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Romance › Re: Things Were Going Fine Until: by Onchedu(m): 4:07pm On May 19, 2010

Things were going fine until she told me her ultimate fantasy was to be raped by 4 guys at the same time.

Romance › Re: Things Were Going Fine Until: by Onchedu(m): 4:05pm On May 19, 2010

Things were fine until I made a joke about going thru her phone and she immediately snatched it out of my hand and put a a password on the keypad lock.

Romance › Re: What Do I Do Now I Am About Taking A Break? by Onchedu(m): 4:00pm On May 19, 2010

Ujujoan:
You see that's your problem. You are trying to 'rationalize' these things . . . you can't!

Don't you think the 'ultimate plan' to save us, which he doggedly saw through, was borne out of an emotion and not out of 'practicality'? Why on earth would he want to save us mere mortals with his own son's life? Do you think we deserved it one bit? We got ourself into trouble in the first place because we disobeyed him and ate the forbidden fruit, but he still chose to give up his son to die for us! Wht part of that is using his head?

I could argue endlessly with you over this and beleive me I can, but it doesn't prove anything!

We are arguing? I thot we just were rubbing minds. Didnt know we were.

Anyway, if I decided to take U up on going on endlessly on religion I'd statr quoting out of scriptures and we'd derail from the topic and annoy the other people in the room.

Do U want us to do that? Cos I have time to burn and truth to reveal.

Romance › Re: Things Were Going Fine Until: by Onchedu(m): 3:54pm On May 19, 2010

Until she started told me how many guy friends she had and how their display of intimacy with her was no big deal. angry

Romance › Re: Things Were Going Fine Until: by Onchedu(m): 3:52pm On May 19, 2010

Until she told me her idea of me being romantic is washing her dirty panties.

Romance › Re: Things Were Going Fine Until: by Onchedu(m): 3:51pm On May 19, 2010

until she started flirting with my inner circle of friends. undecided

Romance › Re: Things Were Going Fine Until: by Onchedu(m): 3:50pm On May 19, 2010

Until she told me just a she couldnt imagine putting her mouth on a Joystick just a day before I ran into an old girl friend that told me her ultimate fantasy was to have me in around her so she could go down on me often.

grin

Romance › Re: Things Were Going Fine Until: by Onchedu(m): 3:47pm On May 19, 2010

until she threathened to kill herself if I ever left her and I realized I was with an emotionally unstable person.

Romance › Re: What Do I Do Now I Am About Taking A Break? by Onchedu(m): 3:39pm On May 19, 2010

Ujujoan:
Ok, I'm sorry about that! I didnt mean to call u names

Apology accepted. wink

Romance › Re: What Do I Do Now I Am About Taking A Break? by Onchedu(m): 3:35pm On May 19, 2010

Ujujoan:
Dont you know that love is an emotion? If he was using his head in the first place, he would NEVER have loved us!

Love is an emotion? Hmmm, Ok! If U say so, and I guess the word of God has errors cos I don't see why the all knowing God, perfect in wisdom, Supreme in power and authority, creator of all things that were, are and are to come watch his sinless son suffer at the hands of those he loves and not feel any negative emotions that would have made him strike all of them dead and rescue that sinless son.

Looks to me like there had to be a lot of emotional control there for Him to have endured the just being treated wrongly. Looks to me that there had to have been a purpose and a plan. D hearts have plans or are do they just act on impulses especially in love?

Love is an emotion, is it?

Ok! Love is an emotion.

Romance › Re: What Do I Do Now I Am About Taking A Break? by Onchedu(m): 3:26pm On May 19, 2010

Ujujoan:
I'm a bit curious, are you a guy? If yes then it seems you are of those chuavinists who thinks sleeping with a girl will in some absurd way diminish her worth!

U can call me whatever names U can come up with. I'm trying to help a girl have some peace here and u think the appropriate word to use in describing me is chauvinist?

