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TheRedpillguy:
This is what feminism is supposed to be, not what it is. Heard of ferminist slutwork?
Chivalry., women still want that. They want men to open doors for them. Well not me, (not a slave)
And ferminist feel oppressed to cook a meal period
I think feminism is a good philosophy, I will defnetly like to operate on equal footing with a woman. Especially that 50/50ratio
Hehe women still want to be considered first In time of disaster. Thanks to feminism men can now just save the self's and leave the women to safe themselfs. Cus being macho in time of disaster is toxic masculinity, or better yet they can save themselfs becouse women don't need men.

Perfect reply. And with this, don't reply them anymore. Them be not making no sense. None!

TheRedpillguy:
Well I don't think ferminists are bad people. If you read the post, you see wea I said its cool. How do you know I think ferminist are bad? All I tried to do was educate people on how to handle ferminist ideas so that they won't get hurt. you want people to accept these ideas blindly and be at the mercy of ferminists?
Ferminist believes in sexual freedom/men understand this and watch out for babies that are not yours.

Ferminists don't do traditional roles/men Automate chores and eat in a restaurant. So that everybody will be happy

Ferminist can leave marriages anytime/men understand that you can too

Ferminist proposed the 50/50 ratio/men let the wife contribute in paying the rent

Ferminists advice women to keep their money seperate/ I advice me to keep their money seperate too.
So how do I judge people based on movement, and its not a movement its a philosophy and I am just saying how to react to these ideas which is non violent

He discerned you quite alright. Lol

Ariza:
Oga! It's funny you can't differentiate between a movement and a human. [b]A movement does not define human but human define movement. [/b]L.ordKO is helping you see this but you don't understand.

All those attributes you associated with a feminist can also be displayed by a non feminist! That's the point! Feminism does not make a woman or whoever supports it bad, No ! The people paints Feminism bad. You dig?

A movement certainly defines a human as humans define movement.

LordKO:
It's very possible to live happily with a feminist wife, it all depends on her ethical leanings. For all I care and understand, feminism, just like any other movement/association, is a product of the people not the other way round - people make up a movement, movement doesn't make the people.

A strong-minded, altruistic and discerning/intelligent woman won't automatically become a termagant or drainer just because she identifies with feminism. And a chauvinistic, egoistic and/or egotistic woman won't automatically become a strifeless, humane and conscientious woman, like a woman who possesses the attributes I mentioned above, if she doesn't identify with feminism. So, a woman's (person) behavior will always be a product of her ethical leanings rather than the movement/association she identifies with.

Meanwhile, human beings (males, females, infants, adults) are equal, but we are surely different from one reason to another. In the case of male and female, we are biologically different - difference doesn't mean inequality in this regard.

You speak way too many grammar for issues that requires simple English. When you try to beautify your words with complex grammar, it makes it difficult for the layman to understand who could have had the same point with you and would go ahead to be against you instead of support you. Don't try to tell people you are smart with complex words you use, rather simplify it so your points will portray you as a smart guy you are.

My two cents.

TheRedpillguy:
Have you heard of feminism? Feminism is a movement that advocates for equal rights of the sexes basically by advocating for women rights. Anybody that subscribes to this philosophy is a ferminist, feminism seems cool right? Its harmless, so how will it affect your relationship with your wife?

Well ferminists believes that women should have all the sex in the world with
any man or all the men if she wishes so without anybody stopping her. Becouse a woman don't belong to a man

Ferminist are super against traditional roles of the sexes in marriage. You know that wife cooking, and cleaning thing? They hate that. So don't expect dinner from your ferminist wife.

Ferminists can leave a marriage anytime they want and if you live in certain countries, they are entitiled to take your house and half of your money with them. They can leave for whatever reason, if the air condition is too high, or if the other guy she is sleeping with says so. U know since they don't belong to men and can sleep with anybody she wants anytime.

