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Ezegozie:
Goodevening Ladies and Gentlemen.
Let me start by introducing myself.
I am Gozie and I graduated from Geology department from one of our Federal Universities in Nigeria (name hidden for confidential reasons).
Well, I am currently serving in Akwaibom state and will pass out next year by April, but I have great fear borthering me sometimes, and that is LIFE AFTER NYSC.



I am an ardent visitor of Job and Vacancy section and I always read some threads created by Job seekers complaining of how Nigeria is devoid of employment and each time I see it, I feel disturbed.


REASONS WHY I AM AFRAID OF LIFE AFTER NYSC

1......My parents are both in the village and I dont have anyplace to go to after service while waiting for employment because I wont like to stay in the village.







2.........Though I graduated with Second Class Upper, I dont have any single connection in the industry and I have been reading posts of how life without connection can be miserable for a job seeker.










3........The highest I can save from this NYSC scheme is 100k, which is not enough capital to venture into any reasonable thing in Nigeria.





Please I seriously need your advice on what to do in other to get Job immediately I finish service next year April because that is the only surest way to raise capital.







I plan to relocate to PH and rent house there while waiting for employment because PH is well industralized and there are lots of oil companies , construction companies and other companies related to my course located in PH.

Looking forward to hearing your response.

Jst pray very hard BC it won't be easy at all. Ur plan to rent a houz in city n hustle is excellent.

Look for someone u will drive keke or taxi for on hire purchase while searching for white collar jobs.

Start teaching in private schools

Go to construction site and learn to mix sand n cement n gravel

All these biz u can start with zero naira, all u need is to invest in skills dt u can use to make money immediately.
Pay to acquire these skills
Computer operation
GSM repairing
Computer repairing
House painting
Driving
Barbing

Pay for rent in ph in a face me I face u yard ie 36k per yr n start hustling there, dnt ever go back n stay with ur parents in the village if u try it u r finished.


God will surely lift u, never despise d days of little beginning, 2.1 is llike ssce nw its either first class or masters or PhD even at dt none guarantees job nw but chances r higher with d latter

If u task urself well BC of the challenge ahead u shld b able to save 120 to 150k frm ur nysc ie if u earn up to 5k local n 19.5k federal n Free rent

Tuntheycr7:
I didn't know I married a Houseboy!"



Story:
I have been married for three years now but
shortly after my marriage, I discovered that my
husband is not what he made me believe he
was. I met him after a man I had dated for six
years and had hoped to settle down with got
married to another woman without my
knowledge.
I only got to know about the wedding
two weeks after when a friend told me about it.
I was so hurt and I needed a shoulder to lean on
and that was when I met him at a church
programme.
He told me he was a working for a
top politician in Abuja as a Special Assistant. He
drove a Range Rover car and seemed to be who
he said he was.
When I visited him in Abuja, he lodged me in an
expensive hotel and seemed to be doing very
well. Six months later, we got married and that
was the mistake I made because when we went
to my village in the eastern part of the country
for our introduction, I was actually the one who
sponsored the trip and even bought the drinks
we used.
When my family gave him the traditional
marriage list, he said it was too expensive and
could not go ahead with it. He suggested we had
a church wedding and later do the traditional
marriage and because I was desperate, I agreed.
Even at that, I sponsored almost 90% of the
church wedding. After the wedding, he refused to
allow me go and live with him in Abuja and
instead, insisted I got an apartment in Lagos.
He only gave me N50,000 for the rent and I provided
over N250,000 to complete the balance.
To compound the issue, I later found out that he
is a secondary school leaver (he had told me he
was a graduate of LASU), and that he is a mere
houseboy to the Special Assistant to the
politician. The hotel he lodged me when I visited
him in Abuja belonged to his boss.
I wouldn't have minded the deceit that much but
he has turned out to be a brute who beats me at
every provocation and above all, I am the one
feeding him and his family members.
I want out. What should I do?
Please help me out


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A houseboy is a special assistant nwnw

monotony kills interest jst live with it until Jesus comes, dnt cheat

Pray BC vanity upon vanity all is vanity

Y did it take her 3yrs to figure this out, I pity d goodman whose heart is abt to be shattered after believing he has found a wife for yrs. I hope this is not abt the new dude doing better financially.

