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He definitely thought the grass was greener outside (other girls). Tell him you love so much that you're scared he will die, as the pastor predicted so he should stop calling you. I'd advise you to move on. Watch him, and if you must take him back, make him suffer. Not beg, suffer, you hear?? Infact, a ring must be produced in 4 months of reconciliation.

Not all women are desperate. But this chick is playing you to the altar, believe you me, I know someone this worked on, they don marry. She did the tag thing, for relationship, wept and spent the next couple of months flattering this dude, going as far as saying she's a virgin and fighting battles with her "rivals". Guys love attention, it clicked.

Unfriend her, and tell your friends it's not true. Block her on fb and break up with her. Tell her she should stop crying, as you're not the type to care what people think. Do it now, don't try to reason with her or waste her time dating, since you're sure you're not marrying her.

Or na ur gist we go use say "omo, babes dey sharp" lol.

Your sister needs more experience and sorry to say, her hubby is very immature. I don't know what to tell you, but if he is adamantly insistent on a divorce, let him clearly state it to all and sundry, and let your sis not fight it, but pray for Strength to move on. If she can, let her try and find out what's going on, because the dude is so clearly not ready for marriage and thought he was and leaped in before looking, and now reality has dawned on him.

Some women have a caring, emotional nature, and they do unsolicited acts of sacrifice for you. However, guys now think those girls are desperate. I have a friend like that, very loving towards her immature bf. He thought she was desperate (she's 30) and broke up with her. Now he wants a 2nd chance and she refuses point blank to even reply his messages. So be careful you don't miss out, just take your time to study her, it'll become apparent when someone is being nice because thy want you or being nice because they love you.

@Sexkillz: it was such a silly case, for the last one. When they met, the girl didn't package herself well (it was a work function and she was running around all day not in weave and heels, like other "babes", but the guy liked her sense and conversation. Then one well-meaning friend went to tell him the chick liked him, and that was it, he shot her down. I think there was another chick. But like you said, he noticed all her qualities (she's 30 and quite mature yet fun), and whatddya know she's quite pretty naturally. But I don't know if she can get over the initial rejection (it was done quite maturely sha) and give him a 2nd chance.

Don't be afraid to go back to a rejected crush. If you can put away your pride, chances are it'll end up a very strong relationship. Sometimes tinsel shines brighter than gold, but gold na gold, strong and durable.

k2039: ok maam,I just tried to crack a joke with my earlier comment.

Ah. Sorry, sir no vex. I no get am on time. But what do you think? Any returning crushes come back into your life?

@K2039: why do you want to retaliate? Is it by force they must love you? Dude, that's immature and you may miss out on Love or Friendship that way o.

I asked some friends, and in general, it worked out better for the guys: one has 2 other girls in his life so couldn't concentrate on the 3rd girl, 4 yrs later reapproaches the 3rd girl and marries her. Another said he'd definitely ask a girl out he hadn't considered earlier. Another guy turned down this girl who had started coming close, so they maintained a friendship and gbam! He's so head over heels in love with her, he's looking for a way to start a committed rel. But sadly she believes tribal and class issues are part of the reasons why he didn't want to even give them a try in the first place (he told her he had his eye on another) so she moved on and is totally unaware of how he now feels.

For the ladies, the one who tried reapproaching a guy who had tried to toast her found out he got engaged the week she sent her "hi, long time" msg.

What do you think?

Hey House, what's up?
I've got a question: has a guy/girl you liked approached you, and you turned them down (before anythine even started) gently or maybe you disappeared (for you immature ones, your method of choice). Then later, you suddenly find yourself liking that person or just hoping they've got space in their life for you. What did you, and how did it end up?

Babe, you said you supported the first guy financially till things improved for him, whereby he rewarded you by upgrading and marrying another girl. Now he wants you to leave a man who wants to treat you well for him, a guy who has already deceived you in the past and wants to keep you as his mistress while he builds a home, has kids and publicly loves his wife.

I'm not going to insult you, because we've all been drunk on "Love". But I advise you to delete that guy and tell your family all and NEVER speak to the married idiot again in your life. Not even "good morning". Abeg, I take God beg you, save yourself.

I was visiting someone and checked a supermarket in Festac town. They've got a few Dermablend shades there. I think the supermarket was on 22nd road, maybe called Novell or Nobel.
As an aside, I wouldn't use Dermablend on the face, unless it's a huge scar to cover.

Hey, send me a PM. I know somewhere in Lagos, a supermarket which has a few shades. But why do you need such heavy coverage, is it for daily wear? Let me know in your email. Thanks

We've become Russia, after the USSR collapsed. Everything was privatised quickly and whaddya know, the very same people in power benefitted and became oligarchs and billionaires. I've said it a long time ago. In 20 yrs time, most of us will never be as rich as IBB, because all your money will never compete with his power to influence decisions at the top. The standard of living will keep going up and they'll become wealthier. Manitoba doesn't know how to play the Nigerian Game, which is why this very public setback happened, and no-one wants to end up like Siemens (in court, publicly disgraced and nothing to show for it).

