Your article is great and very enlightening. However, sex before marriage is ungodly and it's a sin against the souls they that commit it and a disobedience to God's commandment.

This where our generation consistently get it wrong and lo the lack of trust, Lust, sexual perversion, paternity frauds, turbulence in marriage, separation, divorce, divorced kids, etc. It's spiritual, you can't understand it by the soundest worldly enlightenment.





[quote author=Benee1000 post=113528970]For guys interested in marriage or long term relationships with religious ladies, please beware of the age long trap of their promise to fulfill all your sexual desires UNTIL after marriage.
Especially the ones who claim to love you but totally avoid being sexual with you with the excuse that sex before marriage is sin.

Do not fall for this seemingly upright but ultimately destructive trap, whether she's a virgin or not.

A woman's sexuality is more important than her religious beliefs when it comes to relationship & marriage.
Females are emotional beings as much as they're sexual beings, and religion doesn't change this.

A lady is a female first, before her religious beliefs.

Let me explain:

A lady who genuinely desires & is attracted to a man cannot help herself from being sexual with him, whether she's religious or not.
This genuine desire and attraction predisposes her to be in the feminine and automatically, sexual towards him.
They are incapable of controlling their lust for the man they desire, and desire, is an emotion, something felt and not intentional nor negotiated.

Have you ever wondered why sex with a lady in a highly emotional state (after a quarel, aka make up sex, or when she's excited, scared, sad and dejected, drunk, lonely etc.) is often very intense and pleasurable for her?

It's because females require emotions to enjoy sex ..

Sex is directly proportional to a woman's emotions.
The more emotional she is, the more sexual she becomes.
The more logical or less emotional she Is, the less sexual she becomes.
The more emotionally expressive a lady is, the more sexually expressive she is during sex (legends know this).

Emotions opens up a woman sexually.
When her emotions are high, sex is not far away.

This is why the easiest way to sleep with a lady is to make her Emotional.

And If they're already sexually attracted to a man, they will seek an emotional connection with him.

Since desire is an emotion, and emotions opens up a woman sexually, a lady therefore can hardly control herself from being sexual with a man she genuinely desires because that desire makes her emotional, and emotions makes her sexual.

She could be a cold blooded nun to every other guy but burns hot for the man she's attracted to.
She may withhold sex for religious reasons but cannot control being sexual or romantic with him, and unless such a man can control himself, it's only a matter of time before sex happens.

This means that the burden of keeping a 'no sex before marriage relationship' rests on the man rather than the woman.
Because she already wants it, and can't control her emotions.

Females are called weaker vessels in the Bible not because they're physically weaker than men (women can be as strong as men physically. If woman don gather mind fight you before, you will confirm ).

They're called weaker vessels because they can hardly control their emotions like men.

Her religious beliefs doesn't change this. It is a fundamental part of what makes her female.

Remember, a woman is a female first before her religious beliefs.

Again, desire, my friends cannot be negotiated. If a lady doesn't desire you sexually, she simply doesn't, and therefore cannot attach to you emotionally.

There's always a level of emotional fulfilment and attachment in a lady when she has sex with a man she sexually desires.

The strength of this attachment is strongest for the man who disvirgins her and the man who can give her earth shattering orgasms. They don't easily break up and forget this categories of men.

However, the more sexual partners a lady has had, the weaker the strength of this emotional attachment, and the lesser the chance of her bonding emotionally with her next sexual partner irrespective of her sexual attraction for him.

A lady who has had several sexual partners will hardly bond emotionally with any man, and is considered too damaged for marriage.
This is why it is important to vet a lady's past, irrespective of her sexual attraction for you.

A lady who is not attached to you emotionally is not a lady you want to get married to. Neither your money nor her religion can keep her loyal in such union.

This is the reason why most married women cheat, especially with their ex. They're still emotionally attached to that ex.

Moreover, sex with a lady who desires you sexually is at opposite ends to one which a lady does out of obligation.

The Former indulges her emotions, as well as her sexual fantasies, and fetishes, which easily takes her to the promised land (orgasm). This doesn't require stress from the man as just caressing or touching her, or even just hearing his voice or seeing him, with few minutes of penetration, is enough to open her flood gates (2mins women ). It's how she feels emotionally about the guy that really matters.

