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The first girl could’ve just been an introvert. Maybe she doesn’t like phone calls or texts and unnecessary small talk. It’s very draining to some people.

Nelbless:
24

24 is the age I gave birth to my son. She is an adult please, let her be. She’s not a kid.

ObiaboAdoka:
Young lady remember one day u will also become a mother in-law oo. As For me, i don't need my wife consent to bring my mom to stay with us period.

try it first and see the problems it will bring to your home. Never ever bring your mother to live in your marital home… it is very wrong! Your wife shouldn’t try the same too. They can visit, but they can’t stay. If your mother is sick, siblings should work together to get the best possible treatment for her. Wife can also put in her judgement and help. But it is wrong for a mother to pack her load into her child’s marital home, unless it’s a critical life and death situation and she has no where else to go.

Helpout12345:
I don't care where the parents live or where the daughter or son take care of them from, in this discussion.

I only care when you say "you will take care of your mother alone while your husband takes care of his mother alone". That's not a good mentality for marriage. That's an unsupportive wife or husband's mentality.

Both you and your husband are supposed to take care of your parents together as a team.

it is not right to bring a sick parent to the house, and expect a busy wife and mom to take care of that parent, because the burden will always fall on the woman no matter how much you try to paint it. This is how marital issues occurs. Please try to use wisdom when discussing marital issues.

MaryAye:
I plan to take him with me. I want to rent an apartment close to the school of nursing and also change his school.

When I finish from class, I will go and get him from school. By the way, he's 4. Thanks.

go to school and get that nursing degree. I’m in the U.K. and I know how much shortage of nurses there are. They are so desperate to recruit nurses from Nigeria..it will be a huge opportunity for yourself and your son. Even if you want to practice in Nigeria, you will always have jobs available for you. Go back to school so you can always have something to fall back on.

MonsieurX:
Most voluptuous people are big all round, they just eliminated the areas they didn't want. All the big buttocks, big breasts, it's all fat, it comes with bellu most times and some big girls kill the stomach fat with constant work out, diet and waist trainers.

voluptuous and fat are two different things.

MonsieurX:
While she isn't as pretty as Nicki (facially), she has a point cos Nicki Minaj's body is fake and if Nicki maintained her normal body under the same conditions, most guys would go for Anita on the basis of voluptuousness alone.

Let's appreciate our African women and that natural shape they have o. Oyinbo don slice their body finish just to look like them.

you don’t know the difference between volumptous and big. Anita is big all around.

dahmie2013:
See the burial like they have been planning it for years. Rest in perfect peace ma'am.

they have been planning the funeral for over 10
Years. That’s why everything was perfected even down to the hand movements.

How can you blame your parents for how you naturally are? You are naturally quiet and you seem to have an issue with it, that’s why you are miserable. Be at peace with it, be confident with saying a few words and listening more, nobody will be able to knock you down. People can sense when you’re anxious and insecure, that’s why you’re not able to form relationships with people.

How can you expect people to love you when you don’t love yourself. I mean who calls themselves “mentally dumb”? Even those wey no get sense will still act like they know everything and people will always flock to them. Value yourself please! Try! Fake it if you have to, it will eventually become your reality,

You learn to live with it, since you’re not ready to leave. There’s no amount of begging and pleading that will make your husband change, he will continue to cheat, that’s a choice he has decided to make. So please stop bothering yourself over that, it’s a waste of time. Men like your husband do not change until they are 70, elderly looking with multiple health complications.

One thing about men, when you begin to give birth to their children, the way they view you changes. It’s the natural psychology of men. You become the replacement of their mother, and there’s nothing you can do to change that. You can be the sexiest woman on earth, you will always remind him of routine and stability, (aka see finish lol) it’s subconscious. They say show me the most beautiful woman in the world and I’ll show you a man who is bored of her. When I see the scrubs that men cheat with on their beautiful amazing wives, it’s quite shocking. Then you will understand the mindset of men.

It’s the grace of God that give some married men discipline, but most of them succumb to their selfish thrills and desires. Affairs give them the excitement, challenge and chase that he had when he first met you.

If you’re not ready to leave, I say focus on yourself and look the other way. Wear condoms to protect yourself and empower your mind with positive and exciting things. Take care of yourself and be the source of your happiness. Your husband is not your God, he is not your Life. Do not revolve your life around him. Be at peace, you cannot force or control another human being to do what you want them to do. I personally think you need to leave him, he will destroy you and turn you into a shadow of yourself if you do not , but that’s left for you to decide. Good luck.

How many girls in Nigeria are still virgins at 23 heck even at 18? Even if they are , they have engaged in MouthAction and all sorts of masturbation and sexual activities. Let’s stop with the hypocrisy here and give her the advice that is needed.

Tall guys are more attractive…they are better to look at. No matter how handsome a short man is he will be overlooked because of his height. An ugly tall man will always be favourable. This is not when money is involved sha. It applies to both genders, tall women are more beautiful. They stand out and tend to look better in clothes, hence height is the biggest factor in the modelling industry.

