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My family used them growing up and it made sense.

We're buying one this weekend. I'm used to washing machines but this is our first personal one and we are short on space. I'm looking for a High efficiency washer (hubby wants a dryer inbuilt as well) automatic. Please any recommendations?

Also, does anyone know where they sell Tide liquid detergent in Lagos? Thanks.

I adopted two stray kittens I found abandoned. I like cats, they are aloof and independent. I like animals in general. And I've met too many human "winshes" (people with bad behaviour) to be worried about any animal. I'm more afraid of humans than cats.

corrall:
I share the same sentiments, the clothes I bought for my first daughter was worn till she outgrew it. I went there again to buy for my second one.

She really has no where to go so I don't see any need spending so much to get clothes she will wear and stay in the house, especially in this time of dollar rate. the clothes I bought fromantic dosunmu
side washed so bad, she could wear it after the first time.

Please could you share how you found which clothes are made of better quality at PEP? I've gone there once and it seemed like everything was rather flimsy.

@ quivah may I give you some advice as someone who's passed through your stage over a decade ago? Please be careful of those male reading partners you share stories with. Guys are manipulative and will do and say anything to get you feeling as comfortable as possible with them. So you let your defences down. And all they want is one thing. You know what that is, right? Trust me, most guys are genuinely not looking for your best interests or your friendship. Those who are, will never try and break up any friendship of yours. Most guys are not great listeners (married women will testify that their husbands struggle to listen to their daily gist so single, young guys will not be better) so all that encouraging you to share your issues with them is because they wanna get close to you.

A lot of what you are describing happens to people whom are very young and immature, not gender specific. Yes, women are worse judges of other women (the world has told them we hate each other and that we are the keeper of Morality in our society, whilst giving men a free pass to misbehave). So that is expected. But the truth is, I have single friends, married friends, divorced friends, happy friends and sad friends and I now realise LIFE HAPPENS. So I have to stop judging others and focus on me and mine. HTH.

Stillfire:
Lol, I just find it weird how these types of females can excuse men from even the exact or worse things meted on them.
Men are even worse in divulging a woman's sexual secrets among their peers and make sure their boys don't fall 'prey' to a woman who did a 'natural' thing of sleeping with them.

I used to feel the same way when I was younger: that women gossip more and are worse friends because I'm very tomboyish. If I had told my male friends half of what I did, I would still be hearing about it from random guys I've never met. And it would be magnified by 10x to the point I wouldn't even recognise myself. My female classmates used to not be sure of what they heard about me and were more willing to give me a chance, the male classmates were smiling at my face and calling me a LovePeddler and a vicious person behind my back (none of them even got close to me to date) even when they knew the stories weren't true, it was more entertaining to them to repeat it and hope in my "whorishness" they'd somehow luckily fall into my pants (I disappointed them )

Never trust a man with your secrets. My mum told me that every secret ever told to my dad, he came and relayed it to her. And that is common behaviour for a man (which is why their mistresses outside always have effrontery to insult their wives, the men give them so much damaging info. Heck, the Philistine sent Delilah and not another man to Samson ) a man nacking a woman is very chatty you know

I've never been happy about my female friends who were divorced (I've never even asked one why she is, if she wants to share, no p, if not, I have the tact not to ask). I'm happy for those doing better than me (it's natural to feel a bit envious but the overwhelming emotion towards them is positivity). The male friends I have are just like the female friends I have.

Women don't hate each other that much (well in Naija una hate yourselves for speaking a different language, looking fair or darkskinned, living in Lekki or Mushin, eating eba instead of semo, practising a different kind of Christianity, in fact what is there that you don't hate; D ) but this society magnifies it where everyone keeps saying that and we all believe it but what is the reality? I fought more with my male boss than my female boss (he annoyed me constantly) but it wasn't his gender that annoyed me, it was his personality.

So many questions like:

Why did the doctor agree to a home birth for a First pregnancy, at that age there are more complications expected with the Mother.

Why was the doctor seemingly by himself for a homebirth with no nurses?

Why's the family not querying what happened?

MGeey:
Woah! Thanks. @ Kimoni, any suggestion on a better breast pump. i use tommy tippee manual pump though it works, it takes too much time so I'm thinking of going for electric pump. Mamas pease i'll appreciate suggestions on a good electric pump. Thanks

Medela Pump In Style breast pump gets great reviews from my friends and I use Medela Harmony manual pump.