So how do you live with your ferminist wife and be happy.
1) accept reality, feminism is here, everybody is subscribe to it even if thy don't tag along with the term. If she has been to the university, she is a ferminist.
2)Understand that your wife don't belong to you. So take a DNA test for every kid she has to make sure the kids are all yours. If she starts that trust thing, know that its a manupululative tactics to shut you down so that you can continue taking care of sombody else's kid
3) Automate all the house chores( buys dishwashers, cleaning bots, hire nanny etc)
You can also eat your food in a restaurant or order from the internet
4)don't pay or buy a house, the house should be a rented house and make sure she is paying half of the rent. Ferminist love this, they started it 50/50. Its should be a ranted house becouse your wife can leave anytime, so dose you. You also have the rights to leave the marriage for whatever reason. If she gets too fat or too old or you can't handle her lazy sex. Thats the beauty of feminism
5)Run a secret business and keep your money cryptic, so that only you have acces to it. Or she will take it all if she devorce

this is the world right now. Play little puppy and you are gone. add some ways that you think will make your life better with a ferminist wife below in the comments

How could you say something so controversial yet so true? Lol
I am going to use all of this advice.

Billionsclub:
My cousin is a graduate from AAU. He is working and they are paying him in 5figures. Anytime he want to receive,he will usually fall in love with a girl. he will use his earnings to take care of the girl he is in love with but the relationship always ends after the money is finished. This usually happens every time the money is about to come. And it usually happens with different girls at different time. whenever he want to receive, he must fall in love and use the money on the girl. Next week, he is going to receive again, he is already in love with someone already, the girl is asking for house rent and want to expand her business. The girl said she is ready to settle down with him but the boy is afraid that history might repeat itself. He wants to start a big business now but he wants to use almost half of the money to pay her house right rent and invest on her business. should he invest in herHow will he know if the girl is the the other ? what test can he give to the girl to be sure she won't run away

Your cousin deh work G (yahoo)?

emmaodet:
My broda u sef see am.
Too many cheating women nowadays

All they are looking for is something to justify their them cheating.

theButterfly:
Nothing wrong with it.

It's only ignorant Nigerian men that make marrying their age mate a big deal.

Yeah, ignorant men working to make a living so that they can take care of their woman financially. They are so ignorant they could notice that all women want is someone who loves them and to love......



Did you read what you what before posting it?

CAPSLOCKED:
WHEN WOMEN SAY THIS, IT'S USUALLY BECAUSE THEY ARE AROUND 40+ AND EXPIRING, AND JUST NEED ANY MAN (EVEN A TODDLER) TO COME TO THEIR RESCUE.

YOUNGER WOMEN UNDER 28 ARE ALWAYS LOOKING FOR RICH MEN THAT ARE 35 TO 70.

AGE IS NOT JUST A NUMBER TO WOMEN, AND THAT'S IS WHY THEY ALWAYS WANT TO HIDE, REDUCE OR INCREASE IT.

AND NOT HAPPINESS MATTERS THE MOST... BUT A MAN'S ABILITY TO PROVIDE.

STOP DREAMING.

This deep. You just got a follower.

LilMissFavvy:
Why do you jump to conclusions when the OP did not state who was at fault between husband and wife? I am very sure it must have been the man who was at fault, and only God knows how many times the wife must have apologised in the past for doing no wrong, till she's fed up. Yes, the above which you boldened will always be a reason for women to cheat, and there is nothing you can do about it. Apologies has got nothing to do with sex, besides what stopped the man from apologising? Even if his ego is bloated and he does not want to apologise, then why should he deny her sex?

So when women withdraw sex, they are celebrated but when men do it, it becomes an avenue to cheat?

Love to me is a scheme. Whoever walks out of it unhurt played his/her game right. And whoever invested most loses and hurts the most.

Today's love is ridiculed. Everyone is in for what they will gain. In today's world, a girl will go into relationships fooling her unsuspecting victims that she loves them just for the financial gain. A man will deceive his unsuspecting victims with love just for the coochie. So whoever invested most is the most fooled and will surely hurt most. It's simple math.

Ifeelsad:
I've used this both tumeric, carrot oil, olive oil, hydrocortisone cream and tablet. I can't even count how many medicine and drugs I've used

Try honey.

