They do that to broke guys alot [i][/i]

[/b]When a woman doesn't love you she wrecks you.[b]

✍️[/Pure and simple]

Chai! May I never have a very distant neighbour like this Ops o . Infact one thousand lashes of ORAIMO CORD will not be enough to reset your brain (�)

The aim of gossip is to cause division among people. That Gossip woman is the problem. Don't let her achieve her aim by estranging you with other innocent victims, rather isolate her alone. Let your wife see this fact.

SpiritLifeNG:
A friend of mine used to be a slave to masturbation , infact after doing it, he will cry and pray , he would delete everything about porn on his device. He would erase his phone and become sanctified again. Moments later , imaginations from those porn scenes will come rushing through his mind space so strong, the urges will begin to develop again and become so intense suddenly.

To make it worse , if a fine damsel is in sight, he will begin to fantasize her in his chambers. If he is in public he would rush to go home or find a secret place. But i just repented 20 mins ago, what is all this? , he will begin to resist this urge and then it becomes so strong . Finally after battling with this thought in his mind, he begins to find more reasons why he should masturbate and still repent later. He begins to assure himself it's just this once and never again.

Mind you , he has been on this endless cycle for many years, fulfilling his lust and repenting, making endless lists of resolution . He succeeds for weeks, months and he still finds himself in it again , consistently . Hahahaa an unfaithful slave.

He will, he will, he will...... laughing emoji

spyroet:
thanks

Ops don't program your mind for a particular advice. Take the good, the bad and the ugly and analyse them later.

Oga stare clear of people's marriage, go get or manage your own wife!

God be with you brother

6pack:
Dude it's far from mindset. she is my first love and we are actually suppose to get married. I trusted her with everything. Though her reasons for leaving is quite legit but I was not expecting it

Oga please calm down. There is this old spanish proverb that " woman you do not hold will never leave you". A girl that has legit reason to quit on you in relationship will have hundreds of legit reason to divorce you after marriage. Would you either prefare a woman to walk out of your marriage or of your relationship? Is she the right mother for your unborn children? That is what matter most forget all your " I love her", its all sex and emotional induced.

Firstly,your Union lacked Godly foundation(formication>marriage) so you should expect some fallouts like these. Also remember, Satan our enemy will cease every opportunity due from our disobedience to God to act against us.(BACKGROUND PROBLEM)

Secondly, you have perfectly identified the catalyst of the problem that bedeviled your home; FINANCE. Taking solace in drinking, smoking or another relationship amounts to DENIAL. You shall only end up repeating a PATTERN(bad one) and reinvigorating the problem.( IMMEDIATE PROBLEM)

Finally, don't be deceive, starting with Maternal Eve, all women are with these common traits( REBELIOUS, GULLIBLE, DISOBEDIENCE AND DECEPTION). They are all very similar, don't even fall for the new girl facade because its not gonna last. See them as incubator and care giver for you children only and save yourself ageless headaches. Forget about the feminists pathetic scripts of equalism, better half, mate, etc, and other unadulterated phonetics. (ADVICE)

[quote author=MyProblem1 post=116197697]Good day nairaland.

I am in a dilemma, and I will love your opinion about it.

I am a young man in my mid 20's, living alone in Lagos, I won't say I am well to do, but I am doing very okay for an average Nigerian bachelor of my age. Here goes my problem.

I am in a 3 years old relationship with a 22 year old lady, we have known each other for about 4 years and began dating after a year of being friends, she was very decent and respectful at first, we vibed well and we Kickstarted a relationship, we were in a no sex relationship due to her principles and for about a year, we never had sex, she was my friend and we could chat for hours and not get tired, we gave each other access to our phones, she had my finger print on hers and hers on mine, it was a beautiful relationship and I sincerely wanted to settle down with her, but I noticed she was the extremely jealous type.

a year into the relationship, she got admitted to school and that was where our problems started. Prior, she lived not very far away from me on the island, so we saw each other often, but now, she moved to the mainland which is very far away from me, to top the whole matter, I gave her money to rent a room as I didn't want her to stay in the hostel, but to my shock, she brought in her cousin sister to stay with her, it was just a Normal room, so there was no privacy, my initial idea was that I could go over to spend a few days with her instead of her coming over to my place every time, but it failed, I was against the idea of her sister staying but she pleaded and I let it go, now, she is the only one who comes to visit, and it doesn't happen often, maybe once a month or something. I was lonely and bored most times as I work from home and sometimes needed someone to just chat with.