Last shot what is keeping her in dt rship is just pity for d poor dude. She can't marry out of pity d4 she shld explain to d poor guy so dt they can both move on.

Warning for dude : whenever a girl u r dating says she must graduate b4 marriage make arrangement for plan B so u dnt end up like this dude

gainesborough:
I am a long time member of nairaland, but due to the sensitivity of this post i had to be as anonymous as possible.
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My wife and i have been married for about 2 years, but it has not been so blissful for me. I observed that my wife always behave ungodly. She rarely wears skirts, always on Skinny, tight jeans and slim tops even to work or church, and as a married woman, that kind of dressing is wrong. When i talk, she would complain and nag that i dont give her space. And sometimes really short clothes and she returns home late from work. She leaves 5 - 6 am in the morning and return 9 - 10 at night. She would claim she was busy at work in different meetings.

She makes all sorts of unknown and secret calls and when i ask, she would say its her business partners that are talking to her. She spends alot of time on instagram, displaying herself, and on facebook chatting even during the day i would find her online when i assume she is at work. She even deleted and blocked me on facebook and claimed that i am intruding in her privacy.

Is she cheating on me? And what can i do to resolve this issue quickly? Our marriage is really young and we dont have a child yet but i dont want to raise children in such kind of family. I need your friendly advice please.

thank you so much

U married a runs girl, what do u expect. She is still acting single in marriage sorry but what is d use of a woman dt works 5am to 9pm to a real man . man way woman dey feed like u go suffer. Op u r jst a man in d houz n nt a man of d houz

To worship n thank God for his faithfulness

Wat r u enjoying without kids in a marriage, my first child must land nt more than 9months from wedding day. I can't wait to b called dad

U ve been fcckin her b4 wedding day during dating so why waste time again.

mfaaoo01:
I am young lady in her twenties and currently dating a guy who is 9 years older than i am. we have been in the relationship for sometime now. Although, normally he is not really my kind of guy but , i love the fact that he is a good person and also very matured. He is not the kind that drinks or womanizes, goes about his job in a quite manner. i never really cared that he was not the outgoing type and funny type but all the same i loved the fact that he is a reserved person. Myself on the other hand, I am the outgoing type, have a lot of friends who are age mates, loves to catch fun etc. I have friends in which their boyfriends takes us all out, buys us things etc, on the other hand, my boyfriend doesn't do any of those things , and anytime i try to tell him, he doesn't seem to get it. Also he doesn't go out of his way to do things for me. i see my friends in their relationships and wish mine was like that, i cant tell him exactly what the issue is, cause i don't want him to misinterpret me.
Now i feel, because he is quite older than me, he doesn't seem to understand what girls my age want.
Am I wrong?

U sound like a selfish person me, myself n I. Pause for a while n think of wat u can do for him too.

There is no point comparing ur relationship to dt of ur frnds BC every relationship is different.

Stop chopping from your friends guys since u kw ur man won't reciprocate, cut down on ur long throat around so u kw u n ur man don't owe them nothing.

Do all these since u claim u love him or back off

dearestaramide:
My colleague came to the office complaining this mornnig of a man that she can't stand but yet he has being doing everything to get her including prayers and seeing mallams to pray (which he later denied).

He went ahead to trace where she works as well as lives and drove after her one night after close of work till she managed to escape him. She says that he isn't even educated to university level, he can't speak English well and her family is well off better than his. She has done everything possible to dissuade him but all to no avail. People including his relative have spoken to him to let her go as clearly he can't force her but he has refused.

She strongly believes that he has a hidden motive and is scared for herself and family due to his obsession and reluctance to let go even after 4 years. And guess what, SHE HAS SEEN HIM PHYSICALLY JUST ONCE IN HER LIFE.



If na me i for take style kill am before e kill me

[b]PLEASE ADVISE AS SHE HAS BEEN DEPRESSED SINCE MORNING [/b]Dont even mention policeas you know our police and stupid demands with no results

Jst get married n born two kids n he will give up, ur single status dey give am hope

Benard94:
Police arrested you and collected your phone, a text message came in saying “Abeg if u da come, buy one AK-47 and 4 Bullets make we take do night things” hw do you explain to the police that your friend meant a vodka (Ak-47) and 4 Energy drinks. To make matters worst, your friend name hiz ROBART and you saved it as ROB-1 in your phone, wah will u do to convince the nigeria Policemen

If u like bring ifa to explain u will enter ATM for SARS cell n ur bail can't b below 100k

manie:
Try to understand my post, no bank will pay you 2% per month. 2% per month translate to roughly 24% per annum.

