Family › Help! My Friend Is Afraid Of Getting Married by Oloniyan(op): 12:41pm On Jan 03, 2017 |
My Friend just confided in me the real reason he has been avoiding and evading any discussion that has to do with marital affairs. This guy is a very handsome dude and a jovial kind of being. I noticed that since I've known him that he hasn't keep any relationship beyond 4 months. I used to brushed this off with the reason that my friend must be a playboy until yesterday evening when he opened up to me because of his 'High' state  He told me he was born out of wedlock and he was taken from his mother when he was just a year plus (as he was told) to be living with his paternal Grandmother. The Grandparents were farmers and they have little or no time to attend to his mental developments. He told me that doesn't remember any bit about any 'reasonable' time spent with his real dad or mom before he lost them at his teens age. Now to cut the story short, he said he couldn't bring himself to understand what a Parental care or love is. He doesn't know anything about family setup because the people he lived with in his early age were farmer that start their daily routine of farming as early as 6am and ends it around 6pm which hindered them from showing him that love or care he craves for. The fear in his mind now is how he's gonna be relating with any woman he marry? How do families relate together? What does it takes to be a loving, caring and responsible father? Mind you these are what he couldn't get as a person to the extent that he has been finding it difficult to hold any lady down cos they used to complained that he is too cold. and he told me he is trying his possible best to be romantic. He told me that he don't wanna be like his father or mother. He don't wanna fail his own family. Dear Nairalanders, Please my guy needs mature advise cos he told me that he is contemplating impregnating any lady and accept the kid and not the mother. I told him he is on the way to creating another version of him. Please Your Advise and counseling might save a traumatised fellow. Mods.....please move this to front page for my guy sake....he is also a Nairalander and might see this. thanks |
Romance › Re: Do You Still Remember Your First Love by Oloniyan(m): 12:38am On Dec 14, 2016 |
Aarinola was so fragile and beautiful. We were in Jss 1 and I couldn't get her outta my head. sent her a well composed love letter. She replied me with one simple statement "ooo serious" and I replied her with Robert Schuller's quote which says 'Great people are ordinary people with extra ordinary amount of determination' She fell for me and we got it rolling till I became a very good bad boy in Jss3. Still loves her though but her mum is now kinda my wife Literally. this made the continuation a mission impossible. Aarinola my Jerrycurl baby..........Faweli still loves and misses you damn much. |
Travel › Re: Beauty Of Nature: My Trip To Olumirin Waterfall(Pictures) by Oloniyan(m): 1:30pm On Nov 30, 2016*. Modified: 10:31pm On Oct 23, 2020 |
I was here.....though i am Aquaphobic.....i still managed some shot.
It was a time well spent |
Politics › Re: #ondodecides2016: Appeal Court Judgement Continuation by Oloniyan(m): 2:34pm On Nov 22, 2016 |
Patiently waiting for the outcome of this drama |
Politics › Re: Flags, Coats Of Arms, Symbols And Monuments Of Nigerian States (2016) by Oloniyan(m): 10:31am On Nov 10, 2016 |
OP oya add this anthem to Ekiti State's update
Ohun aba joro ko ni peegun
Ohun a sepo nii leye
Eyin ola wa ti dara o
Awa Ekiti ati parapo
Ka parapo katun panupo
Awa Ekiti A ti gbominira
Okan Lawa nse
Ekiti Ekiti Ti gbominira
Ekiti ekiti ti gbominra
Awa Ekiti iwaju la o maalo lagbara Olorun
Awa Ekiti Okan soso Ma niwa o lailai
Okan lawa n seee
God Bless Ile-iyi |
Literature › Re: Black Maria by Oloniyan(m): 1:06pm On Oct 31, 2016 |
Smiles though not funny sha......Larrysun do you still remember Marioking of Nairaland back then  He was once in your shoe but he picked up and surge on even on the most slippery of roads. so get up, brush off that dirt on your buttocks and move on. Nothing good comes easy pal |
Literature › Re: Witches And Wizards by Oloniyan(m): 3:20pm On Oct 28, 2016 |
Weldone Ozila |
Crime › Re: Eiye Cult Leader Killed In Ipaja Cultism Clash - Graphic Photos by Oloniyan(m): 7:00am On Oct 27, 2016 |
Eleniyan15: Bird boys and crime
5&6
