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Islie:
https://punchng.com/policeman-arrested-for-attacking-rivers-lady-with-burning-stove/

Na the guy pics day beside that of the lady so? If na him nai b say d guy village people really bad, enjoy your time in jail Mr policeman, you did the crime so you should do the time.

AsomArchitectNG:
Source: https://www.legit.ng/people/1452524-nigerian-man-scored-8-as-waec-bagged-1st-class-offer-us-govt/

Congratulations man, more laurels

Shehuyinka:
https://www.icirnigeria.org/how-11-year-old-student-of-elkenemy-islamic-school-had-his-life-almost-snuffed-out-by-senior-colleague-in-maiduguri/

I don't get it, is it that the junior students are toys for the senior ones to prey on or what? Someone's throat was slit and the victim is being pressured to drop charges? What the hell is that? Is it cause he is not the child of the new husband and the director of the school? Will they do this if he is their son? I sincerely hope the police will not allow this atrocity go unpunished, who knows whose throat the aggressor will slit next.

Noah9:
I want to thank everyone for their advice and I really appreciate everyone involvement about the thread I created 2week ago. Here is the link.
https://www.nairaland.com/6933724/regretted-actions-please-me

Great people of this forum, honestly things have never been better ever since that incident and I wish our minds are like show glass so that y'all would see how sorry I am inside of me. I messed up and I'm really sorry.

5 days after I created that post above, My wife traveled with my daughter to her parents house to stay without telling me. Since that incident my wife haven't said a word to me, Not a single word. Sometimes I wonder if she's the same woman I married. I'm frustrated, incoherent and I'm losing my mind.

I've been good to her, I provide 85% for my family while she bring just 15% yet I don't complain, I'm romantic and good looking, since we married I don't keep female friends not to talk of cheating. Yet She denied me sex over 2 months without any reasons, that was why I acted that way and I'm so sorry.

On Tuesday here, My friend and I traveled to her parents house, they did not even welcome us well, I don't know what she must have told her parents but I explained myself, knelt down and asked for forgiveness.

She refused to come home with me, her parents were just starring at me like I'm some demon, I requested for my daughter but she refused to release her and I've already paid my daughter's school fees for the term. Her parents said they would register my daughter in a new school, that my wife need some space for now.

Please don't call me a weak man, I'm family oriented, I don't want broken home, if she needed some space that's not a problem, I can give her all the space in the world but let her come home. It's not proper raising a child in a broken home...I'm really losing my mind.

I faced query today at work because I traveled without informing my Boss which I know he won't allow me and I know how much would be deducted from my salary. what I'm going through now I can't wish my enemies and I wish I could turn back the hands of time. I messed up.

Beloveth Pls I need advice.

Your wife erred when she starved you of sex but you erred when you slapped and forced yourself on her but you are remorseful and apologized to her, it is obvious your wife have something huge against you at heart. It is the reason why she stopped having sex with you and could not tell you why, the reason she refused to forgive you when you begged her and same reason she packed out of your house and also refused to come back with you. I'll advice you prepare yourself for bachelor hood once again. How long did you guys date before you got married? Do you know if she had a boyfriend she loves a lot that she broke up with before you came into her life? Your wife is like someone wondering if she should continue with you or go to another guy. Go run DNA on your daughter, Best of luck bro

dre11:
Previous threads: https://www.nairaland.com/6881981/5-year-old-hanifa-abubakar-kidnapped-way

https://www.nairaland.com/6948737/missing-hanifar-abubakar-killed-kidnappers


https://dailynigerian.com/how-kano-girl-abducted-killed/

Na this kind fine pikin u kidnap? God, so you can stay and watch a little child cry without being moved to compassion? What happened to your conscience? You even ended up killing her, this guy and his accomplice should be burnt to death, rest on little one, I pray your love ones go through this trauma without any permanent damage, this is tough.