I did not imply in any way that sleeping with a girl diminishes her worth in any way. I'm just pointing out that men and women view sex differently and unless U can find the right use of sex as a girl U'r exposing Urself to a number of possible ills.

Romance › Re: What Do I Do Now I Am About Taking A Break? by Onchedu(m): 3:15pm On May 19, 2010

Ujujoan:
You are talking about love in the bible? How about the walk of calvary and the ultimate sacrifice/redemption. We rejected him, mocked him, punished him . . . . still he died for us, out of love!

He could have walked away when we said we didn't want him anymore, but he stayed even though he knew we will kill him, because he wanted redemption for us. Now THAT is love!

True but if Christ was expressing his love for us using his heart or feelings without his head, I doubt things would have gone the way they did.

Christ suffered for us not so we would pity him and turn to him, but because it was necessary that someone did so for the remission of our sins and deliverance from darkness. There was a master plan and He chose to follow it to the letter. He could as well have committed suicide or chosen to live till today to win us to the Father one by one by one if there was no definite plan.

Romance › Re: My Married Ex-Girlfriend Wants Me To Sleep With Her by Onchedu(m): 3:11pm On May 19, 2010

Devil dey beat ganga for road dey invite U make u come dance.

Romance › Re: What Do I Do Now I Am About Taking A Break? by Onchedu(m): 3:08pm On May 19, 2010

Ujujoan:
I'm not going to stay here and explain to your what love is all about!

I just dont like that you guys are talking so much about s3x. Granted sleeping with him wont make him love her more, but then it won't make him lover her less either!

I'll take it Ur not sure what it is then.

Let me tell U something about guys and sex and see it as sort of the final prize. Give a guy sex without him loving U and the next second it becomes hard for him to find U as desirable as U were before that first time.
U myt be right about sex not making a guy love a girl any less but put the two together and the it making him love her any less is more of a likely hood than it making him love her any more.

Do U wonder why the excitement dies out a lot faster and the squabbles increase and periods between fights reduces after sex in intimate relationships?

Have U ever wondered why a man can have sex with one woman and not be able to get an erection again for a relatively long period but if another girl walked into the room who he hasnt touched and he finds appealing, he'll immediately be cured of his exhaustion?

Do U ever wonder why the mugu's love the girls they who's pants they never saw even after they have married some other dude and have kids and grandkids?

Sex was designed with a purpose. God commands us to regard his instructions concerning the use and/or enjoyment of sex so that we can be happy.

Having sex with any man will not make him love U any more or less but the odds are more to him not loving U any more than he says he does.

Romance › Re: What Do I Do Now I Am About Taking A Break? by Onchedu(m): 2:56pm On May 19, 2010

Lacrissa:
You don't know my age neither am I a kid. What is there using my head or being 6 years older. I only asked a simple question and opinions so I don't make any mistake this moment. He sent me a text, is it wise to reply or not and also use that opportunity to ask him how long he wants the break. Is that difficult?

Ok ma.

I'll take my leave now since U seem to be under the notion that I owe it to U to help U with Ur problems as a matter of duty. Well it's that or that u won't listen to me no matter what I suggest seeing U really haven't heard me or anything I've suggested since.

Romance › Re: What Do I Do Now I Am About Taking A Break? by Onchedu(m): 2:52pm On May 19, 2010

Ujujoan:
I'm just saying you should leave her to do what her heart tells her to do because what her head tells her will not help her either! And yes because if it wasn't meant to work, even the best advise from the 'head' won't help her!

I'm not suggesting you gamble, I just dont buy the idea of keeping yourself in an invisible chain just because you want to do the right thing!

Why does s3x on the first date spoil one r/ship and have absolutely no effect on another? Because no matter how right you do things, it doesn't make it work any better of it wanst meant to!

U seem to be getting me wrong. I'm not asking the girl to force it with him. I offered her advice that will ensure that the hurt that could come her way if things go wrong will be more manageable than the one she would garner to herself if she went the way of the heart now.

