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lovaleenny:
Before you even think about reconciling ask yourself this;
Would he be understanding if you were the sex addict?
Will he have sleepless night due to long hours of prayers and fasting for you to change?
Will you want to live d next 10-20yrs being bitter?
Will you want that bitterness to affect your son's and other subsequent ones you will have?coz it will
A man like that never stops...yes..they will cool off and you will think your prayers have finally been answered but it will start again...and again till you realize you've lived your life for a man that only cares about his fleshy needs and also for family that have already lived theirs.

No sane child will want a parent to be unhappy...i respect my mum for leaving and doing the very best for all her children..is dt not better than dying in d disguise of because of the children...d home is even unhealthy to kids...trust me my dad didn't change till date neither did randy men

I could hug your mum, I wish mine had been courageous instead of what ended up happening. And we are all still living with the consequences of a selfish man, almost 20 years after his death. If only people could see the damage of staying in a bad marriage the effect on kids, there's always going to be damage. Just decide which one can be patched up better.

Nnaabros, Hello please could you answer the following:

Which brand makes these ones? what are the inserts made from? Do you have a warranty on them and how long for? Please can you put up pictures that you tool of your product rather than stock images?

I'm a cloth diaper user so I'm interested.

LewsTherin:
Thanks. I'm always around. Just don't always see the need to post most times. Way too many kids on Nairaland these days.

You berra come back! Even if we must drag you and Thorpido to every Family Section thread until our young men begin to understand what a Man is supposed to be. Ever since you posted about how involved you were. in searching for your child's creche, you have earned my respect

As for me, Le Husbs cooks breakfast a lot (pancakes and French toast being his specialty) but nowadays he finishes whatever I start cooking or does the basics like rice (we alternate between holding Baby E). Whilst we were still. youngish and happy (pre-baby ) he was the one making stew and ogbono soup (i couldn'to make draw-y soup).

It's something I love about him.

If not for the time frame, I'd swear the OP was married to a cousin of mine. He made all the same promises to his wife. Who idiotically believed him and was rushing towards marriage.

Instead of her to sit herself down and ask why his first wife divorced him. The first wife only stood the nonsense for just so long. Wife no2 was too busy daydreaming about how the "Lord will. change him" and was encouraged by countless Naija relatives to "endure and prayerfully guide him" we his family knew better. Now wife no2 cannot open her mouth and complain when he goes so far as to sneak his friend's gf into his family home for a quickie during his father's burial (yes he did this. Yes we caught them and yes his wife silently "endured" the pitying glances and mocking comments made her way after the friend had come and started a fight and dragged his cheating babe).

OP should talk to another aunt of mine, who was also an Endured Wife of over 20 years. She advised me to never value any man because none are worth it. I suppose there's something to be said about staying together for the kids but that level of bitterness I saw from that lady, naahh it's better to leave and keep your sanity.

The OP has described a man out of control. Yes, God came change him. But is she willing to stand by him and be exposed to whatever whilst he decide what he wants to do, no matter how long it takes? That's her decision to make.

You are hearing from mothers. Give it more time. If it those stitches open up due to any excessive exercise (sex is exercise), it won't be funny.
Use this time of celibacy to build a stronger marriage: help out with the baby and chores, even if you go to work. Feel free to cuddle your wife (she will be so exhausted and her hormones will be driving her crazy). Do your baby research online so when she has any fears (a lot will pop up especially if she's breastfeeding), both of you can discuss it together with information at hand. I promise you, do all these and when. sex resumes, she will be so willing. Because. you've acted like a husband and a leader.

3 weeks after birth and you're jumping her body, and it was CS. Na wa for you o... I'm sure the doctor/OBGYN mentioned it was a standard 6 weeks AFTER birth. They always tell the couple (so as to let the woman's body heal).

And even after that 6 weeks, please go and buy KY gel for lubrication (it is cheap, gwan buy am before you cause another wahala medically by using body lotion or Vaseline ). Hormones will make the place dry for a while.

anonimi:
May be time to set up one perhaps?

Naahhh. I thought about it, with proceeds going to charity but this is Nigeria, too much wahala setting it up and finding a way to keep it running.

Ewuro4:
Can be used for dry skin therapy : pour fair amount of oats in a tub, half filled with warm water and soak the child/adult in there for few minutes. Don't dry the skin completely. Try this for couple more days for effective results.

Can be eaten as swallow: Blend oatmeal to fine powder and prepare like Pondo yam, serve with soup of choice, preferably ogbono/okra. Yumm0!

