steveneche: Remember my girlfriend who slapped my mum on boxing Day? She's back with her entire family begging.
Candid opinion please, should I accept her back?
My fear is, she might do worse after marriage if she can do this to my mum in a relationship..
If anything happen to your mom, I will hold you responsible. A girl slapped your mom and you want to receive her back! In fact, you need serious beating
walkbrazil4k: My favorite back then use to be Joyce on cool FM
D-don and ochuko comedy show and I can't remember the name of the radio
And then sharing life issues, I can't remember the radio station and I liked listening to Wana on that show and all the guys on the show, Rip to Chaz-B share yours
FernandezPablo: Novesa pls stop bringing your private life on-line aiit..most persons you are asking here ain't sensible enough to comprehend your question.... How about you book an appointment with a relationship expert and speak to "them"physically..
Mr wise man! This matter does not require expert. It only requires common sense.
I just comot from one thread wey e babe de do hook up for Ibadan
Bro! I no know say you sef dey observe am. I tire for this generation ooo before I believe the saying that there is no new thing under the sun, but for this generation, there are plenty things under the sun ooo!
NovesaTillie: Good morning and merry Christmas everyone.
Please I'm in dilemma and really need some good advice. This guy and I have been on this relationship thing for 5 months now with occasional misunderstandings here and there. The first one was because he visited me and refused to go after the time he said he would leave, when he finally left I got back home from work only for the security to call me that I have a visitor at the main gate and behold it was him. I allowed him stay the night because he's a nice guy, really good in bed and also helps in the house to do stuff like wash the dishes and cooking.
Fast forward to December 15th we agreed he comes over and we spend the Christmas at my place then go to his place from 27th so we can enjoy the new year there. As we agreed, he came to my place on 17th of December and has not made any moves to leave or for us to go to his place. I am moved to create this thread because I got home from work yesterday and noticed more of his things have been arranged in the wardrobe with his shoes arranged by the front door..
Please how do I address this? I can't go on like this. He eats a lot. Snores also. Is relationship not supposed to be the other way around why is he moving into my apartment like I'm going to marry him We both stay in Abuja.
bestme: Hello, nairalanders in the house, pls I need your sincere advice in this matter.
I have known this lady I really want to marry for over 2 years now. Though our friendship have been a casual one. The issue is she told me she is a graduate and then i visited her house over 2 years back I met her mom and she asked me where I came from- my tribe and if I am a graduate and told her my tribe and yes I am graduate.
She said she wants her daughter to marry a graduate because she has done her best to train her school. It was of recent we started a serious marriage relationship and I told my pastor and we both met with pastor already.
It Is now she told me that she did not graduate that she was unable to pay school fees, though she went up to 500level and did I.T but her parents only paid 100 and 200 level school fees. She said she has no result/certificate. I told her am honestly disappointed for hiding this from me ever since and she said it is because I have not really made my intentions know to her.
One of the reasons I like her was being a graduate and I have not dreamt of marrying a non graduate.
Pls your sincere advice.
My fear for you is that she and her mom might be hiding another thing from you. Be wise bro. It's up to you to decide what you want.
Richdoh: I'm a young hard work guy who's planning to settle down someday. I have a girlfriend whom I have gone to see her family with my own family , as in, we have done our introduction, what was remaining was for us to fix a date for our wedding.
But this girl started showing some nasty attitude. There was a day she came to spend weekend with me and I gave her some money to buy some food stuffs to cook, that day i received the greatest shocke of my life , my fiancee warmed me never to send her message like that again that she is not my slave.
As if that was not enough. Another day she came to spend some days with me but when she got to my house I was not at home that day. She went to the bathroom to get some shower but unfortunately there was no water running in the bathroom because we didn't had light for 2days so we couldn't pump water. Normally when there's no water like that we usually fetch from the next compound. Though I live in a room and parlour self contain with water running in my kitchen and bathroom.
To cut the long story short, my fiancee refused to fetch water for herself to take her shower. She had to call me on phone to come home and fetch water for her to take her shower. When I eventually got home at late hour, I took the bucket went to fetch water for her to bath just for peace to rain. I later asked her why she had to call me to come and fetch water for her to bath knowing fully well that I was not around. She said in her house, she does not fetch water that her dad usually call Aboki's and buy water from them. She told me that she can't leave a suffering life of having to fetch water, she can never do it.
Please nairalander is this a good sign or bad sign to watch out for?
Bro! With all what you wrote here! Peace no fit rain ooo! You are on a smoking bomb waiting to explode.
Zizizi: Merry Christmas ��� my people. Please it's very lengthy but I will make it brief .