We need a Jerry Rawlings.

pheesayor: This is the truck that left festac 2nd gate yesterday, the last one, others left three/four days ago, mostly midnight

I'm not currently around, left over the weekend. I know people trekking because of the ban.

Very true. I spoke to one, he said they impounded his okada and he had to settle N2500 to get it back, and that they could only ply early morning or late at night. When I told him the ban didn't affect Festac, he shrugged and said officials have been seizing bikes. The okada rider replied that most of them are relocating during christmas, as the only place they can work now is Apapa. Sadly, Festac doesn't have good transportation network, so this isn't really welcome. Dunno why they're going after them.

ehie007: i am a professional wedding photographer and most weddings the make up artist dont even have enough time for d bride talkless of making up others. Yea they could be rude, but its human induced.

Nigerians want good jobs but dont want to pay for it. Those who pay little are the most worrisome..This also applies to us into wedding photography....they want good shot but dnt want to pay for it....

Btw, I know the prices of the top makeup artists so I know the OP "forgot" to mention she went to a very big makeup artist for that price quote, that is like complaining about the price of a Lexus jeep (didn't you see a 2nd-hand Toyota? Did anyone force you to buy Lexus). People should cut their coat according to their clothe: if you don't have N200k for makeup artist, look for the N35k one you can afford or even better, paint and powder your own face. It isn't by force to have one, but you feel you need one (and you may want to show off that you got the best), so pay for their service. No need to complain. And also, if someone is charging you N200k, rest assured, she is NOT using Mary Kay, you're getting very good products and she will do a very good job (if she ain't, then walk away).

I cannot tell you how many stressed brides cried in their makeup artists' arms, after the makeup artist insisted everyone leave the room and give the poor girl space instead of staring at her, making comments, rushing her and stuff. Me, I come with something for my bride, to cheer her up and relax her. It's her special day.

Hmm, let's try thinking of this:

You train as a makeup artist. Most in Nigeria aren't well-trained, but pay minimum of N70,000 for bad training. Then buying your products (you have to have foundation to match any complexion, that's a minimum of N12,000 for 8 tubes, and then Mary Kay isn't that good, so to do a good job, you have to buy Black Up which is N10,000 a bottle. There's too much fake Iman on the market sold for N4500 per bottle). Then add in eyeshadows, a palette can be N8500 and that is the crap chinese stuff that irritates. So you spend minimum of N25,000 for more chinese stuff of slightly better quality. False lashes are N800 per packet (the good stuff which isn't heavy on the eye). We won't mention powders, blushes mascara, primers and skincare for all types of skins and complexions. Remember, all these products finish and expire, so they need replacement.
Then transport to the bride's house, first for trial and then for engagement and another day, white wedding, no matter how early or late the time. So that's usually cab fare. Calculate N3000 per trip.
Also, naija brides can waste time, so you can't do 2 weddings in one day. And then you have to wait for their mum, sisters or friends who want free makeup (as if you have products to dash).
You may say "oh well, why should I still pay so much?". Let me ask you this: which do you think you will use to remember your wedding, your menu, your hall venue or your pictures? And if it's pictures, do you wanna look your best in your pictures or do you want to look like your short-sighted sister did your makeup without her glasses? Why pay a photographer N150,000 when you look like a masquerade because you paid your MUA N40,000 for her wahala?
What do you think?

Well, my friend dated her bf for 4 yrs through uni and he sounded insecure and impatient with her, there may have been cheating on his side, but clearly loved her, showed it, came to her home to woo her and tell her mum "you are my mum". Then they got married and 7 years later are getting a divorce. He's beaten her too many times to count, installed his own OS system on their home pc because he said "Windows is not safe", na lie, he was monitoring her, the cheating got worse and when she made mistake to confront him, he lifted a chair and beat her with it in front of their kids. He started trying to keep her family away from her, but her mum wouldn't allow it, so he would cry later and call her mum to come help them, and mother will show up and advise, his friend would come and beg for him. She went for fellowship once with her married neighbour, you should have seen his eyes glowing red hot as if she had declared she was going clubbing with a single man. He refused to let her work those 7 years, so she took up small trade so he wouldn't lock her out of their bedroom because their baby was crying and not going to sleep one night, and he felt it was her fault. She's a wreck, he cheated till the last moment.

This man was insecure and hot-tempered and emotional. And I have seen women like him and they acted the SAME way. OP, please decide what you wanna do, and be ready to live with your choice, stay or go.

All of you saying "it is a good thing, let them settle so we can have peace", have you gone back to check on what happened to MEND? Shall I tell you?
They sent them to Lagos and other places for re-training, to uni in Benin (where they started fighting students) to Lagos (where they wasted our govt money doing training at places like Nipost!). The MEND boys would call and complain about their allowances not being paid. Some went back and trained the kidnappers you have now, for a fee (I'm not making this up). Ask anyone in Delta and Anambra, it's a no-go area, they kidnap people from church and school even, and for the price of a month's supply of recharge cards. So pls what peace was achieved??

