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Please yourself rather. It's not worth it in end.

I win.

Oharina:
It's okey man, let bygone be bygone. The cleric did well.

That wasn't hard to say was it? Plus it took fewer words n lesser time to write. Appreciate little things. Yeah n it's a bygone.

Oharina:
I believe if u see me in person u can't even look at me eyeball to eyeball, all thanks to nairaland ghost posting forum. I know how many people i help on a daily basis, and i don't let people know, because it makes me feel i want to show myself of which i don't like. Not to talk of the whole world.

Who are you? We are nothing but dust so I don't see the worse you could do. BTW I stated facts there. Assuming he was buying cars n jets y'all will be talking about how he is spending money on unnecessary things. But he has done something good out our tithe n still you all want to crucify him. That's too bad. What if he made this to go viral just to teach other pastors what do as a pasto? What if had so many more we don't even know of n decided to let this one out?

Oharina:
What does this pastor want from this lady ?
Yes, he has really helped her, every one knows that. And now, is it not high time he let her be instead of following her about. Thereby confusing any man that can be interested in marrying this lady to think that she is not single. Unless the pastor wants to marry her, probably making her his second wife.

If he bought private jet problem. He has helped someone I mean this is what y'all clamouring that pastors are eating tithe meant for the poor. Now he has done that very thing y'all accused others of not doing n he has committed the worse sin in the world. I blame the pastor for making it public. Ungrateful beast like you Oharina. If you've got nothing to say, pls shut the hell up n observe. Idi.ot.

NNN. We don't eat nuts in November. It's a ritual we humans do to respect the nuts that met their end in the hands of squirrel.

Sunisonflex39:
I met this girl two years ago,to cut long story short she told me that she is in a relationship.i respected the fact that she have a guy And I stopped making advance as a gentleman. but I call as much as possible just to check on her.
then one night her boyfriend chatted me up on whatsap and as gentlemen, we talked about it like matured people and I told him I am not gonna stick around that he should talk to his girlfriend. I asked how he got my number, he said he secretly took it from her phone because of the many calls and most times I call, both of them are together.

I asked him what has the girl been telling him about me, he told me she is saying we are just friends and nothing much.
II apologized to him and said I will watch my limits that he should talk to the girl himself about it.

two days passed, I have stopped calling the girl like I used to, then on the third day she called and asked me why did I change all of a sudden that I no longer chat her up or call like I used to,she was being emotional, and as a good friend, I love her and wouldn't want to see her sad.

I opened up to her about what transpired between me and her guy and I begged her not to confront him. she was so mad at the guy for chatting me up after she has told him many times that I am "just a friend"

I told the girl that for the sake of her relationship, I don't want to stick around and I don't want to be the guy that breaks people relationship.

the girl started crying and said I should not leave her, that I should at least be her best friend that she can't loss me..
I agreed to be the bestfriend so as to make her feel happy..

fast forward to this week, the girl said she loves me so much and didn't know how to tell me before and she is kind off confused to chose between her guy and me.I told her that I love her too but she should not leave anybody for me that we should just continue being friends and see what the future holds because no one knows tomorrow.
few days ago, the girl said she want to have sex with me.. and even going as far as telling me the style she wants..

I respect the fact that she is in a relationship and I even told her about it, but she was having non of it.

please nairalanders, what should I do.

Bro you didn't do well. She told you she had a boyfriend, why stick around? Couldn't you have stayed away from her?
Oh you had a chat with the boyfriend and you told him you were going to back off, why tell the girl the reason why you backed off was because you chatted the boyfriend? Couldn't you be wise about everything and tell her you just wanted to respect her privacy?

Some guys and the way they reason eh, it vexes me. OK you are looking for validation to get the girl ni? Fine here's one. Get her. She loves you you love her, go for her but remember you have her boyfriend on your back who is angry and might kill you for taking his girl because you betrayed him. Not all people can handle betrayal. Two, you will have a girlfriend who will fall for your friend as soon as you introduce her to them, and you will come here to cry I loved her, but she cheated or broke up with me. That's if you will live to experience 'two' if her boyfriend doesn't kill you.