So my brother happen to join one guy in the neighborhood who's into yahoo. I mean in less down 8 months he bought two cars a day , buying landed properties in PH , lag and Delta . I mean all there men buy cars in two once . Almost all have hotels or are building hotels or one house or the other , they go to club they spend like politicians, go to area they are known they dash like Anini . But ,what I don't understand is they all attend white garment church , they travel from pH to oweri to attend the church not that they were born into the church oh , the new found yahoo made them to start going to the church, they no longer call God , God or Jesus' ,Jesus but rather Yahweh .
Sometimes they sacrifices rams and other stuff that's what they show us oh we don't know if there's anything beyond that .I happen to hear one say he will have to stay in the church for a month to be able to have the blessings. I am not exaggerating anything I have said . What I have said about the spending is more . If they want to go worship,they use two Hilux of police to and fro to avoid harassment that's how they hv gone wide with it ...I mean all small boys none is up to 36years .
Well, I am just concerned about the possible consequences as I have brother in it . Fear no de allow me go close to am one bit cause I hate anything spiritual season I am not too deep in prayers make person no go rob me with evil . ...
I forget to add, sometimes de travel to ABJ or lag only them know waiting them de go do der .. sometimes spend 1 week or two in each of these state no be say na flexing oh....I personally don't know what de do der .
I am just curious! What's the possible consequences? Is it normal that white garment blesses people that way ? ...their priest they call him Kohem the king maker ..as young boy too ...base Owerri and the owner of the white garment church.
Please forget my typo and say one or two u know about this .
Mynd44 Seun
The church your guys are going is a satanic church. They are trading people's souls with Satan. You better be careful!
toolate2fail: As for me it was a cool one we both love each other, the year to us was a romantic year we are married together with 2 kids. Just that financial burden is mostly on me but I am not complaining, I thank God. 2022, I have some plans and I know with God help we will achieve them. Tell us about ur wife/ boi/ girl friend How will u rate your love life in this 2021.
Congratulations bro! As for my own in 2021, Baba! E blank oooo. But I know 2022 no go blank.
Idowu116: Hello Everyone,am new here and I see the way people share opinion about what they are going through in life so I decided to share mine too.
This is a little bit long please bear with me. Am a 22 year old undergraduate.I finished my secondary School in 2017 but couldn't further my education because my parents (father particularly) are financially down.
I didn't even attend my graduation party party because my dad refused to get me the clothes we chose to wear in my class.
So out of shame,I didn't attend the party and I haven't even collect my certificate and testimonial till today.
Later in November that year (finished school in September),I decided to start looking for a menial job so a friend helped me with work at a particular market in Lagos, where I wash shoe for shoe sellers.
I did this till 2020 in March before the Corona virus issue started.
So around December I resumed the work again till early April, this year.
A friend of my mom helped me get a job at a bank,to work as a cleaner.
All this while, my dad and mom had a serious fight and my dad stopped living with us.
My father is a stubborn and who fornicates and my mom is not happy with it.
So luckily,I got the job and I started working that same month, paid 25k. With this 25k, a take transport everyday #400 (200 go,200 come)and I feed from it too.i give my mum 5,000 from it too but am not happy and comfortable with it because before the month ends I end up having nothing, trekking to work and have not to eat talk less of saving to further my education.
Working as a cleaner, people use to take advantage of me a lot and a person,I have studied my nature well.I don't like people sending me on errands,I hate it but that is the nature of the job.
People take me for granted, some abuse me then I would cry and wish I never existed.
Sometimes I think of committing sucide but I later do keep my cool.I am an introvert but I have decided to start talking back at people and refusing to answer their message but am scared I might loose my job even though am not happy with the job.
Am also thinking of stopping the job myself but am scared of poverty.
I don't want to go back to the shoe washing job too because it is too stressful and I get sick when doing it
Please what should I do
Bro! Na prayer you need to pray ooo! That God should show you the way and raise destiny helper for you. That's my own advice ooo.
Daniel7543: I'm depressed and heartbroken. Pls am not a good writer.
All my Life I've been a hustler. 2013 I was a school drop out in 200L due to financial issues. I had no money, no sponsor, my parents were also struggling. I started doing machanic work. I was a machanic for 3-4 years. My boss wasn't paying me well. I couldn't save money at all despite being good at it. And I wanted to go back to school.