You don't negotiate with terrorists, because you should NEVER reward bad behaviour, you give them jail sentences and repatriate them in prison as they serve their time. But this in Naija, the crooks earn more money and honest work will never pay you.

You're selfish, and you're going to reap what you sow. So don't bother, just keep doing what you're doing and bounce her when you find a "worthy" person. Please feel free to come back and tell us how the new person dealt with you and you miss your ex.

He doesn't want to marry your friend. She should return his ring, and tell him "let's just date for now" and get back into keeping the relationship open. If he loves and wants her, he'll come back and make wedding plans (no job will stop you from going after what you want). Recently, a guy called off his wedding the night before the ceremony because "his office in UK didn't release him on-time". There are broke guys chasing women and begging them to wed. Your guy has been looking for convenient excuses not to even do an Introduction. He doesn't want to be committed to her.

dramenda: 12 goals last nigth, 9 tonigth.english football.

Seriously, Super Eagles should watch the match and learn how to play ball and score goals. I've never seen such margins, all teams are making goal-scoring look easy.

Seriously, was last night's heart-attack inducing match with Arsenal not enough?? See Man Utd and Chelsea. Let son of man have peace of mind abeg

amosy007: what is dis one saying? Why are u takin tings personal now? Its just a game man.. Cool down man

His original comment is on page 16 of this thread. If you can feel this was an unprovoked personal attack by some deranged lunatic, I ask that you pls help me report it to the mods. Hopefully he will get cautioned and learn manners. The name of this offender is CyberG.

CyberG: Are you FOOLIS.H or MAD? You are in Nigeria, NEVER left your backward village life and you are shouting you "hate" a team (NOT EVEN A PERSON, AN ORGANIZATION) that does NOT know or care of your MISERABLE existence? They get paid several thousands of POUNDS per MATCH whether injured or NOT, they are paid, then they MOVE ON to another club when they choose BUT you are hear "hating"? The salary of your WHOLE GENERATION will NEVER be equal to 50,000 GBP per 90 minutes! What a cretinous dolt! You better find a job before YOUR GENERATIONAL CURSE DESTROYS all YOUR FAMILY!!

Mods, please take note, this is the post referred to.

damogulxx: NA SMALL TEAM LIKE READING NA IM ARSENAL FANS DEY JUMP UP DEY CUT THEIR HEAD FOR CEILING FAN LIKE THIS? WHEN E REACH BIG CLUBS UNA GO SHRIVEL AND WRINKLE UP LIKE MAD MAN BALL SACKS. MAKE UNA GO SIDDON JOO

Exactly, if they're struggling this much against Reading, they will beat Man Utd, Chelsea or even Man City.

This was a stupid match. I hate Arsenal. I hate Arsenal soooo much. I hope they get destroyed by Man Utd and every team on the planet

5-5, what will be will be. Oya penalty get ready

unfuckingbelievable, the ref should have blown the whistle. He let an additional extra one minute after extra time, c'mon.

sexkillz: [color=#000030]So we can agree on something. . . Hmm
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No vex me o, or there shall be no sallah ram for you, lol. But if only you knew that that "I'm just tired of him/her" feeling is your problem, not the person's. You need to have a rational reason to do stuff and if there isn't one, then most likely that decision isn't rational, and it's wrong. Sadly most of that tiredness is caused by "isn't there anyone better out there/im sure the grass is greener out there".

Nope. It ain't.

LastApostle: You are trying to reassure your self that your pride is still in place after been dumped.
A man naturally will want to bed a woman countless number of time hence the opportunity prevails.
Take for example, 190 dated idowugbo and later seperated from her probably because he don't really fancy her, chances are he will still keep in touch with her and if she still has any feelings for him will always succumb to his sexual advances believing he is for real and into the relationship proper.
But 190 knows better and can always find trivial happenstance to leave and leave again yet he cannot let go of the punny. Once a man taste that thing, he is glued to that particular provider until she disappeared from the radar. Mistaking these MEN attributes and characteristic for relationship reconciliation is never in order.

Me, whenever I am on HEAT, I pick up my phone and start dialling all my EX numbers praying one of them falls victim for my s.exual trap. Now if u are not deluded u will think I meant reconciliation but I know I am on a seexual expedition. I will only stop when u change base probably dead.

Ladies, this is very true. A man who wants to get laid will call all his exes if there is no new girl. It's the same mentality as when you get home hungry, do you say "hmm, I'll try cooking that new chinese recipe I've never tried" or do you go for what you already know you can make fast and know the taste? Measure a man's willingness to return to his ex by the amount of effort he puts into it. My ex used one very daft excuse to contact me recently (after he had shown me pepper and ran). I know he's not serious because of the sheer and utter stupidity of his text he sent. I didn't even reply it. He clearly wants to get laid, if a guy seriously wants you back, he'll show up and pursue you as if you're a fresh babe, infact he'll come on stronger than that. Not a casual call, text or chat.