₦airaland Forum

fellis:
How bad can things possibly get under this old man's regime?

I'm no Buhari fan but please don't play politics with this: under GEJ's time, Measles vaccine ran out.

The more you play sides, remember that at the end of the day, all politicians, APC and PDP, will fly their kids out and even their grandkids out to get this vaccines. And they will drive past your unvaccinated babies to do so, completely at peace. Because they know they have blinded you too well to fight them.

idupaul:
Its up to the WHO to deregulate the production of vaccines to reduce the cost ..vaccines are not supposed to be sold so where does lifeline get it from to sell for 100 of thousands..now thats corruption

They buy it from the Nigerian govt. Some people don't trust the handling of vaccines by some of our very careless Nigerian-mentality medical staff (for example during the Ebola crisis, as they were shutting down that hospital in Lagos Island, some of the nursing staff at GH Lagos Island were more concerned by the Ileya rice shared annually by LASG. And they were in close proximity to the hospital which treated the patient). Vaccines have to be stored cold until the time of delivery and if one knows that even in LUTH they have electricity issues, one may be too scared to trust govt hospitals. So private buys and handles fewer patients and charges exorbitantly. And each state has different policies for which vaccine to give: LASG does not give Rotavirus but some states in the East do.

@tensazangetsu, You can't tell people not to have children because they are morally corrupt and chose bad leaders in govt. Rather than punish the child (a fresg chance for Nigeria to get it right), punish the adult who is set in his/her ways. But yeah, we probably need population control by way of limiting number of children being delivered (like China's former child policy).

Elephant Ear

Isn't this a very attractive plant? I know some of you are about to say "but that's a..." but HUSH! We save the surprise for later

Colocasia or Elephant ear is a showy native of Asia (it has been grown there for thousands of years). It is a shrub. Its leaves look pretty good in a centerpiece for weddings and decorations. You can buy some of the variegated leaf type from your gardener but if you want to learn how to grow it, I suggest asking your mama or your grandma's to teach you.

Because it's an edible root plant. We call our local version "Cocoyam"

Keep the leaves away from children as it's poisonous btw (the specie we eat isn't). And yes, it grows in containers. Now go get yourself some cocoyams, I mean Elephant Ear plants

idupaul:
Let every parent go and source for vaccine for their brood ..but I thought childhood killer disease vaccination was free so how come prof is looking for 210 billion naira

At Lifeline hospital, vaccines for the first 2 months of life go for N51,000, next set is N30,000. Rotavirus (a single injection) is N9,000 upwards. Measles and another one is N10,000.

And all those prices are for vaccines below the age of 1.

No-one in govt has ever taken Healthcare serious in this country and the average medical person has been hardened enough to chase only profits like the rest of the average Nigerian does. So when we should invested billions into Healthcare and Education, we looked the other way whilst govt officials looted us.

People queue up for hours for free vaccines at the local government clinic because they cannot afford it. The minute you stop it being free, serious population control by way of death in children will occur.

Is that what you want?

Parents already pay for most and cannot afford to pay for Rotavirus and Pneumoccocal. Private hospital vaccine bill easily hits N51,000 for a session. And to leave your child to attend school with an unvaccinated child is a gun waiting up to off. Even the U.S. has passed laws insisting in vaccination before schooling. And Nigeria could have been able to afford this trust fund to save money for decades of not for greed from government to Ministers of Health and Commisioners to Chief Medical Directors to even Nurses.

Why are people still stupidly fighting for this or that politician?

diportivo:
Millet.....pap....soya...

I wld like to be enlightened on how these things are prepared

Btw,do u mothers feed ur babies fruits at all?

Yep, fruits are great and nutritious. Just stay away from acidic ones for the 1st year of baby's life. We do fruits.

Pap is a miss for us. She had refused and cried through all versions of it I've tried so far (corn, guinea corn soya crayfish formula etc).

babythug:
These planter ideas look so fabulous!!!

If i may make a suggestion: when buying paint for the planters, ask for outdoor paint because they will be exposed to the elements. I've used acrylic paint successfully on a planter but I won't recommend it for longterm use. For indoor planters, acrylic or spray paint will work nicely. You don't need a while bucket of paint, ask for sample size for sellers and if they are painting a house in your area, you can ask the owners or the workmen if they can paint for you (it won't take a lot of paint). And there are a lot of discarded tyres everywhere so that's a cheap option.

Just don't grow anything edible in these sort of planters

Block or tyre planter

You don't have to buy can planters if you can't afford it. You can use old tyres and blocks to hold ornamental plants. Simply put a small-holed mesh (like the type used for windows) under the tyre or block, add gravel and soil. You can paint them any colour you want. Best of all, you can use them on your b alconey or in a corner of your compund by combining them with a plain polished wooden plank and turn the place into somewhere you can sit down comfortably. I've seen something like this done at the children's museum in Lekki.

purplekayc:
did u know her?