Character is what makes or breaks a home, not sex styles. If you like, climb on top of the roof, after 5 years you will still get tired.

Be a good person, not just to your husband but to the people around you. It will sustain you for life.

Wait till he gets to two. My son is two and he can’t sit still. I think it’s just how boys are. Sit down try and talk to him, sing to him and it helps them to calm down. Let him go outside and run around. Use all that energy up. But you just have to endure, it’s a phase.

ahnie:
Some kids can be really frustrating with their doings.
I m pretty sure that she never meant any of those curses.

She's just a little frustrated with her you're treating her and your doings

it’s not good enough. There’s power in the tongue. Learn to control what you say, it’s a skill every adult must possess.

batb:
That's not true. Haven't you heard that UK is the home for all single mother who left Naija?

they’re single mothers everywhere. But men in the U.K. and USA are more open to date single mothers. People are less likely to hold onto their dead marriages abroad, so more single fathers available. She’s more likely to see a success story overseas. The economy overseas is also more favourable to single mothers

Assuming you’re in the U.K. or USA, you will easily meet someone else, and possibly re marry if that’s what you want. But Nigeria, it’s hard. The men in Nigeria are not exposed to life, they see single mothers as abomination.

If you can relocate to the U.K. with your children, you will be better off. Start afresh your life is just beginning.

Carcholce:
So what exactly are you asking us to help you reason?

he is venting to the people of nairaland na. Allow him to express himself.

Why would any married woman go on her knees to beg her husband to hang out with her ex? Naira land and lies sha. Even if she want to hang out with her ex, is it you that she will beg? Na wa oh

It makes food smelly. It makes the body smell. It makes the house smell. It’s too strong, especially when used it stews.. like ayamase. More tolerable in Okro but still do not like it in my food.

One kid can be a mistake but when you start having 2 plus kids with a man, prepare yourself to stick with him through his bullshit and nonsense. Nigeria is not an economy that supports single mothers. Most men in Nigeria do not have the ability to carry your children as theirs. Think Am well, shine your eyes and protect your womb. Even if you reach 38 with no child, it is better than to have 4 kids at 35 with a useless demonic man. Don’t let anybody deceive you.

Who don fine don fine. It’s not a matter of bleaching. Some women bleach to the point they look like pigs. Red and smelly skin. When they reach 40, their skin becomes wrinkled and aged. Stay true to yourself, you will look better overtime and your health will be preserved.

37 reason like he’s 19. Na wa

Is this one a balanced diet? Chai Nigerians know nothing about nutrition. It’s only carbohydrates and palm oil that they know.

eMoney50:
I eat it every day.

You don't need to spend much to get a balance diet.

If you can

1. Eat rice and beans for breakfast.

2. Eat eba and soup for lunch.

And, 3. Eat fried egg and bread for dinner,

You are good to go.

But if you think your earnings are not enough to support your expenses and you have extra time to invest daily, follow the thread below:

https://www.nairaland.com/7175581/get-paid-5-per-task

We4all:
I have a bad feeling about legally married couples who club together. In my opinion, no responsible man would want to take his wife to a rowdy night club full of miscreants.

what is wrong with taking your wife to the club? Is that the issue here? Or you want to lock your wife in the house so no other man will look her way? It’s not possible. The problem here is burna boy who doesn’t know how to respect boundaries.

19 year old unmarried uneducated and pregnant. She will regret it for the rest of her life. You think it’s easy to raise a child? You people never see anything yet.

Chamakh93:
I have this same eye issue. My eyelid is also black . it started when I was very young , I will scratch my eyes till I begin to see stains of blood on the cloth that I am using to scratch it. I use to enjoy it. As at then , I used to feel the urge to scratch it every night around 7pm. After scratching , I will now have swollen and red eye balls. Although, it has reduced drastically now , I only feel the urge to scratch maybe once in 5months or more sef.

For those saying the OP should see a doctor , una no know anything. There was roughly no drug I didn't use wen I was younger ,from eye ointment to eye drops . He no gree go. Till tomorrow , doctors could not get the name eye problem , they will just keep recommending eye drops for you.

I have it too. There’s nothing you can do about it. The pigmentation around your eyes is the hardest to get rid of.

Thank God you’re not a single mother. You will meet someone else and move on from this situation

Tranquility2345:
You are yearning dust. It never ever gets dark before 6pm in the UK. How can you say it starts to get dark by 3pm And you must be high on cheap drugs to say that it starts to get bright around 8 or 9 am in November/December. WTF!!!

Darkness starts by like 6 in the evening and it gets bright by 6am in the morning. Only in the summer does it stay bright till about 8pm and gets bright around 5 in the morning. Stop reading on the internet and travel to get real life experience before opening mouth waaaaa to talk wetin you no know

lol I was born in the U.K.. Thanks for your input.