Relationships don't always have to work and the only relationships that can be said to have worked out well are those that had more ups than downs all through the period both parties were alive and kicking. Unless one or both are dead there's still possibilities (no matter how small they have worked to make it) that things can still g horribly wrong. So as for those couples U sited as an example that have sex on the first date or do things wrong and look like they got paid with an irrational bias by life, wait till U see the end.

Romance › Re: What Do I Do Now I Am About Taking A Break? by Onchedu(m): 2:42pm On May 19, 2010

Ujujoan:
You are wrong! Infact is she hasn't slept with him already, I bet she's blaming all this troubles on it and looking for a way to do that as we speak right now!

She's not doing the things she's doing because she expects him not to leave her, but because she loved him! You do beleive in love don't you?

Question to U Ujujoan: What is love? I'm not being sacarstic. I'm really asking U what love is.

Lacrissa abi wetin be that Ur yankee sounding name sef, sleeping with a man will not make him love U so if U haven't now is not the time to. If U forget everything I've said, don't forget that.

Romance › Re: What Do I Do Now I Am About Taking A Break? by Onchedu(m): 2:36pm On May 19, 2010

Ujujoan:
Guess what? If it was meant to be in the first place, then it won't matter what she does right now! It won't matter if she reasons like she's 10 years older! It wont matter that she cried to get him back!

I learnt early in life that what will be will be. Most times what we think 'helped' didn't at all! It just worked because it was meant to. So why can't she go ahead and do what she really feels like doing? At least she'll make herself happy!

What the heck do U mean by "meant to be in the first place" and "what will be will be?"

Are U suggesting we gamble our lives on hope or faith without works even when we can decide what the outcome of things are and have what it takes to influence outcomes?

The last line sounds like u are suggesting we should just accept anything that comes our way; that way, if they end up being good then we're in luck and if they end up being bad we can console ourselves that it was a good thing we didnt act when we could cos there's no telling how things could have ended up.

Am I hearing U well or do I have U completely misunderstood? If I do, pls be kind enough to enlighten me some more.

Romance › Re: What Do I Do Now I Am About Taking A Break? by Onchedu(m): 2:30pm On May 19, 2010

28Schweet:
pls explain, so that i can blend in when i come see my inlaws,

Well for one thing U think a getting a b.o.o.b job is a cool idea. Even the naija men that like big breasts like them natural. That whole plastics under the skin just makes the women come off as artificial too us and I don't know a single naija man that grew up in Naija that thinks an artificial woman rocks.

Second, U say things as they are. Naija babes like speaking "parables." Well not parables as in parables. I'm not sure how to explain it but U sha don't sound like a naija babe.

Romance › Re: Can You Marry Your Spouse If Both Of You Are "as" by Onchedu(m): 2:27pm On May 19, 2010

Babe, Abeg for the sake of the unborn children and the trauma they will go thru if any of them ends up being born SS, don't even think about it.

Lets not even go to the strain on Ur pockets on medical bills or the strain on Ur marriage cos one of U will have to spend sleepless nyts in the hospital nursing the sick child and blaming each other for being unwise and all that.

If U have faith, U can get either or both Ur genotypes changed tho. Well either faith or lots of money to have the procedure done abroad.

Romance › Re: What Do I Do Now I Am About Taking A Break? by Onchedu(m): 2:23pm On May 19, 2010

Dreamy dreamy, things just always go smoothly and ur feelings are complimented by reality all the time. The more U say I love U the more the loved one emphatises with U, Bull.s*it!!!

Babe no let pant wear U o. Love Ur neighbour as Urself.

Romance › Re: What Do I Do Now I Am About Taking A Break? by Onchedu(m): 2:20pm On May 19, 2010

Ujujoan:
I think she needs to do what she wants to do. What her heart tells her to do. Or else if the r/ship crumbles she'll always wonder if she could have done more . .

The heart is not the instrument to use in times of chaos. It only functions effectively in fair weathers. The girl needs to use her head now. The reason why more people loose out on love is cos they use their hearts when they should have been using thier heads. the whole situation is emotionally charged as it is and Ur advising the child to use her heart?

