alive. He keeps reminding me that, at 26 he was already married and had my elder brother, he compares me with his friend's children that are already married wit kids.I work as a private school teacher wit a psaltry sum of 22k, but dad keeps shouting that I don't contribute to the family upkeep. He got involved wit a young lady (about 30yrs old) since January and this has worsen the situation. To cut the long story short, dad ask my younger sista to tell me to leave the house, so that he can remarry. His "NEW WIFE" saw me wit a group of friends and reported to my dad that I am now a prostitute, Lol. Since then, dad keeps calling me a prostitute. It got to the point that even our neighbours started advising me to leave. Dad has neva seen anything good in me, and what really breaks my heart is that, am a total opposite of what he thinks of me. I may not be a saint, but I've got morales. At 27, I've still not had sex. But my father thinks am a LovePeddler. Am gradually loosing my mind and the best I can do is to leave. 1. Is moving out the best idea ?? 2. Can I survive wit my meagre salary ?? 3. What else can I do to salvage this situation?? Sorry for the long epistle though, and pls ignore my grammatical errors.

lalasticlala:
http://www.tvcnews.tv/?q=article/nigerias-senate-announces-21-ministerial-nominees#sthash.j3ISVqBY.eY0S3ubJ.dpuf

dearpreye:
Someone told me about this car. It's a Honda Pilot 2010; 31,000 mileage. The seller claims to be in some sort of financial troubles and so seeks to sell it out.

I'm not that informed when it comes to cars. Any relevant advice or comment on this issue will be welcomed, as such may form the basis for my action or otherwise.

I also doubt the veracity of the mileage.

Thanks for your expert advice and information.

dearpreye:
Someone told me about this car. It's a Honda Pilot 2010; 31,000 mileage. The seller claims to be in some sort of financial troubles and so seeks to sell it out.

I'm not that informed when it comes to cars. Any relevant advice or comment on this issue will be welcomed, as such may form the basis for my action or otherwise.

I also doubt the veracity of the mileage.

D fact he displayed his plate number for all to shows its not stolen

Thanks for your expert advice and information.

KingEbukasBlog:
Pics: PMB sends delegation to scenes of the Abuja bomb blast and hospitals where the injured are being treated

President Buhari has expressed his deep and sincere condolences to families of the dead and injured in yesterday's blast in Abuja and other parts of the country. President Buhari has also assured of his administration's commitment in the fight against terrorism in Nigeria.

"My heart goes out to the families of the dead and injured in Abuja, and other parts of the country." -the words of President Muhammadu Buhari according to the Senior Special Assistant (SSA) on Media and Publicity , Garba Shehu

A delegation from the Presidency comprising of Chief of Staff Abba Kyari, Secretary to the Government of the Federation Babachir David Lawal and others visited scenes of the bomb blast and hospitals where the injured are being treated. See photos below'

http://www.kingebuka.com/2015/10/photos-presidents-delegation-visit.html


cc :lalasticlala, ishilove

obitee69:
Hey folks. I'm back again. My camry 2007 has been running fine after I changed thhe head gasket but I noticed that it overheats after sometime.
Now my mech says It's that I need a new Cylinder head/engine block. I want to take my car to another mechanic for confirmation. What do u tink guys? He suggested I buy a skeletal engine without alternator, kick start, radiator etc
I just changed my radiator to double cell still same. It overheats after I speed for like 30mins on the highway. Please your responses are welcome.

makzeze:
Source: http://saharareporters.com/2015/10/01/buhari%E2%80%99s-ministerial-nominees-revealed

latino91:
please has anybody been able to subscribe to the mtn 1gig thing for the second time? I'm having difficulty doing that.

bisifoundation:
I lived a very religious life in campus, and was not in any relationship at all. After school , I met this young handsome guy in 2006. Sincerely, I felt I didn’t not merit him because he is very handsome, while I am on the average beauty wise. The only thing that attracted me to him was the look. He was an hustler and lived a low income life. Throughout our courtship of 18months, He never gave me a dime. I came from a financially buoyant famiy, I therefore saw no need in asking him for anything, rather I was feeding him with three square meal. We got wedded in the year 2007, and I gave him the flower of my womanhood (virginity) but I was not really excited for just no reason.

My husband is a caring man, but nags a lot. He nags about the way I handle bathing soap, the way you arrange plates in kitchen, virtually everything. I most often skip for fear each time he wants to talk because I believe he wants to complain again.

