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Moreign001:
I for marry her while in school abi?

Moreign001:
Hello Guys, Good Morning and a Happy Sunday to you all.

I don't know how concise i can be, but I will try.

I just graduated last 3 months, with my girlfriend who's now my ex, and she's 26yrs of age while I'm 28yr.

We started dating from our 200level till yesterday, (that's approximately 4yrs and counting...).
We were ideal together, we were well known in school, to an extent where her friends and mine kept asking how? And wishing theirs was like ours..

She promised never to leave, and she please everyday that I should never hurt her. At times we jokingly talked about our future kids which is now a never happening fable.

So after we graduated, she travelled to stay with her aunt, we do check on each other everyday.

Last month.. She called, and said her friend needs an advice, that she and her date just graduated, and that another man is asking her out, and she's thinking of dumping her guy since he's not ready, and that the newly known man is ready to pay for her marriage rites.
Immediately I knew she was the one in the story, because I already had several dreams were she left me. I pretended, I told her to tell her friend to "Follow Her Heart".

Last night she called, and said there's something she wants to tell me, I responded, "Is it what I already know?", she asked what? I told her she's getting married soon, and she said yes! I was speechless. I asked her for how long has this been going on, she said it started when she came to stay with her Aunt. We spoke, and I congratulated her, she started crying, I ended the call, sent her a good luck text.

This morning, she called and said she couldn't sleep last night. I asked her why she did it, why she decided to get married, she said she doesn't know. I asked if she likes the guy, she said yes. She couldn't stop crying and was saying I shouldn't leave her, while she's the one leaving me. I was totally down, but I have crazy friends. I WhatsApp a friend, told him what just happened, his words boosted me up. He said, " Support her, we move, no be God leave you". That was enough, but it's hard, really hard to move on without her, and she said the same thing and kept pleading I shouldn't leave her.
Now I'm asking, if I was the one who had left, what would have been the story? That I used her and dumped her, because this has always been used against the guys.
Why are women in a rush to marry? They don't even add value to themselves, I'm now 80% in agreement that marriage is one of the greatest achievement for a woman, maybe in Nigeria.

ifiokjohn:
Start small bro, start with Nollywood cinema standard and before you know even Netflix will contact you...start small and get the network first. To be sincere no one in his right man will give out his 500k dollars to someone without even a noteworthy Nollywood cinema standard movie. That's just the truth.

ifiokjohn:
See bro let me be truthful to you. The Nollywood you criticize is putting food on a lot of people's table and making them comfortable.

Try to start small.. start with doing Nollywood level movies. From little by little you get to do Nollywood standard movies like "The wedding party, Omo ghetto, King of Boys " etc... From there , many will come to know you and trust you..before you know they will be willing to invest 10-15 million on your movies...if you get 10 people ready to invest that, it is a 100-150 million then. Besides, do you know most of this Nollywood movies I listed above funds were gotten from the bank of industry?.....the bank gave this Nollywood producers because they're well known and they can execute it. But if you are waiting for 500k dollars investment as an upcoming producer, you go wait tire. You have to learn to start small. Producing Nollywood standard movies, get to know the industry, others producers, actors, directors etc. Let the movie you produce at least be in standard like the movies I mentioned above..Cinema standard and then watch your application to the BOI for loan approved.
That's my thought. Reason m.

QueenVaji:
you sound like a fool dreaming...talking about Hollywood movie and 500k in dollars...wake up u bastard

WesternOligarch:
Lol, $500k.....who are you in the industry?

$500k investment into some movie is much plus there's really no economic benefit of investing in such for the wider population, you idea solves no problem in nigeria, $500k invested in garri processing will give me an interest of atleast 15% yearly and also provide direct and indirect jobs for alot of lower income Nigerians.

Damilare65:
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$500,000 is about 272 million naira

Amotolongbo:
Only if you want make God commot “v” from your Dive

Neduzze5:
Send me a mail.

Depressed101:
500,000$ In nigeria where labor is cheap?? Since you are just starting out why not improvise and really see that your first movie comes out m.... Ha. $500k ke

Historicalee:
What's that creative idea of yours that needs funding?

This idea could be in any of these sectors:
Tech
Education
Community Development
Entertainment
Public Health.

BeardedMeat:
Living in the west with your body parts intact is a miracle everyday.

Insidenaija:
https://newspremises.com.ng/look-at-yourselves-one-by-one-de-gea-criticizes-man-utd-players-after-4-1-defeat-to-watford/

oladele239:
Wema bank .... Bank of the orphans

SundayNightGist:
Honestly, I used to believe some things belonged to the red light district. Or is it just me? Seeing that I was raised a church boy with little to no experience chiking babes, I couldn’t imagine myself ever dating a girl that now makes me think twice. Like, am I now mad or what? How did I get here?

Since I met this my new girl, it’s just been as if the veil of "ignorance" is beginning to fall off my face; abi guy man don dey spoil go be that ni?

Or how else can I explain to this honorable forum that my current girlfriend, though a manager at her company, likes to wear waist-beads? I mean she even wears it to work!

Although I somehow like the sight of it on her waist, I just can’t get the idea of thinking she might be a corporate olosho out of my head. This thing is sowing seeds of mistrust in me and I really don’t know what to do again. And it’s not like I haven’t told her. Everytime I do she will just look at me with a side-eye, rub my head, and laugh briefly. Shey I never carry load wey no be my own like this? Abi na my mind? Make e no be say na person glory dey on the line so o. The thing dey fear me walahi.

Nairalanders please advise a brother urgently.

EkehPraise:
Honestly I am not trying to sound like a broken record though I'm hurting badly because I don't know how to feel, but this my babe that I've been dating for the past 2 years hardly calls me. Times without number we have talked about it and she promised to improve but that has not been the case.

We have discussed marriage plans and also introduced each other to our families hoping to give it a go ahead come 2022 by God's grace which I know she will be happy to settle with me but two days ago during my break time from work I checked my phone and as usual was about calling her then it occurred to me that this is what I do everyday from good morning to goodnight no calls from her except I call or chat first so I decided not to call or chat yet till now nothing from her.

She has been online on whatsapp, I am sure she calls other people. I have made up my mind not to call or write to her first and if she doesn't reach out to me then I will just bone and move on gently.

wfjimmytobby:
I meet this girl around September we got so close and have always spent on her, going shopping and all that and always tell her how I feel.

She do make demand from me and have always responded..but I suspected that she has lots of suitors trying to get her and even her ex..cos she told me he is trying to get back so I decided to demand for sex so we can get serious but she refuse and said she is not ready and that I should wait but she keeps requesting for assistance and even wants me to get her a new phone cos her previous phone got spoilt and all..

So I need your advice should I wait for her to be ready to give me her body and keep on assisting her or should I just give up on the relationship cos she might actually be trying to scam me or something?

SuperStriker:
Good day everyone.
I don't want to cheat on my wife but she cannot cope with my demands for sex. She even told me to control myself and be more spiritual and I am wondering. If I am not controlling myself, I would have cheated on her long ago. I am a fine looking man with many opportunities to cheat. We only have sex when she's ready and wants it, anything outside that is excuse upon excuse. How can a woman I married be telling me to control myself?