Newmum15:
Pls @kaffy4bill and other mums I need your advice.My baby is 5 weeks old and this colic thing is getting out of hand.I burn his navel with hot towel,I give him infacol before feeding yet this thing isn't improving.He barely sleeps for an hour before I see him arching his back and groaning right before he wakes up.He passes out lot of gas tho.I try to burp him after each feed but it's either he's asleep before he's done eating or it takes almost an hour to get him to burp.Pls I'm a FTM,I'm getting frustrated here and I want my happy baby back.Is there anything I'm not doing or should do?
Then on this issue of pooing,He still doesn't poo after 2 days and that gets me scared and worried.Had to stimulate his bum with cotton swabs and robb.Pls guys I need your advice oooo.i'm about to lose my mind.He'a just 5 weeks,too young to go through all this

Use Vaseline if you must and try not to. Is he on formula? Baby E was like that at that age and it wasn't Colic but she was reacting to her formula and it gave her excess gas (Enfamil sometimes affects some babies like that) so I switched to Gerber Goodstatt Gentleease and I saw a lactation consultant to help me BF better. Try Enfamil Gentleease if you can find it. Also if you can find Prune juice, dilute 3:1 ratio (water to juice), upto one ounce and let him drink it (my paediatrician's suggestion). That will help with the constipation or a little water daily (slower working). Prune juice ismt as acidic as Orange juice. Other formula to try are Aptamil.

My lactation consultant taught me that a lot of what is described as Colic in babies is actually them. reacting to something they don't like but you don't know. I thought I had a colicky baby but once we changed her formula and I BF more, it was gone, the constant gassiness was gone, the constipation is now gone and my milk supply improved. I really wish I could get that consultant here to answer questions, she knows her stuff. When she's talking to doctors, the respect in their eyes for her... (she was the only one to find Baby E's upper and lower lip and tongue ties, everyone else was going "oh baby can't eat, baby is colicky".

HTH

What a wonderful piece! We all did summer jobs, one of my brothers kept getting commendations from his lowly summer job, one of Nigeria's richest men's daughter was a receptionist sef (I was meant to join her, lol) for summer. It taught me the value of money I worked hard for, till now I'll blow through money given me but will miserly hold onto money I earned

My kids are going to do the same, summer jobs and IT. It helps their CV and they get used to the corporate world faster.

ogogoro:
This guy is a monster, but the morale of this story is a bit twisted. I as a parent would not just warn my girls, but also my boys too! It is this exclusive warning of girls that makes boys think they can go scot-free with this sort of behaviour!

Nothing more to say than this. Predators exist out there and parents should teach their sons and daughters to avoid them and also trains their sons and daughters not to prey on people. We can't keep telling girls "be afraid all the time" and keeping quiet to boys. Of course girls will start to hate and fear boys and boys will feel they can do anything they want with no repercussions. And everyone suffers for it.

Is there no agency that monitors these creches? Almost every home now has a a creche (trust Nigerians to enter any business with profit without doing due diligence! ). They should have routine inspections and surprise ones and a monthly meeting with parents.

Debiruss creche has a good rating on vconnect, even though a child died there (and HOW ON EARTH DID A PARENT OF A DEAD CHILD ALLOW HERSELF BY A PASTOR TO LET IT GO AND LEAVE IT TO GOD BECAUSE THE CRECHE WENT TO BEG HER PASTOR?!!! ) why are they not closed until proper investigations are finished?

This Wesley creche should be closed until they can resolve how a baby found his leg broken (it may be either a fall or something fell on him or he got stepped on).

What is the Education and Children's welfare board doing?

And seriously it should be mandatory 3 months leave for Fathers and 4 months leave for Mothers or a subsidy for staying home with your child from government and father.

Mariecakes:
OMG!! Get well soon dear...This is why I hate the idea of daycare n Creche, most of them don't care bout the kids, a child choked to death some months ago n as usual, they showed no remorse....This is bad

Rather than wishing well, why not release the name of the creche where they neglected a child and it died, let us know not to take our children there.

This mother should get a lawyer and the good thing about releasing the name of the creche is that they are forced to give answers or lose parent a and future clients. People actually sue and win in Nigeria, it's time we knew our rights.

I'm no doctor but I know Diclofenac injections help really bad cases but she should speak to a gynae and see if she qualifies for it and not just go and try any heavy painkillers. She should talk to a few doctors (a consultant gybnaecologist would be best) and see her options.

kaboninc:
1 zillion likes!

Please where can I get to learn how to play that juice box (violin)?