The later, (obligational sex) is akin to prostitution and you go drill her hole taya before you see water, if you see at all, no matter the size of your drilling rig .

This is because it involves little to no emotions from her. She's doing it as her own duty in a business transaction. To get money or financial security from the man in return for the use of her coochie to satisfy himself.
Her own pleasure doesn't matter in a transactional sex.

This is why the sex an olosho gives to a client is very different from the one she does with her boyfriend that she loves and is sexually attracted to.
The sex she gives to clients is considered stressful work for her and has to be paid for, after which, she reaches out to her boyfriend when she wants to rest, feel feminine, and to have the same sex she's trying to rest from, for free! and you wonder, is it not the same sex?

No, it's not.

For a female, sex borne out of desire (validational) is for her, to please herself, while sex due to obligation (transactional) is for the man, to please the man and get his resources in return.

Which one do you think you will enjoy more? The sex you beg or pay for and she agrees to so that peace will reign, which she barely partakes in and simply lies down like a bag of beans while you pound away with a handy bottle of lubricant as drilling mud ,
or the one she looks forward to, begs you for and brings her A game so she can satisfy her sexual cravings with multiple orgasms?

The first is just like masturbating, but with a real person. The sex is like eating food to cure hunger but didn't savour the meal.

For the second, the pride, pleasure and satisfaction when a man cums after he has made the lady orgasm is on another level.
You feel like a king, the lady adores you and she feels like a Queen.
You both satisfied your hunger, savoured the meal, and you both look forward to the next meal.

If you are made to wait for sex, you will eventually discover that the sex was never worth the wait.

Because what you get at best after that wedding is obligatory sex, of which as soon as she gives birth to the first child, she fulfils only sparingly, because no woman really enjoys obligated sex, and that child is insurance of her financial security from you, while your obligation to provide as a man increases with each new birth.

Ever heard of women having sex time table for their husbands? This is the origin, obligation, void of desire.
Desire can not be negotiated, it is spontaneous.

Moreover, since there's no emotional attachment involved in obligatory sex, the day you default on your own part of the deal (financial provision), or when she considers it insufficient, that is the day you lose your value and respect to her, including her loyalty to you.

She may not show it immediately, but with time, nagging, disrespect, disregard, sex deprivation and even cheating will creep into that marriage.
She may even elope with your children sef.
Peace of mind will be very far from you, and your journey as a philosopher will be on full throttle .
That is If she doesn't kill you so she can inherit your resources and go be with the man she really desires.

So beware guys. If she demands that you must wait until after marriage for her to become sexual with you, abort mission.

Her marriage demand is not borne out of righteousness but rather a need for the security of your resources.
She's codedly offering sex in exchange for the resources that comes with your commitment.

Marrying such a lady is like marrying a prostitute, albeit a religious or sexually disciplined one, with you as the only customer, if she decides to be loyal to you.

Prostitution isn't about having multiple sexual partners, but wanting to be rewarded for sex.
It is a mindset.

A lady who easily sleeps around (a slut), just lacks sexual discipline, she may or may not be a prostitute.

Majority of marriages are just legal / institutionalized prostitution.

The moment the husband faces financial crisis, the wife locks up her shop for security reasons (financial security ).
No emotional attachment, no sentiment.

If you think a womans demand for no sex before marriage in a relationship is borne out righteousness, playfully ask her if she tells soft lies to gain favours or get out of trouble once in a while (All women do this whether religious or not. It's a preinstalled software in their OS ).
If she smiles but tries to explain why, ask her what then is the difference between lying and extra-marital sex if both are considered sin and why she considers one more seriously than the other? and watch her babble without a logical answer.

However, this is the reason.

Marriage in itself, has little to do with love, it's all about resources. To make a man accountable for a woman and her offspring.

While this is necessary as a woman needs resources to properly cater for her offspring, a man don't need to be married to a lady to experience her love and sexual side.

That sexual side of her comes naturally when she meets a man she's genuinely attracted to.

Marriage doesn't automatically make a woman sexual towards you.

A lady who genuinely desires you cannot insist on the idea of no sex without marriage to you, because;
1) She would be so scared of loosing you to other ladies who wants you, especially when you're high value.
2) A lady has little to no control over her body for a man she sexually desires.