Nksleek:
A yet to be identified Nigerian police officer has been captured in a viral video assaulting a woman and threatening to kill her.

Focus Naija can report that the victim and others were allegedly on their way to Lagos along the Benin Expressway when the incident occurred.

Although the reason for the assault could not be ascertained as at press time, the officer could be heard calling her an ash*wo (prostitute) and bragging that he is not an ordinary policeman.

Efforts by his colleagues to stop him from further assaulting the woman fell on deaf ears as he broke loose from their grip, cocked his rifle and fired into the air.

Read reactions and watch the video below;

Source: https://www.instagram.com/reel/CY81HMehrS9/?utm_medium=copy_link

Na true, village people don finally pick this one call, you don loose d uniform way day give you all this ginger, your foolish pride has fetched you out, anuofia, na unarmed people body them for day get power, post am go Borno go meet armed guys like am now e go begin run from pillar to post day look for who to influence the posting.

erico2k2:
This is your own understanding.suite number was adopted by courts for their proceeds however the true application of the word suite number is for any case ie case file be it court or social work or any kind of case.O can be an asset management company and adopt suits number for my reference.

It is not my understanding but what it is, suit number is the number given to any case/suit before the court and it is only courts that uses suit number. It is only used for cases filed into court, it is not used for any process of court that will not come before the judge.

erico2k2:
if it has no form of number to the document how would anyone reference it?the so called suit number is for reference purpose.The tenant pit himself in the mud when he chose to sublet the shop.

Suit number is same thing as case number, it is not reference number, it is only issued for cases that will appear in the cause list in the open court, quit notice like affidavit are not registered with suit number, it is documented and receipt is issued once the fee is paid, the receipt number is what you use to identify it whenever the need arise, (That is how it is done in Delta state though) the guy erred when he sub let the apartment but he can not be ejected until the expiration of his tenancy/rent paid.

Alvanbenjamin:
Good morning everyone.
Please I had a shop I was making use of till I gained admission 8nto the university and still paid for the shop without use for over 2 years...
After the pandemic in 2020, I decided to rent the shop out cause I was seriously affected and was already in my final year... I paid two years rent for the shop, running from February 2021to January 2023. Then I got a letter about rent increase, few months it was followed by the court order...

Please is this right? What should I do ?
The first picture is the receipt I was issued after payment, the 2nd is the increase letter and then the one sent from the court.

The rent you pay the man still subsist so e nor suppose increase the rent until the expiration of you rent, you too nor suppose sublet the property, but you even sure say that quit notice na genuine? Why e go carry suit number when e nor b case? Them go get hearing for quit notice abi quit notice don turn suit way e day carry suit number? Go see a lawyer.

Havesomesense:
I got a text from my babe this evening, that she's pregnant, I have no doubt that I am responsible.

I plan to buy abortiion pills tomorrow morning.

Nigeria's economy is very hard to bring in a baby without proper planning.

I'm giving her the abortiion pill tomorrow, so nobody should try to change my mind.

For those of you with abortiion experience kindly advice.

Na only congratulations I get to give you, congratulations if d drug nor work and she born the child in 9 months time, congratulations if d drug work and she nor come born, then the final congratulations if d drug get adverse effect on her and she come sing your name then you come begin your jail term.

lalasticlala:
https://fij.ng/article/after-promising-a-fortune-segun-fayomi-of-plethora-farms-robs-investors-of-millions/

Get a lawyer to write a petition to the EFCC, na prison day call them so, this is how they make it difficult for genuine businessmen/women to get people to invest with them

Dhardworshipper:
Good day everyone, please I will be needing your advice on this as it seems like I’m going nuts Infact I have lost a lot of weight as regards this issue.
I will make it short and simple.

