₦airaland Forum

All men and husbands, celebrity or not: protect your home, shield your wife and children from the public eye as best as you can. Timi Dakolo was not wise, his wife was and is not the only one who has passed through Fato, however, he always putting her in his videos and now her granting interview of rape was too much publicity. People, your fans etc may initially be impressed by your public display of love and fidelity to marriage, however people get tired of monotony, people are just scandal loving and love to say "en hen, I knew it nah" Timi Dakolo and wife should learn from this, seek counselling and support and avoid the public eye for now... He should use his creative profession to continue the fight...sing about it maybe...anything...just get his family out of the spotlight.

In a pending confrontation, the one who has more to lose will tend to be more cautious. A lot of people here, who were not born during the civil war,who had no elders to educate them on the realities of that war and who rely on inaccurate tales told by millenials of events, are no doubt misinformed and misguided.
If the late Ojukwu was asked to stage Biafra again, he would tell you, yes he would, but NOT IN IGBOLAND. His passion laudable at the time, was however shortsighted in terms of who had the most to lose. The Igbo lost GREATLY during that era, as a matter of fact majority of the igbos in the diaspora we celebrate today ( the Iguodalas, Ejiofors etc) are all descended from progenitors who were escaping the civil war. Those who could not escape abroad, migrated to other states, where they were warmly received. It is only unfortunate that the children of the Igbos who were allowed to start a new life in the Southwest after the civil war, are now the ones, wanting to cause commotions in order to take over land that was never, will never and can never be theirs.

Exactly what they want the ignorant to assume, when infact it is all scripted. All those who appeared on the Beyonce Disney soundtrack are all part of the NWO aka ill...ti. It subliminally lets us know Africa is not being left behind...how is this possible? One can simply count how many affiliated NWO artistes each has featured or collaborated with - Wizkid is leading. Each of them have a 'falling down' narrative ( a moral, social faux pas, scandal et ) that should tip them off grace to grass rather the opposite is the case, that is, more fame, popularity and wealth. To be a traveller, is in 2 ways: One is, to get invited to belong. Here they see something promising in you (Remember Jesus Christ had the devil show up after his first miracle) and surround you with innuendos and covert meanings...such that, you follow the "to be ONE, ask ONE" cum "FALL DOWN AND WORSHIP ME" path. It is no coincidence that Wizkid features this week in the midst of Babymama accusing him of Domestic violence. Davido belongs to the 2nd class group - those who desperately want to, either due to envy or to prove they are worthy...He's not being featured implies despite all he does to be noticed, he has not been asked to "come up here". Keep a tab on him, THE SHOW IS ABOUT TO BEGIN!!

Wisdom, they say is profitable when allowed to direct. Timi and Wife, have punched above their weight no doubt. It shows they were not properly guided... I can imagine a lawyer ripping them apart, should this go to trial:
Mr Dakolo, did you and your wife discuss your sexual history prior to your relationship and marriage? when did you become aware your wife was raped? Before or after you met her? How many years now? Were you her first boyfriend and would you say you met her 'sacred' on your first intercourse with her? Why, after all these years did you just decide to support your wife and go public? Did you list, consider or seek the closed door dialogue and resolution option before deciding the media was the right way to go? Has your wife ever lied to you? Have you ever lied to her??

I stopped believing all these celebrity drama since the 'Jussie Smollet MAGAcountry" episode. There are 3 sides to every matter: my truth, your truth and what really happened.

Pastor, may just have stepped up levels in the illuminati /freemasonry, this drama just being a part of the script...Mr Dakolo after singing about and putting madam in all the videos reckons, to retain the attention, best to raise the dead and whip sentiment... ijs... critically and objectively