Only the man does. Only the man can determine whether sex will happen or not, because she already wants it.

What she'd rather do if really serious about being chaste before marriage is to beg you not to take advantage of her sexually and help her keep herself whenever she's with you.
She knows she can't help it, and you only have to make the move for sex for it to happen.

Some ladies will even make the move for sex themselves, put their hope in you to resist, and will genuinely blame you when you fail to resist.

However, most will just hide this desire, wear clothes and do things to turn you on so that you try to seduce them for sex, pretend that they don't want it with a weak resistance so you don't see them as cheap, only to later be shouting harder! harder!, disturbing the neighbors with her moaning, and then finally wets the whole bed with 2 liters of cum while vibrating like old Nokia touchlight phone during orgasm .

After the first half, she lays on the bed to rest a little, while strategizing how best to initiate the second half,
and the exhausted guy trying to catch his breath, thinks he just successfully seduced the lady and proudly represented his village people with a man of the match performance like Messi; If only he knew what'sup .

A lady who insists on a no sex before marriage most likely has other options, certainly doesn't desire you sexually, and definitely cannot attach to you emotionally.

A man who has to win a woman's affection, is already playing a lost game, and he'll pay dearly for it, when whatever won and sustained the woman's affection is no more.

A woman's affection, while very rare and priceless, comes free. It's a gift. Gifts are freely given, not bought.
However gifts are giving to those who are found worthy.

But here's the corollary (the other side of the coin);

No female proves her love for a man through sex or the promise of sex. The existence of prostitution should reveal this to you.

Sex to a lady is either for her pleasure, a service to be rendered for a price, a tool for manipulation, or a weapon for destruction.
If a lady is clever enough, all can be applied at the same time, to multiple men.

Sex is never a proof of love, neither is the offering of virginity.

Love is proven through giving and making sacrifices.
However, sexual attraction comes first, because while women can be sexually attracted to a man they don't love (their crush), they can only love a man they're sexually attracted to.

If a lady is not sexually into you, just forget about her other qualities and dey your lane.

Don't make the grave mistake many good men make by saying "she'd make a good wife cos she's a good person, and sex is not that important to me".

This is because there's a big difference between a wife who finds you as her lover and a wife who only sees you as her husband and father of her children.

One makes a happy home irrespective of circumstances, and the other makes a peaceful home as long as you can provide.

One see her duty in the marriage as only to provide sex and take care of the home and children. Anything money for the home is not her concern and solely rests on the husband, as her money is her money.

While the other makes it her responsibility that her lover's life is easy through her support financially, sees her money as their money, and ensures he is always happy so that he can effectively carry out his duty of satisfying her sexual needs and heading the home.

A woman will hardly stay 2 days beefing her lover in the same house, because his presence always stirs up her desire for romance, making her always push to settle their beef quickly, or she just ignores the issue and easily forgives him, so she can enjoy her man, and her marriage.

A wife with no emotional attachment to her husband cannot be easily pleased by him no matter his efforts at pleasing her.
Their home is mostly sterile (like the atmosphere of a formal office), Happy moments are rare, and for little misunderstandings, they can stay quarrelling for years, living like flatmates and end up enduring the marriage.

Objectively observe marriages around you and you will discover that couples are just silently enduring it either for the sake of their children, religious beliefs, cultural beliefs, social status, or financial dependence.

This is the reality of most marriages and the couples don't even know why their marriage is like that.

The men either neglected or were not aware of the rule that sexual attraction from a woman should come first before considering her other qualities for a relationship or marriage.
Because it seems a direct opposite of what is taught by many religions, that sex before marriage is sin.

They conflated sexual attraction for sex, and ignored the fact that A lady is a female first, before her religious beliefs.

For those still unmarried, here's what you can do to avoid making this mistake in choosing a marriage partner.

Never try to win a lady's affection.

Instead, make yourself attractive physically, financially and socially.
This is what women interpret as sexually attractive.
If you're high-value, many women will find you sexually attractive and codedly come around you to flash varying intensities of green lights.
However, you must be able to decipher between women who want you for attention and those who want you for affection.