I met this girl sometime last year around February, the feeling was mutual at first as we only intended to be just friends but one thing lead to other, we had sex and things began to change. Fast forward to April,She complained to me that her cousin(male) that she stays with always intend to assault her sexually severally and she wants to leave there.
Being a guy that stays in a mini flat all by myself and the stupid caring boyfriend that I am,I told her to move in from idi Araba to my apartment in Ikorodu, in between all of this period, she lost her job and was at home for good 7-8months. I fed, clothed even catered for the least thing as her sanitary pads,well during this period I tried to get her a job all to no avail, finally I landed her a job in December.
Note: Food or money for her hair was not the problem as she makes her hair every month and least expensive is 12k.

Fast forward to January 2022,She started playing all sort of attitude at home, During the times at home, she told me of her past and the guys in the life that have being disturbing her, I told her initially that I don’t have a problem with her talking to another guy but it should not be when I’m home, she has all day to that. Just last week Tuesday, when I came back from work got some stuffs that we were supposed to cook that night for dinner, her phone rang again one of those guys, she just want to receive the call and she will be right back, her being right back she stayed outside the compound from like past 9pm til almost 11:30pm on the phone with the same guy,I came out like thrice telling her to come in and she requested flaring up at me that if I was tired of her I should tell her to leave my house, why I’m I treating her as a slave and she doesn’t have her freedom amongst saying all sort of words.
Out of anger, I just told her if she was done with the call she come pack her stuffs and go stay with the guy, immediately she was done, she came in and started packing in the room, I went to meet her and I was like madam this is not you, trying to talk her through even held her hands, this girl was shouting on top of her voice and stuffs.
Morning Wednesday, I apologized to her about last night, she refused to on her part(Note she has this pride and ego), she went to work that Wednesday and we continued to engage on the phone, fast forward to Saturday which was my off day,I told her if she was done with work she should come home and let’s talk things through, What broke the camel’s back was she and the guy we had an issue with went to my office as I work with a popular eatery in Lagos to go hangout, many of my staffs know we are together as she also always come there to wait for me until I’m done with work(she didn’t come home that Saturday claiming that she is not feeling too well and she needs to rest at her place of work).
When I resumed work Sunday, one of my staffs told me about it,I went to our CCTV review to confirm lo and behold I saw my supposed babe with the same guy kissing in the restaurant……My heart melted, I was so heart broken.

We are supposed to see today and these are my action plans?
We have started wedding plans and I have cancelled it first, was it the right thing to do
I intend asking her reasons for her actions??
What she really wanted for herself
I have told my lil bro to pack up all of her stuffs after the meeting today she is leaving my house, Is this right to do too
My brother said if she has the boldness to come with a guy to my workplace definitely she will bring a guy one day to my house to sleep with
I also intend robbing her till she is laid off at work, Am I doing the right thing

Note:The job she is doing now is currently in my company but I need a different location and in another department.


No insult please
Please talk to me guys, I’m so broken right now as I type this as I can’t even sleep well again.

Mods please help push it to the front page.

Your first f up was asking her to stay after asking her to pack out the night she stayed out late talking to her boyfriend, don't discuss anything with her, just call her to come pick all her stuff and leave your house, don't do anything to make her loose her job.

olaitoro:
Buhari's government should heed to voice of the people he sworn to protect.

Is Buhari to declare a national sit at home day?

Lucaslookers:
Please married folks in the house,
My lovely wife and I have been married for almost 2 years now. I know I am not a perfect person and she is not too but we have been managing.
Why I opened this thread is that I am very afraid of her new attitude of always carrying weapons anytime we have a misunderstanding. It started when I found out she had an abortion without telling me and when I confronted her she flared up and started behaving like a tout jumping here and there.

On Friday last week we were discussing about how to go about the new business I want to set up for her and somehow we got into an argument and she ran into the kitchen and grabbed a knife. Again this morning I simply asked her to waybill some foodstuffs to her father as I wouldn't be able to do that before heading to my place of business and she grabbed my clothes and started calling me names, next thing she picked up the belt hanging on the wardrobe and started threatening to teach me a lesson.
I have never been a woman beater and honestly don't know what has gotten into her.
We have a pending issue we are yet to sort out but still I am keeping my calm why is she the one suddenly going violent??