2016 i moved to ijebu-ode with a friend to do farm work. He said Diamond Bank bought some acres of land for strictly agriculture including animal farming like fish ponds and poultry, so they need laborers/workers. They're willing to pay 25k monthly. Even aboki too dey apply for the job. Those of you that travels by road would understand how bushy and lonely ijebu-ode express road is. My friend and I was in that bush for over 10 months working our ass out. I was so dark and looking unkept. The job really took my energy that year.
I gathered little money abt 120k and I resigned. I used the money to start okirika (2nd hand clothes) business in kantagua market in Lagos to sustain myself. An old friend of mine in school back then inbox me on Facebook (he's now a graduate) We gist, laugh and exchange contact. He's doing well but He was into yahoo. He invited me to his place in abeokuta. He was actually showing me the way. I didn't like the lifestyle but I have no choice, I began to do yahoo. Over a year I didn't see 1 kobo. But hopes were rising.
2019 I collected abt #3million {6k euro}. It was like a dream, I don't know weda it's God handwork or I'm just lucky. I just remain focus in yahoo, I won't lie. Fast forward to last year June-july I went back to Benin, i met this girl, I told her my hustles and struggles. We started dating early this year. I took care of her. During her nysc I was the one who paid for her accommodation abt 150k.
I wanted to tie the knot. So last week Wednesday I told her about my plans I would like to see her parent for introduction on the 28th next week, since is public holiday. My girlfriend called me at the middle of the night abt 2am telling me "I don't have a degree, I'm not a graduate, I don't have a job. What will I tell her parent when i come for introduction, Her parent won't accept oo I shouldn't bother coming" . It was as if they poured very cold water on my body. She's now giving me attitude. I'm speechless. I explained to my friends this morning they said I should forget about her and I should just travel out.
For those of you saying I'm a simp or I can't help my family or my fellow man. Listen Infact I opened a restaurant for my mother. I bought 2 pieces of land for my father in the village. I'm taking care of my younger ones. I have also helped my fellow guy man. My hands are open.
Nairalanders, here are my plans. I want to travel to Germany, further my studies and work in an automobile company because that's what I'm good at. By the grace of God, April next year I'm planning to move. Am abt to sell my car so I can add it up with the money with me to process our visa. Yahoo has never been on my list nd it's becus of condition I did it. I just want to settle down by January and travel with her. Age is not on my side. I'm 32. my girlfriend don't wanna listen, she's looking down on me.
Don't know what to do.
Initially I didn't want to say anything but I saw that you are my name sake "Daniel" that's why I want to talk. Your head is not correct! She only love your money not your personality. The best advice I will give you is to go to your Germany and forget about her completely. If you make the mistake of taking her along to oversea, you will regret it all your life. Besides we Daniel are wise people so therefore WISE UP BRO!
Ficient: I'm a federal civil servant, wife just got a job in the UK as a nurse. This has been our plan, although she initiated the idea which I supported especially bcuz of our kids. As the time is getting closer I'm developing some cold feet, but eventually I'm sure I will move. Don't really know if leaving my civil service job and farming business is a good idea, I don't really have an Abroad game plan yet.
Bro! Pray and seek the will of God. You don't have to be in U.K to be Ok.
Foreverdope: A video which is circulating on social media, shows a man creating a scene at a wedding ceremony after he found out to his shock that the bride is his own girlfriend.
It was gathered that man was invited to the wedding and he showed up to the venue just like other guests, but to his shock, the lady who was getting married that day was his girlfriend.
Destabilized by the turn of events, he started causing drama but before things could escalate, he was whisked away by security guards at the wedding.
The video was shared online alongside the caption; “He was invited to a wedding and he came to meet his girlfriend as the BRIDE.”
Denvacandy: Is this really normal, i will be 26years soon and i dnt have a beard atall, i am even less concern about it becoz na money dey my mind, but shey this thing normal like this, even small boys go dey call me name sometimes self nawa oo
Richpet85: Please do not mind my english consider any error as typo but I honestly needed a sincere advice.
My marriage will be 8 years by September 2022. The journey of marriage has not been rosy and sometime I feel I made a very huge mistake by marrying my wife. I met her in April that year, we date for 6 months and we finally got married Sept same year. Prior before we got married I took her to meet with my siblings since my both parents were late specially our 2nd daughter who her husband sponsored my secondary education. She was cool with my family and never raised any concern during this period of courtship.
Suddenly a night of our wedding everything changed. That same woman that took care of my family as hers turned into directly opposite of who she used to be. To cut the story short, she started dispising my family and the thought of their sight irritates her.
She started by complaining about my sister's son living with me before we got married, her mum and other of my siblings to the point that anytime my eldest sister visited she will leave my house with tears.