One day, I stumbled across the number of an old female friend and we began chatting, we vibed really well and she asked me if I had a girlfriend which I denied, note that we never met with the lady, we only chat. After some days, my gf came over and as I slept, she took my phone and opened it and read my chat with that lady, I woke up in the night to see her crying, I asked her why and she showed me the chat, I apologized very much and regretted every thing, she said she forgave me and left the next morning, after she got back to her place, she sent a text saying that she is out of the relationship, I was confused, I begged her but she refused, so I let her be.

Before the whole incident, she registered as a nurse at a hospital close to her place. There was this particular patient that was ill, and she and a colleague always go over to his place to inject him, she told me he always gives them little 1-3k each time they go so she always looks forward to it, I warned her about it but she said it was nothing.

Fastforward, after the whole text message and breakup thing, I left her alone and wanted to move on with my life, that was when she came back after over a month and was trying to take me back, and because I loved her, my arms were open. We spoke about a lot of things that happened during our break and one of the things she told me was that she was raped once, and that night, I was feeling very bad and decided to call her, after I did, she picked up and said she was gonna call me back, but according to her, the rapist was attracted to the light on her phone and he came and put a knife behind her while wrapping his arms around her, and that was how she surrendered. I was devastated cos I told her never to keep late nights around school, but she said due to the breakup, she started having some type of friends and started going to night parties and she was on the way to one of the parties when it happened. I was sad for days but I forgave her, after all, it was just once and it wasn't like I was a virgin or she was.

She also told me she almost started a relationship with a man, but promised to break off anything they were about having, we made love that night and it was beautiful, it was like nothing ever happened. That night, a number gave her 16 missed calls, I was surprised as to how someone will call 16 times so I picked up the number from her phone, and installed a tracker on her phone. I am very trxg savy, so after I did, I could see virtually everything on her phone, from all texts, to whatsapp chats, Facebook, telegram, everything, even her phone conversations and live screen.

In the morning, I allowed her go and didn't talk about the number calling. About an hour after she left, I saw a text message she sent to the same number apologizing for not picking up and calling the person baby and all, she sent several messages apologizing, so I let her reach home, then I called her mum and asked her to please be calm with whatever decision I was going to make, I called my gf and asked her who the name on that phone was, she was quiet at first, I asked again and she said he was a friend, and I asked what is her relationship with him, she said it's nothing and wanted to start making trouble out of it, so I just told her I was going to send her the exact text she sent to her baby today and that is the end of us, after I did, I ended the relationship. It was a long day that day, her whole family was calling me, I also called the guy too and asked him if he knew her and he opened up, he said she was his girlfriend and they have been dating for almost 4 months now and all, he said a lot of things about her, both true and lie, I found out they had been traveling round together, she has been driving his car to school, etc, but one thing that never happened was penetrative sex, they had MouthAction tho. I wasn't willing to accept all the family's apology, her mum was basically crying on phone and begging, so I accepted but was careful with her from then.

She later told me that it was the same patient I warned her about, that he was the one she started a relationship with and she did it because i denied having a girlfriend.

After the whole incident, our relationship never remained the same, we had a lot of fights and many times, this lady will actually charge at me, I have never hit her before and I never wanted to, it was beautiful but not as it used to be.

Fastforward almost a year later, I met another lady and didn't want anything more than being just friends, I even wanted to introduce her to my gf, but along the line, we vibed very well and I decided against the idea, I found out we had a lot of things in common with this new lady, she was not the prettiest, but she was very pretty as well, her body was very curvy, she was vulptious and tall, she had the perfect size of everything and was pretty, but not as pretty as my main gf as my main gf was Caucasian, her dad is from Spain. Along the line, we started falling for each other and as it happened, her bf broke up with her just around that time, I was there for her and before we knew it, a relationship started. Due to the development, I had to password protect my phone and was more careful with it. Her bf came back begging and I thought she was going to accept but to my shock, this lady was very honest, she even blocked the guy who they have been together 2 years with. I started a relationship with her while still having my old relationship thinking when she goes back to her bf, I won't be on the loosing side, but I was wrong, she was the most honest being I have ever met. This girl gave me real peace of mind, she knew how to handle situations, she doesn't nag, she was very witty and playful, there was basically no dull moment with her, I fell helplessly for her, I knew I needed to let one go for the other but I didn't know which to pick from.


