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In attempt to shore up foreign investment, President Muhammadu Buhari has been doing a marvelous job shuttling outside Nigeria to salvage our battered image. But his tireless efforts will amount to naught if the government is seen as promoting shady schemes targeted against expatriates inside the country. Moreover, the president made the appreciation of the naira a campaign issue.

Section 20 of the CBN Act of 2007 clearly states that the Naira “shall be legal tender in Nigeria at their face value for the payment of any amount.” Yet this law has meant nothing to many Nigerian businesses which commonly reject the naira in preference to the US dollar. But these businesses are not alone. The Nigerian government is also guilty of the same charge. Perhaps this practice is not new by any stretch of the mind and far predates the current Buhari government, but an eye-witness account below exposes a specious dynamic.

Ikenga, a fellow Nigerian citizen resident in Houston, Texas, is a researcher on an international Oil and Gas project. Not long ago, the funding group voted to cite its multimillion dollar project in Africa, and Ikenga passionately lobbied for a Nigerian destination. Along with three expatriates, he entered Nigeria this March to explore the project feasibility. Ikenga had arrived Nigeria with his Nigerian passport and planned to travel back into the US with his American passport since he is a dual citizen.

On departure back to the United States, he was informed by the officials of United Airlines that he could not travel because his Nigerian passport had expired a month before. Ikenga was told that such cases typically require a $200 Nigerian visa in order to travel back to the United States of America. Yes, a Nigerian visa to travel to the USA! If you have a problem connecting the dots, please you are quite in order… Be that as it may, the manager at the United Airlines, Mrs. Sue Gongul, was kind to intervene with uncommon leadership, untangling the quagmire with candour, and finally stating that the Nigerian Visa charge is usually waived if the passenger could show any proof of having paid for Nigerian passport renewal fees anywhere.

The emergent problem is that when Ikenga requested to make the payment with the naira equivalent of the $200, he was told point-blank by Mrs. Dibi that the NIS—a primary agency of the Federal Government of Nigeria—does not honour the local currency for the service being rendered. In Dibi’s words, “Go and ask anywhere; we do not accept naira for visa fees.” In other words, though Ikenga had the Nigeria’s currency to tender, a comptroller of the nation’s Immigration Service encouraged him to employ the services of the illegal “Black Market” to change the naira into dollar.

Ikenga quickly explained that he had indeed paid the e-passport renewal fees of $106, but it was not processed before his trip due to another bizarre experience very deserving of another perplexing thesis. In any case, he was advised to authenticate the receipt at the Nigerian Immigration Service (NIS) office at the Murtala Muhammed International Airport (MMA) Lagos.

Now at the NIS desk, Ikenga’s predicament seemed not to matter to Mrs. C. A. Dibi, the Comptroller of Immigration on duty at the airport on March 22, 2016. Mrs. Dibi wasted no time to insist that the $200 must be paid regardless. Having missed his flight a night before due to a heavy Lagos traffic provoked by long queues at fuel stations, Ikenga simply accepted to pay the charge—even if that could finally enable his traveling project team to say ‘bye-bye to Nigeria’. But this piece would not have made it to the reading media if the payment or the amount was still the problem.

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The emergent problem is that when Ikenga requested to make the payment with the naira equivalent of the $200, he was told point-blank by Mrs. Dibi that the NIS—a primary agency of the Federal Government of Nigeria—does not honour the local currency for the service being rendered. In Dibi’s words, “Go and ask anywhere; we do not accept naira for visa fees.” In other words, though Ikenga had the Nigeria’s currency to tender, a comptroller of the nation’s Immigration Service encouraged him to employ the services of the illegal “Black Market” to change the naira into dollar. Obviously dazed, Ikenga grudgingly made the payment after buying the foreign dollar at the illegal rate of N323 instead of the naira equivalent at the official rate of N198. Ikenga’s view of Nigeria since then, including any notion of attracting foreign investment to his beloved native country, is better imagined than written.

The whole scheme is penny-wise, pound-foolish for Nigeria and ought to stop henceforth. While plucking dollars by hook or crook from expatriates or diaspora-based Nigerians may appear superficially attractive, the illicit pattern does nothing but continually weaken the local currency, since there has been an ocean of naira competing for the few dollars in the marketplace.