Try to respect other people's choice. She had a boyfriend why continue keeping in touch? Men like you disgust me.

Lionpikin:
most of them are weaklings who are not matured enough to handle relationships talk more of marriages.....just sitting down to think for a moment will solve most of the problems they are crying of....too many sissies nowadays

It is not about how weak or strong a man is. Or how matured a man is. Most of them don't even know what they were headed into before going into a relationship. Like what Ubunja just said when we're busy playing construction man, Spider-Man and all fictional characters, these women are busy playing life. At the age of three, a woman already knows what she'd see in a relationship. She's already watching daddy and mommy and reenacting what she's seen with her dolls. But then men were busy with superman.

DenreleDave:
Go to family thread, romance section , every thread about problems in marriage and relationship is most created by guys.
Why aren't women coming online to post their relationship issues?
Are men the victim?
Are women the wicked ones?

Upon Ubunja miseducation, Omar, red pills, Martinez, yet every thread you open about marriage or relationship problems are created by men.

What is wrong? Men are supposed to be strong, why are we this weak?

See evidence:
https://www.nairaland.com/5533279/screenshot-experience-hands-terrible-gold
https://www.nairaland.com/5535255/what-could-wrong-girl-serious
https://www.nairaland.com/5536129/seems-lady-more-than-power
https://www.nairaland.com/5535996/how-whatsapp-hacking-saved-me
https://www.nairaland.com/5537245/think-girlfriend-abortion-hiding-it
https://www.nairaland.com/5535499/fiancee-lied-me-now-find



Ladies, are you guys not facing any issue in ur marriage or relationship?

Why are guys the victim on nairaland?

Cc: hamachi Pocohantas Omar Lalasticala and few to mention

Yes women talk but they can never present themselves as the one with the problem. The give scenarios as to a friend of a friend something... Something... And boom they get the advice they needed. Sometimes the gossip about someone who doesn't have any problem at all with relationship and there looking for the solution to the said relationship, you won't know what's up when you are around there but she, she knows she's the one with the problem. To meet ladies where they discuss such problems visit their hairdresser.

So we don't even know what we're getting ourselves into till we are deep in it. That's why we ask questions. Most of us got into relationships because all of our friends are into. I did it. I had a girlfriend because all my friends were in a relationship. Later I was manipulated in it, till it became hard to leave. So.

Tobexin:
all class of degree be it BSC, Masters or PHD.

Thanks for the response you and Justwise

justwise:
That is not true, you are misleading people.

This is what the scheme says and I quote: The new route will be launched in the summer of 2021. Any student who successfully completes their degree-level course at a qualifying institution in the summer of 2021 or thereafter will be eligible to apply. This includes students who are already studying.

@bolded is it just bachelor degree? Are masters and PhD beneficial too?

Itooweak4una:
Good evening nairalander, my gf broke up with me and used that line on me. I have been confused since then. I asked her what she meant by that she said she sees me as a friend and nothing more. We dated for three years. To make matters worse we are staying together and i love her sincerely. For now we don't have any options than to stay together until i (she) can be able to afford another apartment. I don't want to beg her back. I just want to know how i can survive staying with her and healing from the heartbreak. Thanks

Why would she break up with you and is still living in yo house man c'mon, at least should have waited till she found a new place. Women sef. Bro ask her to leave. If she thinks you are being irrational, let her know of how she is living in yo house and still broke up with you.
Damn!

OK I did not read where you said you both owned the house. Now look man, what you are threading on is a dangerous line. You would have to endure till she gets a new place. And for your peace you will have to be a simp one more time by helping her get a new place either by investing time or your money cause right now, your peace is worth more than any macho shiit. It's a small price. The deal is for a woman to dump just like that in the same house is cold hearted. Don't ever let her back into your life. Cause she will definitely wanna come back.