Olodo some banks can pay 2percent per month but they r mostly microfinance banks provided u have a minimum of 10m. Try eastgate mf bank, learner

I can bet my right hand dt no commercial bank can give dt rate n u r here telling us abt Eco bank and 7percent per month

bigfizh:
Only an immature will insult rather than discuss, yet you named yourself Ogawisdom

When u cant differentiate between pa interests n per month interest dt even juveniles kw n u parade urself as a banker, big fish, big fizh

Whoever employed u as a banker smh

manie:
No bank will even give you 2% interest in a month, the Aliko Dangote can not even get that for his multi billion Naira cash talkless of someone who few millions to put in a fixed deposit.


The current rate by my bank for fixed deposit is 2%.

Dnt mind d big fish abi na bigfizh

bigfizh:
If you were patient enough to read through, u would noticed where this was addressed,
Even a primary school student knows that rate is per annum, In fixed deposit, they are analysed into months and at times days( when liquidating Fd before time) in order to get the accrued interest, If you are doubting banks still offer good rate for funds less than 1m, why not walk into an Ecobank branch and confirm,
note that its business for the bank, so they might tell u a low rate at first, but push further and convince them a friend of yours did same Fd in same bank in another location and was given a good rate( use the rates shown in the guide i attached to bargain)

No bank will give u 7 percent per month fd on1m, stop being an idio.t, I wonder d kind of bank dt employed u, when u r empty on basic things like interest rates. Olodo

luchy34:
Beauty the say is in the eyes of the beholder! but I've noticed that most good looking guys end up marrying ladies that are not attractive at all. So my question is why





N.B.. I'm not saying it's a bad thing

BC they r mostly broke men n very pretty girls want extremely rich men even if they r monkey looking

01emek:
Its was really unfair and disheartened for her to refuse my proposal because of my height.

Pls nairalander is height now a problem in relationship and for the records,am 5:1.

If she is short then u shld see reasons with her, BC its not advisable for two Shortie's to marry for d children sake

bigfizh:
its per month, see monthly rate in the attached new rate guide, 1-m , 2-m, 3-m, note that Month is abbreviated as m, and interest rate varies, depending on how many months you are booking for in some cases while in other cases interest rate remain the same in respective of the tenure

It is a fat lie its per annum y can't u give d name of d bank u got the attached leaves. Pls dnt misinform ppl. No bank in d world will give u 7percent per month on less than 1m

Op have u ever heard abt Google pls ask it, it shld answer ur questions

StephanieEzeh:
What's your take? Some jobless guys can be so annoying! Instead of concerning themselves with their life and financial condition, they end up chasing women anyhow as if it's a paid job! . Sending rubbish romantic texts and initiating boring conversations on phone. Go get a job first and come for the girl later. She would appreciate you better.

Men without jobs that r chasing women simply lack focus I mean dt shld nt b his priority. There is time for everything, Adam ws already working in d garden of Eden before God brought eve, dt shld b d standard.

Nw dnt get it twisted once he has something doing for a living even if it pays him 10k monthly he is qualified

badboyphc:
Thanks for your input.

Please, what's the price range of the 2004 Toyota Highlander.

1.6m shld get 2002 highlander toks n 1.8/2m shld get 2004 am nt a car dealer I could be slightly wrong with my quotation.

Dnt mind those trying to discourage you BC the story of life is different for everyone. I dnt blame them sha BC most of ur mates r probably in the uni reading n still soaking garri n most ppl in naija bought their first car at an average age of 30 mostly in preparation for marriage.

Everything depends on hw much you earn monthly dt determines whether u can afford a car ie service, repair n maintenance n d type of car u can afford.

Y shld u b treking arnd if u earn at least 150k, u definitely can afford to keep a Toyota corolla on d road n still save money for investment n other things.

There r two school of tots when it comes to cars one believes a car is an extreme liability and the other believes its an extreme necessity, I belong to d latter BC d reason ppl work is to take care of themselves n live a decent life

badboyphc:
Hi I need help deciding what car to buy. My budget max is 1.5 Million. I'm 23 years old. Thanks.