I got a job before he did, but one thing I discover is that my husband spends his money without thinking about tomorrow and always depend on my salary to survive the family. In 2008, I gave birth to a set of triplet, and had to quit work to nurse my angels. He was very supportive then. He provided for all our needs and life was good. In 2012, my husband lost his job, I had to take over the family expenses again. I was running a masters degree program, doing many businesses, and still raising kids. I travelled every week in a bid to keep the family running. Each time, I complain about the stress I was passing through, he tells me I am lazy, that many women do more to sustain their families.

This is 2015, my husband prefers to allow me or my dad to pay the children tuition fee than for him to hustle. I am 100% responsible for the family upkeep. Every biz you introduce to my husband is downgrading to him. I am currently on my PHd degree, I am nursing a set of triplet, and still work hard to survive my family.

It is now that I realize that I married my husband because of his handsomeness, and that he is mentally very shallow. My husband thinks like a child and has virtually no plan for his family.

My simple advice for intending wives is this, looks (handsomeness or beauty) alone is not enough to choose a husband, marry a man that has great vision for his life, not the one that you will keep on dragging up.

Secondly, I believe my husband puts all the family responsibility on me because I was the one feeding him when we were dating. Please, let your guy know from day one that you need to be adored and taken care of like a beautiful flower.

To married men and women there, did you make some mistakes when choosing? Pls share with intending husbands and wives to help them make informed decision.

mschubby:
I went to visit one of my Aunty at Abuja, just recently I discovered that she has been cheating on her husband, she has more than 6 different guyz that she's sleeping with and my annoyance is that she senior all of them and now she has started bringing them to the house when the husband is off to work.

Yesterday one visited and she removed the soup I suffered myself to cook and gave to the guy to take home (can you imagine, with her husband's hard earned money) I was angry and I talked to her as her niece even though she paid a deaf ear to what I said. Later in the night, the husband returned home and she was busy talking to one of her numerous boyfriends on phone without even noticing the presence of her husband, the husband was very mad at her to the extent of him smashing her phone. I felt bad that I have decided to take my leave because I can't stand seeing my own aunty become so cheap and people especially those in our neighborhoods have started calling her a cheap prostitute.

The husband is a good man and for the past few weeks have stayed with them I know he is a good man, he always tries his best to make her happy but she isn't seeing all that.

As it is now, she used my phone to call her numerous boyfriends this morning telling them what the husband did last night.

Please my fellow friends, I want to send text messages to all her boyfriends asking them to leave my aunt alone and also let them know that 'Law of KARMA' will surely find them one day, let her concentrate with her kids and her husband, I really don't want her marriage to crash.

please what should I do?

neo25:
Dear Nairalanders, I think I am going crazy and I really need your help. I'm 32 married to a 31year old for 6 years now with two kids (4 & 2).

Recently I figured out I'm having more sex with my wife every night and she's complaining a lot, though she isn't the sex or romantic type of woman but i thought i could teach her like everyone adviced me, it's embarrassing me. Everynight i have a strong erection but no luck from my wife. I want someone who has overcome such experience to please tell me what to do. Be it drugs or social attitude. Please be polite.

anitafancis:
Dear readers please mature advice and no insult pls..


Am going throught a difficult time in my life and needed help badly, to cut the long story short, I met this man throught a friend i was living with, she introduce me to this guy saying he has money and he will be able to take care of me, I had no choice because I needed help and the guy has the money to give..

I started dating him and he gives me money a lot and promise to get me an accommodation which I did believe him of course. I got pregnant for him and he told me to keep the pregnancy which i refused but my girlfriend told me to keep it that he may even marry me. After five months plus, he started changing towards me and telling me he doesn't have money anymore. When I try to talk about the situation at hand, he gets angry and even tries to hit me..

He does not give me money anymore, he is always drinking and smoking.. I couldn't go for an abortion because I was scared and it's too late for abortion. I came home after service on sunday and found out that he was not at home and he has packed all his things and left an empty house for me. I cried throught out that day. Where am I going to start from with almost six months pregnancy? I later found out that he's married and he has 3 kids..

What am I going to do?. Pls advice..

montelota:
I have plans of fixing 500k for 3 months but from the look of things I ve read its better to use my money for something else cos it means 500k in 3months will give me something around 12k please can someone throw in some light if am mistaking .

softapples:
MY cousin is a banker in one of the banks in the country and his fiancee is also a banker in another bank, due to the fact that they leave home early in the morning due to lagos traffic and come home late at night, he is having second thought about their relationship, if he gets married to the lady, can their marriage work?

Seun:
You need brighter bulbs. Bulbs with higher wattage. Don't just change bulbs blindly, read the label.

GAZZUZZ:
Have you thought of changing the car?