Attention just wants your money, gain relevance through association and sex.
Affection wants these same things but also wants your leadership and emotional connection.

Remember, women will seek an emotional connection with a man they're genuinely sexually attracted to.

But also know that women's sexual attraction for a man they have no emotional connection to doesn't last long, and easily fades.
So you must act fast when you notice a woman is sexually attracted to you if she fits other criteria you seek in a woman for a wife.
She will make it easy for you to toast her, that is if she doesn't toast you sef.
She may do small shakara, but will never stress you. If her shakara is becoming too much, withdraw your attention from her and watch her start toasting you back .

However, once you've established an emotional connection with her (what women interpret as relationship), her sexual attraction for you doesn't easily fade.

But remember also that since emotions opens up a woman sexually, she's going to really want sex with you.
So be prepared to resist if you want a chaste relationship.
Once sex is involved, she becomes emotionally attached to you. She becomes very clingy if she was a virgin and/or if you can skilfully make her orgasm and sqirt.

Do not chase women for relationships. That is her role, yours is to make yourself sexually attractive.
Let women fall in love with you and prove their love through willingly giving and making sacrifices for you no matter how little, irrespective of your financial status.
Women will hardly give their money and make sacrifices for a man they don't love, even inside marriage.

Then, choose the one with the best physical attributes, character and any other qualities you desire in a woman that you can be proud of as your wife.
You will learn to love her with time as she

She scores very poorly in financial management. She can not manage home financial chores.

She does not take or heed your financial advice. It doesn't end there, she will not heed to your other advice on how to run the home.

Bad past? Who told you it's past! Adult don't change but only evolve. Her "past" could be sexually promiscuity, Gambling or drug abuse which she is hiding from you. Run o!

What you are experiencing is not Love but it's Soul tie. You are sexually bond with her which blinds of these more than obvious symptoms and ability to decide and run for your life. Be wise shaa.




Thank you for being there in the past with your timely advise(s). I am here again just to get some more on a case.

I have a girlfriend which I plan getting married to as both families are all involved. My girlfriend has had a bad past. She was once abused and all but then I was able to help shape her when I got into her life. I have been there for her in my own little way but lately, she has not been behaving too well and I am not happy about that fact.I will itemize these:

1. She once borrowed her friend her school fees to rent an apartment with the promise the friend was going to pay her back before exams started. Her friend failed to pay her back and I had to provide her with the money in order not to miss her exams. Note, the said friend is a female.

2. Second semester, her pops gave her school fees which I saw the alert. Yea,she travelled down to see me from Lag and she spent some but then I told her she would not have spent her school fees to come see me. Infact at that time I never knew she was going to come because I was sick but she did. So I told her not to touch her school fees again that I was going to refund her the money. She left and I refunded. I paid her flight back to Lagos.

I later found out my girlfriend didn’t pay that school fees. She spent it and when it was time to pay she kept complaining. I was mad at her wondering what she must have used it for. I scolded her and gave her part of the money.(N100k)

3. I have paid several debts for her as she made some mistakes in her online business and was swindled. The most recent one now, she went to get loans from apps online. I don’t even know what would have made her do that as I try assist her when she’s in need. I have warned her severally against borrowing but she went to borrow and now she’s into debt.

I have asked what she used the money for but she can’t even point to one thing. She said she used the initial loan for her personal needs and when she couldn’t pay back, she had to borrow from another app to pay and all. That’s how she kept borrowing to pay another till she borrowed from over 15 loan apps and her debt is running into 350k as at today.

I honestly can’t pay such an amount as I have my own personal problems to carry. I was mad because in the past I have warned her against borrowing and all. Now she’s in trouble and they’ve been threatening her to pay back.

I have told her I don’t have such monies to pay back and even if I had I won’t pay back. I have advised she talk to her parents and siblings about it but she has been scared. I have that money but I can’t pay back as I have more pressing needs to attend to. Since she has refused to tell her parents, I am thinking of telling her parents. I am very close to her family.

This is someone I wanna get married to but with all I’m seeing, I am already having doubts.

She’s from a very good home. Deep down, I love her and she does too. But why these problems, I don’t understand.