Please what do I do?
My marriage is still young

Send her packing to her parents home until her brain gets formatted else she might end up injuring or worse case scenario killing you, you don't tolerate a violent partner.

wallstreetnews:
This is an exclusive coverage of the Ghana’s capital city of Accra. The city is nice but not to be compared with Abuja city.

Accra has almost steady power supply, but the city doesn't have good hotels/hospitality compare to Abuja. Accra doesn't have the kind of superb roads that one sees in Abuja. From my observation, I believe Abuja is still the best city in West Africa.

Things are very expensive in Accra. A plate of rice and chicken without water is 50 cedis equivalent to N5000.

Commercial motorcycle(Okada) is still one of the major transportation means in Accra, when Abuja has moved to metro rail lines, modern cabs and city buses.

U b Ghanian @op? Y u go compare Accra with Abuja? Slippers nor get size? U nor see Bornu, Akure, Enugu or Warri to compare Accra with na Abuja, welcome @op, u try

QuizPay:
I will make this epistle to be as short as possible, forget about the grammar and focus on the content ...

Is this a red flag or not or its just what it is, or what is your take in this?

My fiancee Fines it difficult to cook (though she can cook and a very good cook), I am not the type that eat outside always (I love home food), I only do such once in a while. She cooks sometimes in the evening or at night but it's a no no in the morning, I have to make my dishes for myself before going to work and house chores is even the worst. l gave her 9.9% that's how worst in terms of house chores, her excuse is "my weakness is house chores, I will try to be adjusting blablabla.

She only tidy/clean when I complain, after that she returns to former ways except if I complain again. Any time she does house chores she won't let me hear words, I did this, I did that, you don't even appreciate me, I did that too ecsetera. Her suggestion is for us to hire househelp (and house help is a no no for me, even if I will take in house help not now). The house is even small for house help to come in. Sometimes, she dodges cooking by trying to convince me to buy/order food while coming home etc, I do that sometimes but most time I decline and tell her to prepare food at home.

Although if I compel her to do things in romantic way sha she will do it but must I be compelling someone daughter in romantic ways always before doing what she needs to do ni. Also she works in a finance firm and leaves the house around after seven or 7:30am (House to work is close), back by 6pm but should this be an excuse to prepare dish for me, for someone that finds it difficult to prepare breakfast as Early as possible for just one person how much more when kids are involved waking up to take care of kids ecsetera. We agreed she will stop the work and I will set her up when we got marry and she promised after that she will be able to do the tidy and cooking very well . Planning to knot this year anyways, just a bit worry about this house chores of a thing which I have told her times without number...

The good part about her
* She is faithful and literally tells me everything that happens to her on daily basis.
*she can confidently give me her phone to work (this has happened twice, because I need to help in fixing her phone) , which I will give her updates about her callers, messages etc when she returns back from work and her phone has never be on lock.
*She is open and transparent
*She is supportive and submissive (with the time I have spent with her)
*She is a prayer warrior (she can pray for 4hours ), though she skips Sunday sometime because of resting. And Sometimes, i am tempted to tell her to reduce prayer at night so she can cook/tidy things that need to be tidy in the morning.

About me
Me: Am I.T guy, In aspects of earning I earn thrice more than her but I find it easy in doing house chores, (my mama taught me well you know) do dishes and tidy up things myself, (that was how she knows me) and always putting things in place, provides everything needed, supportive etc...Am the kind of person I return home late sometimes because after leaving my official work, I check in my personal business before going home.. So something 9pm or 10pm or 11pm (depends on traffic) before I get back home.

To married people, Councillors, experienced people in the house, , I will like your contribution in terms of House chores issue and wife responsibility etc, It can help me or some people out there in this kind of similar situation. Thank.. (no insult I beg.)