The whole scheme is pennywise, pound-foolish for Nigeria and ought to stop henceforth. While plucking dollars by hook or crook from expatriates or diaspora-based Nigerians may appear superficially attractive, the illicit pattern does nothing but continually weaken the local currency, since there has been an ocean of naira competing for the few dollars in the marketplace. Even worse, the pattern not only typifies endemic corruption, it also serves as an echo chamber for Nigeria’s shady image.

In attempt to shore up foreign investment, President Muhammadu Buhari has been doing a marvelous job shuttling outside Nigeria to salvage our battered image. But his tireless efforts will amount to naught if the government is seen as promoting shady schemes targeted against expatriates inside the country. Moreover, the president made the appreciation of the naira a campaign issue. Though he is understandably still blurred by the dizzying economic blues from the immediate past regime, any hope for the International Monetary Systems to appreciate the very naira without the desired example by Nigerian government agencies is sheer wishful thinking.

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The problem with an average Nigerian is the that words like "International,Foreign, multinationals" means authentic and correct view of things. This report remind me of the pieces(thrashs) written recently by The Herald newspaper of UK on the present war on corruption and the Economist on naira devaluation. The disconnect with reality is far too obvious. Shagari Regime of 1979-1983 is one of the most corrupt government in the world and in the history of the nation. According to my Father who was a public servant as at then and a public analyst, There was free flow of money among the elites so much that a black economy was created alongside the main economy. Drug peddling and other illicit activities were being carried out by people in government until Idiagbon/Buhari Junta came on board to start a sanitization war which swept through the whole land and send ripple across the international community. Like now, Corruption fought back and in form of a sponsored coup by the aggrieved persons in both military and civilian communities. The government was successful sacked in 1985. And since then, what happened and still happening have been an ongoing war between corruption and the progress of the nation. I don't want to go into history but i hate when some idiots from some maggot nations with loop-sided and half- baked journalism come into our polity to distort history and create this type of fallacy written here.

Lovexme:
No real man will beat up his wife just 'cos she's becoming successful.


No matter the level of success a woman attains, she should always submit to her husband. Make him still feel like the head, like he's in control, else a similar image would be the outcome.

Men have got egos, so don't rub it in when you've 'arrived'.

I like your contribution. Let me also point out this that "whenever you have got to the point where you have to forcefully demand respect, you don't deserve it". Real men aren't wife beaters! When you beat a woman to subdue or silence her, you are actually telling her she's married a lord and a beast together. And in return, your peace will fly out of the window.
There are better way of treating Bleep ups, not bodily damages like this one. Just saying.
@Op, tread carefully. Arresting and locking the man up without finding the root cause of this will only help to aggravate the problem rather than solve it. We don't want to come and read an update story of how a man kill his wife out of Jealousy( this is not impossible, especially if he had done the damages pictured above). I will appreciate if you can get the woman to confide in you and be objective in the solution you will profer.

#GodblessNigeria.

[quote author=lionlee216 post=44595024]I will like to comment on this.. Using "ours" as example, Ibadan to be precise, i have two buildings(one bulding has 2 flats of 4 bedrooms). I did the window casement for N230,000.

I have forgotten the plumbing and the electrical works[/quote
In Ibadan right? I am doing casement of a three bedroom bungalow for 246,000. Protector for 90,000. so your price is fair, depending on negotiation.

Today is a memorable day and landmark sunday for me. Marking a year anniversary of a close shave with death. Exactly a year ago(second sunday of April,2015) I was involved in a serious car accident in at Lokoja en route Abuja from Ibadan. I was the lone occupant of the vehicle which was a complete write off. How I survived and without the least injury still remain a mystery and a miracle to me and everyone that saw the extent of the damage of the car or the pictures of the scap that the car became. Anyway, that I am alive, driving another car and still looking at my pretty wife and wonderful kids gave me a whole lot to be thankful for today.
So I went to church with a heart of gratitude and was opened and expectant all through. After two wonderful ministrations from the choirs, and a very unique special number from a member whose parents' marriage clock 40years today, the Man of God mounted the pulpit. As usual, in spite of the church being in a mega city and also an orthodox church, the sermon is always rich and enriching, and I was not disappointed. The pastor, preaching on "making our days count" and from Psalm 90, listed four key things that will help us to number our days and make them count. They are:
1. To always acknowledge the greatness of God.
2. To always acknowledge the weakness of man.
3. To acknowledge the sinfulness of man.
4. To always believe, confess, affirm and acknowledge that Our God is a compassionate God.
Quoting from psalm 90, My Pastor made us to know that without living our lives in the knowledge of the aforementioned key points, making our days count will be difficult. He emphasised on not living our lives as if we do not have a relationship with God or knowledge of God and salvation experience. I was really blessed and I know my week is blessed already. What about you?

missyadorable:
This is what fits some of you guys

If your pen.is and hormones were working properly,by now you would be on nairaland bragging about your sexual exploits with hoes and bitch.es

Or be a baby daddy,impregnate girls and deny

Honestly,i dont pity you.