Please I seek your advice on how to handle this as I can’t pay such debts. I have done several in the past

Thanks [/quote]

Alexgman1:
Have visited her parent they explained everytin to me. They told me not to break their daughter'r heart, said i wont like the outcome.

This oops funny shaa. Do you expect her parents to tell you Ill of their daughter or encourage you to break her heart?

I always tell pple "most ladies on the street are not interested in marriage (till death do you part), they only want to use you father kids and go back to the street for their OLOSHO merchandise". Watch watch and watch well o!!!

This long epistles you mad o!

chatinent:

Uncle met you. He said he wanted to marry you within four months while in Nigeria.

You said no. You said it was too early. You said you needed to know him better. You didn't even give him a timeframe as to when you think it's possible. No wahala.

Uncle travelled oversea. Some 24 months later, you are feeling insecure about what he'll be doing with ladies there and wants to settle down. Uncle is pissed off because he feels he had asked you before the abroad plan and you rejected because you wanted to seek God's info, but now he is abroad, you are certain he relocated from one estate in heaven.

Hanty, so you no know say man wey tell you e wan marry after three months of dating has no time for the long dating waiting process...and fit don marry within two years?

I know you didn't want to agree then so you wouldn't look cheap or desperate, but how can you look cheap then! No bi him suggest am? No bi him meet you? Una Naija girls tho. If you no fit marry am you tell the person, no bi say it's too early. It's too early for marriage but not too early for dating for two years? Na diploma? Na this same “I don't want to look cheap and desperate” don make Bisola turn 49 and all her prayer points don bi “God when.” Of course, because society has time to remember every lady out there unmarried and getting overripe.


Person propose to you, you reject am. How dare you propose now? You get mind o.


I no dey force you into marriage but if you mah know say he is marriageable, by now una for don marry with kids, probably with him overseas.


NOW, THAT'S YOUR OWN STORY. HERE'S WHAT I THINK HAPPENED:

You didn't want to marry him while in Nigeria because he seemed broke to you!

Na as you hear US later, oil begin commot your body.

You ladies are funny sometimes. You need revelation from God for six months to know if a not too wealthy guy is for you but a rich man is the answered prayer and your opportunity comes but once...and you feel the rich guy has no common sense? You feel he doesn't feel he is doing you a favour?

A lady who says she is not ready for marriage then that is now disturbing for marriage is actually inviting sb to use and dump her. If you say you aren't ready for marriage then, keep quiet until he asks again. Repeatedly saying it is suspicious abeg.

To me, dating is for marriage straight-up. Since I don't cheat, I no get time to come dey share girlfriend with dick-hungry Nigerian wild guys. Now imagine the girl disagreed and I come travel from that location she come dey yarn okoto later. No nah.

If you wanted to end it, you would have...na the abroad string wey dey make am difficult for you.

Believe me, if the true story is that you rejected his advances while in Nigeria but are now eager for marriage while he is abroad, you have been dating yourself....and will continue to be used by him...yet the one thing about you that will relocate abroad will be your imagination.

Uncle is now woke and has realized that after all, you aren't bringing anything to the table. I know you'll say you are the table. Well, you don't have table manners.


Please break up with him.
I have no option for peace.



Sorry, I don't mince words.
Have a nice century.

Kennedyiheme:
Paternity fraud seems to be like a business for some women... i watched a documentary where the man found out 3 of his 4 kids aren't his, he filed for divorce, the court made him forfiet the house he was paying morgage on, and he kept paying mortgage on a house that wasn't his... the biological father was later found but the court still made him pay child support... what kind of wickedness is the law using to favour women against men, ripping them off and taking everything away from them, which leads some men into depression... I'm sure you know there was a time a Nigerian doctor said 4 out of 10 men raise kids that aren't theirs without them knowing...isnt this wickedness, why must a man subject himself to such cruelty... i choose not to... just go on YouTube and watch paternity court.. you will cry for men

Please tell this man not to shake this table o

I am secretly concern about her well being.

My only secret worrries right is that, her hubby should not lay hands on her, by slapping her. I don't like when a man beats a woman



You need get your own wife and start paying bills so as to stay away from people's marriages.

Report me to third party especially a male like me!!!!!! Chai we are done!!!!!!!

