₦airaland Forum

zedman1:
Bro, I cannot ascertain if his money is fraudulent or not, it's not even about this case, but when una make statements like the one you made up there, it really baffles me. So because plenty thieves dey make dem no catch any one? And if them no catch any one una go still complain. Na wa oh.

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Yoruba says, if your yam produce, is bigger, you will cover it with ur hand before you eat it.


Our fore fathers knew there were/are serious dangers in exposing one's money unnecessarily to the world, but here in obodo naija, Yahoo can never hide their Ill gotten wealth.

It keeps pushing and pushing them.

Iyaebe:
Marriage is indeed complicated,this your story makes premarital sex looks important but however it's against God's commandments which brings the question on how do we know the sexual compatibility of a partner before marriage? I don't know what to say.

.......If two of the intending couple and not one avoid premarital sex........


Stop find illogical reasons to beat commandments of Almighty, they are the best for we human.

God doesn't have wife or child you want to sex wen he asked us not to fornicate neither does he has any money you want to steal wen he told us not to steal, it's best interest of we his handwork.

tobechi20:
Bring kids into the picture, and often, one’s sex drive takes a nose dive. Especially for mothers.

Low libido is a very common issue for new mothers as they are healing from childbirth, grappling with fluctuating hormones and extreme sleep deprivation.

While we know adjusting to a new baby can profoundly impact a couple’s life (including sexual intimacy), we, as a society, act like it shouldn’t. We act like there’s something wrong with a new mother needing a timeout from sex.

New mothers who admit to having less sex drive are often met with people urging, “Just do it anyway,” and “You’ll get in the mood.”

But what if you don’t get in the mood, even when you take this advice? What then?

Why aren’t the feelings of the woman valid? Shouldn’t she be listening to her body? Her mind?

I’m not sure where we got this idea that a husband owns his wife’s vagina. Or that he is entitled to intercourse, MouthAction, handling, or groping. I’m pretty sure I didn’t see that covenant in the paperwork. But I have an inkling that this entitlement is very much based in misogyny and male privilege.

Men are led to believe, often since they are young boys, that women should have sex with them when they want it. Even when their wives are not “in the mood.” Because sex is the way he feels intimate. Sex is the way he connects. Because putting your husband’s sexual desires first is supposedly the best way to avoid divorce.

These antiquated and sexist designs for marriage are damaging to women.

When a married mom doesn’t put out, she’s called “cold” and “selfish” and the dreaded “bitch.” She’s told she must have “something else going on” mentally. Outsiders to the marriage, and maybe even therapists, will question if the wife was ever sexually assaulted. Does she have a history of trauma? They’ll try to make connections that aren’t there. Because how could a wife possibly not want to have sex with her husband?

It is sickening and horrific to think of a woman having sex against her will, married or not. It’s disgusting that we automatically assume something must be “wrong” with a woman who is having a gap in her groove. Beyond all that, it’s dangerous.

Suggesting that married women and mothers should just “do it anyway” is sexual bullying and coercion. If a husband acts on the “just do it anyway” cliché and forces it — that’s called rape.

When we attack married mothers for not putting out, we’re reaffirming once again what’s important in this society.

A man’s needs, not a woman’s. A man’s voice, not a woman’s voice.

No they owe them "s£x anger.

After demise of kyari, malami became defacto president

mrvitalis:
Let's all remember that Igbo land was peaceful till army was invited to Igbo land

It's not that crime was high , army and police entered and crime increased the facts are there to back this up

Make with this information what you wish

If it was peaceful, they wouldn't have invited soldier in first instance

thebosstrevor1:
I don't see anything wrong in what he did.

The girl is a visitor, so he has to make her comfortable in his domain, this is the same thing most of you will do for a visitor when broke

I still don't understand why it is an issue.

Hope you read where op said, soldier man secretly told attendant to parkage his own because he didn't have enough money

Nothing bad if you spend any amount for ur visitors to him or her comfortable but not at discomfort of ur own self

officialmario:
A Nigerian lady known as Marrgarritah on Twitter has come out to narrate how she gave a Pastor a fake name as the name of her boyfriend only for the pastor to start seeing visions of the fake name that did not exist.
According to her tweet, she did it intentionally to test to the authenticity of the pastor’s prophecies who claimed he could see “visions” of the future. She said in her tweet:

“I remember giving a pastor a fake boyfriend’s name, and he suddenly ‘saw’ that his mother would be wicked to me. That i need to pray very well so she can like me.

