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After the woman gives birth to 2/3 kids those boobs and ass will no longer look the same especially under clothes. Even after having sex over and over again as bf and gf, it’s boring and redundant..what next? Honestly, What next? What will keep you in the relationship? This question I guess is for children below 24, so I’ll leave it for them to answer.

Girls in their early twenties are always confused. It’s only pregnancy that can tie them down, just being honest.

Women are trying sha

She is so beautiful oh my Gosh. She has this peaceful youthful face… lucky man.

If women start making fun of broke men, Nl will turn upside down.. some jokes are really not funny

Edo should be no1. The women are so promiscuous

I don’t see anything wrong with what she said. Forget about her preference, who really wants to bring children in this world to suffer? Money is important , extremely important. Men are normally the dominant providers..stability is a must.

You’re a single mother whether you decide to stay with him or not. Don’t deceive yourself, you are a married woman by title alone. If that makes you feel better about yourself, then stay with him and manage. Men like your husband do not change, stop thinking your case will be different. No advice here will change your mind. You will still have more children for this man only to end up bitter and angry in your 40s/50s. Good luck on your journey, when you’re ready to leave you will not come here to ask us what to do. Hopefully by then it’s not too late.

Everybody’s journey in life is different, there’s no right or wrong way. Marry at 20 or 40.. you will still go through trials and tribulations.

After kids sex drive goes down the drain for most women, along with the responsibility of taking care of those kids.. most married women are not interested.

Divoc19:
Get a matured side chick, regardless of age. She won't stress you. You have to be financially bouyant though
@ Nation1

are you advertising yourself?

If you like, listen to all the unmarried people on the first page telling you rubbish. You will destroy your life with your hands. Look through this thread and take note of the comments that are from married men. Most married couples go through this thing, infact all couples.

Alcoholic. At least alcoholics are always happy and high. Give them their drink and they can give you the world. Gamblers are always broke, depressed and miserable.

PoloG:
yeah 2yrs ago

how? What happened to her?

My husband this my husband that.. killing yourself all in the name of the shambles you call a marriage. As if this man wouldn’t sell your kidney if he had the chance to, just to satisfy his useless gambling problem. Separate from this man ohh! Because even if you try to deal with him.. this kind of man can become abusive. Unless you want to cry all the days of your life.. be selfish like your husband. Focus on yourself. Think about your life.

If you like read all these comments and go back to crying all day and night begging your husband. Nobody is going to advise you again if you open another thread because we are tired.

Dearlove2me:
Is like I'm in a sound prof house shouting on top of my voice and no one is hearing me. It seems they don't even understand what I'm going through.

I explained everything to my family and everyone including my mother, and they keep advicing me to stand on my feet and fight for my home, so long as they's no violence. That I shouldn't divorce my husband.
We always have heated argument, raising voice at each other.

My mother inlaw on the other hand, was crying on the phone. Telling me not to mention that name (divorce) ever again.
All the family members are not in support of divorce, but the main person I'm married to seems not to care at all.


He obviously refused to stop gambling away with any money that comes to his hand.
He presently have no job and he's owning a lot.

He's addicted and he's not making effort to stop. This is the root problem in my home. Because he exhibit all the wrong behavior as a result of this addiction.
Once he have any little money, his attitude, everything changed. He becomes scary. Until he finishes everything in betting, I wouldn't be able to talk to him and he will listen.

What should I do? Where do I go that I wouldn't look like a disobedient person, dispite everyone's pleade?
I'm using all my time to cry, qurrel and grieve here. Can't find myself.
I am not financially stable to make a move without my family's support.

This man is slowly making you lose your sanity. Look at yourself in the mirror, you are a shadow of your former self. You have created how many threads in the past few months, all because of this man. Marriage is not a do or die, at least if you can’t divorce you need to seperate for a while.. please!!! What is all this nonsense now.. stand up woman!!!!

Edo people I hope you are hearing?

When it comes to prostitution, yahoo, drugs and criminal activities they are number one. They are so dull, uneducated, loud and aggressive. All the girls do runs and try to legitimise it by opening botiques. The men do yahoo then open clubs and hotels. Its only in their culture that you will see an 80 year old woman drinking her life away because it’s normal to them. They are nothing but useless idol worshipper, I think they are the main issue in Nigeria.

This is why I don’t believe women should have more than 2 kids. It’s nice for photoshoots
and maybe some people will see you as responsible. But the hard work, depression and sacrifice that comes with raising children is too much. Well, if you can’t bring someone in to help you, you will most definitely grow old before your time. A happy mother = happy children. Protect your well being and mental health. Sleep deprivation causes a lot of health issues eg high blood presure which is a silent killer, take note. If you die before your time, your husband will re marry and an outsider will be taking care of your kids. Nobody can look after your health more than you! Think about it!

Disgusting. The girls life is ruined before it’s even started.