When will you all realise it is a script. Not saying that they didnt happen but it is time for the next level for Biodun Fatoyinbo. The guy is a freemason and is stepping up as a 'traveller', a sort of promotion in rank. He is moving from first degree to second degree masonry. To the uninitiated, he did this, did that and must "STEP DOWN', blah blah... to those, who know and have seen this before, its the beginning of ANOTHER LEVEL. If in doubt, ask Magic Johnson (HIV), Michael Jordan (Basketball to Baseball, what was he thinking), Jay Z (Solange elevator assault), Kanye (Loss of his mother), 50cent (loss of his mum), OJ (prison sentence) Otedola (his son) etc
Even the scriptures attests to this:
Matthew 4:8-10 King James Version (KJV) says:
[center][/center]8 Again, the devil taketh him up into an exceeding high mountain, and sheweth him all the kingdoms of the world, and the glory [center][/center]of them;
[center][center]9 And saith unto him, All these things will I give thee, if thou wilt FALL DOWN and worship me.[/center]

Stay tuned and see... it is a step down for a step up
NB: I am not justifying his rape

As if our country does not have enough depressing things to worry about?

KKKWHITE:
Nothing good comes out from Nigerians who are living outside the country it's either they are fraudster, drug dealers , cultist and so on

I beg to disagree! There are we the 5percenters who soon as we could/can, we stripped ourselves/themselves squeaky clean of anything and everything naija/green. Nigeria and Nigerians, the most corrupt 'dont give a Bleep' group of blacks/people in the Universe...little wonder they are hated worldwide

1. Power
2. Positive vibes ( A good book, series, music, food, good company, Fifa 19/2k19)

1 is a key determinant of 2, but not in Naija o!

SaturnNick:
Why are you talking like a 3rd world citizen?

Bro, we know whats up? Are you saying our modern naija celebrities who lie as much as they blink, cannot stage this kind of hoax?

2. Ruggedman is a Lord, an ex of something ( I cant say what, for godssakes, I am not a member), we all know Lords are respected and cannot get touched like that, you price them, you pay?

Also, he gets jumped by supposed goons of a guy he moved to get locked up and ends up without a dent or scratch, even smiling with 5 0 right after...really ruggedman? Lets talk a walk back in time when 2face was jumped compared to this, nah, it just does not add up.

Ruggedman borrowing a leaf from the Jussie Smollett playbook...unless proven otherwise

I don believe this! Ruggedman you try gidi gan!! Since the whole Jussie Smollett "Jamal" staging shit up in Chi Town, we the viewers aint no longer falling for all that acting:
1. You were all by yourself? Who does that? Even nobodies roll in packs not you who be sabi man, from your days back in Lasu, and a celebrity too... where your groupies

2. You been in London, showing us where you at, what you re doing etcetera...

It just doesnt add up

Somebody pls tell me the wife's name is not Gladys? Looks like a lady we went to college together back in the day...

My dear needtolove,

I have read and cannot deny the pain in your post, and for what its worth, allow me to say I perceive, may not actually feel it, your pain. The pain to love and see your love unreturned and expressed to another, not only known to you but also flaunted condescendingly before your very eye. I equally acknowledge the powerlessness of having a baby to cope with in the face of such humiliation. First, I apologize to you and pray that this time too, like any other trials you have overcame in the past, will pass ; and that you will look back and appreciate the wisdom bestowed upon you from Heaven to prevail.

I will not say fight him/them, I will not say move out, simply because, the grass is not always green on the other side and also because, changes now are not only about and for you but also the baby. i would rather you focus on the task at hand - SURVIVAL! There is a time for everything under the sun, and now, is the time to survive, STRATEGICALLY! Your husband, like most men will argue, may be erroneously ( and perhaps due to a lack of communication how to) expressing the fact that he cannot ask you/ demand for sex (anyhow) at the frequency it was, before the baby. It may also be that the said lady is: more adventurous, is highly promiscuous and ready to do ANYTHING both reckless or 'slayworthy' to satisfy a need that a gazillion dicks cannot meet. It may also be that fate/the gods/God is testing you through the fire to reveal your true worth as a worthy partner. It has often been said two wrongs never made a right, your hubby is doing wrong, your doing wrong as well is not going to change him, rather it may make it hard for him to return when he has regained his senses. We all need good deeds and the reinforcement of good deeds to reproduce more good deeds. In the union of 2 people, no one external is going to be an angel for us to emulate if we cannot be the angel/role model to our hubby/spouses. Who knows if, you are not being called to model the example of what an ideal partner should be to your straying hubby.