Psychological & emotional are the worst form of abuses. They break and make you doubt your pschi and self wort as a man.

This abuse is mostly perpetrated by wives against their spouses. Men are often ignored to suffer because unlike, physical abuse, evidence is hard to see and document.

Manipulation(deception,lies and sex), victimist(tears) attitudes of women and ignorance of the Western laws are the weapons in their arsenal.

Me always say, to them single guys, "don't let any bobomclak them USE YOO BORN O".Them no interested in any marriage but kids with afather. After a while they ma leave ya and do them OLOSHO things. If ya do them COURT wedding, they ma bleed alimony outa ya pocket.

politicoNG:


https://veonewsng.com/2022/06/27/inauguration-of-justice-ariwoolatext-of-president-buharis-speech/

Mallam Judge don finish ni?

Rosement:
I'm a virgin, I don't want to have sex until my wedding night. I'm a Nigerian but my bf is a white guy, he told me he loves and he wants to marry me but he wants us to start having sex while we are dating. I tired of breaking up for this same reason. What do I do?

Why can't girls date without asking for money? Yes, either directly or indirectly, never receive or demand money from your guy. Politely turn it down even if he "insists", then you becomes a special breed before him.

Hello big bros on Nairaland, I please need your suggestions/opinion on this business.

Am interested in Buying and Selling Belgium bicycles and bicycle parts in Porthacourt.

Which market in Nigeria can i Buy them at considerably cheap price?

Thank you!

cleantitleautos:
Where are Tonto's fans? Your Lady is now a politician o. She's the running mate for ADC governorship candidate in Rivers State come 2023 general elections!

https://www.facebook.com/100044530322335/posts/pfbid025BJdTVQ4cpQBX9VPV9VvNEC9nzVPQDx8ppSb8q2hiW3Ttd7c9ogJXTcdT1fg9hBhl/?app=fbl

Can you imagine! Some parties know that they are just making the numbers and frankly not hiding.

Phone is electronics tech while generator is mechanical tech.

1. Phone repairs will give you more cash flow than generator repairs because more people (almost everybody) use phone than generator.

2. Phone has no substitute but generator does in the form of solar, inverter and hydropower, hence making need to buy generator a choice.

3. Working environment of phone repair is more conducive and comfortable than geny repairs.

4. On the average, the fee for fixing phone is higher than that of geny hence, giving you more cash.

Ogbeni why are you worried? It's simple, always make her ride you first until you can visibly see that she has cum and tired, then you take charge. Na she go dey beeeeg!

