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Op, work on your self esteem!





Why?

1. Because you think those ones are easy to control and manipulate into not challenging you.

2. Because you're afraid to handle those who are already made or those who are from wealthy background that they will challenge your authority.

Once again, work on your self esteem.

You've found another person you think is better, abi?


Anyway, There is no way to end a supposed good relationship without hurting the other person. No way, but if you want to end it, just end it anyhow. I pray it'll be a blessing in disguise for the other person that'll feel hurt.

My friend, they exist! Even in numbers.


You can't find them on NL or any other social media bragging about their marriages. They're the real men who value their relationship. They don't smoke, drink nor womanize, because that's not what they take solace in.
They cherish their family, play with their wife and children. Their wives are always on the lookout for them, because they're light, they radiates and illuminate their home with their friendly, joyful and glamorous presence. Their family is always proud of them.



And that doesn't mean they're super human; they're just who they are...... family oriented.

donstan18:
[b]You noticed her bad character during courtship but ignored it hoping she'll change?[b]

Trust me, that's a move and decision you'll live to regret so long as you keep living with her.

I'll divorce her if i were you, because I wouldn't want to die before my time or find happiness outside and end up cheating. And also for the sake of my kids happiness.

To anyone reading this, one of the best way to know a woman very well before getting married to her is by making secret inquiries and findings about her mother. It helps a lot.

Because 99% of ladies are nothing but replicas of their mother[Especially first daughters].

That's the mistake many people make, thinking you or marriage can change anyone.

Believe me, anything anyone is during courtship, s/he will be times ten when married.

If a person possesses any attitude you can't condone while dating, please, run. Marriage doesn't change anyone.

caught red-handed by their respective spouses


If that's the case, then, let the cheating woman's husband marry the cheating husband's wife, i.e let them switch spouses.

Case closed.

Another one..........



Life is more important than marriage.

It is only when one is alive that he can remain married.

Please, for your health and sanity sake, separate, (not divorce o) for a while and watch whether she'll miss you or ready to change. Her actions and inactions during the separation period will determine whether you people can come back together.

Good luck.

Sijo01:
Op's wife was two months pregnant in 2017 and was planning of having her deliver the baby in US and return back home!

Now, he's wife is 3 weeks pregnant and he got married to her just a month ago!

Somebody solve the equation above.

Internet never forget truly.
The op will come and defend this, I believe.

Domance:
Fellow nairanders, how did you handle trust issues with a suspicious spouse? Pls share ur experiences. I am a married man presently in that situation. I love her and never doubted her until recently when she lied to me about an issue that I have facts which I confronted her with. Ever since, I started doubting her, though I sincerely want the trust restored. Pls how can I achieve that?

Why did your wife have to lie to you in the first instance? How do you normally handle the truth when you're told by your wife? Are you the type that usually blow out of proportion when faced with issues, instead of proffering solutions.



Secondly, why are you suspecting your wife of infidelity?

COWBOYFAN:
Through a public figure I can't mention here.

Maybe you'll need to let this your respected match maker know the type of person he match made you with.

Because, I can't advise you not to do anything about it, before this your kleptomania wife go out and still money at a mall and you'll be invited to come and bail her out, then, you will know that love does not cover some things because the shame would be too much for you to bear.

This here, is one of the dangers of match making and long distance courtship.

You didn't know anything about this woman before tying the knot with her. And when you knew, it was almost too late plus you didn't want to offend or disgrace your respected match maker.

Honestly, I don't know the advice to give, especially with the twist of pregnancy, but, I'm damn sure that, I, personally, will find it difficult living with a kleptomaniac

It was really a huge loss. May God continue to comfort you and the other girls and grant you the fortitude to bear this great loss.


Also, Fortitude to bear the great loss, grant unto the other families who also lost their loved ones in the crash, oh Lord!

You seems to have forgotten this golden rule....... DO UNTO OTHERS WHAT YOU WANT THEM DO UNTO YOU.


Can you take it if it's the other way round.

All this on top mycoten cream....... Na wa o! Wetin person no go see for NL.

