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Ewuro4:
Nice. Out of curiosity, did you season the fish or just plain?

Lastmumu, which kain dodo be that one na

Mrs0J how una dey for your side

Edwife kudu nne

Cococandy, most pot sets have steamers now.

Best for carrots, asparagus & efo greens without losing their nutrients. stopped boiling greens now. Steaming is the way to go.

Fresh Tilapia peppersoup , very spicy too

Yup, ginger, green and white onions and Chinese fish sauce and sesame oil. No salt or pepper though.

Used my bamboo steamer

Steamed Croaker fish with ginger and green onions, served with rice and Chinese sweet and sour veggie sauce.

babythug:
Looks like dry skin to me. I think you should just moisturise more with Shea butter or any good baby moisture lotion even cussona should do! I hear sudo cream is a diaper /butt cream please be sure of its exact use before applying to other parts of baby's body

Sudocrem is fine for most parts of the body except the eye and mouth area. It's a Zinc oxide cream (15% I believe), with other active ingredients. Zinc oxide treats skin ailments like rashes, chilblains etc. Zinc oxide is the main ingredient in powders like Agnesia (which is used for rashes on the body). However, please let's try not to use powder unless necessary (respiratory issues) HTH

Well, it's true. An agenda is being pushed on us all. Things that were shocking are encouraged actively and debate keeps it in our minds. No-one thinks it a problem anymore to be decorated in tattoos and piercings, so many kids I know are doing soft to hard-core drugs and homosexuality is slowly becoming normalised.

The reason that I would say that our Senate had no right passing that Homosexuality Bill is because they break the laws themselves. Nigeria is Sodom and Gomorrah already and a lot of your lawmakers have eaten the forbidden fruit. There was a young man who walked right by me in the afternoon at The Palms, dressed in makeup and flashy clothing and not hiding his sexuality. I was shocked, then I found it he flaunts it even on social media, flaunts his relationships with married wealthy men there too and that no-one would arrest him: because he has connections. Who do you think those connections are? But if he were a poor dude in some urban slum or village, he's be in jail.

Hypocrisy is what got us into this mess of legalising gay marriage: when everyone was breaking the rules and vows of marriage, it became a commonplace thing, to be discarded at will. Rather than a pillar of community and society.

Do you know gay men? I do. It's hard to hate the act and associate it with people you work with or are related to. So do you avoid them?

byvan03:
I selectively turned a blind eye to the girl beating part, couldn't lie that I wasn't pleased .

A story was on the FrontPage about a man who took his toddler from his estranged wife by force and the next day, reported to the Police station with the baby's dead body, that she had fallen in a well when he went to buy bread. No other explanation. What if that guy was shouting on top of another woman not his wife and his neglected toddler walked out and then the story changed to "went to buy bread" (who would leave a child unattended to buy bread?!!).

That is how easy this thread could have ended up in Punch newspapers as "child electrocuted herself when Father was asleep and Mother not at home". Then we will blame the Mother, not knowing her husband was cheating on her and neglected his child for a girl that he will not remember her name in 2 years' time.

Telling his wife is going to be hard (and i wouldn't recommend it) but drop a subtle hint that all isn't well. A man that can neglect his child to cheat is a slowpoke.

cococandy:

When the girl comes to serve water, channel your inner Patience Ozokwor.

Purity22 (I know I'm going to get my head bitten off for this...) But let me just say it: thank you for beating that girl up. If you were my sister, I'd be so proud of you. Stop worrying if the girl had died, we have a population issue in Nigeria and besides, this is NIGERIA! You'd never get convicted (I believe in diplomacy and violence: there's a time to talk, there's a time to kill. Too much reading of the Old Testament as a child caused this ).

All I could think of is the baby lying unattended to, sitting in its filth, allowed to do whatever (what if the baby had crawled towards some electronics and put live wires into his mouth? What if he had crawled somewhere and something heavy lands on him), the useless pair (his matrimonial bed, his wife's wrapper). Ignoring his child because of cheap lust! Emphasise this part to your husband: he ignored the welfare and safety of his child to gbensh.

Act strange next time you are the guy, let the wife notice something is wrong. When the girl comes in, hiss and act like a Nollywood Mother-in-law. If the wife asks, say "oh nothing!". You'd have planted seeds in her mind and she will eventually figure it out.