It is a red flag, it is just the two not you at home and she can't make your meal before leaving for work and she's already demanding for an house help, how can she make meal for your kids before they leave for school when they arrive? She's no going to change, forget that she will change when she quit her job so it is for you to decide if you're going to accept her the way she is or you quit.

Minjim:
https://punchng.com/dpo-owns-illegal-refinery-in-rivers-says-wike/

That dpo should be paraded like the ordinary criminal that he is, why will his illegal refinery colleagues be arrested and paraded while the dpo get transferred? Is he being protected or what? Is the dpo above the law? Comon parade the idiot let's see the criminal dpo

MASTAkiLLAh:
http://saharareporters.com/2022/01/14/police-officers-%E2%80%98mistakenly%E2%80%99-record-themselves-motorist%E2%80%99s-phone-after-extorting-n150000

These ones cup don finally full, thieves in uniform

Biggcowhorn:
My name is Kalu from Imo state but I live with my parents in Lagos. I'm a 37 year old jambite. Of recent I've been having feelings for this Igbo girl I met while attending my jamb classes, she's very brilliant, she's a nerd and I also observed she's an introvert.
I've open up to her to let her know my intentions of being in a relationship with her but she says I'm too old for her and she sees me as an uncle and elderly brother.
I recently invited her to my home when my mummy Left for work but she refused coming.
Nairalanders pls advise me by telling me on the best strategy I should use and how I should convince her to accept me as her boyfriend cos I'm dying for her.
No insults please as I need only matured comments

At 37 you're a jambite and still living with your parents, as if that isn't bad enough you're about adding child abuse to your list of ....... congratulations, prison loading for you. The only advice I can give you is to get a job and switch to part time schooling, you ought to be married and paying your kids fees at your age, I sincerely hope you don't become a ..... at 40.

illicit:
Cultism in that school is very high

Wow? Na d cultist them day wear d slippers abi na slippers them day use run the cultism for the school? Wetin b d relationship between d post and ur comment?

T0T0fucker:
please how do I handle this situation, this has nearly disgraced me in public several times.
I have strong erections when ever I see a nanny goat walking in the street just by staring at the backside and you know they are normally naked. everything open for all eyes to see.

Seun
lalasticlala
mynd44

Definitely insane, you need a minimum of 77 daddy and mummy GO combined to organise deliverance session for you.

officialmario:
Good morning Nairalanders

I want to use this medium to seek for your advice..

Me and my wife has been together since 2014, although we have not done marriage as we only did introduction, but we planned having our marriage this year, we had two kids, but I think right now I'm not comfortable living with my wife.

I am not enjoying this relationship anymore, she keeps beating me whenever there is quarrel between us, she is fond of slapping me and giving me punches, at times she makes use of wire and and broom to scatter my head.

The one that happened on Monday is really giving me much concern, she checked my phone and saw a friend I was chatting with and instead of her to ask me about the lady, the next thing she did was to slap me and she started beating me to the extent of having right hand dislocation.. It's not as if she can beat me if I decided to fight back, I don't want to raise my hand on a woman, it's a curse and I don't want to do that, this is getting out of hand and I am not living comfortable at home again, we sleep on different bed, she doesn't allow me touch her again.

She is even planning to get a room by ending of this month when she gets her salary..
I told my sister about her behavior, the advice she gave me is that I should beat the hell out of her whenever she raises her hand to beat me.

I have pleaded with my wife to let us continue the way we have been doing before but she wouldn't listen to me.

I am really confused and I don't know what to do right now..

I need your advice my great people of Nairaland.