I can't believe I am reading this from a sane human being. Can't you keep your thought to yourself if you don't know what to say instead of vomiting this thrash? Haba!

brag3:
Number 5 is my best. anytime I hear any figure mentioned i start to calculate how many cements that an buy for me ...

me too bro. Common 10k be like, how many blocks?

lebroske:
Dear nairalanders, please i need your advice on what to do. My wife had been seducing men in the compound where we live lately. We are just newly married, less than a year now. We live in a story building and the windows are made in glasses. One could easily see through them especially in the night. So, what she does is each time she finishes taking her birth, she exposes her body knowing quit well that men around can see her through the window. She does it in the morning, during the day when she notices that i am not around and in the night.

The day i discovered, i confronted her, she said it was her body that it was not none of my business. Though we were quarreling before then. But i knew that was not the first time, she has been doing it before because each time i open the windows in the morning, i always notice that people(men) will just be looking towards my direction. I kept wondering what they were looking at until the day i discovered.

Dear nairalanders, what can i do to make her stop it. Because its getting out of hand. Now she hides and do it and she knows i am not happy with her now.
Great nairalanders, please i need your advice. Thank you

Yoruba ni " nkan ti eniyan o ba ni gba ni olowo, talika lo ma ti nko" meaning what you will not you will not condone as rich man, you have to start rejecting it when you are still poor. Another proverb says" ila ki ga Ju onire lo" meaning a subject can not be superior to the ruler. Husband are supposed to head s home, I know the feminist are actually coming for me very fast, but truth be told, in a home(ideally) the man is the Lord and master. If your newly married wife is telling you her body is her business, you are probably in a wrong "ship" bro. The ship will soon run aground. you need to either:
1. Talk sense into her now and pray with her for a change, work with her for this change, because she is either low on self esteem or high on something.
2. Be ready to lose her. Sooner or later, some of these guys will develop the gut to ask her for what she is advertising. There is a limit to which a woman can resist such pressure, especially one that is obviously craving for attention.
Just pray you are not married to a dog.
Finally brother, you said you are having misunderstanding. Can I ask a germane question? How good is your sex life? How virile are you? When a woman crave for attention of this nature, maybe she is not getting what she is use to from you the right source and thereby seeking for alternatives. You also need to check yourself.
If she fail to change after you have spoken with her, please be ready to let her go. If not, you will soon be the laughing stock of the neighbourhood. And you may be lucky not to father bastards or get infected with STDs. Best of luck guy.

Check the point of Purchase, point of registration, The Mechanic and Rewire that work on the car since you bought it,your immediate environment, friends and family. The circle will not exceed these people. I have been a victim so i know.