Good one. I've only self-medicated for my eyes once (I had a burn) and I looked up past cases to know that I needed Corticosteroid drops for about 3 days max.

Could you also explain to everyone on the thread, the difference between an Ophtamologist and Optometrist or Optician? A lot of people don't know and some unscrupulous medical practioners will see some patients who need Opthamologists and insist on treating them (because they're chasing money).

touchmeder:
Hello beautiful people, I've not had the time to update but i decided to do today. Lucy is doing great. I managed to add a companion (snake plant) for her some days back and i'm watching their progress. my intention is to transfer the snake plant into the house after sometime. Onegai, am I doing it right or should I just get the snake plant into the house right away?

Meanwhile at the back of my house, I got bitterleaf on point and gingergrass but unfortunately, only the bitterleaf is thriving. I intend to plant herbs at the back and flowers in front. Right now, na small small...

I'm envious...fresh leaf soup will be on point in your home for planters, why not ask a carpenter to build you one for your herb garden? It's pretty simple and will look nice like the ideas below. Plus you can add more and make a proper herb garden in your wooden planter. The only issue I see with it is that the wood may rot with time with the watering but that won't happen in the next couple of months (They should use a thick solid wood as the base, not that cheap undried plywood. To stake your Bitter leaf plant, you can use Bamboo (it's a great support).

Meanwhile...do you know I don't know any soup I can make with Bitterleaf? I tasted one once and it was bitter so I never learnt it...

The plants look nice but can you put your snake plant inside another bag with soil? That Dumb cane may not let it get enough nutrients? Are you propagating the snake plant (clever you!)

I agree with Efemena. Sorry guys. Try and help her restructure her lifestyle to fit her current situation (i don't know how long she can sustain herself on donations from strangers). But I'll put her in prayers.

kendlez:
Thanks Onegai.
So sorry this iss coming a bit late. Am in port harcourt.

They've disappeared again (weird family members ) but why not take all the info I've given you, do your but and then go to the GH and tell them your observations and that they should perhaps make recommendations on allergy meds.

bigtt76:
It shouldn't have degenerated into this if the couple had turned deaf ears to the world.

In showbiz, everyone tries to keep up with the joneses. Not all those Range Rovers, expensive watches or bags were bought with physical cash. Most are as a result of credits especially bank loans!

With Tiwa's status on the entertainment scene, one can't blame Teebillz. He's like Annie Idibia is to 2Baba. He must look smart and be seen as flexing

Tiwa on the other hand should never have given that interview. Bad as it may seem or hurting as the tweets from Teebillz may have been, she should have managed the suitation better.

The world now knows the following aboutTeebillz

1. He is a womanizer (not that he's the first)
2. He is huge debt (not the first either)
3. He sniffs cocaine (not the first either.... almost all celebs do)
4. He beats Tiwa up (not the first either)

Tiwa on the other hand has shown to the world the following about her person

1. She cherishes her career over family values (all those raunchy dances on stage tho)
2. She allows the world to dictate to her
3. She's not too calculating to know this interview will come back to haunt her

I wish then and others alike the best sha. It's not easy it's only by God's grace.

So what should she have done?

If she had come to NL with her greviances, some of you would have advised her to focus on her job and children and leave her husband alone, he will come to his senses #ensure. She did that and the husband disgraced her and jeopardized her career (or do you think album sales make money in Nigeria? It's her endorsements and private gigs which do). So she did an interview to save her job. And you're still not happy.

Some of you would have advised her to divorce him. After all, she's paying the bills, he had slapped her around (even when she denied it, people saw her swollen face). His cheating is public (pretty girls on the island who go clubbing and are insecure enough to date a married man have been saying so for at least 2 years and they had pictures of him in bed to prove it. Or did you think her friendship with Linda Ikeji wasn't because she wanted something in return?). So she had divorced him. And you're still not happy.

So, what should she have done?

