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Inspinia:
I no longer know what to do. We have been together for 8 months and I want to marry her quickly. I have my reasons. She has been my childhood crush for years and now that she gave me a chance I don't want it to slip away. Many guys flock around her so before one asks her to marry him I had to do it first. And she is very responsible and definitely not a fling.

But I have problems with her aggression. A little thing she picks an issue with it and starts dishing out hurtful words to me. I always try to apologise and make her happy even when she is wrong not me just so she will be calm. It was working before now it no longer works. Whenever I try to make her happy she gets more angry and tell me I'm trying to patronise her. If I take her out on shopping she will be so angry that I'm trying to buy her with money that I don't love her.

My fellow brothers, what do I do? There was a day I had to invite my sister to come talk to her as woman to woman talk this lady pulled the belt on her jeans and began to assault my sister I'm grateful to God that I was there even my left eye is still bruised wth the way she hit me too that day. And the worst of it all is everytime she gets more angry and more violent.

I threatened to call off the wedding thinking it will make her rethink but it didn't instead she got angry that day and pushed me against the wall. God saved me beause if there was knife or bottle around that day with the way she was angry sh could have used any on me.

Please I need assistance from matured minds. I love her so much that I don't want to call off the wedding I want her to be wife but her aggression is too much. She get angry easily. She outrightly told me no sex till marriage and I can't do anything about because she seems stronger than I am (Yes she works out alot. Perhaps because she is a model or so i don't know)

I need help.

Johnrake69:
My brother just make a will. Cos your next of kin cant have access to your estate without a will or letter of administration from the probate office. And going through probate means the government will own a significant portion of your estate And not to talk of the stress your family will go through.

onoslove:
Was listening to this programme on air on Saturday. And so many callers called in naming who their next of kin will be with reasons .And there was this hated argument in the circle where I was on who to make your next of kin. This is a very good topical issue, and I decided to bring it to Nairaland, so that we can debate and also get to learn who our next of kin should be with very valid reasons. Will appreciate if the Mod can push it to front page so that this topic can get a wide view.

refiner:
Nairalanders help me praise this awesome God for his mercy towards me!

yesterday...been Saturday,I planned to travel to anambra state university igbariam! to know how everything is going on there concerning jamb!... and to know how much it will cost me when I finally will be going there on 11th to sit for my jamb!....


I boarded a bus that morning by 11am....d bus zoomed off by 11:15...buh as we were moving,the driver was driving with reckless abandon!...he almost hit a car twice!...and after shouting at him,he cooled down then after some minutes,he starts his reckless driving!....I was very much afraid,so I decided to step down!....buh d conductor refused to refund my money,so this discouraged others that are willing to step down from stepping down!...
Hi Refiner, appreciate God. You still have His Spirit and Love so much alive in you. God will continue to keep you and the enemies will continue to miss the target over your life. Amen.


when I came down,I stood by d roadside...was difficult to get another bus cos most of d buses that passed bye was filled up!....but I patiently waited for about 30 minutes!....then finally I saw a bus DAT was half filled and boarded it and glory be to God he was an aged man and he drives slowly!...at least my heart was finally at peace!


then on our way....u can't believe wat I saw!..I saw the bus I boarded at first been involved in an accident with a golf!...it was really an eye sore!...most of the passengers there were injured...I was really shocked!...cries and shouts of pain....I felt pity and cried!....I was unable to take picture cos I did not have the heart!...in fact I was seriously weak!....buh all the same I thank God for no life was lost... wishing them a safe recovery!!!what if I was involved,I might miss this year's jamb!.....


lesson learnt!:please do step down when you notice you just boarded a reckless driver's bus!....LIFE IS PRECIOUS!!!


PS:..unfortunately there was no jamb conducted in the school yesterday!

Europija:
Hello all ..I have been with my bf for 5 years and he was really broke n had alot stress...he hit me once in my face n threw me out of house in middle of night...should i forgive him??

makzeze:
There is reported explosion at Millennium Plaza opposite NNPC Towers in Central Area of Abuja. The Plaza houses Punch Newspapers, Zenith and Skye Banks and various offices.

The Plaza is presently on fire and people are running in different directions to escape the inferno.
Details are still sketchy of what caused the explosion or casualty figure as the time of filing in this report.

Details coming

http://thestreetjournal.org/2016/02/breaking-explosion-in-millennium-plaza-in-abuja/

x9ja1960:
OP I think we should mind the caption of our threads. "Explosion" in Abuja can easily send the wrong message when what we have here seems like a fire incident. We just have to manage a little positivity in this chaos we are trapped in...

yemi16:
Ojolu...thanks...i appreciate!!...and to be more specific...i stay in Ibadan..

ammyluv2002:
Yemi16, i get your point. I know, we(women) can be annoying sometimes. I'm not in support of the way she goes about it, she shouldn't stop you from helping your blood, but there are few things ,i would want you to know;

1) The first five years of marriage is usually very difficult. This period, a lot of things happen and if you guys aren't careful, those stuffs can lead to divorce.

2) I think, you guys lack serious communication. why would you decide to give out those old electronics to your brother without communicating with your wife? I mean, who wouldn't panic? if you had communicated with her then this wouldn't have happened. In marriage, decision taking should come from both parties. don't play "the man" card in your home. Seriously, i think you owe her an apology for not telling her of your plans. Its a simple logic, it should have been like this "Dear, since we are moving, i think it would make sense if we get new set of electronics so i can give the old ones to bros" This is understandable! No woman will say no to this, we love new things.

In order for peace to reign let her know, you re sorry! then make it clear that you will continue to help your brother till he gets a job. She's your wife and i think, you owe her that explanation. Don't assume she understands, carry her along. Act like you really need her opinion.

rickkychidex111:
meaning what? Oga make u mind d way u address pple ok. will i stay glued to my phone 24/7 ? or do u take me to be a jobless person? i consider that a rude approach. As if u called me up to 10 miss calls. Only 2 missed calls that all......u now came here to write anyhow. U better watch it.

kilokeys:
As the arts is not paying the bills nko..

If u are looking for dem.. Check the banks..

Speechless3:
Ordinary topless You for stay for your papa house na.

heywhytech1:
Time To Pick Between Goverment Job And Firm

Nairalanda your advice is highly require in my case. I am currently working with a consulting firm here in Lagos, with no leave, no allowance but the salary make sense. Late last year I just decided I need to leave the place because I see no future there, I began to attend interview for other job, also told a family friend that is a politician that I need job. Last week Sunday the family friend called that she has secured employment for me with a state government in* (One of North central state)
Immediate I began to make enquiry about the salary, from my enquiry I was made to understand is around 34k when I am currently earning multiples of that. My parents are advising me to take up the offer and resigned in my place of work, please Nairalanda should I? I was called today to come and take appointment letter on Monday.

nasiest:
No be the mumu graduates wey go for the stupid intenship program

Booyakasha:
How did he get lost?? careless parents... nonsense...

Miggs:
oga let them be.all of them including the men are victims of social engineering being spread globally by the western left wing.i have never seen,heard or read any research of any man who enters a room and starts beating up a woman for no justifiable reason.women are ever reliable to stoke the fire and start playing the victims when things go awry.u wanna misbehave and get away with it?not on my watch women.i will use the thunder and lightning of Sango to strike u down.u will regret the day ur mama born u

fowlyansh181:
did you care to ask what she does before getting hit?