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U are just confused or stirring confusion.

Just change Ur status to Single and ready to mingle and give him just enough space to awaken him to the reality that another guy can still take u away from him.

Talk is cheap. Ur bf is obviously not ready to be identified with U on so intimate a level that he would show it on FB. That's not cool. After 6 years o. Hiss

I think that depends on how she relates with them more than how many they are. Of course numbers over 5, even if they are more of acquaintances than pals, is too much for me.

it really depends on more than numbers sha. What kind of person is she? How often does she interact with them and for how long when they do? how deep their friendship is, e.t.c

Whoever came up with that saying was neither a virgin when he/she said it nor a disciplined person, not to mention morally sound.

donut3:
1. Mean
2. Jerks
3. Controlling
4. Show offs
5. Pushy
6. Rude
7. Tempermental
8. Womanizers
9. Liars
10. Life ruiners

These are the things that you should be careful about with certain men, one of them might have this problem, so be cautious about whoever you want to date because their personalities, characteristics, and heart matters, not just their looks and body, seriously girls!

All of us? Ok o!

Being nice doest cut it with girls, trust me. Nice is the word they use to describe a guy they aren't interested in so if ur being nice then Ur going about it all wrong.

Fidelity s not a duty to another. It's a duty to God and self. When U look at it as if Ur doing another mortal a favour being sexually disciplined U most likely would feel unappreciated when they don't even notice. If Ur not sleeping around to impress her, U probably won't.

Why? Girls have a mainframe server on Venus where they consult to decide on things. the more girls want u the more Ur girl feels like Ur worth something cos the server data bank on Venus is overloaded with info sent from "micro-computers" on earth that say Ur HOT. Girls also have this stupid way of thinking that a man that sleeps around would know a lot more about how to satisfy them. They actually prefer U to go and learn how to from other girls U've rammed thru before coming to them. Funny thing about this is most times when ur ramming thru u really don't give a hoot. All U want is to stick it and drain ur pipes so Ur too busy doing that U dont pay attention once Ur in and jamming. besides who ever told them that an "experienced" man would be impressed or satisfied with what they have to offer when he has so many to compare them with and will hardly ever forget any of those from the past. The past is very easily idealised.


U always call her? It takes two to tango. If U dont call her does she call U? What do u talk about when U call? Hope ur not going Titanic on her giving flows a secondary school boy wont even use anymore? U and Ur gal don't stay in the same place? See this guy o! Who dey do distance relationship these days. girls work with face value. they can hardly ever see beyond the person standing in front of them even if he's no good.

Everybody on talk am. Free urself go find another babe. If U are worth anything she'l come looking for U. Don't be deceived by any weak attempts she makes o. U have to wait till she proves she wants u that bad. Cos I know say if she just flash U now sef U go buy 1500 recharge call her with everything dey apologize for her. be a man. Ur the prize not the competitor.

It's not just a Nairaland thang. . .
Nigerian men [ 90% ] would label the Lady loose and make her a subject of discussion.
[ 7% ] wouldn't fail to constantly remind You, that You made the move. Grin
[ 3% ] might handle it in a Civil manner but then, what's 3% compared to 97%?

Having said that, I think I prefer the African way of doing this kinda thang.
Let the men make the move. Cool


@MissyB where did U get this data from? Did U carry out a poll? How many respondents did U have? Where do they reside and work? What age group where the men U interviewed. What tribe where they? Of what social status group did u work with?

Ur right sha. My only beef is the figures.

U don go show to much love shey?

Observe and learn: When a girl loves Wants a guy, she would stick with him and fight even the devil for him. When a girl that says she loves U is giving excuses why U shouldnt be together, head for the hills, Alone. if she follows U doggedly, U myt have one for keeps.

Bed wey u derss na U go sleep on top am.

I could be either of the guys with different girls so this is not my call.

What kind of question is this? What do U mean who enjoys kissing more? Are enjoyment of pleasures now gender biased?

U been dey feel like Joseph shey? he myt be right bout your subconscious but he's acting very immaturely punishing U for crimes u've nt even had a chance to commit. U love him, u may need to reassure him U'l be true to him.

have U been unfaithful to him before? Does he have trust issues with people or just with U? Are there things u say or do that suggests u are the kind to cheat on your partner? Is he himself a cheat? Can U trust him? Are U sexually active together? cos if U are U should understand that men know say the thing no get meter.

reassurance is needed.