I really love South Africans. The girls are so beautiful.. when we talk about body shape and beauty, South African huns are #1 in Africa. The vibes are just there. I really wanna go there one day. Beautiful country

Zigzagman:
bros, forget all dis ur engrish. better suffer neva nack you. I know wetin my family suffer for d hand of one sista like dat wey no fit born pikin for my bros come dey insult us say she no dey our level. all because say she dey lecture for poly.

any man wey want pikin no suppose marry all dis evening newspaper wey full town. If u no wetin women dey use their body do, u no go marry anyone wey don old....

even if she gives birth to 5 children your family will still insult her for something. People will always find a way to insult you, that is life. The people that are raising children will not tell you the stress and heartache it takes to raise those kids.. let everybody carry their cross. A 30 year old woman is not barren, life can happen to anyone. You find a woman that will ride with you till the end of time, she has fertility issues, what do you ? Children that will still grow up and leave you when you’re old. Some of you need to wake up.

Dimaya:
The original post is addressed to young men who are financially ready to start a family. That's why young men should not start families until they can support children.

If you had financial issues within your marriage, you can't automatically conclude it was because you were 24. You could have married a more financially stable man at 24 and would have avoided those same issues. You probably didn't have counsel on how to vet a man who could support a family. The solution is to teach younger women on what to look for in men who come to court them for marriage.


However, telling women to wait until 35 will not guarantee they'll find a financially stable man.

I’m not even talking about myself, I’m talking about in general. No matter the counsel, at 23 a woman doesn’t have the emotional maturity and stability to handle a home. It comes later in your late 20s. Like I said it’s only the grace of God that help some women and in the long run it always builds up resentment and bitterness. Nobody should rush into marriage for the sole reason of having kids on time. Children are not accessories or toys, it takes a lot to raise mentally stable and responsible children. A woman at 23/22 still wants to live her life, she just an advanced teenager.

Dimaya:
The post is for young men who want to get married. You could have gotten married at 30 and would still have the same marital issues you have.

I assume you had children shortly after marrying at 24. If your husband wanted to have children, then marrying you early gave him that outcome. However, if he had married a 35year old version of you, in addition to having the usual marital/relationship fights, he would now have to be battling with fertility issues.

The post and video isn't giving relationship advice. We all know relationships are hard. The post and video is giving reproductive health advice to men (who want children) when choosing a mate.

You assume that waiting until 32 to get married would have given you a better outcome. Perhaps you're right. But several women who've waited until mid thirties to start a family now have to deal with fertility issues in addition to the usual relationship problems that develop in marriage.

Do you think it’s better to bring children into the world with instability? Mentally and financially? Having children is great, but a faulty foundation is a disaster. If we outweigh the pros and cons, it is better to be childless knowing you did things the right way, than to bring 3/4 children into the world, and one or both parties are struggling to cope. Women in their early 20s do not adapt to motherhood/marriage well.. it almost always ends in resentment and bitterness. How can they adapt though? When their brain has not even fully developed to understand the significance of what they’re getting themselves into.

Suffering and smiling should not be our portion in this generation, we are educated and enlightened. We learn from the mistakes of our forefathers and make better choices.

At the end of the day, Nigerian men will always do what pleases them first. Even it means picking a lost 18 year old girl to marry just to reproduce. It’s the children that suffer.

I married at 24, I will never ever advise it. The perfect age is30,31,32. Anything before that is very risky. At 25 you don’t have the mental capacity to vet a man properly. Financially you cannot even stand on your own. Naivety and lack of experience will put you in the wrong hands. It’s only God that saves some women.

So pretty and youthful.

MadarasBlade:
My friend shut it right there, you have nothing to say. What values does a barren woman adds to a man's life?

if you can’t respond without insults then you’re not worth responding to.

MadarasBlade:
While this is okay, should a man chase away a barren wife knowing the fault isn't his?
Do you support this?

the two are incomparable. Infertility is a health problem, can a woman/man control their reproductive system? You can’t buy your health but money can always be made. That should answer your question.

baralatie:
Responsibilities is the excuse when money as a resource is considered to be a restraint.
In this case money is not a restraint
House chores is not a restraint
School fees is not a restraint
Time is not a restraint

You’ve been married for 5 years. Ask yourself if you want to have sex with this same person 2-3 a week without fail every time ? It gets boring. That’s why I said 2-4 times a month is better to keep the anticipation and spice there.

jimmychang:
They don't want to have sex or they don't get sex from their wife?

when responsibilities come, sex is not something you think about 24/7. Esp when you’ve been with the same woman for 5+ years.

jimmychang:
As a married man he shouldn't have sex every week

You carry mouth like swordfish

most married men don’t have sex weekly esp when kids & bills are involved. Go and ask around.

MrAgbako:
what is maca root

a herb that balances your hormones.. and boots your libido and energy.

ivandragon:
So many possible causes ranging from the physical to emotional.

Retrace the origin of your relationship from the day you met & you will find your answer(s) somewhere in there...

she just doesn’t like sex, and that is just it, she has been like that even before they got married. Manage her like that.