Eyah, sorry o, I don't have any advice for you, just enjoy the beat while it last, your wife beat you sotay ur dislocate hand u day here day rake say na curse to raise ur hand on woman, na also curse to leave the house when she won start her madness? I hope them nor go post your demise for nairaland.

fergie001:
EFCC Arrests Fake Army General Who Claimed Buhari Nominated Him As COAS for Alleged N270m Fraud



EFCC

Hmmm, this guy get mind o

Tennessee85:
Thanks for this information bro. So, why do Nigerians love hyping such country? I'm not eveb saying Nigeria is "good" but why hype such a country that has such a ridiculously high cost of living with poor minimum wage. Is it because of the light or these so-called peace there?

My bro you know how it is with our people, nothing is ever good with Nigeria, it is this mentality of portraying Nigeria bad that is giving this small nations the guts to mess with us, imagine Ghana police asking if they treat Nigerians worse than our police? That they see it all on social media.

GeneralDae:
Is electricity constant everywhere? Because I still see few interviews of visitors (once in a while) who complain about electricity. So I'm confused. Almost everyone says there is constant electricity everywhere but some say they need to improve on electricity.

When compared to Nigeria it is a thousand times better, they inform the public via the electronic media before they switch off the light, is when they want to do maintenance. They go for 3-4 without light going off so to me it is very good

Tennessee85:
Of course I know. But what about their cost of living? I heard things are very expensive there.

Super expensive, accommodation is extremely on the high side same as food stuff and other necessities

Tennessee85:
Bro, are you saying all the great things we hear about Ghana is just hype? Ghana is not as good as what we're told on social media?

Ghana is good when it comes to electricity, security is good depending on where you live and that is all, most Ghanian dislike Nigerians with passion.

Guest2008:
How Can I Help My Brother Out Of This Mess

Good afternoon nairalanders. As I'm typing this, my mum is not herself and she's been crying since morning because she caught my younger one smoking in his room..

He locked himself in the room for a very long time and my mum decided to go check on him. After a while, he sprayed his room and opened the door.

The room was filled with this hard drug smell, she called me and we decided to check the room even though he denied ever smoking.. We saw a light brown paper that he probably tears from, a nylon containing something like sand and a lighter behind the toilet seat. Despite all this, he still denied it claiming the smell is probably from the next compound.
My brother just clocked 16 and he's in SS2..

How can I advise and help him stop because I believe he was actually smoking even though he denied it?

Relocating him is the best bet, he should go live with one of your elderly male relative who will be like a father to him.

[quote author=eeewise post=109183822]Got a call from a friend who is 23 without much family support (orphans) that she ran some tests and is a month pregnant.
She needs advice on what to do?
She has little or no family support system to cater for a child

So thinking of termination of pregnancy but naive on how to go about it

Friend or you? Nor b person bleep her abi na holy ghost give her belle? I think nairaland na hospital? Why una day do skin to skin with who una nor get future with sef? Best of luck sha, invite me for the naming and dedication ceremony.

[quote author=oladiddy post=109185510]My wife and I have been married for over 3 years now with a beautiful daughter who is 2years plus but things are falling apart everyday.

Whenever we had arguments she will want to sabotage my job. Couple of months ago, we had an argument and I was to give update to my team via teams meeting (I work from home)..My wife keep raising her voice, I left the living room and went to bedroom lock the door behind to continue with my meeting but surprisingly to me, my wife went through the window and started the drama again.

Just yesterday there was another drama and she picked my phone unknowingly and call my overall boss.

Note: it is from this job am sponsoring her Masters in one of the centers in Uniport and also feeding the family. More than 70% of my monthly earnings goes to her. I am not a social person..I don't drink and either spend lavishly.

My wife is a very proud person and she has this obvious non challant attitude which are all seen by family members. Everybody keep talking about her but she's not changing. Although I have my own differences as well but she believe I can't control her. She's not submissive at all...I can say that over again and again.

Even while she's doing her masters, I was the one taking care of my daughter at home (thanks to covid)..in fact all my team members knows my daughter as my second colleague. I believe we all know how working from home with kids is like.

