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Honestly I’m hoping those children are not his. Two wrongs do not make a right but those who do not hear must feel. At 40 you should be thinking about expanding investments, generational wealth and hustling so you can retire on time and enjoy your old age with your wife. This one is crying over a public toilet and spending his measly salary on the shameless thing. Shame on you. A fool at 40 is a fool for what?? Deyy dere.

CandiceJay:
I hope your children turn out to not be yours. Maybe then you'll understand the level of wickedness you've portrayed in this story you just shared.

Haba, but why are some men this heartless? I can imagine the kind of comments I would have been reading here if this was coming from a woman. People are telling you to move on, move on to your karma.

This is painful

9jaHustler:
Woke up 4:45am this morning and everywhere was bright like 9am

because it’s summer time now. But around November/December it will only start to get bright at around 8am/9am. It will also start to get dark at around 3pm.

Lovely!

Manchester is a very nice place with loads of Nigerians families. . You will blend in well. Enjoy!

She doesn’t have the body shape for the outfit. Body shape is everything when it comes to fashion. What looks good on person A will not look good on person B even if they wear the exact same thing. This is why models are always.
tall and slim, because slim /tall people always look better in clothes.

Sorry sir but you need to grow up.

Born2winnx:
The wedding is holding today and have made up my mind not to attend because the dude invited me through WhatsApp. It annoys me how children of this days has no regards or character for their elders. they are changing everything all in the name modernization.

How can someone, I know the exact date he was born be inviting me through WhatsApp, no respect at all, sending the scanned card copy there.. what happened to the hardware copy he printed? I had to tell him, he laughed it off saying bros nor vex the 500 copies he printed was not enough to share self. I didn't want to press the issue farther my mind is already made up.
He won't see me there today.

When I did mine, I knew how far distance I trekked to invite his elder brothers face to face, bought several drinks.

I just hope he invited his in-laws through WhatsApp too

Manage her like that. Nothing outside that you are looking for. Make her sexually attractive that’s why she’s your wife.

My two year old son is barely talking

This is not coconut rice to me but let me just keep on scrolling

BigBashiru:
You are just bitter!

70 year old man is still in his prime and has accumulated a vast amount of wealth. Get that thru your thick skull....

And you don't even have to be a millionaire. You just need to be average and take care of your self well. How old was late Ataga? 51 or 56. How old was chidinma? 21.... you see!

There are 22 year Olds that turn heads for even 60 yead old guys.... even if the 60 year old can't get a 21 yr old he can still get a 35 - 40 yr old girl but a 40 yr old girl is hopeless hahahaha!

Which receding hairline- I know the number of girls I attract even now that I'm in my 50s... I get young girls all the time.... sometimes I mix in some older girls in their 30s too. The life of a man is the sweetest....

While u stuck either with ur cat or attending shiloh at 40 hahahaha

You can be jealous all you want but it doesn't change the truth. A man in his 50s can have lots of flings but his wife can't cos her attractiveness has faded.... and it's not sugar daddy it's real girlfriend with real connection.... the only thing is it may be harder for d guy to find younger gals as he ages but this only means he needs to meet a larger number of gals something which is made possible today by technology

lol young girls that just want to see what they can get out of you. You are not getting a quality 20 something year old woman at 50. Like I said there has to be money involved, and it has to be a lot. Take it or leave it, I don’t make the rules, it’s just the reality of life. Your prime declines at 35 max 40 and I’m being nice. Look around you, and ask yourself how many 23 year olds get married to 50+ year old men. You are not in your prime at 50/60/70 if you like workout 24 hours a day. Your gbola at 60 can never stand like that of a 30 year old man. Lol

BigBashiru:
Well said bro..freaking well said!! They enjoy themselves before deciding to "settle down" but try to bar me from enjoying my own self now dat I'm in my own prime from 30-75.... I'm not agreeing to that!

stop deceiving yourself you can never be in your prime at 70, not even at 50 unless you’re a millionaire, which most of you will never be. No 22 year old is turning their head for a 45 year old man unless it’s a sugar daddy business. Better use your time wisely. The decline of the average man starts at 35. You can’t enter a nightclub at 45 with a receding hairline, empty pockets and think you can get any woman you want in the world, when there’s younger stronger able bodied competition everywhere. Your pockets Define your life. Keep on dreaming lol! You men are too delusional.