“Asked my mother later why the pastor couldn’t “see” that I gave him a fake name,” she narrated.

Nigerians then came on to the comment section, having had similar encounters, to express their different experiences on the subject matter.

Why you didn't pray on it urself, to test authenticity of God

Joysticks:
A lady begging her estranged husband or boyfriend to accept her back has been jilted by her numerous boyfriends and sugar daddies who have promised to marry her before she leaves her husband/boyfriend.She should be treated as a bygone.

Many atimes when married woman see tomboy outside her marriage, she would think it's greener at other side, just a step outside she would confirm it's not greener as she assumed.

Playboy will do every trick to get to the pant, after tasting! They took to their heels! ; :

festacman:
There are handsome and heavily-loaded men out there who would spend anything to have this beautiful woman permanently or temporarily.

So, why this 'grandpa' option?

Out of that numerous. Sir, please do her a favour and link just "one up with her.

After small boy has drilled u and discarded you? Abi u want to bring pregnancy to royal family ?

Gentlerespect76:
See the boy PDP chose as Youth Leader. Very unfortunate as he looks so naive.

I am trying to understand why PDP is bending double over, to please the North. Why?

If they choose age 40+ as youth leader you will also .....complain.... death is only thing that can satisfy you.

victooman:
bro l tire o, how many toto all this street tout they fvck self,, come to Abuja here na gentle calm guys dey fvck clean women,, even the service l just round up, l stayed in the family house, a boy called osanjo is the typical example of the nairaland bad boy, yet out of all the girls in that house my guy no see toto fvck, na still them brother sam and Stanley dey fvck those girls

Let them be deceiving themselves, adage says empty barrel makes loudest noise! When "gragra boy opportune to sex 1 or 2 girls he would be talking as if, he sex every girl in the town, in fact, even the girl he never see her pant he would tell "mumus (those what their ears only want to hear is how guys fucck and maltreat girls) and the ediot" would believe him, this typical nairalander u re referring to now, when he goes back to his hood ,he would say he sex all corper girls in the camp and mumus" would believe hook, line and sinker, even though he did not see ordinary color of tip of a single corper's pant.

jaxxy:
Ure not a very realistic person and Ure clouded by ur emotions which made u misread my points.

I said most good guys easily fall into in the boring category cos they chill in their comfort zones social wise bt some don’t.

Those who fall into this boring category are the ones who cry about not getting female attention they want. That’s just the facts any anything else is emotional tantrums which I would advice to rather channel to improving or learning social interaction.

Bad boys are interesting bt also problematic and that’s their down side by the problems don’t show at the beginning of the relationship until when these innocent gals are in neck deep sometimes sadly.

You re free to go back and read ur comment, it will do u good.

You are the one who made emphasy on boring in relationship,

Meanwhile, how did bad boys interesting? Weed they smoke? Public fight? Insulting and disrespecting elders? Let me know area you find them interesting?

You guys should learn how to talk in case of those who know how to listening to words coming out from ur mouth.


Infact, how many girls have u seen going out with bad boys comparing to how good guys In relationships?

When you see one or two examples, you exaggerated and generalised it as common occurrences.


O boy ! Try to do findings of leaders in students fellowship on campus and bad guys , who date girls most?

You can also check effico and cultist and tell me who bang more .

elantraceey:
It goes both ways. Guys prefer bad ladies too and will most of the time exploit, manipulate, deceive the good girls that comes their way and still keep the bad ones if not why will a man be with someone that'll willingly keep a relationship a married man?


If only good people can just find themselves and bad people find themselves, let everyone be at peace but life is so crooked it happens 1 in 100.

Zero understanding? Perhaps you urself doesn't understand ur comment


Read the bolded

You can only going out and predate someone with same attitude like u ma

elantraceey:
It goes both ways. Guys prefer bad ladies too and will most of the time exploit, manipulate, deceive the good girls that comes their way and still keep the bad ones if not why will a man be with someone that'll willingly keep a relationship a married man?


If only good people can just find themselves and bad people find themselves, let everyone be at peace but life is so crooked it happens 1 in 100.