WRITING this, my third article on the economy, I’m keenly aware that the question Nigerians want answered is: what is government doing to address our economic challenges? The first thing to state is that there are no quick fixes, but our strategy is clear and the expected outcomes are pretty compelling. Our immediate economic imperative is to provide a Keynesian stimulus to reflate the economy. The 2016 focus is underpinned by a desire to radically reposition Nigeria’s economy. This administration believes very strongly that the previous direction was far from optimal. We are pursuing a fresh direction consistent with our belief in building a resilient economy. The strategy itself is worth reiterating. The 2016 Budget is being debt funded and the borrowings are targeted at the financing of capital projects to address the infrastructure deficit, create jobs and build the platform for optimisation of the non-oil economy that will see Nigeria prosper. To this end, we have commenced an aggressive programme of fiscal housekeeping: increasing revenues and reducing recurrent expenses. This will ensure that we move towards our objective of financing recurrent expenditure from revenue, rather than borrowing as obtained before now. In addition, we have signalled through our financial decisions that we are moving away from oil. Government investment in oil will be limited. We are inviting private sector participation in the funding of cash calls for our Joint Ventures rather than tapping the Federation Account. This is guaranteed to improve our cash flow. As I have stated previously, oil is important but oil is not enough. Therefore, if faced with an option to invest borrowed funds in our railways or power or fund oil cash calls, we will strategically fund non-oil. This is in the knowledge that there are private sector solutions to the funding needed for oil, but few sources other than government for investment in physical infrastructure. The debate about whether Nigeria should borrow is well intentioned and cannot be dismissed without careful analysis, given our antecedents as a nation. I am in agreement with those who argue that Nigeria should not borrow simply because its debt to GDP level is low enough to accommodate such borrowing. There must be a clear business case backed by justifiable benefits. I believe that Nigeria has such a case at the present time. Simply put, we need capital investment to grow our economy. At 13% debt to GDP, we compare favourably with the threshold of 30% for developing economies. Our low debt to GDP ratio is not exactly a positive attainment because it is accompanied by critically low level of infrastructure investment. It is actually a false economy. Low capital formation is a risk which, if uncorrected, hinders future economic growth and this is already evident. Borrowing, as we propose, will increase debt to GDP to 16% and still leave us significantly lower than our peer group including Ghana at 70%, South Africa at 50% (2015) and Angola at 31% (2014). Appropriate levels of fiscal deficit have been used to grow many of the most successful global economies. Economic multiplier effect As ours develops, our sources of revenue will grow, diversify, and become less susceptible to external shocks. Our need to borrow will reduce accordingly. It’s important to note that capital spending creates an asset, and this gives a return over time in the form of growth. Infrastructural projects such as rail and roads create jobs, generate taxes and stimulate further spending. This is the economic multiplier effect that capital spending brings. Therefore, while an increase in public spending may create a deficit in the short term, the resultant increase in productivity will lead to a higher rate of economic growth and greater tax revenues. According to the International Finance Corporation (IFC), for every one billion US dollars invested in infrastructure in developing economies, between 49,000 and 110,000 jobs are created. Our borrowing policy will remain conservative and will see us access the lowest available funds, hence our decision to approach multilateral agencies in the first instance, for budget support at concessional rates as low as 1.5% per annum. We have also secured commitments from Export Credit Agencies that are tied to specific capital projects including key initiatives in power, transport and other infrastructure, and at semi-concessional rates. The balance will be sourced commercially to create a blended cost of capital that’s as low as possible. We are addressing the relatively high debt service to revenue ratio which saw 28.1% of our 2015 revenues devoted to debt. This will be done through a systematic restructuring of inherited debt portfolio into a profile that is aligned with our medium term outlook as well as an increase in our revenues. Borrowing is not our primary focus. Increasing our Internally Generated Revenue is critical because it is sustainable; and because much of the funds collected went unremitted to Government – something we are tackling now. Revenue collection processes Our Revenue Team holds daily revenue sessions with MDAs during which clear targets are set and agreed; monitoring and evaluation are continuous. We are deploying cash-less revenue collection processes in our high earning agencies to ensure maximisation of our receipts. We are working through Treasury Single Account balances with a view to identifying monies that can potentially be used to fund the budget and reduce borrowing. Other costly leakages are being blocked. We have completed a detailed review of tax and duty waivers and discovered that in some cases, Nigeria lost significant revenues and with limited benefits. We are set to begin consultations with stakeholders on a revised policy aligned with the best interests of Nigeria. Furthermore, we are identifying funds that can be released from hitherto untapped sources, including idle and underutilised government assets that have commercial potential including real estate. To this end, Ministry of Finance Incorporated (MOFI) is to become a professionally operated Asset Manager, rather than a passive holder of government assets. It will be actively managed to ‘sweat’ Nigeria’s very valuable global asset portfolio. This will generate earnings and constitute additional budget funding. Gradually and with the requisite safeguards, we will authorise the investment of part of the estimated N6Tn currently held in pension funds into key infrastructure that will provide workers with higher returns on their pension funds while enhancing capital formation and economic growth. Nigeria’s first ever Project Tied Infrastructure Bonds are being designed. These are novel structures that will see borrowings tied to specific revenue generating projects, bringing private sector financial discipline to the project structuring and delivery process, thereby improving value. Our first quarter-planned release of N350Bn is ready and is sure to have significant impact, in addition to exploring opportunities to reduce contract prices. Our conditions for release of funds are clear and the mandate is a simple one: to define and agree the number of Nigerians to be engaged as a result of this funding. Priority will be given, without apology, to those creating jobs and opportunity for Nigerians. This level of investment, predominantly capital, exceeds the total capital spend for the whole of 2015 and the tempo will be sustained until the green shoots of recovery begin to appear. John Maynard Keynes’ famous quote on fiscal stimulus – that when economies are depressed, “Government should pay one man to dig a hole and pay another to fill it back” – is an extreme example and suggests an economic benefit in seemingly pointless activity. In Nigeria’s case, the activity to be triggered will be a fully productive one. We will pay men and women to meet our critical needs in power, transport, housing, agriculture, solid minerals, health and education – and lay the foundation for a collective future that is more positive than our current situation may suggest. One of Nigeria’s greatest strengths is the resilience of her people. Even beyond our shores it is widely acknowledged that if you can survive in Nigeria, you can thrive anywhere. Our ability to overcome obstacles and our ingenuity in exploiting opportunities, are legendary; our economic policy will ensure more of us succeed in creating wealth. Sufficient diversity There is sufficient diversity of opportunity which our capital investment can unlock. We will always celebrate the emergence of billionaires, of course, but we recognise that a thousand millionaires have greater fiscal impact. Therefore, where the number of private jets was touted in the past as a measure of success, we will take pride in the number of people lifted out of poverty, and the number of new jobs created. The idea that Nigeria can succeed this time is, for some, unthinkable. But for those of us privileged to be part of this determinedly patriotic team led by President Muhammadu Buhari, it is and will be possible. Mrs. Kemi Adeosun is the Minister of Finance