Depends. Where are you located? MFM headquarters in Yaba have their orchestra there and offer classes cheaply and even free at times (I respect them for the opportunities they offer disadvantaged kids and they train their best players in SA and MUSON). Some other places do as well but learn the basics there for now. I'm not a member of their church but I don't recall they ever turned away anybody and they never asked you to join their church or coerce you into anything.

netotse:
@onegai et al
how do you balance work and life? there's soooo much to learn professionally if you want to be any good at what you do, that makes it easy for you to tell yourself why bother with all these "frivolities" when I can read XXXX and be better positioned for that new job or something like that.

I'd skip anything that has to do with leisure in a heartbeat(unless the missus or my friends were involved) for something that I think would position me better when it comes to achieving my goals. Of course this has its negative sides(tons sef).

I know there has to be a balance but I just can't seem to find it for myself ,

Find time. See, my brother came out an Engineer with many qualifications, a first class and best graduating student award plus IT experience. His company still had to train him. And a lot of what he learned were practical applications of theories (he and I taking time to visit Hoover Dam taught me more about Fluid Mechanics than all those awful classes with lecturers who were just there with vex in their hearts).

Money can't make anyone happy (trust me, I know). My dad had money and decided to develop some of his properties. One of them was so big we nicknamed it "the MacMansion" after importing all the expensive marble from Italy, paying a great architect and no expense spared, my poor father had a heart attack and died in one of the properties whilst he was inspecting it. He never lived in his MacMansion. He was working too hard to relax.

I know someone who took up golf for relaxing. He has gotten so many government contracts because of whom he meets playing golf. Meanwhile, had he gone to their office to introduce himself and drop a proposal, he would have never heard back from them.

Look at the wealthy, once they reach a certain level, they change their social circle and activities because Networking and smart work is the best way to success.

Ewuro4:
Fitting a square peg into a round hole takes PATIENCE.. Baby steps sweetie baby st...

As per being a mother, hmm my dear welcome to my world. I have an elderly I always speak to about marriage and raising family, she said one statement (actually it was an open question) that comforts me every time I'm stressed out; when the kids are all gone then what?

Well to answer your aunt, when your kids are gone, you follow them to their homes and start fermenting trouble for their spouses like a typical MiL I tell my mum "you need to find something to do" when she complains endlessly about my SiL. if my mum was busy with life, she wouldn't care over half the petty things or not that happens.

Just imagine if our elderly parents, rather than stay at home idle, came together and in their neighbourhoods, organised free after-school programs. It gives them multiple babies and kids to dote on and they will be imparting knowledge to children who would be left idle or at home to the mercy of paedophiles or whatnot. Young couples will get a break and the neighbourhood will be safer since everyone will know themselves so when they see someone's child in the wrong place at the wrong time, they can challenge them.

People saying Nigeria is hard, na only us?

I used my last N10, 000 to get that violin and had no idea where to even have lessons. Do you know I found free lessons (from MUSON students) for months and I took the bus daily to it. You need to see how nice people were to me when I carried that case in Oyingbo (I even got 2 job offers elsewhere , one to teach and another in a music store).

Do you know how many job offers I got chasing my hobbies They made me look interesting and people wished to know me and once we got talking, next thing was "here's my card, give me a call when you're ready". Others were slapping under the hot sun begging for interviews.

I know a guy who lives in face-me-i-face-you, he introduced me to a Scrabble club (the oldest in Lagos or Nigeria). It is in Lagos Island (not an upscale neighbourhood). Everyone high and low comes to play Scrabble (their chairman was in either House of Reps or Senate) but once we sat at the board, we were equals. Afterwards he went back to his one bedroom. Did he die from taking a few hours to relax and forget his reality in a healthy, positive manner? Best of all it was free, watching footie at a viewing centre costs money.

If you don't want to take the time to relax, you will have million excuses why not to. Life goes on, whether you carry your face like concrete because Nigeria is hard or whether you take time to smell the roses.

With all the Chinese phones that are cheap and have great cameras and some data, the next time your bus breaks down on 3rd mainland, if your hobby is photography, abeg take great shots and upload on Instagram. You never know and one of Nigeria's biggest photographers was found like that and shoots for BBC and co.

Ewuro4:
Onegai.. Lol @lazy thinkers. We are just too focused , we want it all and forget to live. No adventures , nothing. But we are changing, it's a gradual process, we'll get there.