Unfortunately there’s nothing you can do about your small penis. Honestly from experience and from what I’ve heard, men with small penis do not do the justice.

Never posted my husband, never plan to. Better things in life to worry about in this life.

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emmyN:
Lol, I've never seen any woman that agreed the second wife or side chick was more beautiful

but truly in this case, the second wife is not beautiful at all. Big body and big face.

First wife slim tall and beautiful even after 4 kids. Timeless beauty. This second wife even at her young age is looking sloppy and shapeless. Her face is no where near the beauty of the first wife. God help some men sha.

We’ve seen this story many times before, we know how it ends. Let’s hope he doesn’t die prematurely. Let’s hope his first wife and their children do not swear for this man. Old age is looking gloomy for him.

shantti:
But if the daughter talk say her papa touch her bum bum, u ladies will misinterpret it and wont give the man d chance to xplain

whats the likelihood of that happening if it’s not true? You people will read stories online and become a shadow of yourself because of what? How many children will lie about something like that? Ah beg let me hear word.

Only someone with a dirty heart that can behave like this to their own daughter. Doesn’t make sense.

Do something with yourself and upgrade, or you will wake up one day at 35 with regrets and resentment. Time waits for no man.

I don’t understand why you’re giving yourself hypertension over something you have no proof of. Even if you’re suspecting something, just leave it, the truth will always come out.

You guys decided to reconcile, try to make your marriage work and ignore all distractions. This girl should be irrelevant and insignificant in your life, yet you are having dreams about her and probably comparing yourself to her daily. Do you think this lady gives a damn about you? Sit up and focus on the things that are important in your life.. from there you will find peace.

The reasons are not enough to end a marriage, get a grip please. Next case!

Chopchopfine:
Ayamasa is different from Ofada, I never mentioned Ayamasa. Ayamasa is obviously made with green pepper. Ofada is a local dish. We have over 250 ethnic groups, just imagine the different culture,the numerous ways of making food.

ayamase and ofada is the same thing. What you made is red stew.

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Iyaebe:
I don't believe in men's sexual abuse,if it was an abuse why did he sustain erection?

sis this your comment us probably the worst you’ve made on Nl.

Men be aware.. both man and woman get tempted in marriage, not just men. Or you think because she has a ring on her finger with kids, that she automatically becomes unattractive to outsiders? Women don’t fall short of admirers until late 50s, maybe it’s starts to decrease from there. Women these days are not smiling now oh, mama of 3 still looking hot and young. God will help us all because temptation is real.

DEMZEE:
YES NOW

A FEMALE WHO IS WAY PAST HER SEXUAL PRIME, DIDNT GET MARRIED, STAY MARRIED AND HAD KIDS WITH THE MALE SHE LOVES,ADMIRES AND RESPECTS, FAILED IN LIFE

HUMAN BEINGS WERE CREATED TO PROCREATE AND FEMALES DERIVE HAPPINESS AND JOY FROM GETTING AND STAYING MARRIED, HAVING KIDS AND RAISING A FAMILY WITH THE MALE THEY LOVE, ADMIRE AND RESPECT

FEMALES DON'T DERIVE HAPPINESS FROM MAKING MONEY, HAVING A CAREER OR A BUSINESS

nothing can give you happiness in this world . Happiness is a very temporary emotion, one minute you’re happy then next your sad. But you can have peace of mind, and that truly comes with within. No man, no woman, no job can give that to you, because these things will always give you problems and stress.