Please I need your advice. I am already thinking of divorce but the fear of loosing my daughter to her custody is my biggest challenge.

I am loosing my mind.

It is obvious your wife don't love you or she have spiritual problem, no sane wife will do anything to jeopardize her husbands job, it is best you involve her family, if it doesn't work then you should move out of the house for a while to see if your absence will format her brain. Divorce her if none of the above works, your daughter is your daughter, she will always be yours no matter what happens.

[quote author=Proudfather2022 post=109158644]We are based abroad.  I met my wife with two children from different fathers her youngest daughter was 1 years 6 months then , I also have a son back home and I have accepted her and her children like my own. This woman has helped me a lot in this country before I met her my life was upside down nothing was working for me in this country. They have rejected my request stay in the country and asked me to leave the country but if I am a citizen today it is thanks to my wife who has never gave up on me and I am grateful.

When I met her i knew her first child father was in the picture he have contact with the child and pay child maintainace but the second child father was absent , he have never met her , she knows me as her father and  I have adopted the child and named her after me. We are also blessed with two children together.

It was last year in May when she woke me up in the middle of the night and she said she has something to tell me , i listened to her carefully and she said actually her second child father has contacted her again and he want to have contact with the child after 8 years of being absent. I asked her what did she tell him,  she said nothing yet because she wanted to ask me first and hear my thoughts.

I've told her it's up to her to decide on what to do, I was against the decision but I didn't want to say my mind first , I wanted her to decide first  to see if she is grateful for me to be in the child life and she said she will ignore him and block him because he doesn't deserve to be in her life. I have told her I supported her decision

Unknowingly to me she contacted him and went with the children to meet him and the second time she and the child went alone to conduct the DNA test in June. She introduced him to her as her father and he have been calling her to speak with the child almost every week but I had no clue.


I find out tue truth when her friend who I hate so much she have been against our relationship from the onset , she advised my wife not to marry me because I was after her just for documents after receiving it I will dumped her and this is the same person that opened up to me and revealed all the secrets to me. She told me the guy name too.

I was heartbroken and u couldn't believe my ears but first I wanted to hear from the kids to confirm if it was true and I called both children and they have confirmed it to be true. My second daughter told me she has 2 daddy me and her biological father.

I asked my wife why has she suddenly changed her mind without informing me first even if she wanted him to see the child she should have at least informed me first so we will know the best way to for both of us to tell the child the truth and also discussed the best way to establish contact between the two instead of keeping me in the dark and I had to find out from other people. I even have accused her of sleeping with him but she has swear that she didn't sleep with him after everything he has done to her she can never try that again and she said the same friend that reported her to me was the one who advised her to give him a chance to be in the child life but she should not tell me and she also went ahead to seek advice from others people they advise her to give him the chance some of them said she should inform me and others said she shouldn't so she has  listened more to her friend and keep quiet. She apologised to me she said she will stop contact,  I told her to do as she pleases because she have shown me that I am not her father and have no right. I have told her I will concentrate on our two children together and for the other two I will mind my business she said I shouldn't because I am their father but ignored her.

Now she is been informing me about everything like if he call her she will tell me and show me the call log ,  if he send money she will tell me the amount which I am not interested I keep quiet  and last time she asked  for my permission if the child can visit her father next weekend. I've told her it's not my business she started it without informing me and she should carry on without me and do as she pleases while  I am busy concentrate on our two children and son back home . She started crying that I am being unfair to her and her children.

I have forgiven but the good vibe we had before won't be the same anymore because I feel like she betrayed me and I don't want to put mouth on things that doesn't concern me.

I am being unreasonable

Your wife's friend is the enemy coming between the two of you, that guy is the father of the lil girl and there's no way your wife can keep him away from his child, she made a mistake when she did not inform you before she brought both of them together but the did has been done, forgive your wife and let sleeping dogs lie, don't allow the plans of her evil friend succeed in your lives.