Either way, may I plead with you to refocus, you went through the deep throes of death to birth a baby. No one and nothing after God but, a woman has been given the power to do that. Focus on you and your baby, avoid negative energy, it can be transferred to your baby. Refocus on you, revive things you used to enjoy doing, avoid sex with him, simply tell him:

i) do you want to raise a motherless child? or
ii.)do you want your (emphasize the Your) child to be an orphan,
iii.) who will look after your child if i fall ill or die from an STD etc

Have new and rekindle old friendships, fall in love with yourself again, start talking positive to yourself, " I am may not be many things, yet I decide who gets between these legs", " You (mention his name) in the secret place to the air, will come back and love ONLY me" etc... Make up and go out, engage in healthy relationships and in time you will see the change.

I leave you with this reality, we can change no one directly, but indirectly through how we model what we want them to do or be

Be blessed and please Needtolove is yesterday, your new name should be "Toolovedtobestressed"

Moral of the story! Watch your words, AJ had been saying a lot of ify ify statement " I am the world champion till June 1st..." blah blah, same mistake Ali did... Ruiz the Joshua Nemesis

The Yorubas would say " the eyes that functioned and served you well into your grey hairs, never failed you as a kid". You 're not even married yet, she cant keep her pants on. You say her folks were good to you, are you marrying her folks, or are they the ones who will be living with you? Look here, my friend, her folks are HER FOLKS, they will never be on your side, they conceal the fact their daughter is no good and use deception to hand her off to you - MY BROTHER DO NOT BE FOOLED. They do not care about you, they only care about your future that is bright - Her family are wicked and 're demons in human appearance aiming to dim your future and bring you down. My dear, forget her, avoid her with style and vamoose without looking back. I understand you may have been sleeping with her too, so please desist from doing so... if you decide to follow through, and marry her, you will be faced with calamities:
1. You will find out more and more of her sexcapades and feel like you married a leftover and will have your head bowed and will be miserable all your life.
2. She will compare you to all the dicks she has ever had
2. She will cheat on you again and again as reward for being too stupid to marry her in the first place, knowing fully well, that that, was her play from day one
3. Her folks will never take sides with you over her, especially when she cooks up all sorts of lies against you; and...
4. There begins a cycle of infidelity, polygamy and heartache
LASTLY BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY:
5. Your children will pay for something they did not buy - everyone we sleep with leave an imprint of their DNA with us, no matter how much we wash or abstain, this is why today, some kids just manifest a trait or behaviour never ever seen or heard of in the bloodline - a typical result of this is autism: when these strange dna mixes with one's own, the confusion will cause a dissonance manifest in what science calls Autism and no cure or scientific endeavour has been able to explain how...

My brother, pls, biko! a simple walk away can save destinies.

Do well and they will all (Afonja, Ipobs, Naijas, America etc) claim you. Coommit fraud, do ritual killings, commit crimes abroad and not even the mad man will say he knows you... Failure, shame is indeed an orphan.

Poverty is really the issue here. While we know how to get creative when it comes to managing the dimensions of poverty evident in our society, when it comes to a progressive upward mobility we simply lack the how to, and also suffer the consequences of not having progressive networks to help us better manage and understand our new level. Before the fateful day she was caught in that life transforming photo, she and the dude (like real couples) had their issues, issues they worked out, somehow...they were not perfect but they had an understanding... strange to outsiders but working for them... he, a whatever he did and she a bread seller... Now, they hammered and all of a sudden, they have irreconcilable differences, the serpent has enlightened, fingers are pointed and 'another one bites the dust'. When you make it, never lose sight of those who were real when you were nothing. You will know them when they still treat you like you were in the days of Jumoke oniburedi, telling you the truth, staying away temporarily to let you enjoy the limelight and pick up from where you left off as if fame never changed... Things could have not deteriorated, had there been a wealth of positive relationships to manage the devils inherent with their new level.

