₦airaland Forum

22rockbottom:
Good Evening,

I got married 11years ago, my mother in-law has always in the picture of everything in our home and has total control of my wife. My wife cannot object anything she says even when I, as her husband challenged it. 90% of the major issues we had as a couple were caused by my mother in-law. After 11years, I decided to confront her to stop controlling her daughter and stop interfering in our marriage and home. I confronted her and my wife left the house. Her reason for leaving the house is that I disrespected her family.

more details later

After 11 years?

It's too late to be a man now

The mother in-law already believes she is in charge. I know she is earning well n even better than you n supportive with bills hence your tolerance but this is at the core of your manhood. You gave in for too long, so trying to change it now may result in the end. So decide what you want

Only if she slaps me

I go beat shege comot for her eyes that day

Only if she slaps me

I go beat shege comot for her eyes that day

Jannyfranc:
Please I need someone to share his/her experience on Interview for Eb2 NIW category.Please help.

Have your petition been approved?

Does EB1A require job sponnsorship in the US

Why won't I leave when they will pay better?

Rokiat:
I would like to believe there are still men that are faithful To their women in relationships. And despite the narrative not all men cheat.

So faithful Men of nairaland, how do you manage to remain faithful?

Lack of enough money is the major hinderance.

The money available is barely enough esp in this period.

Cheating is very expensive but very easy once there is enough money.

Exactly

Bigcoconut:
Hello, guys
I don't want to bore you guys with long epistle. Yes, as the title suggests.

I travelled to Canada through the study route this January but I can tell you for a fact that I'm already bored with this place.

I'm redoing a 2 year program that I have already concluded in Naija but just because I want japa, I redid it. But that's not the issue.

The issue is that I'm working in a company but the department I was posted to was a physical demanding one..

To the extent that if I work for a day, I feel pain all over my body for a week. And this is seriously affecting my education because anytime i go to work, i wouldn't have the energy to do anything again as i would be so weak. but i have to work because i have bills to pay.

Nobody send you for here except you want sleep for cold outside.

Even half of my salary goes in the form of settling bills.

The work makes me depressed. This is not what I bargained for. .

For me to raise money for my tuition fees and travel expenses, at least I wasn't doing bad in Nigeria before i left. In addition, I hardly have time for myself.

My situation is even better, most of people who we came same time haven't found jobs yet.

My thinking is if I should ask for refund of my remaining tuition fee and relocate back Naija, or go back Naija and take some courses online, as there seems to be an option for that.

Coming back to Nigeria should not be an option except you are coming back with enough money to invest.

Lol 😂😂😂 he is even lucky chinua Achebe is not alive today to take him to the cleaners

Septagon:
You guys above saying its too small.u guys are funny.have u converted it to naira?do u know how many games they officiate in three months?do u know abt allowances?

As if any Nigerian referee is there. Why was it necessary to check value in naira? This is tooo pooooor. The least should be 10k GBP.

You pay an average player 30k GBP per week n paying referees peanut?

There is nothing wrong in what he did or said. Chosing Moslem Moslem ticket in a country like Nigeria is the actual religious bigotry.

Asking and mobilizing for christian votes is not bigotry but choosing Moslem Moslem ticket.

APC are the real bigots

My Corolla will still take me to anywhere it can go? Just a status symbol

adedammy009:
I found this link on another group which I think could be helpful. It contains samples of petition and recommendation formats for the EB2-NIW application.

https://1drv.ms/f/s!Ar4JnLllo336hKlt-HYeijBIVewnuQ

All the best.

Wow God 🙏 bless you abundantly

You will never lack in Jesus name Amen

I am seeing myself in US already before the end of next year with this DIY kit you provided.

Thanks alot.

damoche64:
Anyone happy to share petitions and recommendations letter formats/templates pls I need to 2 start writing, preferable successful STEM applications.
Thanks

Any help on this will be appreciated 👍

quote author=adedammy009 post=122084288]
I am rooting for you. I also got approved in less than 50 days (notice date), and not premium processing.
All the best in the process.[/quote]This testimony is very encouraging and strengthens the faith of those of us preparing for this but has any self petition gotten approval here.

Hiring an attorney is very expensive and most of us want to do self petition.