IyaTola:
You will get married to one soon

Says who? I will not.

Why is there a sudden trend for single mother?

Number 3 and 4 is wrong.
For number 3, they can not be faithful when their husband is still alive. And there's no place it is written they would be faithful especially for those who because of their promiscuous life and infidelity made them single moms.
For number 4, it is always their offspring before any other man. Even the married women whom are still married will always put their kids before their husband. It's something in built in a woman. So if she's showing you love a 100%, then her kids has it at a million. You can never compete with those.


Nigerian men do feel they are doing women favour when they marry them as single mothers, but it's a paradox and a social myth that must be educated. 90% of single mothers are BEST wives in the marriage market.
At the bolded is wrong. They are not. Wanna ask you this question, if you going on a journey, and you are opportune to choose between a brand new car and a second hand car, which will you choose from?

IyaTola:
12 EXPO FOR MEN IF YOU WANT TO MARRY SINGLE MOTHERS.

1. Most Single Mothers are good cooks and God fearing.

2. Single Mums are SEX SATISFIERS. They will lock you down in bed for good sex so you don't look outside to avoid stories that will touch the heart.

3. 90% of SINGLE MOTHERS are faithful in marriage and wouldn't pull infidelity string to damage the engine of TRUST in the marriage system; they feel you have sacrificed enough to win their trust and faithfulness.

4. Single Mums treat their husbands as LORDS for the sacrifices they make, and easily forgive them no matter the gravity of what they are.

5. If you marry her, do not discriminate the child in your children's budget, see them as equals so you don't sprout the seed of jealousy.

6. Single Mums are SUPERWOMEN. For a woman to play the role of both parents and bear the responsibility of raising a child/children, don't joke with such a woman, because even if you die in future she can take care of your family.

7. If the child is a female child you will have less parenting to do because female children easily relieve parents once they are adult or even get married.

8. If you want to WIN her, love her child first, and you will see that she
will LOVE you with her last breath and blood.

9. Don't forget that as a woman that has put to BED before, there's 85% assurance that she will conceive without toiling from one prayer house to the other to conceive; the baby is evidence of her fruitfulness.

10. Single mothers that made mistakes do bring total SUBMISSION to the table of marriage once they know that the man is honest and sincere, because they will see marriage as a classroom where they must correct the mistakes the made in the past.

11. If she is a single mum as a widow you may not have problem but if the child's father is alive, Sign an agreement from the beginning on welfare and information management. Don't deny the father access to his child but put a password before he can have access to your wife;

12. Ensure the child is in the same school with your kids, if not that child's educational setbacks will influence your kids negatively when they play together. If the father supports good, but if he does not, be
ready to train the child alongside your kids for uniformity.

Nigerian men do feel they are doing women favour when they marry them as single mothers, but it's a paradox and a social myth that must be educated. 90% of single mothers are BEST wives in the marriage market.

SHOUT OUT TO ALL SINGLE MUMS WORLDWIDE!

https://twitter.com/madamkofo_/status/1200310181357338625

yazga:
what the difference?

The difference is, I don't have to marry their mom. And any kid in the motherless home, it's assumed his/her mom is late. That's the difference.

ubunja:
if his sperm is trained by another, then it's good news. You don't get it. It's about money, time and emotions wasted on the product of another man's orgasm. Which man in his right mind will have anything against a sucker doing the heavy work for him. Lmfao.

Bro you on point. Why bring emotions into this topic. Lol I won't have anything against any man who is ready to take care of my orgasm. But still I don't want any man to do my job for me. Lol

Charis15:
Live is deep my dear.
God forbid I wish you evil.
But who knows if your sperm will be trained by someone else.
Don't forget life is full of twist.

I know life is full of twist, but I won't try a single mom.

TheGoodJoe:
I just broke up with my Girlfriend unexpectedly. We had dinner at her place together and everything was going well until she was working me home and told me she was spending a night at one of her girlfriend's place and I just flipped.

History:

I honestly thought she was the one and I felt I have known her long enough to march her to the alter. We have been together for over a year and I have made my intentions known to her.