Your baby is on point!

Sade from UNILAG days. Her hustle has paid and she smartly keeps a low profile and Okoya is not a community phenese like M.D. and Caro

MsJackson:
For those of you Who still insisted that I knowingly went into this marriage with the sisters attitude, well I can't try to convince you further. if u aren't married, then you'll know that circumstances could change people. in my case, the issue of childbirth changed them(I think ), because they were so welcoming. we even ate from the same bowl(literally and otherwise ) we were that close. God dey.

Almost everyone who told you that you brought this upon your head is married. So yeah, we know what sucking up to relatives looks like. Or do you eat from the same plate as your mother and siblings? You think your tale is new? You saw a lastborn son, surrounded by sisters and played a role you couldn't sustain. Evidence of this is in what you say. If you had been friendly but maintained your boundaries before marriage, wouldn't your husband have known that you don't like interference from his family? Now you're coming here to throw yourself a pity party.
You sound exactly like some girl I know, who was sucking up to the husband's family in order to secure her ring. When she couldn't maintain it, she started acting up and most ignored her but her foolishness made her start fighting his mum (of course everyone turned against her). She packed out of the house her MiL pays the bills for, claiming the same things you are, painting a terrible picture and informing anyone who cared to listen of greviances that never happened (not one sibling insulted her to get face or even shouted at her, they told her to please respect the fact that they are all older than her and stop insulting their mum on fb).

Hmm, are you her?

Go and speak to your husband that you two should keep your lives private and be polite to your SiLs. Shikena.

And for all you singletons out there, biko stop pretending. You're just setting yourself up for future wahala. Show them your madness so there are no surprises. My MiL likes to yab me that I'm doing certain things for eye-service and she's usually right. But at least I didn't pretend before marriage

MsJackson:
my mum and sisters are blaming me seriously for being too slack. seriously I didn't notice this attitude in them before marriage. they acted soooo nice to me, then.

No, no, no. You kissed their ar.ses and planted your lips so far up their butts that you didn't open your eyes to take a good look at them. First be honest with yourself then you can solve the problem.

You've gotten good advice from here. It's upto to decide what you want and how much you can take. Your problem is that your husband isn't drawing boundaries. You need to let him know (without attacking anyone) that things need to change. And take a break by going to see your parents.

cococandy:
http://www.seattlecenter.com/festal/detail.aspx?id=4

http://seattle.about.com/od/seattle-attractions/tp/Where-to-View-Cherry-Blossoms-in-Seattle.htm

Yup, Hanami. It's lovely how Japanese culture is kepy alive and exported (Nigerian culture, nah, we not somehow link it to fetish or abuse the ideas behind it). I hate the fact that we are quick to cut down trees lining out streets and then complain of being under the hot sun. What was the tree's job, wasn't it to give you shade??

I'm pretty sure that Nigeria has surpassed South Africa in terms of rape and child abuse cases. Just that we will never admit it.

Elias Oyeke will go scot-free. Absolutely nothing will happen to him because we live in a perverted society. Infact, he and his pastor will soon go and beg the victim's parents to "let bygones be bygones" and say he had some deliverance from the spirit affecting him. Some people on NL and off NL will then start a thread about how Mothers over-sexualise their children and cause rape and child abuse, others will ascribe it to Spirituality and Rituals, ignoring the fact that this leaves the door open to do many other abusers to take advantage (but have you heard of ONE SINGLE ABUSER CAUGHT who said he did it for rituals? NOPE!). And another Elias Oyeke-in-the-making will read it and go and commit his own crime against another 5 year old child because, because he knows out society will do absolutely nothing about it.

Not so?

touchmeder:
I decided a hand trowel would be good but I got too excited (when this thread first started) and bought a bricklayers instead!

I spotted a dumb cane growing wildly the other day and decided to help myself. I'll be starting with her (yes its a her and I've christened her Lucy)

So armed with my bricklayers trowel, I went 'a digging' for black soil from yonder place and the hubby just shake head for me. LOL I added a bit of waste from the bin but I hear dumb cane is quite versatile so hoping she does not wither away.

I intend to fill that spot (around Lucy) with more colourful flowers in the coming weeks. Wish Lucy well for me. Hopefully she'll have fun at my place.


Any advise?

How far, how is Lucy doing? A medium size plastic planet is about N600 and get a can of spray paint for N350 and match it to your decor and put Lucy in it.

cococandy:
The Grow everywhere here too.
The streets are lined with it in some areas.
Makes for very nice view.

there's actually a 'cherry blossom and Japanese cultural festival' coming up soon in the city center.
Starting April 22nd. I saw the ad for it.

I Was wondering what cherry blossom has to do won't Japanese culture. Now I know.