My main gf is a full time nag, she is also violent, just recently, after she found out I called a lady, she tried forcefully taking my phone but I overpowered her, she somehow took the lady's number and called her, I took the phone from her and ended the call, and she punched me in the face, making me bleed, and hit me again, so I seized her phone and she charged toward me again, I just pushed her on the bed, yet she didn't rest, she charged again, I didn't know when I gave her a dirty slap which instantly calmed her down and made her bleed. I have never hit her before despite the many confrontations, I felt bad and apologized for it. We agreed to give ourselves a break to think about everything, and I want to make it right this time but I just don't know who to go with, my gf is hardworking but a nag and violent, she also demands more, the other lady is peaceful and never nags, she is curvy and mature, she has never asked me for 1 naira, everything I gave her, I did it from my heart, willingly . I love them both, I am just confused. [/and you are confused]

You are a Satanist, damn you!!!!

If you want to live a peaceful marriage all the days of your life, understand the grand aim of picking a wife. Ask yourself, what is my aim of marrying this girl? Is it her beauty?; it shall fail before your eyes. Is it her money?; it shall never matter. MARRY A MOTHER FOR YOUR UNBORN CHILDREN! This is the best gift you shall give your children and generally yourself. Mentally and emotionally viable, reputable family background, educated and presently or potentially capable of making a living on her own.

When she doesn't have have these legendary attributes, she knows and will try to improvise through APPARENT CARING(constant calls and texts, errands and chores, wild sex). The problem is that this fake persona is not sustainable because she will surely wear herself out and show her true colour if you don't rush onto marriage with her. Peace o!

Damaged girls are coming for your head run ooo!

In the Summer of 2008, myself and my colleges took the same stance against our employer who had been owing us months salaries after failed promises. After days of haggling and the table began to shake, I was tipped to the director by the same people i was speaking for as the provocateur and he managed to pay all the staff the backlogs. I was later given letter of termination of appointment though. Two years later I got a FG job with better renumeration and working conditions. However, i learnt a lesson that remained with me till date;
(1). In a private organization, the decision of the owner is Supreme.
(2). Never join colleagues to kick against the management (personalise your solution to the problem by either fixing or running).
(3) Your colleagues at work are not your friends but colleagues, never trust them.

Pure and simple truth

Your problem is virtual betting in particular and gambling in general. Stop being greedy of making fast money and trying to recover your loss, then surrender to God through Jesus Christ. Trust me, you will be fine!

Oga please don't shake this table. Your head is on the line !

Guy you funny o. At this sorry age of Internet and phones, you still expect a Nigerian lady to be faithful to only you, a tenage girl for that mater？Well i which you a journey mercy but in the mean time book an appointment with a doctor for regular BP check.

i percieve symtoms of a gambler. incase you do, stop ASAP ！

Abuse of Nairaland platform

The way so many guys overate pussycats is out of this world! Can you imagine 110k on an overused cunt! If is fellow guy needs an assistance of 2k from him,he would not oblige.

Guys take it, ladies need and have more sex than you because of tasteless simp guys,that make the ladies options seemingly endless. That's why you would see a pregnant mad woman on the street.

You can never sex all the girls you desire in this life. Respect yourself.

I perceive you are dealing with a Convert Narcissist. The stage you are right now is called Love Bombing(endless love confession, calls, romantic texts, constant visitation and later good sex ). After she secures your commitment through relationship or marriage, your shall graduate to Devaluing stage (nagging, reporting you to third parties, mental and emotional abuse). The last and final stage is Discarding(she shall abscond, ghosts and leave you for the next victim); this is when she gets bored with you and finds a better guy. Be wise o!

Read my lips: May I die a year and a day before the day I will start thinking of marriage/marrying. Amen![/quote]





You shouldn't lay curse on yourself at least because humans change with time.

You met her in an Hotel
You Married her in two months
She had kids and hid it from you before the "marriage "
She has left your house
She left with your kids.

Solution
Your marriage thing was your mistake. You are responsible for your own peace of mind. How can you meet a woman in such environment and rush into marriage with her! Well this not time keep lamenting, but solution.

She is not your wife, spiritually, legally and morally because she was already in a marriage with kids before you stole her. So let her go and never take her back.

Never explain yourself anyone especially non immediate family members. Be it friends, neighbours, clerics, colleagues at work, etc. They have nothing to offer you than sympathy, blames, secret mockery and sabotage.

Ghost Her for now. Never initial conversation with her.

Send her feeding money for the children far below what you can afford. E get Y o.

Report her to FIDA and National Human RIGHT Commission. Their office is across the country. It will make be percieved as the aggressor and they will force her to grant full access to your children.

A game of Power is being played against you, read 48 Laws of Power. War has been declared against you, read 33 Strategies of War. Safe!

Broke jam Broker

She shall eventually leave you for a guy who is firm and firm on her.