Now as for dealing with you and her being in the house, you just gotta be strong. If walk pass this situation my bro you are stronger than all men combined. Cause it's hell in there. Just do what you like best that doesn't involve her. Ignore her. Even if she brings a man home stand your ground talk to her in a manly way. But most of all don't involve her in any discussions or whatever. Be strong man. Be strong.

FunnyDude:
How many stuff have I sold since I created the thread. Not as you thought sir. This is a real issue which I opened for everyone going through such drama to have some clue.

Well I love my life and I don't wish to die young so I ain't bugging my girlfriend phone. So for now it's just me and life. But what you said is true. I didn't try to dispute it. It's just that I felt you wanted to sell a tech thingy.

maynation:
I know y'all will still insult me but abeg y'all need to help me ask OP while he thanked U.bunja.


Was it him that taught him how to hack his girlfriend's whatsap?



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So this is your own definition of hacking??

That means I have been hacking my own whatsap since time immemorial.

Ah swear. Was waiting for where ubunja helped him. Just realized he wants to sell some. Tech stuff. It's called hustle.

Billionsclub:
Just because someone acted wrongly to u doesn't make everyone the same. I don't have to prove myself. I am new to Nairaland but the little time I have spent here,i have seen demeaning words from males of Nairalanders. Ask yourself , Can u call your daughter hoe? I guess your answer is no. Treat people with respect even if u don't view things thame same way

Nigga quiet down a bit

crackhaus:
You've ODed son, which is why everything is blurry and you can't see clearly who you're quoting.

Shit my bad. I meant to quote the OP. Sorry bro.

crackhaus:
Are you on drugs?

Yes. Red pill.

Martinez39:
It's surprising how a man's brain and destiny can be so lost in a woman's laps and pussy that he would create an idiotic thread like this. The op is a perfectly conditioned simp. Who knows if he is trolling? It's hard to tell the difference these days.

I was in a WhatsApp group oh... Catching fun till one dude like that pm me.. I replied, we chatted then one thing led to another I told him of a girl who was trying to change my perception of women these days n that I feared she wants to date me but she trying to make me into that little boy she wants and can control, me never give am chance. The guy come ask me wetin I want I tell am say I no deh ready for relationship all I want is her pussy that's all.
My man started preaching feminism shitt to me and how women were being oppressed. I asked him what he stood to gain defending the so called creature out to demolish you for their personal gain and ego. He fucking blocked me and kicked me out of the WhatsApp group. But this argument was done in private.

I don't know why I chose Omar09. Maybe spar of the moment or maybe I saw it in a movie I liked. Ride along to be precise. But tbh now, I don't like it. And there's very little I can do to change it.

Eyeness:
That a beautiful lady who can do.so much better for herself decides to stick with a bum for whatever reason, knowing that she is taking a big gamble is the definition of disgusting

I am not sure you sucked yo mama's breast when you was still a baby. How could you say something like that? Is that how far you've gone with yo feminism shiiiit?

Like she could get more? What more? Didn't you read the part where he said they are now enjoying the fruit of their labor, or you just decided to be dumb?

Idk what's worse that you are a hoe or you are a very dumb hoe. God!

Billionsclub:
The new trend of boys discussing their ordeals in the hands of girls is very irritating. They only talk about the bad the girls are doing and not what they are doing wrong. Women are only reflection of what men makes of them. it is pitiable that Nairaland boys talk trash about girls. Most guys will never have a lasting relationship not to talk of lasting relationship because of their attitude. Some guys are
1 Sex maniac: Anytime they see a girl comes to visit, they want to take advantage of having as many round as they can have. All they think is sex.
2. Most guys are irresponsible: They cannot provide the basic needs of the girl. Money is a language in which love understands. Loving her is not enough, do your best but don't out -best your best. Be responsible for something in her life. U cannot provide all her needs but do your best
3. Most guys prefer sex talk to friendship talk. Talk about your plans for your future. At times,avoid sex talk. most a girl notice u are after sex, that relationship is gone.
If boys can reduce their sex urge, it will save them a lot of respect from girls. Don't allow your erection give u direction. use your head, not your heart.
Women are the most wonderful being on heart. if there was no women, the world would have be less fun. Women are the spices of men.