To anyone who has marital problems, the only lesson you can take away is this: please decide what you want to do and live with it. Because the world will judge and support alternatively. You may as well please yourself.

stadora:
my dear, its like we both share dsame fate, the incessant cough dat leads to vomiting accompanied with eye and nose scratching.i took my lo 2 d hosp, dou not a paed, augmentin antibiotics wt cough syrup n vit.c was prescribed 4 my lo. d cough has stoped but the breathing sound is stil not yet normal. stil on medication and wit faith in God, i beliv hes fine.
since u ve used the orelox past 3 days and no improvement. discontinue use and try d new prescription. always pray for ur lo, with faith he ll b fine, no fear oo.
kissess to him

You have described my symptoms. I have a dust allergy and used to have mild asthma. It runs in my family, so we are all used to it. Anti-bacterial meds won't help. I don't want to mention the meds I take (and yes, there is a children's version of it but I don't want to prescribe without a diagnosis) but speak to your doctor and more importantly, start looking for what is triggering the cough, when does it start. Can you clean the entire house with a damp rag (so the dust doesn't fly around)
Or take baby to somewhere else dust free and see if he gets better. The dust mites, mold, cockroaches and perfumed products (even Raid or those pink mosquito papers) in the air could trigger it.

Kendlez, please start looking for triggers like dust. one of the consultants i asked mentioned she thought it was an allergy. My eyes would water and i'd be unable to breathe and my nose would be burning inside (it would be runny and bring out mucous), so I would start breathing from my mouth (gasping for air). Your babies sound like me. But you need a confirmation from a doctor.

What I'd advise is to make notes of the symptoms and what triggers it, meet up with your doctor and discuss if the baby can be prescribed anti-allergy meds (it is a liquid, sweet actually). You have to sound knowledgable so do your research (Nigerian doctors are used to handle patients who know little about their bodies or medicine so they may want to ignore your suggestions. That's why you have to do your homework). See if you can get a different diagnosis. HTH

Kendlez, what city are you in?

I'm speaking to 2 consultant paeditricians and they're saying that they don't think it's a bacterial infection because it should have cleared up by now. One is guessing it's an allergy. But they feel that the antibacterial meds are not be best for it. However, they stressed that it is guess work without seeing your baby. So if you can tell me what city you are, I can ask them to see if they know a good consultant around your area.

Please try and answer this quickly because they're not the easiest people to catch and they don't like answering patients whom they cannot see.

kendlez:
Good evening mamas.
My 6 months old baby coughs so hard he vomits and he's been scratching his eyes too since like 3 months ago (we saw a pead concerning the eyes and he prescribed chlorophenical eye drop which we used but the itching started again after a while).

I saw a paed in our private hospital on monday and she checked him and said his chest is clear that maybe it's infection and so she prescribed "Orelox Antibotics" which we've been administering since tuesday.

My mother-in-law is an advocate of govt hospitals as against private hospitals (she feels they are quacks) and has insisted we must go to BMH to see a paed there. We went today and after checking him the paed also said his chest is clear and said I shud place him on "clarithromycin antibiotic" and I shud discontinue the "Orelox" I've been using since tuesday.
Am so confused abt what to do. Has anyone experienced this symptom with her baby before? or does anyone know abt or used this orelox or clarithromycin antibiotic?
Help a confused mum.
Sorry for my long epistle.
.

My dear, I don't know. I'm going to post the mum below, try and read and see which describes his other symptoms. You neef to be able to accurately describe what his symptoms are.

http://m.kidshealth.org/en/parents/childs-cough.html?WT.ac=

It could be an allergy or asthma (though they would have heard something in his chest) or a viral infection. Did he get all his injections? Dtap and co?

I'll try ask a few people and see if they have any suggestions of what to ask your doctor to look out for.

MadCow1:
Finally.. People are echoing my exact sentiments on this entire drama.


Teebillz resorted to blackmail to wreck Tiwa Savage.

That Mitch never wanted to kill himself jor. Why would he go to Lekki Bridge to jump when Third Mainland Bridge, Eko and Carter Bridges are there? He took his time to call his friends up first, write tweet after tweet after tweet, send text messages, read responses to tweets and shiit then wait for them to drive up and meet him before acting like he would jump. That cuunt is lucky, I would have pushed him over myself.

Tiwa is the victim here clearly. Reports of how he has been beating her has been making the news for quite sometime now. The dude has shown himself to be a very irresponsible man. His first wife was bad, now Tiwa too is bad, Nigga please.

A Nigerian man says his wife slept with three people and he knew about it and did nothing but stayed married to her.. Who does that punk think he is deceiving?