Madam, any girl who wants to be seeing or going out with bad boys, she herself is bad girl, she wants guy to fight like garage boys for her course, check her very well. Any girl that comfortable going and drinking with guy who smokes cannabis and having questionable characters she is bad as well, such attitude can go together with same fellow and stop being generalising such girl for every girl.

jaxxy:
It’s not really about being bad or good it’s about being boring or not. Most good guys are boring and nobody wants that especially during the early period of dating where there a lot of competition or demands for attention.

It’s a natural gravitation bt these days sadly it’s about money even if ur boring ur money can’t be boring bt then u might be attracting the wrong kind of people if not careful. Lolz

Soooo, boring is another word for good and not boring is synonym to bad?

Nairalander' guys with unrefined ways of reasonings.

taiwotimitt:
I met a girl during my service year. I love her, I made my intention known to her. She told me the truth which I considered a red light. She told me that I'm too soft to handle her. I asked her what she meant by that.... I couldn't believe what she's was saying... Na confirm bad guy can handle that girl indeed....

That's why sometimes when I see these so called bad guys treating innocent or bad girl anyhow, I really don't care

And you think you are not misinterpreted tough guy to bad guy?

Meanwhile, how many of such ladies that told you she wants bad guys that made you generalised and believed in illogical assumption.

smsinnigeria:
2 London base politicians.

and 1 pandora republic.

shosky1794:
The presumed hatred for this man by some people is not hatred. It is the fear of the man.

Exactly! They know his capabilities and fear of waiting for another 16 years, hence they resulted to character assassination.


Even Aso Rock cabal started bowing down one by one. The handwriting is boldly written on the sky.

[quote author=Jokerman post=107219141]Some things aren't creation of God... fallen angels corrupted the human race[/quote


Who created fallen angels? I guess they created themselves, the way nobody created God!


You guys should think twice and know how to defend point s

Jokerman:
Go read apocryphal books, and study about what the fallen Angel's and their nephilim children perpetrated on earth before God had to use the deluge to wipe out humanity?, and understand that INTERSEX or TRANSGENDER etc, is not of God...

Keep deceiving urself, hiding under one finger and being self deceit.

All these are real happenings, Bible says, God created ALL things in the universe, including satan himself.

I think we should stop being advocate of God and defending him, instead let him be our advocate and defend us.

Intersex or any deformity are creation of God , the reason for that, might not reveal unto you.

Iyaebe:
They shall regret their actions sooner or later

You think so? Western cultures had taken inroads to naija cultures since 1759. It would be increasing and not regretted as u thought.

BadRadio:
Experts would advice, that you be friends first before anything else. There are a lot of BENEFITS you can take being friends with the one you find interestingly attractive.

Friendship takes away the lies and the pretence, it takes away the expectations and the pressures that is usually found in relationships... friendship makes you real and relaxed. It's easier to find peoples attributes through friendship, and attributes that blends with your spec.

There's is a reason why people get frustrated dating, starting several relationships that always end in premium tears, this is so because you keep test-running in an actual relationship.

It so easy and natural to find the best partner you've dreamed of through friendship.

It's hard to get bored in friendships, but u'll definitely always get bored with relationships, friendship has a lot to offer, relationships has little or nothing to give, with friendships there's always that spark of something new and fresh, something like an adventure that makes it all refreshing.

With relationships you kill the fun and X-factor.


#BadRadio on the beat


Rocktation

Farano

Lalasticlala

Mynd44

Ishilove

Dominique

Many of guys date solely because of sex and girls bcoz of money, with this, two of you would get tired of urself immediately after sex. But if you date at least 50% of genuine love, oga, the refreshments in such relationship are unquantified.

aBrownBird:
i've been dating this man since July. we met on a dating site. everything was fine at first. he treated me well, opened doors, always calling me beautiful, lots of pet names. thought i found the man for me. on the downside, he's in some debt, is often broke. bc of this lack of money at times, he would ask me to spend time at his house to avoid going out to spend. i didn't mind. i've gone to his house to cook for him, bought foodstuffs for him, given him money several times, taken him out some weeks ago and footed the $150 we spent on eating ( he didn't contribute a dime ). i've helped him in other ways: if not for me his landlord would've increased his rent, advised him on some issues, given him things here and there, when he needed money for gas three weeks ago i sent him an etransfer right away, taught him how to cook. before he met me he always ate out, hadn't cooked in 8 yrs. i spent hours on the phone with him one afternoon teaching him how to make stews and other stuff. other times i cooked for him, he always complimented my cooking. how much nicer could i have been to this man? is this what i get for being good to a man?