Eaten as swallow, Forreals? Hmm will try this...

Quaker Oats (oatmeal) is good for breastfeeding mums as it increases milk supply. Can also be used to make oatmeal cookies.

Donald3d:
Light this is a small extension of my love to you,more love coming up from me ,pls is there any facebook page to help spread this faster,i know nairaaland is a great place but trust me facebook will have a wider reach,we can run it here and on facebook,attached is a banner i designed for the lovely baby.I am praying for you Light,Gods hand will transform you and make you whole in Jesus name,Amen.

ayolight
naijadeyhia
funjosh
olu4life
onegai
GHojes


*MODIFIED- Do i have the permission to create a facebook page for Light ,i need the Nairaland family to give me a go ahead ,i will paste the link here all i need is the go ahead.Thanks

That looks great!

Graciousolo well done for staying with your sister and thank you for rubbing her lower back (very good).

My brother stayed with me (Le Husbs went "so proud of you" and ran away .

The breathing technique you described is actually the least effective. Try this one: breathe in through your nostrils and push it to your stomach, as if you're trying to inflate a balloon there and then breathe out slowly through your mouth. This is more relaxing and more importantly it slows your racing pulse and gets Oxygen to the baby.

Sit up during Labour. The biggest mistake is to lie down in one place, the pains Wil be felt more. Walk around, infact dance and twerk if you can (twerking is really good).

I didn't scream sha (Local Champion ! ) but the pain comes in waves (it starts slowly and then builds up and then slows down again). I was in dressing gowns (please get one and wear it backwards so hospital staff can access it easily without having to disprove you). I hated every time they inserted their fingers to check my dilation (it was uncomfortable ! ) but I didn't care if anyone saw down there (hian they see hundreds monthly. Just shave weekly during your last trimester so you won't be feeling too awkward).
My hopeless brother, when I asked if it was okay to hit in, flexed his muscles (he works out and is very ripped) and replied "I WILL hit you back and time it during one of your contractions so as to distract you from it"

Hello bumping this old thread

Please does anyone know any Thrift stores in Lagos?

Check www.naturalnigerian.com

Awesome!

Acidosis:
Absolutely great! I'll copy that line in quote,

Don't just copy, pay me for it. Abeg appreciate me financially bros

Acidosis:
Nobody is a slave, bro. What you read is an history of earlobe piercing in the Bible. Many do not know the origin of such & similar practices.

Ear-piercing didn't originate from the Middle East (where the Old Testament took place). Other tribes and races existed far from there and they pierced their ears or bodies, like the Aztecs, Mayans, all those Southern African tribes, dem plenty infact. In the bible, in the middle east, according to Jewish customs, slaves pierced.

You don't have to follow the crowd, my daughter's ears aren't pierced yet (just because I want her father to be the baddie and take her to get it ). My daughter wears cloth diapers by my choice (even though I'm surrounded by people who don't) and she will not relax her hair (because I don't want to subject her to chemical burns like I had to suffer not because of any church teaching). But later if she chooses to, i will let her. If you don't want her ears pierced, that's fine but don't follow the crowd. Tell her mum "I would like it if her ears aren't pierced till she's so and so age and then we leave her to decide". Try waiting till age 10.


I just don't wish to see people use the bible wrongly to justify forcing choices on others because that is the fastest way to a rebellion.

alaura:
She takes pap, she does not like formular or cereal
She takea pap, she does not like formular or cereal

That green poop may be a sign of food not being digested well by the baby's intestines. It's why you see formula fed babies with green slightly hard poop.

For babies who don't like eating, Can you try something different, not pap or cereal but check online for an entirely new recipe. Babies have tastebuds developing, Baby E has rejected the formula she normally takes and I suspect its because it's bitter compared to my BM. which means that when I start her on solids, I may make that pap but blend maybe a fruit with natural sugars in it (like strawberry or Quaranta local bananas something sweet that is a fruit, Orange isn't sweet). As a child I was the worst eater (the food wasn't sweet but they kept forcing it on me). So my sister used her experiences with me to plan meals for her own kids.

HTH

oyin4luv:
Good morning all,how best can a breastmilk been expressed be stored;Via freezer or fridge. And a situation of having just a freezer @ home,Hw can it be kept in d freezer to avoid contamination wit other things been stored.

Airtight container (they have bottles and breast milk storage bags) label them with a date. Breastmilk is fine in the fridge if the baby is drinking it soon. Freezer is for long term storage. Thaw it at room temperature.