I don't think it's focus, because we achieve so little for so much work. The impatience is so bad and there's no where important to go. Sometimes I go stir-crazy because the few friends I have who have lives other than the regular are so few and it's so hard having no-one to share things with. And now that I have a child, it's going to be worse: apparently my life is over now that I'm a "Mother", it's now midweek fellowship, school runs, kiddie parties and market shopping for me ony!

GHoJes:
Sin is only pardonable by God and the yardstick he use for measuring is not for you and me to know. I know you must have seen two people commit same sin in your sight but paid differently by God. That part of the scripture is a very wise one which people overlook or abuse to their advantage. I think it must have ensued from men screaming submission without loving hence they gave them their needed submission with an attache because it is unlikely to find a loved woman not submitting. A man who does not love his wife christlikely (sinner) as no right to acuse his woman that doesnt submit (sinner) like the halot and the scribe cases in the bible.
A woman who disobey God in one or more levels and submit in all things to her husband is not better than a woman who does not submit at all to her man before God. My dear, the truth of the matter is, it is the holy spirit that can make anybody to submit to God or man the God's way. For sins that are not spelt outrightly in the bible like failure to submit in a particular thing that you feel is not right with God, the holy spirit will convict you. If you feel guilty it is sin from you but the spirit may not convict another in same shoe. Like paul said about those who eat idol meat and feel guilty, it is sin to them but it is not sin to those who eat it without feeling guilt. The conclusion of the matter is that you have no authority to lift that part of the bible for use without practising the rest lest the devil tell you paul i know, who are you?

There must not be incentive before submission, that is why the bible tell christain to marry only christains unless before the person became a christain so that there will be no issue with loving and submitting. Christain here mean practising one.

You have restored my faith in Christians. Thank you for this. Thank you so much.

This is awesome. A thread in Family section that is sane. We need to keep a lot of people out more often

Submission got abused, which is why women struggle with it. I naturally respect some people because of what they are, not because they're male or older.

Nigerians are not busy, they are lazy thinkers. Sorry.

I took up violin playing, salsa dancing, flower arrangements and gardening and more activities when I was a broke adult with a crappy job. i had an interesting life. I adopted stray kittens and had a pet goat (he was wonderful ). I love DIY. Nothing kept my sanity after childbirth more than sewing by hand, clothe wipes for my baby (I hate sewing But sitting in a bath doing a sitz bath and simple stitching saved me from constantly crying in exhaustion). But when I ask friends to join me, it's "wo ayam too busy" or "stop dis ya oyibo thinking its joblessness, gwan chase money" and spend their off time attending weddings, sleeping, watching tv, on the internet and in church. Then they wonder why they are bored all the time.

If you want to travel, Idanre Hills, Olumo rock and Obudu are there (no visa required and cheaper than flying anywhere). Art exhibitions and book fairs are free in Lagos (dress well and don't make a nuisance of yourself). You can buy books cheaply (I love all those 2nd hand book sellers, I built my Agatha Christie collection and I was introduced to awesome writers like Isabel Allende and more). A picnic is very affordable, go to Muri Okunola park or Freedom park no-one will challenge you (just keep it clean). Take up a hobby. Take your kids to a farm outside Lagos (where I named one of the biggest pigs I had ever seen in my entire life) and they'll learn more about animals than from tv.

Enjoy the simple things in life, because you will never get those moments back and you don't want to be old and wonder what you did with all your time except attend weddings, stay in traffic and attend church. And sleep at home. i know a lady whi worked hard all her life, would keep her nice clothes for a 'special occasion' and then had a stroke and couldnt enjoy her nice things.

TV01, look up Kelly Rutherford's case (she just lost custody of her kids last week). Speak to a lawyer, the law doesn't care you carried the child for 9 months, it values the well-being of the child ABOVE ALL. The reason more women get custody is the individual aspects of the case makes it so. I met a lady last week photocopying documents to show she was the one paying for the house she and her kids lived in, because her ex hit her for child support. The law doesn't say "oh you're a mum, here's a free pass". It may look that way, but trust me it's not (too many cases to count).

