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swaggzo:
You all conclude too much. Where I stay, I can have up to 5 real girls every week.
I just liked how I connected with this person.
But you know, love is a loosing game. I lost this round.

palmshots:
This one is advising guys to go for evening Newspapers...WTF!!!

Gaggi:
This place smells of estrogen, can someone give me a spray? Everyone experiences heartache at one time or the other but as a man, a lot is expected from you in terms of how you handle it. What's all this talk of crying and begging? My ex called me to break up a relationship. I was really hurt but I refused to show it. Never called her again, she was the one who kept calling later to check on me, and even when she claims she misses me, I just tell her thanks, I don't ever say, I miss her too even though I did. She still calls till date after many years and both parties have since married.
Men should learn to control emotions if you want to be taken seriously. Women will prey on your weakness if you ever let them see it. Go and hang out with your guys, let them tease you and make fun of your situation, it helps. Stop crying like a woman and put yourself together. Time heals all wounds no matter how deep. I don't frown at you grieving but the way you are handling it is messed up. Grow some balls son.

Martinez39:
You don't want me to tell you about red pills? Now listen very well. If you had taken the red pill to know that as far as relationship is concerned, no girl is special, irreplaceable, indispensable, and the best thing to happen since slice bread, you would probably not have opened this thread. It's foolishness and degrading for a man like you to follow women to label Ubunja, myself, and others as women bashers when you clearly haven't taken time to read our messages. Isn't it stupid to cast judgement on things you know nothing of?

The fact that no woman, no matter how beautiful or educated, as far as relationship is concerned, is special, irreplaceable, indispensable, or the best thing to happen since slice bread is a common sense that weak and foolish men are yet to grab. Women are nothing special and they are just another human. There is no law in the universe that doesn't apply to them. Never, I repeat never, beg your fellow homo sapiens (especially one that you are providing for and hence needs you more than you need her), who isn't interested, to be in your life and love you. Get some sense of self respect. If a woman says she is not interested, let her go and don't beg her to stay. In fact, close the door on her for good and let her be the one to beg if she wants to come back.

Only foolish men put women on a pedestal. I know you will discard my advice like many since you love your sweet illusions of romantic love instead of reality. If you are crying, weeping, creating a scene, and rolling on the floor to beg your fellow human being to love you, you are a big fool and a disgrace to manhood. Mtewwww.



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Seesam:
My dear brothers and sisters. I am at a cross road. What do i do?.
My marriage is suffering a major setback and my wife doesnt seem to care about what might happen to us next.

We have always had issues just like many other marriages, but for us its very obvious that we can no longer tolerate each other.

God has been so good to us, blessing us with 4 healthy children.
Financially we are not ok, we are just managing and she is no longer ready to manage with me.

She has been with her parents for over a year now with our children. And i occasionally go to visit them.

The main problem now is that another woman is pregnant for me.
I love her but she is marraiad. Her husband is in Malaysia and things are very rocky between them.
They had their traditional wedding and white wedding as well.
The lady made me to understand that her bride price was never paid. How is that possible?.
I have made attempt to meet her own parents so as to know our fate but she said i should leave that to her.
We are both igbos, is this really possible?.

If it is, do we have the right to get married?.
should i go against her will.and reach her parents now?.

Please advice me without insulting my person.

Regards.

RedCreme21:
i didnt even know. Most nollywood movies and nigerian literatures center around virgins.

then rich boy/girl falls in love with poor boy/girl.
evil step mother.
land issues.
campus.

swaggzo:
There are wise people on this forum afterall. I'm shocked.
Thank you for this beauty.

swaggzo:
Maybe if I comment first on my own topic it'll make me feel better for a minute.
I'm gonna tag a few wise friends so that they can try to help me get through this

Hopefullandlord, Hahn. HappyPagan, Michellekabod2.
Zikzikzik (I've always wanted to talk to you about how you feel. You don't have to end life, everything will be okay).
Hakeem12, 1sharon, hakeem4. Capslocked, skeetz, johnydon22, hardmirror. Atlantia, stupidity. MJbolt, dalaman, calliope, xxsabrinaxx. Izzou, lordreed. Janettee, Hopeforcharles. Ever wise tintingz.

Ubunja/Martinez39 (please don't tell me about redpills. Sometimes, genuine love is bigger than anything in it's way.)

Chukwurah003:
Lol Simple. Atiku never had a case. I pity the Atiku is cumming crew. How can people be so stupid.

Lionpikin:
tomorrow she go begin find gentleman like me wen she wan pour the wahala wen the yahoo boy put for her body on.... anything she see for inside, make she take am like that, I no go pity and I no go help her

frankyskyboi:
I started a relationship with a lady in March this year and it's been going on well though she works in Lagos while I'm in the eastern part of the country.

When we were at the introductory part of the relationship, I asked about her family and she told me they are separated. I asked what's the reason for the separation and she said its due to irreconcilable differences and they separated when she was a toddler that it's her dad that raised her up tho she keeps contact occasionally with her mum.

She stays with her aunts in Lagos. I asked if she asked both parents to know why and she said she only asked her dad and he said he doesn't want her mum to be working class and she insisted to be One that he wants her to be a stay at home wife. I asked if she heard from her mum and she said no. She also said her aunts said same thing her dad said.

The reason really didn't go down well with me as it's too flimsy and I've told her to ask her mum and she keeps procrastinating or giving one excuse or the other. It beats my imagination how a grown up adult can't know with conviction why her parents separated or I guess the truth is being hidden.