Hello Nairaland(some courtesy),

I am in a BIG trouble (poor respectful,humble and seemingly homely girl that cares to keep her home intact)
Few days ago my boyfriend of 4 months called me in the morning to say hello. he asked how i slept.(meaning we were just getting really strong after we started?)
I told him I had a dream about a stranger, who gazed at me. I was running down the stairs and the stranger continued to looking at me.
My b/f asked if I was attracted, and if something else happened between us in the dream (!)(I assume u wld complete this statement thus---and I answered yes that we had great intimacy or intimacy of some sort)
I thought he was joking, but unfortunately he was serious about my dream. he said that my subconscious was cheating.(He was a bit immature here and wanted you to calm him down or make him believe it was only a dream and that dreams can just be dreams with no relationship with real life-some dreams can be a revelation anyway)
I was shocked!!!! (You were supposed to know him better n how he reasons.You shoildnt be surprised cos an immature dude would display some immaturity within 4months of serious fun)
My day begins with thoughts about my BF and the day ends with thinking about him!!(yet you find it easy to take the dumb funny advice Nlders who don’t feel your pain or don’t even know a thing about your bf(or ex), are giving.Many of them wouldn’t do what they advised you to do especially the fat mamas cos their sorry a.s.ses would b left single. sorry, but it’s the truth)
how could he think that my subconscious is thinking about someone else?(Your bf wasn’t sure what to feel. not like he believed it.)

I need your advice
what should i do ?(You should have kept to yourself for a while and watched him rather than acting ‘mature’ by breaking up as many of the a.s.ses here would say)

He is not calling. not answering my messages (he is enjoying it, he might still love you as he has always loved u)


U been dey feel like Joseph shey? he myt be right bout Ur subconscious but he's acting very immaturely punishing U for crimes u've nt even had a chance to commit. U love him, u may need to reassure him U'l be true to him.

have U been unfaithful to him before? Does he have trust issues with people or just with U? Are there things u say or do that suggests u are the kind to cheat on Ur partner? Is he himself a cheat? Can U trust him? Are U sexually active together? cos if U are U should understand that men know say the thing no get meter.

reassurance is needed.

if he's not making any attempts at being "the man" and U feel strongly that he is using U, he probably is. Some guys decided to go with the flow women want. U want to "wear pants" so they let U wear them, Not very good for the female folk is it?

Suggested solution:

If u must give a woman what she wants, spread the giving of it over a period. Bit by bit by bit making sure she only gets it all when she's mature enuf to handle it or old enuf to not find appeal in the thot of "romantic misadventures;" Or preferably when Ur dead. Hehehehehe

skeed19:
"After researching women's sexuality for more than ten years, I can honestly say that most of our societal beliefs about females are grossly distorted and many are completely erroneous." 

           

                         -Michelle Langley, author of Women's Infidelity

[center]Women's relationships today follow
a very predictable pattern:
They push men for commitment

They get what they want

They lose interest in intimacy

They become attracted to someone else

They start cheating

They become angry and resentful

They begin telling their partners that they need time apart

They blame their partners for their behavior, and eventually, after making themselves and everyone around them miserable for an indefinite, but usually, long period of time, they end their relationships or marriages.           

[/center]

This is such an accurate summary!!! I've been a victim of the trend and I've seen so many men suffer the same confusion coming from the girl/woman they love. Little wonder why so many middle-age/old women rarely smile from the heart.

One day jungle go mature for that woman. Myt not even be the man that'l react to her stupidity, contempt and arrogance.

Personally I don't take trash. If I'm being a good husband and father and my woman won't respect me there's no need to interact with her. I'll totally withdraw from her and ignore her. We'll become no more than a technical couple.

Yep. We cried together a couple of times when we felt helpless knowing her mum didnt approve of us and we couldn't say why. We were young and in love. After we did we just held each other really close and exchanged reassuring words that we'd stick together no matter what. "No matter what" won in the battle against our love and commitment.