Cherry Blossoms are important in Japanese culture, in the past centuries, they had viewing parties for them. The reason they're plenty in England (seriously it is a nuisance over there as they litter everywhere) is that they were a gift to Queen Victoria from the Emperor of Japan. Now, a keg of fuel from the Prime Minister of U.K. to the President of Nigeria would be a handsome gift

Split Leaf Philodendron

I really love these because they're so oddly shaped and have a nice botanical name Monstera Deliciousa

They make a good indoor plant, give them bright indirect light or if outdoors, plenty of shade or they will cook in the sun. They need a big container as they grow and may need to be reported every 2 years. Water once a week. If you wanna buy them, ask at Anthony or on the island I've seen them sold there.

Cherry Blossom Tree

Now, I have only known this to grow everywhere around England (sometimes it's a bit much) but Sakura (their Japanese name) is native to Japan (it heralds The coming of Spring and they had a festival for it). Cherry Blossoms shed their flowers constantly so they can be quite messy but oh-so-pretty.

But here's what's nice: there's one growing in Nigeria, in front of Moremi Hall, UNILAG. I'm quite sure. Does anyone have pics?

cococandy:
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I think the third one is a kind of hibiscus.
And the second one I don't know the name but it's pretty too.

2nd one is most likely a Lily.

hotmum:
Thanks Onegai, Tchiwinnie and Mumz. She said the girl on her own started taking the artificials off. Does she still need to caution her or wait till another time?

Wait. If it happens again and shes working, tell her it's not safe to keep long nails around a baby.

Fanirandele:
This is why such men keep abandoning there responsibilities towards their children since they know how sentimental Africans are

Forgive him sure but if you ever give him all the same things you give a real parent who took care of their children all through then what has he learnt?

All I'm learning from this thread is fathers feel free to abandon your kids. You will still reap at the end abi

This is why men will keep abandoning their kids

The next generation of men who will be irresponsible to their children and expect the same kids to show up with love after the hardwork are reading this thread happily. They too cannot wait to run away from their responsibilities and then show up spewing sentiments in their old age.

The OP said the man had the money but spent it on oloshos outside and some are STILL BLAMING HIS MOTHER FOR THIS (that his mum kept them away or maybe his mum gave his dad reason to suspect he's not their father). It is always a woman's fault on NL.

Tatacherie, thank yoi for giving me Reason no.324 for NOT doing creche till my baby is old enough to talk. Piriton!! If the baby overdoses or goes into some drug related crisis, the owner of the creche will show up with a pastor to tell you "it is God's will, don't prosecute". Is that not that did at Dunamis daycare?

Can we perhaps do something? Do you have mummies you trust from this forum who stay around your area? For a small fee, can they watch our babies? For example, Babythug may live in ikeja and there's a mum here she relates to well and based on what she's seen and read, she can trust that if issues come up, she will call babythug immediately. The babysitting mum won't take more than 3 kids so she's not overwhelmed and can give them the most attention. I dunno if it will help...

hotmum:
Mamas abeg help me torchlight dis question. Can u let ur 18yr old live-in maid fix her nails(fingers and toes) and eyelashes.
Her girl travelled for Easter break only to com back 2 days ago wt al d artificials which she hasnt fixed b4.
She isnt comfrtable wit it. Abi na competition dem dey?

If my mail's fixing of lashes and nails is making me scared that we are "competing" something, then maybe I should sit down and query the fact that the maid and I are almost of the same level that her doing that brings her into competition with me. As in, there's not much difference between madam and maid so horseband can easily mistake them. But that's just my thinking.

The resonable thing is to say no to long nails simply because it's hard to keep clean underneath the nails and it can scratch the baby.

EgunMogaji:
She takes it to a higher level. I wonder what her upbringing was like? Is she from money or just a lucky runs girl?

A lucky runs girl. Go to PH, being half-caste there meant getting a ticket out of poverty sharply. She had an acting career that she used to hang out with wealthy men (I've seen man pay to hang out with actresses, I don't know how far the "hanging out" goes) and gist is that at least half were married. So people feel she's reaping what she sowed.

But I wonder why she can't take him to court. I mean, there are a lot of coded hefty divorce settlements wealthy men have shelled out in this Nigeria. Did she sign a pre nup?

Newmum15:
He eats the bottled food well, infact he finishes a whole jar abd cries for more. YES, my main concern is expanding his menu.Gave him indomie, he enjoyed it for 2 days and now he turns it down same with cerealc, frisogold rice and his heinz cereal.i guess ill just keep trying then.Thanks maam

Oya, am hia!!