I'm bringing this up here because my brother married from a separated home and it was war before my parents gave consent. If she can't give me concrete reason why the parents broke up which I'll present before my parents, I really don't know how the relationship can move forward because we detest divorce in our family.

Please I need your advice if I should continue or quit.

Lionpikin:
chop knuckle my gee.....are you in Lagos? na guys like you I dey like roll with

@op should inform his parents about this, they can provide accommodation for them then take it up legally.

Lionpikin:
I am not absolving the man of responsibility and blame, my issue is , he has always been irresponsible and our dear sister despite the red flags chose him over all the other responsible men wooing her knowing fully well there would be repercussions, now she is facing it, I would not want to fight for such a person, they disgusts me.....las las, she go still see you as person wen wan pour sand for her garri like the op is witnessing....

Lionpikin:
Bros, na so their lives be. It disgusts me really. Get sense, them no go gree.....if you have been trying to get a girl's attention by being nice to her, she would be snubbing you but start treating her like scum and boom just like magic, she would start doing the chasing....like seriously? then after getting whatever from such relationships, they would be looking for those good boys that they never responded to, to come and bail them out, like taking care of them and the child/children they had for the bad boys...it's that not bullshit?

Sakes:
It is very wrong to try to complicate an already messy situation.....
Your approach as well as that of the person you responded to is not good.....

Everyone makes a wrong decision at some point in life...
The Of did not raise this issue so you blame people that needs your help and advice.
Why are people like this
If you can't help... Then, ignore.. Don't add to the problem.
You can't change the marriage that has happened but you secure the future of this children that may have something to contribute in the future.....
Be part of the solution not the problem!!!!

freda506:
Yes, you did. You explicitly blamed the woman for choosing the man, instead of calling him out for making the CONSCIOUS DECISION to be irresponsible.

Your supposed post blaming of the man still started with the caveat, "....But no matter what the wife must have done."

So, the woman had to something make him not take of their children?

Please don't play dumb. You know good and well what you intended with that conditional statement.

CHoccolaTE:
Haha stop lying now.

Your kind always goes after irresponsible olosho big ukwu women

CHoccolaTE:
Really? You decided to go personal and accuse me of liking bad guys that can ruin my life? That means men also like big Ukwu women that are irresponsible and badly behaved. All they care about is big Ukwu, they don't mind if the woman is first grade olosho sofa d yansh is bag.

If you doubt me check the type of women you yourself are dating or attracted to.

freda506:
Yes. Let's blame women for men being useless, and let's pretend responsible men are lying around in excess and women are deliberately not picking.

Look at all of you absolving the man of all responsibility and blame. Must be nice.

But no matter what the wife must have done, that man should have come to rescue the kid. Some people get mind

CHoccolaTE:
You dont support irresponsibility but if you were the op you would mind your business?
Women don't seek put irresponsible men that's a lie. Men pretend and lie to get married to unsuspecting women and then start showing their true colors after marriage.

Lionpikin:
When they said girls love bad boys, you people will be arguing, the guy has always been irresponsible but he is the one the woman chose to have children for despite lots of gentlemen that would be asking her out in her time....I don't support irresponsibility one bit but in Nigeria (I have not been abroad), it is these set of men that mostly get all the girls, we see it everyday.....how a girl will be running after an irresponsible man that treats her like scum despite all her options always beat my imagination....I don't pity such girls when they start facing the repercussions, this is one of it....I'm sorry if I am sounding harsh, if I were the op, I would mind my business

AwkaetitiBabe:
Ngwa and mbaise

Bloooody:
Tired of seeing so many Nigerians begging on this forum.
If you're interested in learning how to make cash, drop your WhatsApp number and I'll message you.
If you're the smart kind then you'll cashing out 5-50k( this is not gambling or illegal)

Seems alot of Nigerians are having doubts and thinks this is a scam well I hope my credit alerts change your mind

Destiblack:
Not all men bro but some.

Amstupid:
I will get her ND show u am nt a mugu,,,,,, 2 can play

Amstupid:
wats simp

Amstupid:
I like d girl,,, can't imagine her asking me for something else rather than can u be my........... ( u know)

Amstupid:
Pls house, I nid a quick response to this....... Only have 8hrs left

There was dis beautiful girl at my former working place,,,, we hardly talk to each other -- maybe 2ce a month. ( Greeting only)
I have a crush on her bt am a fearing man type, afraid to approached a girl cause I will feel down if rejected ( dats my problem) ............... Story short..........

1 of my former mate is celebrating her birthday today ( Sunday) ... I went there dis morning ND behold d Girl called me ND ask me she wanted something from me today since she has nt been seeing me around....
I told her I will make sure she get everything she wanted at d birthday ( food ND drinks)....

She decline ND said NO,,,, she said she wanted something from me personally

Guyz pls, can u guess Wat is it DAT she want from me,,, is it just friendly asking or Wat am thinking cause I want to approach her 1st b4 she ask me anything.........
How can I counter her, how shld I go abt it


I nid advice pls, this
Help - cc LALASTICALA

Lamanii22:
I'm not a money freak... But a lil gift and sweet nothings isn't a bad thing...

ednut1:
businesses suffer set backs. People get sacked . That is life

ednut1:
Women too are breadwinners these days. But on a coded level.stop crying.