My wife also ensure she send all my siblings and relations away from me and my house no go area for them. But what confuses me was that she doesn't behave in a similar manner whenever her own siblings or her mum visits our home. Her behaviour towards my family has destroyed the joy we once had as siblings. The marriage has produced 3 kids of which my last child is less than a month old. Anytime she put to bed her mother has always been the one coming for OMUGOO. None of my siblings can come to my house because of her attitude towards them.
I can't tolerate it further am dying silently as am typing this msg her mum, her immediate junior Sister are in my house and every where is very peaceful. If they were my mum or sibling my house would have been burning by now.
I made conscious effort to kill and ignore this feeling but anytime I see her mum and sister. I feel very depressed in my own house. There are other ill behaviour she have which I can tolerate but seeing myself separated from my siblings because of my wife is my greatest Marital night mare.
I am sincerely fade up with her but my kids are my greatest weakness. The thought of leaving my house and go far away from her or rather travel abroad and leave there permanently has recently overcrowded my mind. But I can't stop thinking about my kids, their future and what they will turn into if she is to raise them alone.
Don't forget I have provided her with everything needed to be comfortable in marriage, house, cars, business etc mostly importanly I am not cheating on her, I don't smoke, I don't keep late night and I don't have friends because she has sent everybody close to me away from my life.
I need a mature advice and no insult please.
I am emotionally trumatised and feel so depressed.
You are the one that caused this for yourself by allowing her to start it. Be man enough to stand on your ground and tell her that you don't want to see her family again in your house until she changed her bad behavior towards your family.
Sluacoast: I wouldn't bored you with any lengthy epistle. I'll just go straight to the point.
Typing is so stressful to me. How I wish Seun can come up with a voice recording as an alternative to writing to deliver a message.
Well, my friend came to me to seek advice, he's in a relationship with his Long time gf and they're likely getting married soon. He works as a driver for his girlfriend father. Perhaps he got the driving job through her influence.
But there's something trying to destroy this beautiful union. His girlfriend of 3 years relationship is requesting for a head. (Like telling him to suck her vaginal with his mouth) this has been going for a long time before he's even disclosing it to me. She usually suck his dick and he's not complaining since she's comfortable doing that. Now she wants him to do the Same to her and he refused. This has brought a little problem to their relationship and besides the lady barely allow him sex her again if he won't agree to her request. He has tried every means to convince her that he cannot do it and she will come up with her own excuse that she does the same for him but he's even telling her to stop if that would make her happy. For a few days now. She's not picking his calls whenever he called her. And if he comes to visit at her place. She'd refused to see him and will be in her room all through. You can imagine stupid thing bringing problems to this union. Now the father has been suspecting that something is wrong. The father is even in support of their union since they're so much in love with themselves.
Please what can he do to save his relationship?
Tell your friend to read about Cancer of the throat.
i will try and be brief with this narrations. please pardon my English also.
My friend (Peter) (not his real name) met her Fiancee (Engel) (not her real name) first and things has been going well with both of them. since our service years, they both have been doing well. she got a Job in another state and she had to leave the state for greener pasture. Engel was so nice and a very good person with beautiful heart. all of us that are peter's friend like her and accepted her to be our friend's future wiffy.
Distance relationship they say its only the grace of God it takes for one partner not to cheat. i'm not justifying that one should cheat in a distant relationship but sha,. my friend began to see another girl ( Rachel)(not her real name). Rachel is so rude , she does'nt have regards for any of us. she talks to our friend any how and all manners of uncultured things.
The problem started when peter has refused to let go of Rachel. despite constant fighting and embarrassment, they will still reconcile and let go of the past. Rachel has made peter lost his job, (she went to his office and destroys all the office laptops, desktops, fridge, water dispensers, glasses etc on a weekend), inflict injury on his face, burnt all his wears, broke his TV, destroys all his properties but inspite all of these, peter will still go and beg Rachel and they will reconcile. little issues like when Engel call and she sees it, will trigger her anger. Rachel knows her rival Engel but Engel doesnt know someone is fighting her. The crazie thing is all these fights and embarrassments happens in the presence of we his friends but he doesnt care. we have advised him to let go of this Jezebel Girl but he will said okay, highest 2 days they are back together. i asked my friend why is he allowing this girl radicle his life like this and he told me that the lady has lost her womb during the cause of constant abortions. is that why you will allow this girl ridicle your life? is that why you will allow her kill you before your time? did you force the tablet into her mouth? he said No, did she take the tablet out of duress? he said no. shey both of you consented to this? he said yes., knowing the consequences because she's a Nurse., she still go ahead and take the pills. now, things has happened and she's making his life miserable. my friend from owning a car, he now jumps from one taxi to the other. sold off his car to rent apartment for this girl, buy her things, yet she's not appreciative. most of his friends have left him, only me and one other guy is remaining., we have told him to involve police or welfare court, he rejected. and his wedding is just few months away., his fiancee isnt even aware of all these dramas.