Ok o. Babe, use Ur heart U hear. When U have a thread that says, "Men are heartless," drop me a message so I can come and make my contributions.

Romance › Re: What Do I Do Now I Am About Taking A Break? by Onchedu(m): 2:16pm On May 19, 2010

Ask Urself what a girl 6years older than U would more like do about the sms he sent U. If U are as young as I think U are, chances are, in that age group she won't be desperate for marriage or come off to him as such and she won't be clingy either.

Do the maths and make up Ur "her" mind on what to do.

Won't be surprised if U sent him a reply already.

Romance › Re: What Do I Do Now I Am About Taking A Break? by Onchedu(m): 2:11pm On May 19, 2010

Wait first chic. Which kain phone U dey use wey e be say U dey post like this dey move around and which network U dey on for which part of the world?

Do what U want jor. If Ur heart gets broken eventually, U won't be the first to have the experience. If U hit it off with him and Ur relationship survives and blossoms, U'd have done urself well.

Romance › Re: What Do I Do Now I Am About Taking A Break? by Onchedu(m): 2:08pm On May 19, 2010

Lacrissa:
I'm at his place right now, maybe I should wait for him to return though I wanted to leave early so I could see him in person, ask him, then I could leave and somewhat move on.

Oh that's wonderful. Oya start writing him love poems about the good times and if U can burn a cd of his favorite songs and buy him a gift before he gets back. Hope U made him his favorite meal and have prepared his bath water?

Nonsense! Shey English language dey hard u well well for afternoon ehn? As e be say U wan cry oya wait make wetin U dey find jam U.
I don vex!

Romance › Re: What Do I Do Now I Am About Taking A Break? by Onchedu(m): 2:04pm On May 19, 2010

28Schweet:
i'm no naija-o, so you just confused the pigeon outta me,
Ur most def not a naija babe. Ur mind gave u out.

Romance › Re: Things Were Going Fine Until: by Onchedu(m): 2:00pm On May 19, 2010

until she started sleeping around.

until she started being contemptible.

Until she insulted his mum.

Until she ,

Romance › Re: Things Were Going Fine Until: by Onchedu(m): 1:58pm On May 19, 2010

Until she said she needed a break that she couldn't give the values to the variables involved.

Romance › Re: What Do I Do Now I Am About Taking A Break? by Onchedu(m): 1:55pm On May 19, 2010

Ujujoan:
Will you just Shut up? Please? Thank you!

, And U are?

Romance › Re: What Do I Do Now I Am About Taking A Break? by Onchedu(m): 1:47pm On May 19, 2010

28Schweet:
so had you done the 'bedroom acrobatics' with him? for you to find it so hard to let go, it's only been three months , how inlove could you have been in that time,

Ur talking as if most girls nowadays hold it for even a week. I no know wetin una dey find sef wey to hold body dey hard una. Una and una mumsies dey relate girl to girl at all?

Romance › Re: What Do I Do Now I Am About Taking A Break? by Onchedu(m): 1:44pm On May 19, 2010

Lacrissa:
Ochendu I appreciate your words. I'm so hurt right now but not crying. I was thinking of sending him a text now he's at work to ask him how long. I don't know what to feel right now. Maybe if I have an idea on how long, it would be easier on me or follow what you said, asking how long when I see him again in person.

U'l soon make me angry cos it seems Ur bent on getting urself a harder heartbreak than U seem to be on course to. DON'T SEND HIM ANYTHING! WAIT TILL U SEE HIM!!!

Fashion › Re: Plastic Surgery? Can You Do It? by Onchedu(m): 1:41pm On May 19, 2010

28Schweet:
yes, but please let it take it's course when i'm in my sixties, i'm much too hot to have bosoms that are not worthy of me,

it's not a waste of money, when the returns are a hundred fold, ever been hit by a bosom while sleeping with someone?

Are U a Naija babe at all? U sure don't sound like one to me.

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