Iamhero:
I’ve been in a relationship with this girl exactly one year ago and she is very young she is 19yrs old now, I’ve never found her cheating because I connected her WhatsApp with my PC for the past 4months ago and she didn't know about it. But two weeks ago I noticed that she was chatting with a man on her WhatsApp and this man is an old man like a 50yr-old upward, I was confused I didn't ask her about it. She came to me last week Monday and she was on a call with the man and immediately she saw me enter the room she quickly hangs up the call and I asked her who she was talking to and she told me she was talking to her dad, I said okay, after that I noticed she was on her WhatsApp and I quickly took my PC and check her recent chats then I saw the man asking her where she is and she told the man she was in her female friend’s side, I still didn't say anything to her I didn't let her know anything, after 3days I checked her WhatsApp again and I saw my girlfriend sending the videos they made inside the man’s car to him and the man was like I am happy to see you today! And the man asked my babe when both of them will have time to sleep together and my babe told the man that he should be patient with her till she was done with her exam and the man agreed. Now to cut the long story short, last week Tuesday she came to me and I took her to the restaurant to eat and she was trying to make a video with me, as usual, she always did but this time I'm not happy with her and I just forced myself to smile and made the video with her, then my mind told me to check her WhatsApp but I don't want her to know that I want to check her phone and I was patient till we get home back, then I took my PC and check her WhatsApp chats, I saw her telling the man that the man should not worry she will meet with him on Sunday and she will sleep over and she will have fun with him. The one that pained me most was that she was telling the man she will give him all kinds of styles for him and the man was very happy and even sent her money, at this moment I want to talk and ask her because I was very angry but I still calm myself and I didn't even tell any of my friends about it, I now told her that I have a special place I wanted to take her to on Sunday and I want her to have it in mind, she immediately frowned her face and told me she was going to a naming ceremony with her mother on Sunday and she even told me to ask her mom, I knew she was lying and she was going to that man but I insisted that we must go out together on Sunday and I even told her I was taking her on a mini-vacation and she was happy because she likes to go on vacation, now she agreed but later she chats with the man and gave him some excuses and she told the man she will come to him on Saturday instead and sleep with him till Sunday morning and the man agreed. On that Sunday very early in the morning I called her mom and asked her to help me give her phone to her because I was calling her number and her number wasn't going through but her mother told me she was sleeping and I said okay and I hanged the call then later she calls me and we talked, I told her to chat me on WhatsApp that I wanted to tell her something and she said okay, I did that to gain access to her WhatsApp and I saw her telling the man that she has gotten home at 7 am and I saw the man complimenting her that she really enjoy her and this time I was very very sad to the extent that I was crying because I thought this girl is the right person for me to marry because I haven't found any shit with her for the past a year we have been dating and I always take care of her based on my power and my current situation, I changed her phone 1 months ago and I always gave her money every week to make her hair, and when am broke I always let her know that I don't have much on me and she will even advise me not to think much that everything will be fine.
I know her mother knows about that man because from her chat I always read sometimes she does tell the man to drive to her house and come and check on her and she lives with her mother, she came to me last week Sunday that same day she came from that man and I didn't even let her notice that I know everything I just keep all the pains in me and act like nothing wrong but I left her inside the house and went out to my friends side just not to be seeing her face that day and I make sure I didn't make fun with her till she left my side for their house, I'm really heartbroken now and I'm confused I don't know what to do, I'll be happy if you guys can tell me what to do. Thanks for reading ��

I will commend you Bro because you are smart enough to gather this enormous Intel about your girl. I am telling you that alot of divorce and endless regrets would be avoided today if the men involved had done half of this great job you have done. Congratulations bro! Meanwhile how can I go about this Intel?

It remind me of one hungry bitch I met along St Jones here in PH. I chatted her up and we exchanged numbers. Four or five days after i requested for a date, she agreed but to my disgust she came with her friend. I took them to chicken Republican, ordered for 3 plates of fried rice, salads, chicken and soft drinks and we ate. We left there for a bar where these clowns cancelled bottles and pepper meats 4 my neck. We finished her friend said i tried, we parted ways.

Two days later she called that she wanted to see me and I asked her to come to my place, after reluctance she later came. Wearing one shameless bump short, she still came with same friend! I took them to the restaurant close to my house where they ate big big semo like an hungry dog released from cage, drinks and pepper meats.

After every she said she wan go, go ke? Ogbeni pass the night with me joor! Reluctantly she agreed, I gave her stupid friend transport make she carry wahala go.

Meanwhile, while we were seated in the restaurant she was publicly caressing me, making me feel she would be hot. However, for bed this girl was more useless than a log of wood. I couldn't wait for morning to discharge the bitch! In the morning, i gave her 4k, didn't even escort her and immediately delete the useless number from my phone.

Looking at the package when i first met her, I thought she was classy, I no know say Na one one the mkpon I DEY HUNGRY girls, tueeeeeh!

ArewaNorth:

https://dailynigerian.com/decentralise-national-grid/

This man Na werey o! Chei na wen e remain few months to go you wan fix light? Orisirisi!

Nackzy:
My Brother Run, they're called narcissist, i had one the best i did was to withdraw my emotions and i ran

Chai brother you have the right word "narcissist". I had one lady myself. After 6 terrifying years of endless lies, manipulations, emotional, mental and psychological abuse, I fled for my life. When I look back almost 4 years now, I say Jesus thank you o!

No marriage, Just living together and you are lamenting over a woman that doesn't exist. Bro you are so funny o.

We may not be holy o but one thing we still have is fear of God. We ain't interested in your satanic merchandise you accursed!

This davido is can't just let go of this girl

I will commend you for being sincere enough to keep us updated not minding the mocking emoji. It shows you are ready to learn and learn faster for that matter.

Now oops, remember my response that day I said and I quote,
" chai see this fresh mugu! Well the elders are waiting because surely you shall come back".