Well, I hit a brick wall financially and things have not been easy going as before. In the course of my challenges, I always do my best to meet up with her up keep. She is the kind that can manage things.

However, a change in attitude came recently and she stopped doing things she used to do. Most especially making decisions or going out without informing me. She had done it three times recently and yesterday, I begged her that for the sake of our relationship which means a lot to me, she should talk to me before making some decisions or going out.

Climax:
We settled and she had planned to spend a night outside without telling me. I knew because I told her I was coming to see her tomorrow evening. She said no that she is spending a night with her girlfriend.

I just ended the relationship because I am tired of fighting.

So was I wrong or too harsh?

This is all about you. She didn't fit in so boom off she goes. You are on the right track. It is all about you and your peace.

No one said they are not important. Why do you people come off with such thoughts in your head?

When and where was it ever said that women are not important?

Instead of you lots to sit down and think on better things to do, you all will just be reasoning things that are not there. What if those who are on gender war sees this? Sometimes I wish not all people have the privilege to talk be it in public or even in private because the spew out rubbish.

Go and work on yourself and your esteem. You do not need to post stupid topics on nairaland to actually be relevant.

praz001:
I always have it In mind to adopt a kid from the motherless after my own biological kids...
so I wouldn't mind a single and understanding mother.

If it's adoption I'm good with it, I can even take kids in the motherless home and pay their education till the graduate, but for a single mom, No!

Martinez39:
Is she still in kindergarten?

The sarcasm in this reply is out of this world.

How can a woman instead of building herself will hoe out her life and expect a man who is built and probably working to sustain what he's built will now come and start building another human that is not his child in the name of relationship? It's not as if she will be humble to learn instead all sticks and stones. Whatever happened to self worth before going into relationship. All this feminist talk and shit.

yazga:
Dating rules.

Dear Single mothers, do not date men who are broke. Don't date any man that you would have to feed, clothe and pick his bills. It is a recipe for disaster. You have children to take care of. You don't need an extra grown child.

At least, date a man who picks his own bills, even though he has none to offer you, but let him not be a burden to you. The only people permitted to date broke and hungry guys are strictly single ladies.

At least they can afford to drink ijebu garri together. You have rent, fees, feeding, clothing to handle for yourself and your children. Don't add to your burden by dating a hungry man. Your self preservation should be at the center of your dating decisions.

Don't make life difficult for yourself. It is not love. You have nothing to prove. You are not his mother.

Some of these men are actually very inconsiderate. I don't actually know how a young man will feel comfortable feeding off a woman that has children to take care of. Always ensure that the guy has his own money before you date. Think about your children. Don't put them and yourself in harm's way. This advice is not popular.

A simple rule I live on; never date or marry a single mom. Can't come and be training someone's sperm. Never!


Oh and single moms don't count as single.

Dimples0303:
Dump the he-losho, you can do better! All men are scum

Guess what your mom f.ucked one and had you. Your mom is still mooning to him pounding her every night. Oh n you know what? You are dating one, you so want him to be in you rn. Did I fail to mention that you have scums as brothers?

Deal with it. Stupid girl. Be talking shit. Fool

Pussywar:
When I talk of disrespectful and unsubmissive, I mean the most disrespectful and unsubmissive man of all disrespectful and unsubmissive men. . He doesn't respect me at all and I've tried to leave him but he keeps begging me and asking me to cope with his flaws and I don't know what to do.
When he visited my parents, he didn't help my brothers fetch water. He sat there, watching them do all the house chores. I'm not sure he'll make a good husband.
He's also not prayerful. He doesn't join me in praying. My friends keep making fun of me because he's someone many of them have slept with. I overlooked that and still accepted to date him. We've been together for a year and I've noticed his attitude has changed. He's no longer submissive and he talks back to me. Will this type of man make a good husband? Mature minds only.

MissGhosted is that you? Come on out we know it's you.

Ilekokonit:
Nigerian women don't have the capacity to love a man long term.

They will love their children long term but their love for their husband does not last because they hold grudges FOREVER.