Congratulations Ms Buki Wright! May such a blessing go round to as many that are today not only dreaming but striving legitimately and legally to do such. The house built via saliva will fall with the 1st drop of the morning dew

Jolade getting ready to relocate her family go Canada... persecute the Government, they slam her with taxes, she cries persecution, she relocate go obodo oyinbo, as per International actress wey marry pilot, to find work no go hard... Celebrity fights Government, fans defend celebrity - either way fan wey no fit read between the lines na him dey lose

It is sad that Ethnic bias are being introduced into this matter. It begs the reason why "Nigeria" is still a country. Each group is quick to highlight their individual differences, call each other names, who did this, who did that...ignoring the fact that outside Nigeria all they know is not you re IGBO, she is Yoruba, they are Hausa, there is Niger-Delta, all they know is NIGERIAN. Only those who have interacted with each group individually, know there are extensive differences.

Secondly, prison is not meant or designed to be pleasurable, at least not in a 3rd world country. It is ideally, meant for the individual to pay their debt to society, serve as a place for moral reflection, appreciate freedom and turn a new leaf. However, we all know that is not the case. These prisons in Africa are better described as factories for churning out cadavers for medical students or for manure production.

Thirdly, a lot of our Ambassadors are simply political jobbers who are rewarded with ambassador for their membership of the ruling party. They dont know what the role is about, are surrounded by career diplomats(mainly diplomatically inept individuals) who dont care about how the country or its people are perceived and how they are portrayed.
An Ambassador is the caretaker of the country he represents reputation. They are meant to promote cordial relationships between their country and their host country. Finding out the problems and addressing them through consultation and intervention.

Now to Nigerians, Nigerians keep ruining their chances in the world through the atrocities they commit. Just as any blackman now commits crimes and claims being a Nigerian, so also some Nigerian victims of Nigerian to Nigerian atrocities are rapidly dissociating themselves from anything Nigerian (e.g. the lady who recently gained Canadian citizenship and said "...now to thrash this useless green thing..." (paraphrase). Nigerians no longer hold one another accountable, celebrating someone with no tangible endeavour yet churning out material possessions like they had one. Celebrities (Davido et al) lying about material possessions and the ignorant masses, hailing them... Politicians without minimum qualifications going to tribunals to reclaim mandates that should not have seen the light of day; Celebrities who stand up (Charly Boy) to start demanding accountability only to sit down after collecting money ... It is a shame... and very very sad... If we do not start from the danfo who will charge variant fees for the same route, the gas station who will hike prices to cause fuel scarcity, the tailor who sews your clothes and you refuse to pay; your son brings several women home and has sex with them and you say boys will be boys; your neighbor's daughter is seen with different men in different cars and you turn away... etc then you are part of the problem

I fear the future of our children, if we allow this continue

The problem with Nigeria is, People, whether rich, poor, in power, out of power; woman, man etc...DONT JUST GIVE A FLYING EFF! about anybody especially if money is not involved. It is a huge shame. The quest for a passport is seen by others as a sign of progress, hence, you either pay to leave the shithole or you pass through the eye of a needle to get it and do whatever you can when you do get out, to never ever return.

It is stories like this that make me never blame people who want to go abroad by all means. Nigeria's problems are all man made!!

Bro! Simple as Indomie. Ask him to start paying half the rent!

STOP WATCHING PORN!

Wike, give them the money now, let them sort their lives out. Once you leave power, it will be back to square one!

First of all, it is shocking when Nigerians hear the homicide of a fellow Nigerian and all some can do, is cast aspersions on the character of the dead. For chrissakes, this could have happened anywhere, a consolation being, it happened in the Bronx, a part of New York where the Police Department (notice the absence of the word, "Force" is not just a combination of English words but holds meaning and a guiding motto termed "Faithful to Death". If it was in Nigeria, the car would have been stolen too by so called passers by; Nigerian Police Force, would do nothing, only arrest innocent people to extort money from their families or implicate them for other unsolved crimes to which their Ogas at the top have demanded arrests to show they are working; While, a very sad development, one cannot but cite the opportunities in this incident:
1. If you drive uber, invest in Technology, I mean dash cams, inner cams etc; Build a gate between you and your passenger, such that you are reasonably protected, believe me, people are insane in the world.