The latest incidence that happened is what opened my friends eyes. she went to my friends house and destroys MY Car i borrowed him to use and hold body through bolt service. my friend couldnt take this and told the girl its over., now this girl has refused to go. she said after my friend has wasted her time, destroys her life , he now want to move on !! she has sworn that its either both of them die or they marry. i was so scared now because shes acting like that Lady in ACCRIMONY MoVIE. my friend beat her after she destroys my car but she left and promised to return hot! she is really loosing it and my friend also is loosing it.
im so confused and feel for my friend.,
Please Nairalanders. what can one do in this kind of situation.
Lalasticlala, mynd44 help save a friends life. he's depressed
Na your friend use him hand pack wahala into him life.
lomprico: You already did by saying you missed her and she agreed by saying she missed you too. Why are you disturbing us again na? Don't you know that 1 small indomie and 1 egg is now 100 naira each?
Really! Chai, this is a serious matter ooo! Thank God one fufu is still 50naira in mushin
EkehPraise: Like every well brought up young man, I'm in my early 30's and really doing fine at least I'm not begging for anything from anyone.
I set out this year to wife my girlfriend whom I had dated for 2 years but her character made me think twice so we broke up and I moved on. I have tried to make friends with matured ladies in the church I worship but it's been from one bad experience to another.
Ever since I started looking for a woman to call my wife I have been meeting different characteristics of women. Within the space of 1 year I've met one who is a maniac, one I met at a hangout didn't hesitate to show her lazy attitude the day she came to my place to see I'm a bit comfortable, another one I met recently in church turned out to be a thief.
2021 is almost over and I'm yet to find a wife. Where do you advice I go in search for a good woman?
Wife material scarce oh!
Bro! Don't rush yourself. The best will come. Many of those girls out there are confused and unserious. Keep praying to God to give you your own.
Na Ogun go Kee you if you ask why am voting Bola Ahmed Tinubu... After all he did NADECO, Lagos State
*Best Graduating student Chicago State University *Former partners with Deloitte , PWC , Anderson, G.E, ExxonMobil, Aramco *Former Senator, two terms Governor of Nigeria's most richest best Governed State, founder of a ruling Political Party and National Leader *Investor in local economy, INTELs logistics (only Nigeria owned port logistics) , OANDO PLC, Alpha Betta (the only Nigeria tax consulting services in Nigeria that can rival foreign ones) Renita platform, TVC (top Nigerian News station)
*Rapid Response Squad... RRS best security outfit created by BAT *LASERMA 112 *BRT fast metro system *LCDA creation *Best Tax model in Nigeria * First state owned independent power plant *LAGBOAT *Highest paid civil servants *Detribalized political appointment with Ibos and Hausa serving under Jagaban *PPP Eko Atlantic manmade island
yuping: All because of tribe, someone stood by you did not abandoned you when you need him the most but you are looking for an angel that reside in your village SMH, if you are looking for love you find it but you are too blind to see it. Whatever you are looking for now is fantasy and fiction which you might never get, but life is gamble shaa anyway, abandoned your baby and take the risk maybe the king of your tribe might introduce is son to you. And remember when your tribe person treat you badly your uncle and aunt won't be there, its marriage your suffer and enjoy alone in it.
God bless you bro! Many of these women don't really know what they want. They are confused. The poor guy was there for her when her family abandoned her only for her to repay the guy with ungrateful behavior.
SensualMan: I'm only impressed that a Nyamiri from the great tribe came to Afonja nation and checked out as the best graduating student of OAU, a feat even the rat poison guzzler, Awolowo couldn't achieve.
Congratulations to that igbo boy. Whoever knows him should send me his details. I have something for him, better than what the govt gave him.
Iamdbull: As I be olodo Almighty father in his infinite wisdom gave me a genius as sister, beauty and brain. She became a lecturer at 25 in one of the prestigious universities in southwestern nigeria, Olabisi Onabanjo University. And now she's a doctor at 31. Am so proud of her.
I just pray that baba God should bless my music hustle make people no dey yab me say as my Sister be Dr wetin me dey carry my life do.
That's her picture below, isn't she beautiful
Wow! Congratulations to her. She's beautiful. Is she married? I am handsome and beautiful. I am also a PhD student too.
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