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Some of you men need to marry women that have ashewo vibes. You want to marry virgin Mary then complain later she’s not satisfying you.

When I say ashewo vibes I don’t mean a woman that sleeps around, but a woman that enjoys and likes sex. A woman that is Adventurous in the bedroom, gives oral, different positions, open to using toys, loves pre-intimacy and not scared to have sex in different places. Even after 3 kids, a woman like this will still want to knack.

You tag women like this as prostitutes. Manage your woman like that ohh, you can’t teach anybody anything, it’s either she likes sex or she doesn’t.

Tell her to take Maca root, It boosts your libido to the extreme. Get a vibrator for her, every single woman enjoys it. As a married man don’t expect to have sex every week. If you can have sex three times a month, you should be fine.

The mental exhaustion of carrying the home will depress me. If he can take care of the kids and home whilst I work and provide, there might be balance. If I’m expected to do everything, it won’t work, as I’m not a machine. So my answer is no.

LeeSmart:
U just need to talk to ur husband (that's if ure married) make him see reasons why he's ought to get down there with u... Lol but if u ain't married don't go nd tell someone's son to blow u oo

if it’s not something you want to do willingly, I can’t force it. Because if you don’t enjoy it, I can’t enjoy it either if that makes sense. So I will just leave him and yes I’m marrried.

LeeSmart:
Nothing can stop me 4rm not giving my wife head oo

You are enjoying. Some of us are suffering because our husbands see it as abomination. Boring and nonsense sex, 5 minute men, can only go one round and will still refuse to give head. Mtchew.

I enjoyed the seminar especially the mature couple (surprise party) who shared their story about forgiveness. Well done seun, very inspiring.

Pregnancy can make you do crazy things, I remember because there was one time I threw money in a food sellers face because she didn’t have what I wanted in stock. On a normal day I will never ever do that, but pregnancy hormones are something else. Marriage is not easy

God deliver me from stupid and foolish in laws. I don’t need it. A man that doesn’t sleep is prone to high bp which is a silent killer. No signs or symptoms, you can drop dead like nothing. Op you better be careful

Wow how can your wife slap your mother? To me that’s absolutely disgusting I have nothing else to say. It’s unforgivable to me.

Flier:
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So if you want peace of mind,do the implant (Nexplanon)
The good thing is cost 5000 naira or free in some places and it takes less than 2 minutes to be done

the best contrceoption ever! It has not failed me only downside is irregular bleeding but it will stop after like 7 months from when you get it

If he was a divorcee it might even be better. Chronic baby daddies are not worth it at all. Because you think you are a man, you believe you can get away with breeding up and down with no iota of responsibility. It doesn’t work like that, let him go back to his baby mama. That young widow deserves better, if she marries him they will both see helll!!!!!!

Women let this be a lesson to you, one child can be a mistake, you can manage to move on and remarry. But you see when you try to trap a man with 2,3 or 4 kids with no marriage or commitment in sight.. YOU WILL LOSE! You cannot even hold your head up high and classify yourself as a divorcee. The shame is too much, society will just look at you like a rag, especially when you’re up there in age. Better use your sense!

Wow she looks like 28. She looks young, doesn’t look 35 at all.

Once a woman loses her virginity and she’s not married, there’s just something that makes you want to explore and taste different types. It’s only the grace of God that helps some women.

The woman looks like early 40s so it’s not too bad

bukatyne:
Interesting.

You also think women who do same thing (e.g. Amber Heard) should be ruined same way?

absolutely. No one should lay their hands on anyone.

Omoawoke:
So it is okay to destroy the life of the father of your children, make him completely finished and useless because he must have pissed you off.
May your sons, brothers marry this type of callous woman

He ruined his own life if he was physically violent/ abusing drugs etc. Lets take accountability for our actions.

bukatyne:
Let's assume he did all of the above, is that enough for his life to be ruined?

Absolutely. It is a criminal offence to lay your hands on someone.

McStoic:
Why do most of you women support your fellow women when
any marital issues comes up? Everyone knows how bad and unfair Western laws are meant to favour women even when they're at fault

This kind of story has been told several times and most times the women use their advantage unfairly. Say the truth, if your own blood brother is kicked out of a home he sweated for or made not to see his kids just like that, will you support it?

It's the same UK that a man can be jailed and punished simply because a woman raised an unverified allegation against him. The West need to look into these things sha...

I understand what you’re saying but in 90% of cases, women don’t just react like this for no reason. A woman can never kick out a man just because she feels like it. Is he a chronic cheat? Is he physically/ emotionally abusive? Is he a drug addict? Is he lazy and financially incompetent? A lot of women cannot stand the trauma that come with these things. Peace and sanity is underrated. There’s a pattern with a lot of divorcee men, check them well and you will see where the problem lies.

mployer:
You women has no iota of sympathy in you.

You are wicked down to every fiber of your being. Reason I don't loose guard when dealing with women, I always prepare for the wost and stay one step ahead in the game.

Hakimi remains a hero.

if he has committed adultery, physically violent, drug addict.. you don’t think that’s enough to divorce?

Because he is your friend, you have painted him to be the victim. Are these allegations or did he actually commit all these things listed? What exactly pushed the wife to divorce him and are there any ways they can reconcile, because it’s going to be a very very long battle for him starting afresh.