2. Nigerian, watch your 6, always and all ways, anywhere and Everywhere. There is no black specie, so envied, so hated and ever so popular for the wrong reasons than Nigerians. (Notice I no say igbo, yoruba, Isoko, Delta etc, I say Naijairian (sic) Unfortunately Nigerians walk around like they own the place and that is why victimization is common.

3. If you can, pack some heat (legally or at the pawn shop). New York is not Lagos, you either eat or get eaten, its as simple as that. A concealed 9mm will stop a wannabe Samurai, long before he reaches your Jugular and spill your guts. Better to have one and act like one doesnt have one than for you to act like you do yet you're a sitting duck.

4. By all means, live anywhere in America, but biko, New York is far too dangerous to rely on "Sheeple Naija Faith style". There are far more less dangerous places in America

This is a case of misdirected aggression. If only he could use such tenacity on the politicians who daily climb political ladders to disconnect his future.

Nice try Bankole, Kudos! I hope you win and I hope all your vibing is not just talk like typical Nigerian politicians. Perhaps you havent noticed, some Nigerians are woke and past the usual talk about issues other than solutions! Your website is filled with a lot of "I will...", such that I was left with the impression Bankole must be under the illusion that true public office is like walking into his wardrobe and choosing any of his shoes at will... Bruh, you schooled and lived abroad, show it! Your website is void of ideas to back up all the "I will" you so chest beat about. As a young and 'exposed' person, I expected things like:
a.) my administration shall put this this and that in place to address this and that: how, currently research from the community says this this this
b.) Daily I pass through my constituency identifying problems, issues and opportunities; I consult with the people I want to serve, finding out how their community grown solutions have evolved and how they can be adopted and adapted in terms of efficiency and effectiveness;
c.) So far our funds have reached so so so amount, thanks to your contributions. The daily update of donations is on our website, to promote accountability something we tend to not only talk the talk now but walk it when we win;our team is comprised of volunteers and paid employees - I say team cause no great feat was ever accomplished without the input of a great team...

Sadly, I am starting to draw parallels with the tactics and shenanigans of our old politicians, only that now it is wearing a fresh face

Yeah right!
Here we go again trying to take the structure and not the ideology. The American National Guard are part time soldiers, who get deployed too and expect to report for drills monthly - these keeps them sharp and ready should their unit be up for deployment. They undergo military nasic training just like combat officers such that whether internal or external, the mission, to destroy every enemy is never in doubt. The ideology is National loyalty, the protection and upholding of American sovereignty and AMERICAN VALUES.

What is the Nigerian value or values. What, outside soccer or sports unifies us and stirs us to fight and even die for Nigeria? Materialism, ethnocentricsm, racism, religious bigotry, name it.

What Nigeria needs is a reorientation of values. Dignity in labour, selfless service to self, community and country; an overhaul of the current materialistic culture to one where a man's life is not the sum of material possessions but the content of his character. A massive media campaign for every Nigerian on moral instruction and proper civil behaviour.

This can be done via the NYSC not as it is set up now but lowering the eligibility. Currently you get to serve only after completing a degree or HND. Now, back in the day, when the NYSC was established, the population of graduates finishing college were not overwhelming neither were strikes crippling as they are today. Graduates were younger, values were more noble, benefits of the service were both tangible and intangible. Times have changed, yet the structure is obsolete. Today, by the time a graduate gets to serve, they are lucky to be in their early 20s, majority are in their mid 20s to late 20s and are already set in their ways.

While open to review, I suggest, bearing in mind youth starts from 12 say 13. When a young person completes the Junior, senior WAEC in June, rather than idle away till their results come out, let there be an option to complete some if not all aspects of the Youth Service orientation. These youth are still malleable at that point and, a national orientation cum consciousness can be imbibed and precious time saved compared to the waste of time and life we have nowadays.