(full of thug and Illiterate)
who no come no go know
The moment you Turn into a frat member NO FREEDOM OF MOVEMENT always on face cap any bike way dey come your side your hear go just stand gidibam for the fear of been HIT
see as them drop ostrich
Go and Do yahoo yahoo it is better
Rip LondonBoy
LadyF see my FTC
WARNING: DONT JOIN BAD GANG SHUN CULTISM!!!!! WHAT WORK FOR MR A may likely not work for MR B You even know their hierarchy. SMH |
Literature › Re: Tarasha 2 - The Return For Revenge by Oloniyan(m): 11:49am On Oct 17, 2016 |
Following You Back to kcaB  1 Like 1 Share |
Politics › Re: Jummai Alhassan Confirms Release Of 21 Chibok Girls by Oloniyan(m): 12:43pm On Oct 13, 2016 |
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Travel › Re: Nigerian Lady Gives Oyinbo Peppersoup In US, Then Lands In Police Station (Pics) by Oloniyan(m): 12:32pm On Oct 13, 2016 |
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Family › Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Oloniyan(m): 6:39pm On Sep 26, 2016 |
CuteMorriz: I am not saying ladies raised by single parents are all bad, you may get lucky finding some exceptional ladies raised by single mums. Evidently you seldom find single men raising a child but it's quite prevalent with the opposite sex.
A relation of mine was dating this lady and when the time came for the union to be made official, his parents advised him to discontinue becos after they had made enquiries and investigation they discovered the lady's mother left her husband many years ago over some frivolous reasons. Then I asked my uncle why did he side with family and not allow his son take the bold step then he said:
1. Women raised by single parent (mother) are usually strong willed hence may end up like their mother.
2. A lady who has seen no need for a father will be swift to end a union because she will have the courage to train her children alone afterall she was raised by a mum.
3. How will she get marital advice from her mum when things are tough and you know ladies often run to their mum when they need advice (remember the mother took the easy way out)
4. Sooner or later my son may become a bachelor again...the odd is high and is glaring..
5. A lady who have spent 21 years of her life without a father cannot be psychologically stable even if she appears to be.
6. Ladies raised by single parents did not experience the beautiful and ugly part of the union called marriage from her parents hence they don't have their parents as their role model.
7. Amin (as he fondly calls me) when the baton gets to you, look at the mother of your fiancèe closely because with time she will display those traits you observed in the mother......
Then I asked him what if the lady's father is dead and the mum decided to train her alone?...my uncle said we may also enquire about the untimely death of the father but "Amin that is a topic for another day"...... @ the op You wouldn't understand the trauma of those children. Though some of you point are accurate but believe me it takes a strong individual in that circumstance to value parental care or love. Take mine as an emphasis, I'm scared of getting married not because of the monetary aspects but because I don't know what a parental love is and I don't know how to show such. My spouse is trying really hard to let me see the bright side of it but hell! How do I show love to her talk less of the kids  How do parents relates  What does it take to have a loving family or what does it take to be a better man  We have been single from inception and it will take lots of work to take our feet of the pedal. But on the other side we are the most caring and loving people you will ever met cos we don't want our kids to experience what we've been through. My 2cent |
Celebrities › Re: Simi Cuddles Falz In New Photo by Oloniyan(m): 9:10pm On Sep 19, 2016 |
silent10: So only someone who's beautiful shld b in a relationship mak i c ur pic sef Where is your sense of humour As for my pic ouy lliw llaf o. No homo |
Celebrities › Re: Simi Cuddles Falz In New Photo by Oloniyan(m): 8:06pm On Sep 19, 2016 |
Azz a matter of fart, izz not even funny. But the lady is not even biutifool sef. |
Literature › Re: Black Maria by Oloniyan(m): 12:25pm On Sep 17, 2016 |
LarrySun: Good morning, everyone. Today is my dad's birthday. Kindly help me call him and wish him a happy birthday. Thanks.