By telling us ur very young age u simply want us to kw u r young with a long way still to go I guess but wat will ultimately help in deciding a car for u is your annual salary or monthly pay. I want to believe u earn at least 150k monthly. Then buy Toyota corolla 2003/2004

If u earn up to 250k monthly n want an SUV then highlander 2001 to 2004

If u earn up to 300k and wanna feel a little luxury then lexus rx 300 2000 to 2002

If ur salary is not up to 100k then look for small car like golf 3 with 1.6l engine

favino:
Thanks to everyone who contributed.after the mentioning of drivindshaft I decided to check it then I jacked and rotate the tyres after which it was working fine.!

Tot u said ur tyres were nt moving ie rotating after engaging D or R in ur gear. If d tyres r rotating when u jacked up then d car shld move otherwise check ur handbrake or may b u have brake binding.

In fact ur description of d problem is very poor n no one can help with ur poor description of the problem

Hi55:
Hello nairalanders, I just wish I'll get a shoulder or two to cry on tonight. Things are becoming unbearable for me and I don't know how far I can walk on these shoes. Here's my story...


I am 28 and married to a 35yr old youngman whom I love so dearly. We are blessed with 2 kids and most material things one can pray for. My marriage is 5yrs with just minor issues that do come up once in a VERY LONG while.

The problem is that my hubby does not show me affection and hardly approaches me for sex. I am a very neat, beautiful, Godfearing, educated and classy lady. Most times I am the one who initiates intimacy in our marriage. My heart breaks each time I read or hear of women who deny their husbands sex because its an opposite in my case. For more than two months now we've not been intimate. To make matters worse, he prefers to sleep in the sitting room or children's room than in our matrimonial room.

He always pretends to be tired but not too tired to be chatting on whatsapp with friends. I have his password, that is not an issue. I am not suspecting anything even though I'm not totally ruling out the possibility of adultery. He comes back very late in the night unlike before. Infact even when he comes early these days, he will rather stay with friends within the street or house than come inside. Believe me nairalanders, we don't have issues. Infact he keeps saying that God blessed him with a wonderful woman. It's not like I make the house uncomfortable for him. The only communication we have these days is greetings, asking how the day went or few general topics.

I am not a woman who can't do without sex but I just need to be shown affection even if sex is not there. Committing adultery on my own part is IMPOSSIBLE, i will rather opt for divorce. I am so confused, lonely and heartbroken. I love my husband beyond the word LOVE. I just wish he can see the tears in my eyes as I lay lonely on our bed each night. I am very fragile by nature and gets hurt easily. Believe me...this is killing me.

Please, people drop a word or two for a hurting soul.

After five years of marriage most couples are nw room mates get used to it.
Learn to go for him if u need him ie sex wise n stop complaining. Show him affection if u need one.

Hitting one punny for five years is nt easy for any man, he loves u dearly believe me he does but d excitement is gone. Sex after five years is like work nw n routine, ask him wen u need it, its ur right in marriage

Driving shaft needs to be changed

OK but u slept with them for other things like connection forget dt ur hard work yarns ur ways no pure joor

Y is she always alone in her pics abi she no get family n frnds

I dnt think u need a man, jst pay a guy with good genes to fertilise ur eggs n turn single mum

What do u need a man for when u ve everything already. Go buy urself a strong dic.k too

It is incredible what she claims to b making from blogging, she may b a high profile coded runs girl

Vanity upon vanity all is vanity

I won't think twice b4 picking d Camry it looks more prestigious n spacious leg room n head space n will offer more economy n power mix depend on d engine size n power train

Ladies n gent d Camry wins

Enahi:
I still don't understand why Men go crazy about big behinds.
Its embarrassing walking down the road and I start getting all sorts comments and look from Men.

The most painful part is I cant wear fitted skirts and gowns and feel comfortable anymore.

Ladies with big backside how do you cope? I get very shy when walking down the road because of the way Men stare at me. Its very embarrassing.


What should I do?

I have heard Men shout Ukwu when they see me. Seriously what should I do, am not finding it funny.

Attention seeker

chisos this is absolutely disgusting op put viewer discretion advice some people can't eat well after seeing this