You should be grateful for Nairaland. Myself and many people on this platform have been badly manipulated and dealt with by these virginarians years before the advent of this great platform. Check out my head, it's bald. It's not age per say but brutality from lot clitorical differential calculus.

We are not saying you should be wicked to girls, but for the wellbeing of your heart always be 10 steps ahead and never let down your guard for just a minute. Peace o!

For many years I lamented why Africa was woolly backwards in education, science, technology, economic growth and development. Later down the line, I discovered that the men who are supposed to be the spearhead are pathetically inepts who lack discretion to make and take the simplest decision like this oops.

Secondly is foolish-forgivenss. No matter how badly you treat a Nigerian man/woman, he will forget in the name of forgiveness in a short period of time. Just ensure to treat them bad enough to your favour if you so wish. The politicians know this secret and annexed it to their advantage.

Take this as a gift if you are single or yet to get married. Any woman that you are emotionally attached to OR You are scared of loosing to another man in marriage IS NOT YOUR WIFE!

i have spent 27(majorly useless) years on this earth, i will be 28years old next week, but i have nothing to show and there is no any sign of hope in the future. WHY?

lately i have been feeling depressed and suicidal WHY?

addicted to betting recently, OOOOOOKAY!

chronic debtor borrowed from several loan apps and wastes it on betting sites. NOT SURPRISED

do i still have hope? can i fix my life and live a normal life style or I'm just finished YES YOU 100% DO.

Let me quickly tell you a story a Demon was looking for a way to make a certain man poor and wretched in life. He had deployed all weapons in his arsenal to achieve same but to no avail but rather the man continues to prosper. So one day the demon decided to see his lord the Satan for counsel on how to achieve his aim. Then Satan gave him a charm with instruction to locate the man and laid curses of poverty on him. The Demon left for the whereabouts of the man. Not long, the Demon found the man in a bet shop. Quickly he called Satan and said "I have found him", and the conversation is as follows:

Satan: where?
Demon: in a bet shop.
Satan: what is he doing?
Demon: he is placing bets.
Satan: is it virtual or normal bet?
Demon: virtual bet.
Satan: Leave him, come back, he is cursed already return back my charm because we will need for someone else!

My brother all your problems are anchored on only one thing GAMBLING, expecially VIRTUAL BET. Shockingly, this is just the beginning. Leave gambling now and have your life back!!!!

This woman must be insane, can you imagine!

Man I don't know what you want from her but one thing I can bet my bald head to is that SHE IS NOT YOUR WIFE in case you are planning to wife her. You are forewarned!

Before I comment let's quickly rush through the Maths.

Let assume she maintained one boyfriend throughout(far more than of course ) and she Lashes on the average of 3 times a week(fairest for ladies of course) for a period of 10 years.

Solution:
Number of Lashes per week = 3
Number of Lashes per year = 3*52= 156
Number of Lashes for 10years =10*156 =1,560 Lashes.

Note:
1. 52 weeks makes a year
2. The only One boyfriend and 1,560 Lashes are the fairest scenario.
3. Take into account Blow Jobs, Deep Drinking and face splashes.

Chai, so after collecting different gboolas for 1,560 times she is now coming back to you!

Nothing these girls no go sell Votes, Conscience and Virgina.

This time around, I support the decision of the Catholic authority to close down Rev Mbaka gathering. What does a Rev father of his calibre needs money for? Is it to care for wife or feed children that he would publicly call a fellow man "Cursed and Stingy"?

According to the book of Deuteronomy 22:13-21;

If your husband marries you and discovered you not to be a Virgin and raised the alarm. The Elders of the town and your father shall be made to investigate the allegation.

If the allegation is false, then your husband shall ;
1. be Punished by the elders of the town.
2. be made to pay monetary fine which will be given to your father.
3. never divorce you as long as he lives on this earth.
REASON:
Because your husband has given a Virgin a bad name!


However if the allegations is confirmed true,
you will be taken to the door of your father's house and men of the town will stone you to death.
REASON:
You have done an outrageous thing by being promiscuous while you were in your father's house and the evil must be purged from the land!

Because many of them are sexually and emotionally damaged before marriage. Draughts of morals induced by quest for materialism.