Try and duplicate the recipes of the Heinz bottles. Thats what I do: I only give her custard and yorghurt from them because I make the others. And use them to make dinner for the entire family (because sorry o, but Naija food is very repetitive for me). Try:

Spaghetti, sauce (tomatoes, onion, carrot, sweetpeas or green pepper cooked together) with meat diced up. Sprinkle cheddar cheese on top. Everyone can eat that in the family and babies love cheese (we give ours cheese as a snack).

Ripe plantain boiled with stew and fish shredded.

Amala with ewedu/ogbono/okra with shredded mackerel inside.

Turkey boiled with peeled Apples inside the pot (very delicious!) And onions, shredded with sweet potatoes, carrot and green pepper or sweetpeas (adult version will be that as a salad that you can serve with rice).

Rice and stew with shredded meat or chicken.

Egg yolk mashed with Irish potatoes.

Give fruits as one snack: watermelon has 92% water so great for giving water, mango makes them pop so it's good for constipation, pear (peeled), Apple and bananas mashed (peel Apples and boil). Bread as well. Let baby use his/her hand to pick it up as it is a milestone.

Pap is hit and miss for us (but mostly miss). Rice pudding didn't take well too. I use baby's foods as ours too.

That's my submission.

LaRoyalHighness, he likes something. He just doesn't know what that something is.

Take it from someone who lived on fresh air and water for days . All the beatings and threats and yes, locking me in rooms by myself did shishi. But I wanted to eat more flavoured food. Nigerian food can be an acquired taste to some people strangely (even if they started as kids). As an adult, I like sweet, spicy and sour stuff or very sharp tastes that isn't blended (Chinese and korean foods, indian even Japanese sushi are my favourite meals and seafood, not meat). Nigerian food tends to taste dull in my mouth because it's all blended together and not very colouful. But I love out local fruits as they have sharp tastes. So try something different, steamed rice with veggies and sauce made with ginger as the main spice. Or dodo and eggs (my comfort food). Try more colourful food.

I've started adding slices peppers to my okra soup for colour and I like it now.

BuddhaPalm:
I don't know about fire. But during my secondary school days, one guy got covered in massive hives, after he took a dump in a villager's farm.

This is was after repeated warnings that they would jazz us.

He looked like a 200 year old man. An elderly man from the village had to come and "unjazz" him.

Lovely thread btw. I ROVE flowers.

Abeg I need the details of that jazz, because people are not respecting themselves anymore nowadays

My cousin just got scanned by a port harcourt baker impersonating a professional vendor, OP I hope you know and trust your vendors.

teechudleyy:
Congrats... u have a talent

Oh I do, my darling. I do. I'm very truthful.



Goodnight.

ashjay001:
Chai, only me, idiot? So full of ur self! U a graduate, assumes all other graduates aren't un-informed? Though, u didn't bother to ask, I'll tell u, I very well know d difference btw UV(physics-didnt even av to be a graduate to know it) and flourescent(my dad's favourite, till presently)

Carry ur sanctimonious self and go find weaklings to intimidate with ur quality certificates and google! I believe u discovered google ba?

U've assumed a lot of wrong things, and for a quality graduate online, u lack home training. That u've been privileged to av GH docs on call, doesn't hold true for others. Do u know how many days some spend to even gain access to a GH doc not to talk of having a number?

I'm in a rage and can almost dare u, to compare d quality of our knowledge. But, I won't, as I realise, u're d type that gains a little knowledge and claim to be prof!

Do av a goodnite rest, ur knowledgeable excellence! _____

Okay nah! But please don't dare me to compare the "quality of knowledge", just leave it as it is infact just assume I don't know anything sef, infact just tell yourself you have so much more knowledge than me. G'night!

(But why do people think "you lack home training" is a painful insult? I could dish out 20 worse things easily...)

I think we should do away with government-funded healthcare in this country and go private. The kind of eye-opening shocking experiences that will happen eh, no part two.

abeeceebee:
It happened to me recently. My last child (child no 3) was a beatiful baby girl , most beautiful of all the three. Four weeks after she was born, she started loosing weight so I took her to d peadiatric unit of the health center to see d doc. A doc attended to me and after telling him my observation thinking he will diagnose her instead he just prescribed folic acid and vitamin c. After leaving his office I went to d nursing station, it was there I overheard him telling one of d nurses that my baby had down syndrome
Syndrome. On hearing this, I quickly log in to Goole to know what is the meaning of down syndrome. To cut the long story short I lost d baby four weeks after because she also had hole in the heart and she has lost all energy due to hard labour of sucking. If d doctor had told me earlier I would have known how to spoon feed her till God takes control of the situation. Nigerian doctors! Even though this one is supposed to be more experience being a government employed doctor.

I'm so sorry for your loss but why would the doctor not tell you your baby had Down's Syndrome?? And send you away with Folic acid and Vitamin C? There are support groups in Lagos for babies and children with Down's S, please where and what hospital did this happen?