MizTyna:
I'm hearing something abt changing acct number. Pls paste d current one. And I'll advise on consistency pls.
I wish Light all the best,she'll overcome

The account number on all the posts here are the valid numbers. Please share them as you help to raise awareness. Thanks

Acidosis:
Okay, nice. Why should I accept to drill her ear? I mean the ear of an innocent baby

Heck if I know. All I'm saying is do what you feel is best for her, not because of a wrong attribution to a religion you don't follow. If you don't want to pierce her ears because it hurts and you don't want holes in your baby's head, that's fine. But don't erroneously say it's because it's biblical not to. Someone will read your initial post and declare in agreement "na sin! " and before you know it, it will be basis of a new generation church teaching.

The Old Testament exists to show us where we have come from, use the prophets to inspire us, the psalms are music but at the end of the day, as a follower of Christ, you are subject to Christ's laws on every matter (the fact that Christians keep cherrypicking theology from old and new testament according to whichever suits their needs on stuff like Divorce, Slavery, Usury, Gentiles etc is why every other religion insults us and call us confused).

But don't listen to me o I haven't attended church in 5 months

Deuteronomy right? Old Testament bah? Which is about the Jewish race shebi?

And you're a Christian, which means you follow the teachings of Christ, right? Where the laws of the Hebrews are superseded by that of Christ? Think what I'm asking and then decide. Perhaps you may want to base your decision on something more than a law you don't follow (because to submit yourself to Jewish law and custom makes you a Jew not a Christian

(Seriously what are they telling people in church? )

That's the baby's picture and a short summary. Will that be enough guys? Thanks.

SHOW LIGHT YOUR LOVE!!

Let's help Light Ayodeji, who is 1. 9 years old, to have a wonderful long life. By donating N1000 each, we can give her life-saving surgery for her heart condition and respiratory illnesses. She needs N4million for heart surgery in India. Please help us save baby Light Ayodeji by donating to the following account and sending this message to everyone on your phone.

Ogunruku Mercy Itunu UBA
2056071186

Thank you, for your contribution to saving this baby's life.

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naijadeyhia:
Great job! I see you already got us a poster designer. Pls liaise with lights mum and get her b4 and now pictures. I think a catchy appeal was posted by someone on the 1st or 2nd page of this thread. Copy it or modify it and let d poster guy give us 3 design concepts to choose from. Something that can fit on a dp plus used on other social media platforms for d sake of awareness.

WE NEED TO WAKE UP THIS DRIVE AGAIN AND KEEP THE MOMENTUM GOING. WE WILL SET A 2 WEEK MAXIMUM TARGET WITHIN WHICH WE MYST REALISE OUR FINANCIAL OBJECTIVE. NO TIME TO WASTE. IF WE REALISE IT SOONER THEN EVEN BETTER.

i posted that initial appeal but the account number has changed. Once i hand over the details fo the web guys, I'll need you to take over, I'll be in the hospital with my child this week so I won't be on NL.

Some mamas mentioned Makari Bebe soap for their infants. I just wanted to let everyone know that it's on sale at Ebeano Supermarket, Lekki, Lagos, for N2, 500.

Also I spoke to a clinical Dermatologist and he said for babies with eczema on their scalp, please use Sebamed baby shampoo (N1550 but a little goes a very long way) to gently wash the baby's scalp, then. apply coconut oil to the entire scalp (it's got healing properties) and you would see the dry skin flaking off in a day's time.

Hello everyone.

It's been a while. Hope you're all good. Please take a look at the thread below

https://www.nairaland.com/2517785/save-light-great-fighter

Basically a baby needs surgery urgently and her mother truly cannot do it by herself. We have spent a lot of effort trying to get this to the frontpage of NL to no avail. Now we need your help. Her mother is a NLer.

If you are a Graphic Designer, will you be able to please design a poster For us to use on all social media sites, for this baby? It would have to be done for free (and God bless you as you do). We need it fast please.

Thank you.

Hello everyone.

It's been a while. Hope you're all good. Please take a look at the thread below

https://www.nairaland.com/2517785/save-light-great-fighter

Basically a baby needs surgery urgently and her mother truly cannot do it by herself. We have spent a lot of effort trying to get this to the frontpage of NL to no avail. Now we need your help. Her mother is a NLer.

If you are a Graphic Designer, will you be able to please design a poster For us to use on all social media sites, for this baby? It would have to be done for free (and God bless you as you do). We need it fast please.

Thank you.

Hello everyone.