Oga, you're indeed a nag.

chiommy123:
Stop doing things that will make her angry.

Wow!


I'm afraid of modern women!


So, if a man make his wife angry, the next thing is for the woman to unleash verbal bullets on the man?

And I'm sure that if it's the other way round, you would have advised that the man should walk away.

Talk of double standard!

Any woman who verbally abuse her husband is in the same category/league with a man who physically abuses his wife.


They are both animals.

So, we have unserious marriage?

Michellekabod2:
chill. This isn't a bashing/judging stuff. Its just statistics.

When rating of most promiscuous men comes up,then look out for Nigerian men.
But now its just pure statistics of women sexuality and not necessarily shaming,except the op have other intention of posting it.

Liking sex ain't negative

I was trying to look at it from another angle

RisenPhoenix:
The comparison has already taken place when people are giving out invoices and others are insisting that prices should be negotiated. I just built my analogy upon the solid foundation.

Besides, all that talk of negotiating reminded me of when I bought my first, second-hand Suzuki bike.

You see why I'm against this BS

Imagine!

Two wrongs doesn't make a right.

Continue showing that you're a matured dude, and sooner or later, the girl will respect you for that.

thorpido:
In most cases,the Bride price is usually affordable.The problem is usually not the bride price but the marriage list.

Yes, with the marriage list too.

RisenPhoenix:
I don't blame him. It is not by force to buy Range Rover. Kia dey, bicycle na still dey.

Are you saying a woman should be compared to or with commodities?

This our Africa tradition sha!


As if she's a commodity to be bought!

And the man will still be expected to treat the wife's family well after paying all this o!


Bride price payment should be abolished! I support it!

Until that BS is scrapped, men will never agree to be equal with their wives.

And are the women sleeping with themselves?

Is it not men that are encouraging them by patronizing and engaging the promiscuous women?

Honestly, the op is not asking for too much, I know many men that are like this, but you know what, you can't find them nor their wives on social media bragging about their marriages. They are too matured for that.

cococandy:
Your kids don’t need to be raised by a killer.
Who’s to say they are better off with her than a relative maybe?

I get your point about it being a double loss for the kids but if someone can commit pre-meditated murder, children are better off raised away from such a person.

Even if it just manslaughter (killed by accident) the offender will still go to prison. And the kids depending on how old they are might be grown before prison time is over.

That’s why people need to control their tempers. And also why divorce is not such a terrible thing. [/b]Sometimes it saves lives.[b]

Most times, my dear, divorce is live saver.

Heeeeee, Dr, make your wife no see this kind thing you post o!


But on a serious note, are you really sure of this statement or just posting for likes' sake?



And what if she also kill your children after killing you sir?

Bellotelli:
Christainity is fake in it entirety

That some people chose to be gullible does not validate your claim.

Bluehill1051:
It is all your fault.
You don't listen
You don't observe
You're very dependent
You behave childish
Every little thing, you take it to mummy
You prove to be very religious but deep within you, you know you're doing it for the attention
You are fake, fake tears for attention
I've been with a couple of ladies like you. Worst kind to be with from my own experiences o.

Are you the op's husband?

How did they know she's 143years old?
Can we see the birth certificate to attest to this claim?

Amah70:
No man can satisfy a woman sexually.

A woman uses her sixth sense to pretend she is tired in order to save her man from collapsing from sexual romps.


Sexual intercourse can be likened to a man putting her p- into a tube, then push in and out, until he ejaculates.
If a man is strong enough to do that from sunrise to sunset, and from sunset to sunrise, a woman wouldn't mind. It's like pushing in and out of a hole.

So a woman's body is made of wood or stone ba?

You're not serious

Forgive but do not accept back!

Because if a cheat do not kill him/herself, s/he will definitely kill his/her spouse.


Forgive is strength.
Accepting back is weakness.

Wisdom is profitable to direct.

You know your husband is here. You know your husband know your NL handle.
You know the type of person he is.
And yet, you came here to spill everything about him and your marriage and you want him to pat you at the back.

Don't you know he's already looking for easy way out and you've now enabled him.

It's the eight months old baby in all this I pity most.