Quiteparrot:
Given that you are from a different tribe from your hubby, would you like your children to communicate with their dad in his language at home and leaving you in the dark about their discussion? I understand that it's advantageous for the kids to speak different languages but I kinda feel not too cool with it happening under my roof, that could make me feel like a stranger in my own house.

I understand your pain but they are her kids as well as yours and she has the right to teach the kids her native language. Turn a blind eye to this and don’t make this into a bigger problem. If you have a strong bond with your kids they will always come back to tell you if their mother is saying words against you.

This is why I just don’t like inter tribal marriage.. I’m sorry but there will always be friction. Imagine husband family mocking you in your face and you will never never know. You can never really feel at home when you marry outside your tribe.

NBAjunior:
I feel like strangling you to death pray I don't get hold of your details else you will hear from me

lmao

ExudeLoveToAll:
Let's assume what you wrote is 100percent correct.

If a person refuse to give you the keys for over a decade and you still hang around without any issue whatsoever how then is the key holder wicked? Why then did the other party seeking the keys not go look for another key elsewhere? What word can then be used to describe the one who seek a key for ten years without quiting but words of immense image battery was used to describe the holder.

The synopsis of my assertion is that you have posted just based on the fact that you only put yourself in the shoes of the one that seek to find the keys and not holistically. Gender baise exudes so glaringly in your position.

Have a good day.

whether she decided to move on or not it doesn’t change the fact that his intentions were wicked, and a child is involved in the situation.

Godoverevery:
Illegitimately sleeping with a woman for a decade .....this just knocked me off honestly.

I guess he the one sleeping with her and she isn't involved and awear.......you ladies will not kill us ooo.

Keeping justifying the reason for her stealing.........like I said I no getting married is the biggest achievement for someone like you hence I rest my case.

Just keep the same energy and judgment if table are turned.

A man that cohabits with the mother of his child for 10years without marriage is sleeping with her illegitimately. Their child is also illegitimate because he/she was born out of wedlock. When a man behaves irresponsibly, the outcome is chaos and mayhem. He should go to the police and narrate his story, they will laugh in his face. Even in first world countries, there is a reason why specifically single unwed mothers are protected. Continue..

ExudeLoveToAll:
Two adults cohabits for a decade and you termed one wicked. Does it take one person to marry? I thought it's two.

The person who holds the key to marriage is the man. It’s the man that weds the woman not the other way round. It’s the man that gives the woman his surname.

NBAjunior:
You must be very mad for saying this

ok

Godoverevery:
Why are painting as if the lady was helpless or an slowpoke.

Do you think is kid gloves to house and feed an adult for 5yrs?? He even funded her education or you didn't see that.....emotionally he has also invested a lot.

The only logical thing here....she is a thief.

If the guy decide to follow the law she is going to jail......he didn't tie her down or force her.

I hate it when you ladies go this route of emotional blackmail all the time.

What is bad is bad.........don't married people of 50yrs get divorce So what the difference

OH I forgot getting married is biggest achievement a lady can ever have in life...lol.

That is the mother of his child he doesn’t get a round of applause for feeding/taking care of his child, it’s what he is supposed to do. Illegitimately sleeping with a woman for a decade and wasting her youth that she can never get back does not equate to paying her school fees. The emotional/mental trauma can never be compared. Sometimes there is justification for actions, even if it’s wrong.

Godoverevery:
Speak only for yourself..

Only if she comes to speak that herself then all this are assumptions that hold no water.

Once a again a man refusing to marry a lady he dated for 100yrs isn't a crime.

But lady going to a man house to take what doesn't belong to her is a thief...period.

If it was a man that did this will you be saying same thing.

Sentiment and bias mind is the reason why we have lot of single mother today.......only few of you ever say the truth without been blinded with Sentiment.

it may not be illegal, but it is emotionally traumatic and provocative to waste 10 years of a woman’s life. We are not robots void of emotions. Mental trauma/damage has led a lot of people to their grave. When dealing with relationship issues, we weigh logic with emotion to choose the right outcome.. there must be a balance of both.

The question is.. why is the woman verbally attacking the man? Women don’t nag for no reason. There is peace when men act accordingly. They’re some women that have bad character, but a lot of times marriage brings out the beast in women. Let’s start from there.

Are you providing financially to your best capability?

Are you emotionally abusive ( keeping late nights, leaving the house without telling your wife, silent treatment etc)

Do you have ego/ pride issues where you can never admit you’re wrong ?

Do you have addiction problems ? (Smoking, drinking, gambling, masturbation etc)

Are you a chronic cheat?

Do you help your wife with the care of your children or do you leave 100% responsibility on her?

Are you emotionally unavailable? ( you don’t show any type of affection to your wife/compare her to other women)


These are the main things that will bring out the beast in any woman. Check your character.

Godoverevery:
Is it everyone that will get married??

What if there decisions to be partners and not get married?? Have you thought of that or you just blinded with emotions.

Where is it crime for two adult to cohabit for 100yrs.....there decisions is non of your business.

The lady is a thief and that all.....if he decide to get her arrested in the eye of the law she is a thief.

So is only they were married and divorced that when he has a right to complain abi

Sometimes I just wonder if some women are created with fish brain.

no Nigerian woman is living with a man for 10years.. happy without marriage. There will always be a level of resentment and unhappiness. In this particular situation, it’s obvious the woman was not happy, hence the ransacking.