+234 817 185 6884
He is called Opo.  I've done my part! Even though I couldn't pronounce the name right  |
Nairaland General › Effect Of Economy Recession by Oloniyan(op): 6:21pm On Sep 03, 2016 |
Recession has really hit the Economy. Gala no longer has beef inside, sardines now has 2 fishes inside. See the egg in #70 egg roll
Cc: Lalasticlala
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Science/Technology › Re: Annular Eclipse To Occur In Nigeria On September 1st - NASRDA by Oloniyan(op): 11:26am On Sep 01, 2016 |
Apollux: It has already started, is anyone observing. Here in the part of Ebonyi where I'm at the moment, the sky is too cloudy to really see d eclipse corona but the sky is dark though Here in my part of Osun is somehow dull. But the sun is kind of different from other days |
Science/Technology › Re: Annular Eclipse To Hit Nigeria Tomorrow by Oloniyan(m): 6:48pm On Aug 31, 2016 |
dazzlingd: We have offended the gods Strongly SMH |
Phones › Re: 9 People On Social Media We All Hate by Oloniyan(m): 6:56am On Aug 31, 2016 |
Lol
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Education › Re: Sure-Bet School Spotted In Ekiti State That Got People Talking by Oloniyan(m): 3:25pm On Aug 30, 2016 |
Saw it last week when I was passing by but decided not to post it here cos of legal things. |
Education › Re: Sure-Bet School Spotted In Ekiti State That Got People Talking by Oloniyan(m): 3:25pm On Aug 30, 2016 |
Saw it last week when I was passing by but decided not to post it here cos of legal things |
Literature › Re: Black Maria by Oloniyan(m): 8:56pm On Aug 24, 2016 |
LarrySun: Kenny Roger is my number 1 country musician.
Are you Marioking? We shares the same number 1 Marioking is Oloniyan |
Literature › Re: Black Maria by Oloniyan(m): 8:32pm On Aug 24, 2016 |
LarrySun: Yes, I know the song. I love that Man! Kenny Rogers.
Btw hope you can still remember Marioking 
Its been a while LS |
Romance › Re: 17 Differences Between Dating A Girl & A Woman by Oloniyan(m): 9:27am On Aug 23, 2016 |
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Politics › Re: Militancy : Soyinka To Lead Avengers’ Dialogue Group by Oloniyan(m): 9:22am On Aug 23, 2016*. Modified: 2:20pm On Aug 23, 2016 |
Ok. I'm coming It is now that you people knows that Kongi has detribalised personality, thought you people said WS is senile already  BTW Firstus COmmentus |
Literature › Re: Renata "The Vengeful Girl" by Oloniyan(m): 7:32pm On Aug 22, 2016 |
prettysassygirl: "Oh!!!Bako stop!you are tickling me too much ,ooohhh"Asibi shouted laughing hard,
"Shhhh,Asibi, Quite an ages |
Literature › Re: Black Maria by Oloniyan(m): 6:36pm On Aug 22, 2016 |
LarrySun: Chapter Four - V (Continued)
The old man sighed. “I’m not surprised you didn’t listen to me. When I was about your age, I, too, met a miserable old man who advised me about my future. I didn’t listen to him. I thought that, no matter what, I would never be like that man. That day suddenly seems like yesterday, but here I am today.” He shrugged sadly, “Anyway, if you’ve made up your mind to follow the same path that destroyed me, the least I can do is teach you some rules of gambling.”
"Rules?”
“Yes, without these rules, you will lose more than win. Experience had thought me these run, I wish I had been wise enough to apply them, but they’re useless to me now. I’m too old to apply any rules for myself, I can only pass them on and hope the person uses them wisely. I want to give you because you seem like a worthy person to have them. Maybe with these rules, you would end up becoming someone who succeeds greatly in gambling.” ”
“What’s the first rule of gambling?” Reminds me of Kenny Rogers' song THE GAMBLER He said, "If you're gonna play the game, boy You gotta learn to play it right You've got to know when to hold 'em Know when to fold 'em Know when to walk away Know when to run You never count your money When you're sittin' at the table There'll be time enough for countin' When the dealin's done Every gambler knows That the secret to survivin' Is knowin' what to throw away And knowin' what to keep 'Cause every hand's a winner And every hand's a loser And the best that you can hope for Is to die in your sleep" Does it ring a bell  3 Likes |
Nairaland General › Re: People Are Awesome: Amazing Feat Of Human Endurance. by Oloniyan(m): 10:23pm On Aug 17, 2016 |
Explorers: Yea. Which year did you leave EKSU  If its around 20-- you must know Jimmy for gotham then |
Nairaland General › Re: People Are Awesome: Amazing Feat Of Human Endurance. by Oloniyan(m): 8:57am On Aug 17, 2016 |
Explorers: No b charm o bro, na training of years. See the picture.