And those websites can write anything, they are not required to be truthful or not to slander or to be factual, they can be biased (quoting the Daily Mail is like quoting The Daily Sun newspapers in Nigeria or any N50 newspaper). If you had quoted CNN (an entity that has to be more truthful due to being a well-known news source), I wouldn't have bothered to ask my lawyer friend if this was true. Family Law is very strict. the OP originally stated that "men are not allowed to carry out DNA tests on their kids in certain countries" which is not true. Those guys take child support seriously, they will deduct it from your paycheck, why will any govt not put a system of checks and balances in place to ensure the law is not abused?
A child born in a legal marriage is assumed to be the Father's but if the marriage ends and the Mother gets pregnant while the court is still dissolving the marriage, he will be asked to pay child support and what he has to do is go with the Mother to the court to get a court-ordered DNA test to prove he's not the Father. If the Mother refuses, he goes to court and states his case and the court will order one for him (which the Mother must comply with or face wahala).

Same thing happened to someone else I know. His ex declared he wasn't the biological Father and he left her. 9 years later he hammered and she came back and sued for back payments of child support. The court ordered a Paternity test (boy was his) but refused her back payments because he was not liable for them, he only started paying from the month DNA test came back positive. Now she's tryna be a ho' and kiss her way back onto his wallet since legal method didn't work.
əGqaw

Mikollon1:
This individual did absolutely zero research. She just used my post as evidence and tried to rationalise why it happens, still based on points I made it my post.

This actually made me lol. For real!!


"...every reasonable logical person..." You know, when people can't debate without insults, it shows their level of discipline (or lack thereof).

Guys, when u hit women/feminists with facts, they resort to insults like:
He's not a real man
He hates women
He's heart broken

Oh well...!!

To reasonable people out there, before you try to debate me, check for facts first. Don't bore me.

I did more research than you (my lawyer friend is the one who prosecuted the Marseilles case so I'm assuming a practising lawyer knows more than random NLer), you came and stated information you got off the internet. Go get evidence (like i did) and show us or I call bull. shi. t on your assumptions.

People, don't just believe anyone who writes anything on NL, ask for hard evidence, not websites created by anyone.

TV01:
You need to think on the bold some more.

If a woman/mother does not give consent, the test cannot be carried out. Maternity will rarely be in question, ergo the requirement for the consent of both unfairly burdens men, and allows women to demand child support from someone who may not be the father - your post has not overturned the OP.

But you knew that right .

Go to the court and tell them the Mother refuses consent. They will order it. it's that simple. One of your "nna bros" attempted such a stunt in Germany and the Mother immediately applied to the court's for a DNA test and stated he was refusing to give consent yet challenging Paternity. Now the govt deducts the Child support directly from his bank account monthly

Same in France, dude in Marseilles wanted to get his kids to travel to Nigeria to meet family. Mother refused and said she wasn't sure he would bring them back or that he was the Father. He went to court and asked for a DNA test to be administered to clear up paternity. Mother was served with papers. Now his kids hold Nigerian passports as well.

Family Law doesn't weigh who carried the child for 9 months. Kelly Rutherford and her ex (from Monaco) share child custody 50-50. However he had issues with staying in the US and was asked to leave by Immigration. The court sent her kids to Monaco with him, stating that he can't enter the US But she can enter Monaco, so they live with him until he clears up his immigration issues and she has to travel.

But this is more about you attacking rather than questioning the validity of the statement that "Countries are denying men their rights, we mens is in troubles oh noes"

Hmm, but the OP is actually wrong.

I mean about the DNA testing in France, Germany and Sweden.

IT IS ILLEGAL TO CONDUCT A SECRET DNA TEST ON A CHILD BECAUSE ACCORDING TO THOSE COUNTRIES' LAWS, IT VIOLATES THEIR RIGHT TO PRIVACY.

The "Disturbing the Peace" falls under that. If you want to get a DNA test, simply apply for a court order which shows the consent of both parents have been given and it will be issued to you immediately. No questions asked. However, some of the men involved in it DO NOT wish their spouse to know they are testing their child (if the child is theirs, they have introduced friction into their relationship by looking for trouble "Disturbing the Peace" so they secretly send the samples abroad for testing.

Even in the US, you cannot get a passport for a child without consent from both parents or a document stating that one parent is dead or unable to give consent (even in jail doesn't count). They won't even let you put anyone's name as the Father on the birth certificate unless you are married (the Father has to go down to the State/City Dept of Public Health and ask that his name to be put on the bc). This is avoid people naming anyone as the Father and hitting him with child support payments.

All these moves are to protect the child and the Father, no?

I mean, you could have simply asked any of your brothers in those European countries who have gotten babes pregnant and tried to abscond and claim it's not theirs. or ask someone who practises international Family Law. Rather than state something you don't know, as a fact in order to score cheap points (now every one who jumped on this thread to shout "men are oppressed! see evidence" look silly because all those dudes who start threads like "I married a Lithuanian geh/lack of papers" could have easily answered this correctly).