Read more at: http://www.vanguardngr.com/2016/04/financing-future-kemi-adeosun/?

BoiledHead:
Yeah, so today is my bday. And I was waiting for my gf to arrive so I can rant and blast her for not wishing me hbd since morning.

She just came back about an hour ago and wished me a happy birthday with this cool gift. She knows I like glasses/shades alot as it's the major part of my sense of fashion. She got this Lacoste from MrPrice Mall @ 12k for me. I hope she is not into something that's not legit.

hmmm, things we do for love. you should not have spilled out your doubt on this page guy. 12k shade means she is into something illeg?

uchwar1:
Noted! Forgive my temperament

Thank you. I appreciate. I agree that demand creates its own supply. The scarcity of petroleum product actually create the demand for black market. A very sad situation indeed. An average Nigerian thinks of opportunity in every situation not minding the implication on the common goal or aspiration of the country. One day we will get it right. GEJ wanted to do the right thing too, but he could not do it alone because the CABAL found away of fostering their stooges on him. These stooges were more loyal to these cabals than to GEJ and the masses of Nigeria. We are moving towards this same point now. The masses are suffering because the CABALS want to continue to have a field day and the same cabal were in PDP and they are now in APC.
The two Parties are full of these recycle individuals and group who only nurse their pockets and that of their unborn generations rather than what will make me and you feel better.
Like i said, I am watching the government and i am praying seriously for the masses. One day, It will surely and truly be "a government of the people, by the people and FOR THE PEOPLE".

uchwar1:
Zombie, is this all u have? The lie is not well constructed. Pls consult Lie Mohm'd

Guy,
please you can help yourself and read my contributions on NL. I am not a politician. I only stated my observations and understanding of a hydra headed problem bedeviling the country presently . I rather pray for the masses and watch the politicians.

I have not bought fuel beyond 86.5 per litre although not without stress. And i only buy the quantity that will fill my tank and run my car. People are responsible for the scarcity. Fuel stations dispense from a single nozzle, over buying and black market. Most of the cab guys in Abuja now buy fuel and go and sell at between 250 and 300 per litre. Then they go back and queue for another round, making easy money without suffering. The Okada guys are also involved. Selling 10 litres from their bikes for 2800 to 3000 then go back to queue. Abuja fuel palaver is a different ball game. Just siddon and look.

I cannot stop laughing at the OP oh. You need to check yourself. The guy is real.

Onegai:
They're fixing drains around us and this has driven mosquitoes into the house. That has made us take the decision to keep our baby in our small bed whilst we hurriedly got a mosquito net. I am currently "ignoring" him. He has not died and I have scheduled "shenanigans" for when I drop her off and rush to a good spot to book a night for us and celebrate his birthday in 2 weeks' time. (He doesn't know that yet so no-one spoil it )

Because a lot of you guys are not understanding (no-one has taught you to put others first) and see women as the "enemy to be subdued", you marry and make selfish decisions. You guys end up regretting it when you know how much destruction it causes later in life but by then it's too late.