We had a contest with a lady in a pool back in eksu(st Clements). Two guys with stopwatches standing as officials, Five guys myself included and the girl went under. Four guys came out in less than 40seconds i was below the surface for 65 seconds in d pool. She stayed for more than 2minutes, we were forced to pull her out cos we were so scared and she was even resisting. Something told me she's a "Winch" though, the remaining months i spent in that school, we take cover anytime we see her. You mentioned st clemence  You must know Kalakuta republic hostel by the hotel then  |
Science/Technology › Annular Eclipse To Occur In Nigeria On September 1st - NASRDA by Oloniyan(op): 6:21am On Aug 17, 2016 |
Annular eclipse to occur all over Nigeria Sept 1
AN annular eclipse that will be visible all over the country, with different degrees of totality, will occur on Thursday, September 1.
In a press statement, the Head, Media and Corporate Communications of National Space Research and Development Agency (NASRDA), Dr Felix Ale, said the highest degree of obscurity in Nigeria during this natural occurence would be in the Southern part of the country, particularly in Lagos, where it was expected to have 80 per cent obscurity, while the lowest degree of obscurity would be about 45 per cent and this would be observed in the Northern part of the country, particularly in Sokoto.
The annular eclipse will be observed as a partial or near total eclipse across the nation, with Abuja, the Federal Capital Territory (FCT) expected to be about 60 per cent.
The annular eclipse is expected to occur between 7.15 a.m. and 10.03 a.m, with slight variations in actual timing across the country.
In Lagos, the first contact will occur at about 7.15 a.m, while the maximum eclipse will occur around 8.30 a.m. and will end by 10.03 a.m.
The eclipse is expected to commence in Abuja around 7.17 a.m, with maximum eclipse to be recorded at about 8.32 a.m. and the eclipse will end around 10.00 a.m.
It should be noted that eclipse is not a spiritual issue, but a natural occurrence that can be accurately predicted by science. Hence, the NASRDA has developed the capacity to accurately make this prediction as part of its mandates.
The Space Agency has also put in place a viewing centre at her headquarters in Abuja, with provision of proper eclipse viewing apparatus for school children to observe the annular eclipse as part of its continuous programmes to expose Nigerians and students to matters concerning astronomical environment.
While appealing to the general public not to panic or adduce any mystical interpretations to this event, it is also necessary to advise that nobody should observe eclipse with naked eyes.
Looking at the solar eclipse with naked eyes can lead to permanent damage to the eyes, as the obstruction does not reduce the luminosity of the sun.
Therefore, NASRDA has also concluded arrangements to provide limited number of special solar filters to members of the public to savour the rare natural occurrence in appreciation of science and nature.
An annular eclipse occurs when the sun and moon are exactly in line, but the apparent size of the moon is smaller than that of the sun, hence, the sun appears as a very bright ring or annulus surrounding the dark disk of the moon. http://tribuneonlineng.com/annular-eclipse-occur-nigeria-sept-1/
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Politics › Re: PDP Chairmanship: Adeniran Picks Form, Restates Commitment To Reposition The Par by Oloniyan(m): 9:44pm On Aug 10, 2016 |
MrImole: What's PTA?
Oh! Professor Tunde Adeniran? (modified)
I'm very close and I'm sure he's not a grassroot politician. He has no home support, except maybe people from his home town in Òrìn Ekiti. I do attend PDP meetings at wards level, I know what I'm talking about. Have you ever wondered why professor Babalola Borisade is more successful? What has Boris done? Other than installed transformers and technical school in his home town of Ushi? How many human empowerment has he done? How many structural developmental implementations has he carried out? I know what I'm talking about too! PTA is never and will never be a spending politician (if you will understand me), he believes in due process and always stands by it! I can say of many people working now in UBE NUC and also in Germany and France because of PTA. Many schools were built during his tenure as UBE chairman and as minister of Education. So tell me how PTA is not a grass-roots politician |
Politics › Re: PDP Chairmanship: Adeniran Picks Form, Restates Commitment To Reposition The Par by Oloniyan(m): 2:34pm On Aug 10, 2016 |
MrImole: Ido-Ekiti, you? Same town as PTA. Guess you are not that close to Ido/Osi cos if you are you should know better that he is also a grassroots politician. |