To all the nigies out there, avoid this bitch. I've met a bitch like him once, bitch as a niigie he was, is a fvcking feminist. Imagine the crap.

Niggie you did not have to ass lick them hoes in public, have some self respect and do em in privates. Fvcking hate feminist niggie like you.

Kolomkillz:
lol bold tears ��

Yo, you are seeing the level of simps around town right?

coolguy4christ:
Thank you for your advice. But she is not promiscuous, I'm almost certain of that.

And the first instance she lied, did not involve sex.

Bro you can't say for sure if she's promiscuous or not. The fact remains, she initiated that break up for that sex spree that got her pregnant. Take it or leave it.

Lightway:
And ubunja said

That breakup she initiated for no reason

This got me cracking.

coolguy4christ:
My girlfriend and I had issues sometime last year which eventually led to a break up. Early this year, we made up. I initiated the make up because I still loved her even though, it was she who ended the relationship.

When we started again, I told her I wanted a fresh start and that she should come out clean with me of whatever I need to know when we were apart. She knows how much I emphasize sincerity as I hate lies. She confided in me, that she had sex with a guy whom she dated briefly when we were apart but that she used protection. I believed her and didn't really bother myself because we were not together when it happened.

Few months later, I proposed to her and she accepted my marriage proposal. Since then, the relationship has been beautiful and we have become better as we were previously before the break up. We are actually planning our wedding in a few months.

Yesterday, she confessed to me that she had an abortion while we were apart. That she lied about using protection and that she got pregnant and aborted the baby.

Since then, I have mixed feelings for her:

Firstly, I am strongly against abortion and she knows that. Secondly, She lied to me!

The second reason is actually why I am more angry with her. She has lied to me previously and I don't know if I can believe and trust her again.

She has been very remorseful and she told me she came out clean because she wants to set everything right before we get married.

The issue here is that I don't know how can I trust her again?

Look man this is all about you. Like some fellas rightly said. Do you want to go into a relationship you don't trust your fellow partner?
You made a mistake trying to regurgitate that dead relationship. Always learn to let go. Just quit that relationship now. Before lawyers go use you pay their pikin school fees.

izospindle:
Life is subject to personal interpretation the alpha male am talking about is the one mentioned in the books in my first post. Which talks about your ability to get sex from any lady you like.

You know the more threads y'all open without actual problems, the more y'all ruffle these female egos.

I mean allow the guys who needs actual deliverance to come out so that they can be delivered. We need to be delivered from the shackles manipulation.

So next time mate, let them talk.

Cheers

Martinez39:
An alpha male is not the guy that spends his time keeping up so that he can score girls and get their attention, he doesn't centre his life on all these. An alpha male doesn't build his self-esteem on his ability to get female attention, validation, and pussy, and he does not get upset and so crushed if a girl fails to give him her pussy that he feels the need to open a thread on nairaland about it. If you get the attention and pussy of a thousand girls, what have you gained? Did they increase your bank account? Did they add to your knowledge? What exactly have you gained? Pussy is worth $0.00, only fools pay for pussy (I am not saying you are guilty of this), and if you don't have pussy, you will not die. Stop chasing pussy and channel that time and energy to something more productive. Also, don't build your self-esteem on your ability to attract girls and lay them, it's what beta boys who think they are alphas do.

I am sure that the girl in question has already noticed your desperation. Alpha males are not desperate. Once a girl tells them "no" and refuses them, they move on. They don't beg, plead, or worry (even to the extent of creating a thread on a Nairaland) why a girl didn't give them her pussy.

This was what I wanted to convey.

izospindle:
Its obvious you don't know the meaning of alpha, man is a biological creature before logical.