Tiwa should file for a divorce immediately and move on with her life, her child and her career. Any man married to a career woman knows not to expect regular home cooked meals or that she should be cooking all the time, or even hand washed laundry and the likes.

Tiwa does not need to say any darn thing, Teebillz has hurt nobody but his own reputation. He is a wife beating control freak who is trying to feed off of his wife's fame.

If he wants to impress me, nest time he should try Third Mainland bridge, experience has shown that is the best suicide bridge in Lagos.

Finally. When he was slapping her till her face swelled up, we heard nothing. When he was asked to step down as her manager because he was taking more than his salary, we heard nothing. When he was cheating on her with babes on the island (ask any girl who is pretty and goes clubbing to certain clubs, they will tell you Tbillz's life history), we heard nothing. Now he's accusing her of all sorts and playing to the gallery because she's getting fed up and her people have been asking her to move on from him. And it's working, people are saying "Depression"! An insult to people having real issues.

pjthatcher:
how much did u get it. I stay close to abesan estate maybe I can get one

Why not chill a bit, this is a new product on the market. At least let it get a NAFDAC certification and number. It sounds okay, but I have no idea if the ingredients are baby-safe (though it may be toddler and older child-safe). Babies have very gentle tummies and even if they are eating adult food, they're eating food prepared in an environment that are used to.

If you are serious....look up Few Modelling Agency. They are based in Lagos and have a training school. When you are done, they may decide to either sign you or another agency like Isis or Beth Models may. But that is only if you're good (and the competition is fierce because everyone and their sister wants to model, so they are looking to bounce a lot of people). From there you may end up (if lucky and hardworking), abroad modelling. Or you can try and get yourself signed into Commercial modelling agencies. All of these people are based in Lagos, so if you're not there, that's it. So, your first test of seriousness: go and find out the addreases of social media contacts of the 3 agencies I mentioned above. If you ask me, I won't tell you because I don't know. Good luck.

ps: they may most likely tell you to remove your weave or cut your hair. Because your face doesn't look "strong" (it's not very memorable), so they have to know what they're working with to maximise your potential.

telemapreye1:
I will but i fear they might feel offended.

Okay, so if you don't inform them, so they don't parent their child and stop them at home. And the child goes on to do it again and maybe he does it to a child who can tell her parents and they come and shout at both you and said boy, cause a scene and other parents hear and decide your creche has "bad children" and withdraw them. Would you still be worried about offending them?

Please inform their parents. Let them come and sit down and listen carefully. Please. They may even be watching stuff on tv and copying it. It may be an older person who is not a parent in their households exposing them to this stuff.

Flashh:
Those who transports themselves from Ikorodu, ketu and co. To Lagos Island, to and fro everyday will tell you why it's not a waste of money.

If they encourage safe water transportation, I assure you you won't need this new bridge. If even 20% of Lagosians use waterways, traffic will reduce.

To the naysayers, I'm going to explain this to you in a beautiful manner (I encourage believers to get their money ready to spray me in appreciation, because my explanation is THAT beautiful ). Disclaimer: I am not a member of Winner's Chapel and do not attend a church with such requirement.

Now, the word of the Lord stipulates that Fornication (the act of pre-marital sex) is a sin. That is clear. The church, as custodians of the words of God, decided to teach and enforce His laws. Some churches leave you to work out your salvation, other give you guidelines because they believe you may mot achieve it without Discipline from earthly sherpards (the clergy).

Now, since the church has decided to teach and enforce, but however are limited by privacy laws, that they cannot monitor each and every one of their members, they passed the by-law "pregnancy test or no marriage". They do not want to condone your sin of Fornication. It's not their place to judge you (so they won't and will bless your union afterwards), but they do not want to celebrate your sin of Fornication (they are custodians of God's word which clearly stated that you sin).

Modern Science has made it possible for people to fornicate and "not get caught" #BirthControl (pills, injections, implants, condoms and abortions) and Virginity cannot be tested for either gender (proof of hymen doesn't make you a virgin and men cannot be tested for virginity), but the church is still enforcing its by-law. Since you decided to go the extra mile and use contraceptives to fornicate (and sin) in the privacy of your heart, the church has left you to have that conversation with God at your appointed time as to why you were sooo determined to fornicate. As for the church, they have (as custodians of the Word of the Lord) done their part by teaching against fornication and enforcing a pregnancy test before marriage. They cannot enter your bedroom and be chasing you and that chick around the bed with a cane.