OP, please ignore my post and listen to the guys on NL encouraging you to think like a lowly animal. Who doesn't know how to step back and look at the big picture but thinks only of now, instant gratifcation and selfishness. She's tired and her sex drive has disappeared taking care of YOUR CHILD but hey, what do I know (shrug). My husband knows the best thing to do is speak to me because if he goes sulking, I'm too exhausted chasing a baby to realise that he's blanking me or worse, I assume whatever caused the sulks will resolve itself. That is what your mouth is for, not discussing Football stats alone but communicating with people.

Please How old is your marriage? I will like to know.
Op, what this writer is telling you is the gospel truth. My marriage will be 5 years old in the next two months or thereabout. And i must confess, the number one healthy food of any marriage is communication. You are wasting your time by keeping away from your wife. You gave her a responsibility. She is not even experience to handle what is thrown to her laps- a new life, a new point of attention. You are suppose to communicate with her on this rather than staying away because you think she does not want you again.
Have you ever heard of "the emotional bank account"? How often do you made deposits into this account compare to how often you drawn from it? Deposits into emotional bank account has little to do with money. Do you help, compliment, complement, appreciate, and empathize with this woman? Do you bring the Queen in her out? Do you give her the royalty treatment she deserved? Or all you can see is a wife, mother and caregiver, house help and errand girl? Until you see your wife beyond all this and show that understanding and appreciation, you will not get the Kingly treatment you so wish for. I have travelled your road before and i can confirm to you that you are mainly the problem now and not the wife. Your Child is her center of attraction if you observed. Just make her your own centre of attraction and i can assure you to get the required response from her. The writer i quoted above has given useful tips from the woman perceptive, i am only offering you a manly advice.
Cheating won't solve anything. Infact, it is the beginning of a journey through a road you rather not take, not this early.

I was luck when I came. I had one trusted friend. Accommodation was sorted. I almost had issue with the class thing because my friend's pocket is deeper than mine but I quickly adjust and one principle I also practise is"if I can't afford it, I don't really need it". It will help an up and coming individual in Abuja. I only sit out when it is very important, and I don't allow peer pressure at all. Once I close from work, I always ensure my house is my number one destination.

The last six months has been wonderful on local rice from Ebonyi state. The aroma, the taste...men, i can't bring myself to eat imported rice any longer. All those foreign (embalmed) rice are nothing compare to our local rice. It is just that an average Nigerian have skewed value system that sees anything local as inferior and anything foreign as superior. Igbimo Rice all the way.

hi Niaralanders, Please i mistakenly pour a cup of cocacola on my Laptop- Asus S200E corei3 laptop. It stopped working immediately and i cleaned and dried it but it is not coming up. What could have happened and what can be done.
Thanks.

hi Niaralanders, Please i mistakenly pour a cup of coke on my Laptop- Asus S200E corei3 laptop. It stopped working immediately and i cleaned and dried it but it is not coming up. What could have happened and what can be done.
Thanks.

kowema:
Call me on 08064956690, I'm about to pay for a house in Dutse, we cud share d rent . it's 200k total, new house, fenced with steady light.
The second option is, I'd host u 4 four months if u can't afford fgor now.

I'm new in town too I know d feeling.

You are an unusual Nigerian. God bless you real good. I know the feeling. My best friend has been a God sent to me on many occasions.One of such occasion is providing a befitting accommodation for me when i moved to abuja in 2013. It was really unbelievable. You are the second person doing same thing since then. And yours is even unique because you dont know this person from Eve.

Op, i don't know what to tell you. But i believe everything will work out fine. Just relax, step outside the whole problem and think. Crying or whining won't help.

where is your location?1.3m If it ok for business. 08074808885.

Memejem:
Nigerian men and thier wahala. If a woman doesn't build house she must hear him say "under my roof" "in my house" "I built this with my hard earned money" "you didn't contribute to this"

The woman goes and builds house, some will now say she is an enemy of progress against tradition. If she built it why must the house be in his name? Una never happy. If your wife builds a house it's "our house". But if man builds house its "his" house abi?

Marriage includes both parities. I don't see it as a bad thing. But only a cultured and educated Nigerian man will accept it. If a wife builds a house it's "thier" house. If husband builds a house it's "thier" house. Simple.

House building doesn't take away respect, or submission. That character. Nothing to do with structure.