And as to why DNA tests are expensive in Nigeria, I thought every reasonable logical person knew everything is inflated in Nigeria for profit.

Right? You knew that right?

oh, wait...

Ummm, sorry but you and your husband don't belong together. Look at the damage you guys will do to the kids. And he called the CPS?? Nahhhh.

Sorry but I think you should ask him to move out and get legal counsel (he's going to accuse you of all sorts if he's calling CPS for what sounds like regular loving grandparents). And you need to get yourself and your life in order. For your kid's sake. No drinking, it looks bad when you're going for custody.

The Qur'an says your father will always be your father, not your husband (I'm paraphrasing). Your family will. always be your family.

OmogeNG:
Go to The Palms Lekki. The Nett Pharmacy there will have it.

A good and relatively cheap formular that has probiotics is Aptamil. If you want a formula with a higher fat content, buy Enfamil...although it is more expensive.

I'll second Aptamil and add Gerber Good start to that list. Enfamil can cause gas in some babies (it caused gas with Baby E so we switched to Gerber). Corall, try and get your creams from the pharmacies in the Palms, of recent there's a huge ring of importers who flood the market with popular fake products. At least you will have a receipt and can cause a fuss if it turns out fake.

moca:
Myopic mentality.
Tuah!


@op, presently I have a full blooded young man working for me as handy man(i don't call him maid,less dignifying)
He sags his trouser like his fellow youths, and exudes sexuality 100%. And the bobo sabi do inyanga.
Has access to everywhere in my house.

So I should rape or sleep with him?

Ndi ara. Mcheew!

Why have you been dulling yourself like this, heh? "How Moca Got Her Groove Back" can happen o! I have a boss, he's attractive and well-spoken and dresses nice. He signs my cheques and he's rich. He compliments me for a job well-done. We laugh together. Thanks to the OP, I finally have a excuse to cheat on my hubby since there's a man doing everything I want to be done to me, outside.

Alright!! o yeah o yeah!!

Rather than practise self-control, women should "dress decently" to avoid rape, babies should sew decent looking diapers and wear agbada so men are not tempted, teenagers should lock themselves up because men are not to be tempted, children should continue working long hours and getting underpaid because men cannot be trusted around adult women, in fact to demand that Nigerian men behave decently is a crime otherwise known as "Feminism"

I dey hail una o

Toks2008:
Some guys will always say they are different until they come face to face with the situatiion.

Which man will accept that he has the tendency to cheat on his woman? how many ladies have used that phrase...my man is different...just to realize how myopic they have been.

A man no matter how highly placed can decend so low as ladies put it to sleep with a dirty looking maid if she is allowed to do stuffs that madamm should do and that is the message im passing accross.

sorry but out of all my siblings, this is the only one I can vouch for. His mentality is so not typical nigerian guy, he can't date or befriend Nigerians (he genuinely tried but kept getting appalled at what he saw in the community). He even thinks I'm too conservative (and this is a guy who was one of the few Christians I respected in this world). He knows cheating happens but he's just ashamed that fellow men keep justifying and expecting women to accept it (he believes strongly in personal responsibility).
He would give me constant dating advice but gave up because he wasn't sure why I was either dating jerks or acting so silly guys were taking advantage and walking all over my "submissive" self.

Please where are the matured, married men on NL? For goodness' sake start educating the young men because things are just getting worse in our society and we can't keep preaching at women.

Mindfulness:
So the solution is to employ kids instead of sending them to school so that men are not tempted because they are weak polygamous by nature?

God bless you. Child labour rather than self-control.

I scared my brother's gf by showing her NL last month. See panicking! My bro had to tell her "I'm different from these guys"

Is it not my In-laws' people constantly fighting dirty. Let me call home and find out which family member is involved.

lovinam:
I know 3 states in the East give it free. Its a three shots vaccine. I'm shocked some states are paying for it. They should at least subsidise it. Sometimes we need to use govt hospitals or health centres for the common vaccines. They are actually d best cos they don't store the drugs. I rem when I went to give my baby vaccine in one of the big top three hospital in Lagos. We were 2 that needed that one, we were asked to go home cos they can't open it cos we were not many that needed it. I was shocked, we packaged ourselves and went home. I use govt hospital for immunisation.

Please which hospital was that? That's very weird, you were paying for it. They must have wanted to maximise profits and minimise cost (which is why I don't like private medical care).