It's been a while. Hope you're all good. Please take a look at the thread below

https://www.nairaland.com/2517785/save-light-great-fighter

Basically a baby needs surgery urgently and her mother truly cannot do it by herself. We have spent a lot of effort trying to get this to the frontpage of NL to no avail. Now we need your help. Her mother is a NLer.

If you are a Graphic Designer, will you be able to please design a poster For us to use on all social media sites, for this baby? It would have to be done for free (and God bless you as you do). We need it fast please.

Thank you.

Funjosh:
Honestly speaking I don't just know what to say.

But let's just focus on Light and God helping us. My question is how to go about the money needed, because .I don't see Nairaland moving this to front page with all these am even hearing about TeHN so. It Is Well.

We could set a target and keep people updated about how far. Naijadeyhia that's a good idea.

Most companies have closed down any expenditure for this quarter that will help but perhaps in our places of work we can use the poster I have spoken about below to help raise funds.

Can someone please create a poster that can be used for dp and social media? We can pick a day and make sure everyone creates maximum awareness on NL and offline (Tweet, Instagram, Facebook, BBC, Whatsapp etc). We can also keep tagging people on NL to this thread (if Seun refuses to acknowledge the verification done by posters already, we will keep fighting for awareness any other way).

I will post in Graphics section to see if someone can design a poster.

For posters already on this thread, I have an idea to help future cases. We need to organize ourselves, if you're interested.

5minsmadness:
Wow.
Fgm was popular like 10yrs ago. I doubt if it's still popular now. The campaign against it was really aggressive and I'm of the opinion that, apart for a few rare occasions here and there, it has been effectively wiped out.

For the pressing thing, I've heard of it too. Even last year. Does that count as Fgm?

Well the reason they gave for the hot water was that cutting hurts too much but the gradual pressings with hot water achieves the same result as the first shallow cutting. It's the same idea. But don't be shocked that a lot of people still practise it, they won't come out and say it because Nigerians like to pay lipservice and do eye service to whatever is popular and in vogue.

5minsmadness:
Is female genital mutilation still carried out? I doubt it. Maybe in some remote areas in the north.

A few years ago, a colleague was going to do it to her daughter. She's Igbo, now she would be mid-30s. When she was discussing it, she said it would make the daughter "decent and able to control herself" and a lot of women on that conversation agreed with her, one citing one uncut girl she knew who couldn't control her urges. My cousin had a daughter this year and her mum said "oh she won't be cut but use hot water to press it so it looks neat and that is less painful than cutting." Even i recall a while back on NL this year, someone complained that his grandma took his 7 year old sister to cut her and his mum couldnt stop her. it's a mental cultural thing. You would be shocked at the number of people still cutting and they are not village folk, they genuinely believe it controls a woman's sexuality.

edwife:
I agree that the society has something to do with it,but the women themselves too.I know Nairaland is very fake with many pretentious folks who derive the pleasure of portraying something they are not.There is a site i visit,it is when i realise that things were not really what they seem to be,this is not to mock women or those ladies writing there because i respect them for their honesty and courage but to just see the real situation and i honestly wish them well.

Now looking for serious relationship and the percentage of ladies to men is 90% to 10%.

Just a few...

Ladies are more vocal so they will share their feelings faster than men. Infact I never believed guys felt lonely till I grew up and met so many guys and marriage counselors who said the same thing: everyone gets lonely. I spent my 20s not wanting to get married and if I did, certainly not to a Naija guy then I moved back to Nigeria and my gawd, the pressure! I stopped attending weddings and meeting marrieds and all those aunties because I was lonely but worse people kept "praying" for me. As if I had a sickness. The sheer pressure of it (when people even use your singlehood as an insult sef in an argument). One cousin told me belligerently "Marriage is the crown on a woman's head". It may be but it's either a crown of gold or a crown of thorns. I ended up getting married in my 30s. If they take those women out of our society, they will still desire marriage but for better reasons, not because they want to choke under the pressure.

According to NL males, they are doing women a favour and NL females, they are entering bondage.

On NL, there's a lot of fake screaming from both sexes when in reality they would kill to not have to be jumping around on a friday night but be comfy beside someone who cares for them. I know people who chose to be single (after careful thinking) and they're fine. Just don't keep pushing it at them.

dashiki:
Please can someone recommend a place in Lagos where I can get worsted weight yarn or something similar? The wool I keep seeing around is an absolute joke.

I don't think you will find good yarn in bulk anywhere (i went to the market and all i saw was that lightweight crap!) If I had known I'd have brought tons back with me from my trip. But maybe I can do some later...