By all means. Do your will. But I'm afraid no tricks will get you near her panties.

Fathertony:
He needs sniper? Send me his acct details. I will send him money to buy them in cartons.
What's the quickest way to go, overdose on painkillers right? Tramadol will do him a world of good. Please invite me to the funeral of that sissy nigga. so long as its in Nigeria, I will attend, and I will chop rice and drink beer. Since he wants to be stupid, let us help him!!!
That girl doesn't want him again, what else does he want. If he marries that girl now and the girl begins cheating on him what will he do? Kill himself and ancestors abi!? I really hate when guys make some girls believe they are the best thing since sliced bread, have you seen the worlds population?! How many billion people and still counting? And with that number, females outnumber males, so why kill yourself over one girl who doesn't care if you exist, when thousands are out there dying for your attention?
He sent her to Dubai and she's still acting up, how many girls out there praying for such an opportunity. The irony of it is there is another guy out there who is banging the living daylights out of that girl and does not care one bit about her. That guy has not done half of what this your guy has done for her yet she insists on being with him. The last thing I will do is come here and try talking your friend out of doing something stupid. If he goes on with it, he will dwell in the land of the dead and watch the useless girl get married to some other boy who is way beneath his own league, months after his demise. What's more the harem of beautiful girls and women who will mourn his stupidity will make him wish he never bought that bottle of sniper. I have so much to tell him but I will hold my peace. So baba, mbok tell your friend to cry himself a river because of one girl, tell him to make his suicide as quick and painless as possible, becos say na ewu the guy b.
Bloody Unam.



PS............in other news, yesterday i banged the living daylights out of some girl I met on tuesday. She's been playing hard to get and all, telling me shes engaged until I unlocked her with the only key girls understand, money. 8k well spent. After local man was done, he gave up hope on women you needed to see the speed she took in taking her clothes off after I showed her a fake alert of 8k on my device. I thought you said you were getting married
And now your friend wants to kill himself over one girl who is behaving the same way, a girl who is not even worth the efforts he's making. 10 years of dating is nothing compared to a lifetime of misery called marriage when he eventually settles down with that girl.
The girl wants out, let her go!!! End of discussion.
Bad girls everywhere, yes. But there are still good eggs out and with a keen eye you will find one.
I think I've said more than enough, my mouth is paining me.
Happy Sunday to you and your friend as he enjoys his sniper cocktail.

Brah you deserve a two carton of beer in case the first one finish. What you did here is what we call reverse psychology. These guys sef and their weakness for pussy sef... E too much.

bewla:
That's how life treat us u can love some one but u can't say if they love u bk

I once had a girl who loves me but never show it when she is around me

.till I lost her I never new how much she care

It's on her. I used to have a girl who loves me too but never showed it. Idk till the day I asked her to be my fvckbuddy it was the day I knew she loved me n I lost her. Not that I care.

izospindle:
I know its not every thing but when you like someone you want their commiment. How can you be loving some and she is giving some else

Ain't no thing as love. Improve on yourself, get principled, get your cash( here it's not for you go around impressing girls, but its for whenever a girl breaks your heart, you buy yourself a first class ticket to Tokyo and catch some fun) be yourself, forget them hoes no hoe will love you. Move on. At this age, you mustn't have a girlfriend.

Boy you already know the answer. Being a alpha does not mean you get whatever girl or project you set your mind onto. Remembering to know when to quit is the key thing to being an alpha male. You already lost her. Move on forget about her. Lemme tell you one thing that will happen when you go after her even with the best trick in the world, she's immune to you, it won't work on her rather you keep falling and falling.
Why does people think being an alpha means to lay every pussy they see?
Man you already have a life, and building a career, focus on that forget about pussy, they are all the same.
Lemme let in on a hard truth, you are being controlled by pussy. You are a first class beta, this time with a few tricks. Be yourself man!
You won't die without that pussy. You won't die without a pussy.

Martinez39. Ubunja.