Most men who cheat on their wives, the wives are cheating back. Forget all this long story on the internet, the husbands know their wives are cheating and they stay put. The respect men gain from society when they’re married vs single is enough for them to stay put In the marriage and tolerate it all. Forget what they say on online, it’s their ego talking. Most men will tolerate cheating wives and vice versa. Will they ever admit it? No.

it doesn't work in the long run especially for african men and women. There will be problems in the house.

Magnoliaa:
I don't know why you people are fighting over my comment. It was an harmless opinion and it is my own. I didn't mean to offend anybody. But the crown of a woman is in her virtuousness and knowing how to cook is part of that. Men are the providers and women are the homemakers. It is how it has always been since ayebaye. A man that is out there working and toiling to make money and put it on the table would appreciate the effort of a woman in feeding him. That's the point. It's not easy to be a man and they have so many responsibilities on their heads, afi bi alabaru, so a simple homemade meal will go a long way. Somebody is saying as a side chick she will order food. Smh. What time will an hardworking man have to cheat? Can you always afford to eat out? Learn o. Learn oo. Men appreciate cooks and there's nothing greater than a woman getting the showers of praises of her man.
It is what our mothers used to keep our men. And And any lady raised of a woman that don't know how to cook ... is seriously a disaster waiting to happen! The cousin sister junior brother sister of my in-law is in the same shoes. Now her husband is running halter-skirter from one woman house to another. All because she can't cook. A single flaw can ruin a good marriage, my sister. A wise is enough for the words.

My 2 cents. Plis, don't mention me by respecting me. Tanz.

blah blah please what does it take to cook sef? Is it hard to learn how to cook? Within one year a woman can become a chef. Stop putting so much emphasis on food, because most women know how to cook but their hygiene is so bad. House dirty like anything, bathroom with stains, kids unkempt & body smelling. A lot of women will stay in the kitchen for hours and take that same body to their bed to sleep at night. Wrapper smelling like Okro and cow foot. Vagina has one odour or the other. We put too much emphasis on food in this country, but it’s not even our main problem. All the food sef you will eat and become shapeless at 35, will the man still not run away? Ahbeg let everybody do what fits them oh.

ChoCho54:
You are too emotional for your own good. Grow up mahn.
This is the kind of paranoia that drives people to commit murder in a marriage.

Provided he is not a street dog, chasing everything on skirts, don't crucify him for that.

I understand your concept but marriage is not a do or die. Sanity in marriage is important..adultery can be tolerated by some, and others can’t. People stab their husbands in their sleep for this same reason. People find themselves in mental institutions because of this. Everyone has their emotional threshold, we are not robots operating on batteries. To turn a blind eye to everything means you are a bomb waiting to explode in most cases. Even 70 year old man deals with emotional trauma it has nothing to do with age. Let her just plan her situation well and not make hasty decisions that could affect the life of her child as well.

Advice to you. He is not going to change, so don’t waste your energy trying to change him or keep him in one place. He is cheating on you and he is going to keep on cheating on you until he wants to stop himself. Most never change until old age. No amount of family meeting or reports will change that. It’s either you accept it, or you leave.

If you are the type that cannot handle cheating because it affects you spiritually, mentally and physically.. then this is what I will say to you. I will personally advise you to stay put until you have a solid plan, really built your finances, maybe you have a suitor somewhere taking you serious then you can leave. If you leave now without a solid plan you will be worse off. Don’t make harsh decisions based off emotions, everything needs to be timed and planned well, this might even take years. You will also observe his behaviour to see if he is changing or not. No nagging! Just leave him to do what he wants. Start planning now. Collect any support he gives to you and take advantage of it, it’s better than nothing. Do NOT have any more children for this man for now. Keep up with your marital duties so that when the time comes he won’t use any justification for his ways on your head. Detach yourself emotionally from this man gradually if they’re no changes. Be smart you will be happy in the end.

Men always allow their sexual urge to destroy their life. Good luck