Anyone with sample petition for higher degree route should please kindly share.

Bi-chop well done

fOFT:
If you're in STEM, we can do share knowledge
I have drafted four (4) recommendation letters so far.
Writing my letter and hope to finish writing my this time next week(31/03/2023)
Send to friends for third and fourth eyes (so as to implement their feeback)
Lastly, I will send to my personal lawyer to check everything before sending to USCIS in April.
Hopefully, I will be in the US by 01/01/2024

Sure i am in STEM

Let's work on it together

I am presently putting all my strong points and evidences side by side before drafting my petition letter, cover letter, recommendation letters etc

Poor Photoshop

semmyk:
Possible with self-petition on DIY route or through well tested immigration lawyers.
Whether through lawyers or DIY, critical is to understand the bolts and nuts.

I am researching about it in great details and gathering evidence to support my claims in my petition.

Can anyone share a sample petition letter for scholars?

Look for Ph D scholarship in USA in ur field n move

Lens101

I am interested in this EB2 NIW visa route

Is there a DIY kit to help pursue it by myself without immigration lawyer

true

Chai this is a costly mistake, this not necessary haba . Obi is the only reason you are relevant today. Pride goes before a fall. Needless comparison, he is your ally not opponent. This boy no get sense ooo

People should embrace cashless economy, we can't go back to the days of excessive cash in circulation

It's will be enough with better savings if they don't spend on wants but needs. Plus if they cut their coats according to their clothes.

Why put on gen every night even when weather is cool n u can use only rechargeable lights? This is where common sense is needed or wisdom.

Budgeting and management is also paramount.

Food should be portioned n controlled to last.

You must not attend 100k per term sch, when there is 25k per term sch

Wike won't allow votes to count

Return what you stole

Confusedgirlie:
Before I left Canada for Nigeria in 2020, I had heard severally that it was very lonely there for Nigerian immigrants. I didn't quite understand what people meant exactly when they said this. However, over time I now have a very good understanding of this particular challenge with migration. Here are some of the things I've learnt on the way. But first, a little background about me.

I'm an introvert and I like my introversion. It gives me a lot of time to think and to be in my own space which I enjoy a lot. I read, write and love to watch documentaries. Those are the three most important things to me in life. When I lived in Nigeria, I lived a mostly secluded life that didn't have a lot of people in it. Regardless, it wasn't boring to me. I went out when I wanted to and took my time for my own activities.

Since being in Canada, my observations have been that it is a lot lonelier here. The reasons are very obvious: there are not a lot of people around me from a culture I'm familiar with (Nigeria), so it's definitely a lot more difficult to interact with others. That's one key point. Another is that I don't really have to go out to purchase things (even groceries), compared to when I was in Nigeria. I can simply order everything I need while sitting in the comfort of my home. Hence, the temptation is to go this way. In addition, I don't have family around, so I'm mostly by myself. And finally, the few friends I have are often busy, so there's hardly time to get together.

That's about it. I think these are some of the challenges Nigerian immigrants face. But the real question is, do I feel lonely?

The honest answer to that is a No. I find that my life is exactly the same way I lived it in Nigeria, only a lot more convenient and comfortable. I can't trade this for anything. In addition, as an introvert who likes to be by herself anyways, it's just a lot more enjoyable.

Nevertheless, there are steps I'm planning to take to change a few things. I am now taking more opportunities to actually go out and buy things even if I don't have to, e.g groceries, clothes, etc. Secondly, I say hello first to strangers and neighbours and get to ask them a few questions. This I wouldn't have done on the first place. Finally, I downloaded a social media application called clubhouse and have been making new friends in my area using this. As a cautious person, I'm taking baby steps here and not jumping straight into friendships I may not like.

Overall, what do I think of being in Canada as an introvert? I enjoy it. My life and choices are a lot better and I find that I have the time to do much more than I was doing back in Nigeria, not hampered by lack of power or resources.

My advice to others is to gauge their expectations carefully as they come to Canada with or without family. It can be lonely here, but that's not because Canada itself is lonely. It's just because you need to dig deep and find yourself in a new country where family is absent and culture is unfamiliar.

As if that is the reason for going to Canada?
Everyone should know their reason for traveling and stick to it.