You are so right on point. I am sorry to say, Some men are too egoistic to be married. Some women are too self-centred to be wives. I WILL GLADLY live in a house built by my wife(especially the one i am married to now) because it will obviously be "our" house.

jaelz:
Okay there's this girl that i really like a lot but the problem is that i know of someone not really a friend just the oh boy how far greetings kinda friend that used to date the girl back then and men u know guys with shagging and bragging now. I mean what i have heard about the way he bleeped her and how she did snake in the monkey shadow style on the bed for her. Just restrains me from walking up to her though i really love her much, am just so so confused right now. Please my dear nairalander i need your advice.

The problem is with you and not the lady OP, Whether she was bleep by you or someone else does not really matter. And since the relationship did not work out, i believe she had moved on. One person's food is another person's poison. If you love her, please see beyond who bleep who as long as the person is not your family. Cheers!

tolexy007:
ice kobi kobi....

correct!

ellechrystal:
And some zombies who know nothing about Economics will come here n type trash, God help us o. This kind president , his policies r killing his citizens,
N he is so non challant about it.
I blame the people who were chanting "CHAINS"
It's not about being victorious after the elections, the real thing is how to maintain the victory
JONATHAN, I no go lie, we miss u
I guess even in defeat, Jonathan is the victor here

And you think the Economist with this TRASH is right? If we devalue our naira, what do we have to export apart from oil to justify this devaluation? Dear, don't be fooled by every nonsense these self serving neo colonists vomit out. A weaker naira with nothing to export apart from oil with falling price means we gonna import inflation into the country. IMF, World Bank, etc are agents of the imperial neo colonists.

Nice work, spill kettle and no pain no gain are work of art I won't mind paying same amount and more for any day if resources are available. Kudos to the organisers.

dustydee:
She complained to the school and when she didn't get a satisfactory answer resorted to social media

hmmm, did you read the official release from the school? The principal, the vice principal, the chairperson PTA all said there was no official complaint or report from any parent or student. They all confirmed the sources to be the rumour mill. If the constituted claimed no report received, who did the mother report to?can she come out and make her case official with proof? Or she can as well report to the police for proper investigation.

Chommieblaq:
I believe Nigeria women have equal right in the society too, we have female ceo, female politicians, great women doing great in their chosen career, no career in Nigeria is forbidden to the women abi is there?
We have woman in the Senate, even if it's 1, n nobody's stopping them from contesting, a woman even contested for presidency abi?
So what equal right are we talking about?
What are the discrimination?
If we talk about empowering women it's a different thing entirely, someone should please enlighten me, probably I didn't understand.

The bill is question goes beyond these things mentioned above. The truth is Religion and culture are good but the world is evolving. You can imagine cultural practices borne out of limited information, technology and economic resources realities still thriving in the 21st centuries or wrong selfish interpretation of the holy books by religion bigots to satisfy their personal egotistic tendencies still being observed in ignorance or in other bid to maintain the status.
Let me paint a scenario. A man marries a woman, the woman ideally (as it is now) the man general manager, chief Accountant, Minister for Home affairs, Publicity director, Welfare officer, cook, laundry man, baby factory, sex mate, child care giver etc. While performing all these role as spelt out by culture and religion, the man is free to earn salary and invest in property in his name but the woman cannot in most cases because she does not have the economic power to do so. The man passes on, the property left behind become a source of tussle between the woman and the man family simply because she is a woman. And you get hear statement like"our son/brother/uncle/ laboured for those things" without a recourse to the co-creator of such wealth- the wife. The woman and her children suddenly become homeless, beggars and no live at the mercy of the man's relatives. Woe betide the woman if her children, their children, happen to be female all through. Please i am not saying these traditional roles should be neglected or abandoned by women, no. They have better capacity to do much more. Let the society recognizes this capacity and allow an average woman to choose her path given the same opportunities that is available to the male counterpart
How many women have economic power and rights compare to their male counterpart? I have seen cases where a man did not allow his woman to work, or do anything meaningful because she is a woman, even when she is more trained and more qualified than the husband.
Society will thrive and develop when it ensure gender equality and balance in the economic power and opportunities that are available to both sexes.

Rukkydelta:
Like the woman na dope.....the so called husband for no dey yarn all this rubbish..............One reason why a woman should be independent, I'll never depend on a man for means of livelihood

It goes beyond been able to provide for your self dear. Unless you believe u don't need a home or man. Family first before religion. Bible was explicit, wife, be submissive. Husband show love. The woman erred dear, let us face it.