Also media wise, communication is critical. No more overview but details, the nitty gritty: we are going to do A. Step 1: between so and so time frame, we will do a, b, c, d. Your goal and objective should not be shrouded in mystery where people do not have a clear cut description of what you re doing and how you gon do it

Thank you Dr Reno. This is the beginning of accountability and National responsibility. Once you voted for an administration and they succeed, the responsibility of not only writing down their campaign promises but also to follow up on each one meticulously. Politicians lie because they can but moreso because we the electorate, distracted by their win, get caught up in their veil of criticisms of the last government such that, we blame the penultimate (PDP) administration for APC underperformance.
Nigerians at home, Chinyere in the East, Mamman in Kano, Femi in Akure, Ebi in Bayelsa, now is the time to take into record and report (via Facebook, social media etc) if this administration deserve a 2nd term, if the incumbent needs to be changed for somebody else within the APC to run.

Roy Emmanuel, being a bodyguard to a celebrity is cool but being sent to pay bills Is that stated in your job description? Also, you aint got no goons who got your back, to 'ride' when shit hits the fan?
Bro. In Nigeria do things anyhow and you get taken out ANYHOW! get yourself a lawyer bruh, draw up a contract, get you some life insurance, cause in your line of work in the SHITHOLE of all shitholes we live in, its easy to "get zipped up in plastic, cuz, when it happens, THATS IT!"

Anger influenced fighting is a form of insanity. Imagine what their reactions would be, were they not angry, and someone attempted or threatened to push them into such a gutter....but the blinding and mental degrading nature of anger led to fight anywhere anything but human display... such a pity

As a sociologist, there are a lot of issues here: first of, the majority of such asylum seekers have experienced trends, prior to the PMB/APC era, assylum seekers to Canada were majorly blacks from the Caribbean. These include Jamaicans, Guyanese, etc. Nigerians were not as much. However with the introduction of APC the influx of Nigerians steeped from 2 out of 10 blacks to 7 out of 10. This begs the question why the increase in Nigerians. This is attributed to 2 major things: Word of Mouth and Economic downturn. In the case of the former, those who had successfully gone through the route, started to spread the news, devising founded and unfounded ways to work the process. For the latter, that is the Economic downturn, the Nigerian human condition, while not directly caused by PMB or GEJ, one cannot but conclude that, it continues to deteriorate with each successive Government / President and their media hyped mantra of CHANGE! The economic situation in the country is now so bad that the pitbull of economic downturn, that is poverty (the absence of the material and immaterial virtues critical to progressive human development) is visibly evident. For instance, yesterday on this platform, a driver fought another human being in a flooded man sized hole over A CAR SCRATCH;

2.) A dancing politician perhaps emboldened by a President who has no tangible evidence of the minimum qualifications to be President, comes from nowhere, armed with only his dancing shoes becomes a senator and aspires to be Governor with no background of experience in personal leadership ( i mean, how can anyone finish high school with such a result).

3.) Yahoo and yahoo plus on the increase (some eating feces to get rich);

4.) Full grown men sexually defiling children on a regular basis,

5.) Ritual killings and practices grows steadily;

6.) Inflation and incessant hiking of prices,
7.) A surge of herdsmen armed with semi automatics who value the life of their cows more than the lives of human beings;
8.) The misappropriation of Power by Government and eve those with thread like connection to someone in power.

The problem with Nigeria is in the fact that we all have no idea of decent living. We have become so oppressed internally that we know not how to live any other way. We cannot Live and let others live too. The average Nigerian truly DOES NOT GIVE A FLYING EFF what happens to his Neighbour. As long as the neighbor is not getting in the way of his personal progress, then all is good.

Now, a lot of respondents here who assumed majority are all Nigerians, and are quick to wail deportation. If Nigeria has not improved with the absence of these assylum seekers, what makes you think things will get better when they are repatriated?

Thirdly and perhaps fodder for thought is: a covertly racist country (Yes, Canada as with Nigeria, USA, etc are full of racist bigots) keeps its borders open, allows both desirables and undesirables in, gives them work(in order to be taxed)provides them an opportunity to integrate (via jobs their people cannot and will not do), granting them access to credit cards & material accumulation, free education for children etc will now, after settling such assylum seekers down, deport them? The answer is no. At the very worst, the wheat would be seperated from the chaff, the wheat (desirable ones) ploughed back into the system and the chaff returned to where they came from as requested by the "pro-deport" activists here on NL

Is it Photoshop or is Ambode looking trim? Nice suit though