This is most likely the reason our forefathers kept marrying new younger wives 'cos the older a woman gets the more wicked she becomes to her husband and this reminds me of a friends Mum who is in her eighties and locks the door and flogs her older blind husband with KOBOKO because the blind old man missed the toilet bowl while pissing. And this wickedness happened to the Dad of a friend in Naija a few years ago although the man has died now. This shows the wickedness and capacity to hold a grudge that is resident in Nigerian women whose stock in trade is to wait until their husband has the misfortune of ill health or job loss etc before exacting revenge for his past misdeeds real or imagined. What wicked souls.

He who has ears let him hear.

I am taking my time in choosing whoever I'm spending my life with.

Bunch of hypocrites they are.

funmisticqueen:
Wow, so unimpressive of you to regirgitate redpill content. You type are usually losers in real life so, i cannot be bothered. The only thing you are is entitled. Men age like fine wine but have a shorter life expectancy than women. I can only feel pity for delusional men like you

I stopped reading where you pointed out that my type are losers in real life life. That's how high your IQ is, to ascertain the life of anyone whom you haven't seen. Kudos to your brainstorming, it just couldn't lift a paper.

funmisticqueen:
Why do we need to impress a man when we are the ones who need to be impressed?

The reason you should impress your boyfriend is because he is the price and not you. He ages like a wine whilst you age like milk. You could be independent but solely dependent on his money for fancy things. He could leave you for the next girl who treats him just the way he likes even tho it might not measure up to how you feel you should treat him. The list could go on but for time sake....

Thoughtfeed:
I am a student in one of the universities in Nigeria...

I'm currently in 100 level and I earn 100k per month..

I didnt come from a rich family, so that made me focus more on hustle.... At age 16, I was already earning about 20k per month because I was ready to hustle till I breakdown...

Right now, I trying to earn 1m monthly but there is something that is making me overthink... I'm having headache over this because of the overthinking...

I keep thinking about relationship and love..

Ive never been in a relationship before.... Im a really handsome guy. And there are girls staring at me everywhere.. A girl even came to my room to charge her phone and she later told me wants to sleep with me, that she likes me and all that....

But Im afraid of getting hurt... Im afraid that Ill fall

This overthinking about girls and relationship has started affecting my work and my productivity...

What can I need do?

Bro abeg which work you deh do deh make you earn 100k a month, I need am no vex.

Ladycewhy:
which question? Can you rephrase it? Since you seem to be stuck on the damn bloody question,

Here you are:

isn't it child abuse to deny a child the ability to bond with his/her father? secondly, why is it that a man that is good for a sperm donor and financial support not also good to be present in his child's life?

Hamachi:
If you are above 30 and you are still single as a guy, better start going to churches or start working on yourself, it's either you have a bad character or your Uncle in the village don't want you to get married.

Yes, this is the bitter truth...

Being single at 30 and above is bad, and the chances of you getting married and having your kids on time is slim...

What if delay in child bearing occurs and you happens to stay for more 5 or 10 years before children starts coming...

Uncle, get married now ooo, time waits for nobody

How does it sound?
Does it sound stupid?

This is the lines most you use on ladies, making them believe they are overdue for marriage.
This is the lines most of you use on ladies, that talks them into depression.

At 40, he got married to her when she was 20, believing he has higher advantage as a man, yes, God blessed them with a girl and since then no issue.

Uncle is running to 50 and becoming very weak, Aunty is running to 30 and looking more sound and beautiful ❤️.

The chances of Uncle dying anytime soon is 50-50 because he has a diseases which keeps him in the hospital all the time.

When next you think about shaming a woman, because she is 30 & above and single, read this...

Written by Chiamaka Inyama.

This is a big lie. So a man being single at 30 is now bad abi? Aren't you the type that want your man financially buoyant, what if he's not buoyant enough to marry? Or you want him to get married and later the woman will be crying foul ni? What is wrong with you people and your double standards? Ese your guy is hustling period.

MissGhosted:
abi! But na christmas season be this oo. Close ya skinny legs. That yansh when de scratch you go land you for trouble

Autism at 100%