So the church rule of a pregnancy test before marriage stays. The End.

I'd like that money spray now please

damiso:
If there is one advise I hate on NL its the 'go and look for teaching Job' for women so they can look after children.

No wonder our educational system is nose diving.
Teaching is a vocation and time consuming if you are good at it.
I don't get why people think being a teacher is a walk in the park. I have a friend who is a teacher and I get home before her most evenings.

Every afternoon when I go to pick up my daughter from after school club you still find the school car park filled with teachers' cars most of them lesson prepping for the next day. They even have to take home assessments and other work sometimes to be done later in the evening when most people are relaxing. Depending on what year they teach some of them have to even in come early and during holidays to do extra coaching with their students/pupils.

Except you are not a good teacher being a teacher is not the 'easy option' that people tend to make it as on NL. The only incentive that I can take think off that they have is they are off during the school holidays. Which in the UK is not even that great because for those that don't have children it means they have to pay more for vacations as school holiday period is when vacations cost the most. They cant even take time off in term time.Or maybe that they have first hand knowledge of the curriculum and as such would be better suited to teaching and helping their children with homework.

Nigerian teachers are not motivated. Nigerian workers in general are not motivated. Our society is apathetic. It annoys me when they tell married women "go and teach or start a school", what was once a wonderful discipline has now become somewhere to dump bored housewives. Teachers are too busy being worried about the basics of living to care about imparting anything meaningful to their students. The first thing Daycares do is to suscribe for DSTV or buy Barney cds, so as to have something to shut the kids up with.

Metalgear, most of us have lived in the U.S. please think about this carefully: do you want your child to be left to the whims of cheap childcare in a society which is set up to fail Black Americans? It's a risk that if you're willing to take, sure (and pray nothing happens. Though your 3 year old is attempting to kiss her sibling, most likely she's been exposed to weird stuff). You should take time off, let wifey finish her course and then you continue. Or send kids back to grandparents in Nigeria and pray that they are on top of the situation.

chigoizie7:
Lolz, 1 room or 2 rooms might be feasible.

But u must have one thing in mind, naija is not as stable and organised as US or UK or Canada or even SA.

Let look @ it this way, 80% of nigerians will want to get married and as such, look up to bigger families like, 4 or 5(dad,mum and 3kids or 2 or more)

Now, how will u expect me to go through he'll to pay for 1 or 2rooms for a whole 10 yrs only to start looking for a lager apartment to accommodate my family again?

I mea, we all know that a family of 5 can not live comfortably in a room or 2 rooms.

The bone of contention here is to make houses affordable and comfortable to its users.


Getting to pay for 1 or 2rooms for a stretch of 10yrs is not a bad idea, but after 10yrs, will I still need the 1 or 2rooms?

If it's the Lagos Homs scheme, it's targeting middle class people (the people I know who got into it successfully without connections are all mid-level bankers). They tend to plan their lives out and know that they will most likely pay off on time or flip the mortgage over to the next buyer. They are also used to taking bank loans.

I don't think Nigeria is ready to provide low-cost housing to lower class of society. They wouldn't pay (half are already wondering how to game the system. They're hacking Data from networks, is it housing that will be honourable about )

For anyone coming home to fiddle with the tv, set up Parental control and password it. I'm going to do the same (because I left my baby at an aunt's place and when I got there, the maid and baby were watching Africa Magic. And I have seen lots of children attending million-naira nursery and primary school and sounding like the maids. Because that is whom they stay with the most and the maids switch on Africa Magic once the parent leaves home, no matter the numerous complaints from their employers). We watch Cbeebies until baby E is asleep and Daddy is the only one not in "Formation" but I will whip him into shape soon.

Yes, I referenced a Beyonce song

metalgear:
Something to point out for you to understand - I never said I don't have time for my kids. All I said was we go to work and class everyday and we drop them off at the nanny's, something most working family couples do. I stay at home most weekends and take them out. Fridays my wife and I don't work and we spend time with them at home.