last week i told him i don't want to get intimate (sex) before marriage, that to avoid further temptation we could go out more, go on dates, rather than always going to his place. anytime i'm at his house he wants to makeout heavily and do other stuff. i lost my virginity at almost 30 due to no fault of my own. my plan was always to keep myself for marriage. he knows my story and i've told him i still want to wait for marriage, that has always been my plan for myself. i know he's not too buoyant financially but he knows i'm understand, not picky either- i've told him we can go to the movies only ( really costs no more than $30 for two people ), i will assist with pay. we've gone to the park before to spend time, gone on walks. at my age i deserve better treatment but I've been accommodating to him, never complained. i told him last week to avoid temptation i would rather us go out more than go to his house. he got angry, said to give him back the chain he gave me the first time we met (he was wearing a cross chain, i told him i liked it, he gave it to me) after chatting on the dating site, suddenly said maybe we should only be friends. mind you, 30mins earlier he was telling me he loved me so much, pet names galore. he didn't talk to me for two days. i texted him after the two days, we got talking again like nothing happened, him telling me he loves me as usual, never apologized for asking me to return the chain he gave me. anytime we have misunderstandings he refuses to see my perspective, very stubborn, never hears me, won't contact me unless i contact him.

yesterday he said he wanted to see this weekend, i reminded him we should go out to do something as i don't want to visit his house, he got angry again, has not talked to me since yesterday. i tried to text him this morning, he never replied. do i deserve this treatment? like he's doing me a favor when it's not so. he's a refugee. divorced from Nigeria. if i marry him, he becomes a citizen. he told me he applied for pr since two yrs ago, he hasn't gotten it, said they're telling him they will send it since he applied. idk how long it takes to get pr but i never looked down on his status. he's 44, more than 10 yrs older than me. actually told me he was 42 on the website but later said he's 44. really, i thought older men are more mature and nicer, i was mistaken. i miss him already. but i won't contact him again. really sad and depressed it had to end this way.

The story seems to be a Cooked up."

Meanwhile, if u re a citizen for a real, you should have shown him how to catch fish instead of how to eat, .......but wait o, I think nairalanders guys claim that it's only in naija that girls will not spend a dime if they go out on date with guys? Why are u reluctant to be like other ladies in obodo oyinbo?

debbydams:
the worst.. Nigerian men just tire me, u do whala u no do whala

Focus on ur gender nah!

Something which is useless , you shouldn't be disturbing urself, think about it every minute and have heart attack on it nah.

SpecialAdviser:
There are some set of people you be careful and ask yourself a lot of questions before you start dating them as girlfriends.

1. Soldiers
2. Police
3. Cultists
4. Drug dealer

In fact, anyone carrying ammunitions.

What of yahoo boys?

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U lost in conversation, go back and read from very beginning and don't venture ur anger on me, better to chanel it to government u voted for.

He didn't have money to pay rent but can owe landlord

Viltron:
my dear, don't believe all this nonsense you read online. I lived in UK for years and with 10 pounds you can have a haircut. These people only want to trend.

Is haircut price same all over UK?



Here in naija will have, #200, #300, #500..........even #5000. It all depends on ur pocket or class.

Iyaebe:
She really tried,marriage is sweet.Redpillers come and see. lol

Abi ooo, the association of looser will not see thousand of sweet marriages that are working and flourishing but would hell bent on the marriages that are not working which is the one that normally come to public.

junique629:
She bends down to pee makes you better or smarter, people like you simply irritate me. If you learnt your history well, you would know Nigeria was colonized by the British and as such it is only natural that a few of their customs rubbed off on us. Only a poverty stricken individual such as yourself wouldn't admit how beautiful the white wedding event is and the fact that it is worth adopting. Shove that up you ass, you chauvinistic psychopath

You haven't understood these type of guys/men, they can't do without woman for second, and many of them are in hopeless situation, often, they comment on female comment to get her attention and they do that by posting negative comment.

If it's possible all females leave nairaland, they too will disappear from the forum.