He's kinda right, not enough time for your kids. You and your wife have to sit down and really think about what's best for your family. It may be that you or your wife may have to postpone some things in your career. It may be that you have to send that child back to grandma (you won't be the first and most of them turn out okay). But you cannot keep sending your child to someone's grandma whose beliefs and ideas about childcare are different than yours. So start shopping around for a new Nanny or playschool (3 is old enough) and both of you sit down as as a family and see if you can get flexible with your classes and work (rather than take Fridays off together, one person takes Friday's and another gets another day, that's 2 days during the week at home with your child). There are people who have been in your situation and kept quiet and the child turned out okay. There are people who kept quiet and are regretting. It's a chance you have to take and a choice you have to make. And childcare is the same everywhere, you have to shop till you find something you like. G'night .

To keep yourself hydrated, why not munch on some watermelon slices. Watermelons contain almost 92% water and are a delicious and nutritious way to stay hydrated on a hot day. Cut and put slices in the fridge or buy some ice block, put bowls of watermelon inside and everyone can take it after lunch (when the day is hottest) as a dessert. Babies from 6 months old can even take watermelon and they love it as a finger food.

anytaij:
Ok thanks I will do just that or may be I will change from General Hospital to another one cos it seems to me they are doing guess work there. The last time I took him for the issue of illa (normal name) but it's caused by bacteria oooo the Doctor there was typing and sreaching for the cause on goggle. So I was pissed, it was someone who prescribed Bactroban here which actually worked it.

It may not be that the doctor doesn't know what he/she's doing (because there's an online medical encyclopedia). But don't take medical advise from me or anyone here without getting someone qualified to ascertain whether we got it right or not. Why not ask around here who knows a good paeditrician around your area. HTH

Gbagada? Can you go to Lifeline Children's Hospital in Surulere (please look up their address and info, I don't have it). What about LASUTH Ikeja? It's a teaching hospital so there will be consultant paeditrician there. Check online for their address. Since after taking meds for one ear, both ears are now bringing out pus, you can escalate your treatment options.

anytaij:
Happy Sunday to you all. I tried cleaning my boy's ear@ 3months that was last month never knew had gone far he was the one who shaked that was when I knew had gone far. Some days later I notice pus coming out from his ear. I then took him to General Hospital Gbagada I was asked to go for ear swab and after which I was asked to buy Orelox, Zyncet with Vit c which I gave him for one week and I gave him the complete dosage I notice some pus still comes out of his ear not just that one both now. What do I do? Or have anyone experienced such? Thanks

But why were you putting swabs in his ear in the first place? You're not supposed to. The swabs are meant to clean the outer perimeter of the ear (the part you can see). Swabs can actually push stuff inside the ear and not safe for babies. Go back to the hospital and if you're satisfied with the advice given to you, ask the doctor that you'd like to see a paeditrician. The paeditrician will then take a look and make some recommendations.

All mothers, cotton swabs are not safe for baby's ears because they cannot sit still and swabs can push stuff like bacteria (staph for example lives on everyone's skin, clean or not ) into the inner ear and cause wahala. Dampen a swab and use it to clean only the outer part of the ears. Don't worry about wax build-up for now, your child refusing to answer your calls is not that the child is deaf, he/she's being stubborn

cococandy:
I got some daffodils that I left outside in the back porch to collect some sun. I read somewhere that they are outdoor plants but they are dying.
I watered them in the evenings (twice now)
What did I do wrong?
See the flowers are turning brown.

I don't know much about daffodils, the little I know is they're bulbs (like tulips). Could it be that you're overwatering them? Because I've certainly killed a few.plants drenching them in water and when their leaves turned brown (their roots were rotting due to excess water), I poured more water in erroneously. Did you put filler (rocks or something) under the soil before planting? I didnt and my spider plant is drinking a bit too much water and browning so I'm watering less (once or twice a week). Maybe that's it? And you could go to Home Depot (no, not them, the other one...) and get a sachet of plant food? I dunno.

Gardeners in the Western Hemisphere, please answer.

Melinde:
2baba that your top e get as em be oo

He needs to fire his tailor. Just look at the hems and seams! Shoddy work.

Sharoniah:
Thanks very much,nice information, lemme rush to instagram,hope i'll see everything i've dreamed of there,lol.

In beween them and AB Art world you should be able to get what you need (for now). I know Crafties4all had better quality yarn than the ones in the market (locally-made but still support the Kano ones as we want to grow the Naira nah )