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sexkillz: [color=#000030]A girl would dump a guy for one of these two reasons. . .

She gets tired of him, or he betrayed her trust and she dumped him.

If she ends the relationship for no justifiable reason, na she go feel am pass in future. But if she has a reason for dumping the guy, and the guy is really at fault, then the guy will feel it most and try to get back to her.

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This. Too true. Always check and make sure you have a reasonable explanation why you're breaking up, don't break up because "I just feel tired of him/her", your chances of regretting that is very very high

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ydtaurus5: i am not saying the ban isnt good bt you guys should try moving from lekki to v.i and within v.i you will see what a hell looks like.let them provide alternatives.try trekng frm sanusi fafunwa down to oniru.

He should do a congestion charge for VI, Ikeja and Apapa. If you drive a car there, you pay a toll. Then provide small buses to go everywhere in that area, so there's an alternative. This should encourage people not to drive and take public transport. However, knowing nigerians, una go pay the toll happily so you can show yout cars off, sigh.

You guys are not seeing her issue: not only did he cheat, he even slept with a married friend of theirs. When she caught him, he begged for forgiveness, then devised new methods to hide his cheating. Does that sound like a man who loves his wife? Does that sound like a man who cherishes his family?
OP, gird your loins, dress lovely, stay out late, act like you are too busy for him. That man who knows how to cheat well will immediately start suspecting you and he'll be focused on you. When the confrontation comes, don't shout, but shame him that he has no self-control, quieltly. Start building your nest egg (saving up) because you never know when his head will craze n he'll impregnate one n decide he wants another family. But let him know you know and you don't condone it. Men are weird, they respect you when you draw the line in the sand, not when you patiently love him. They go crazy the day they realise they can lose you, but will never care if they know you're understanding. They have to keep fighting and trying to win something, your love, affection or attention. Make them work.

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tomakint: I was jolted after reading and still in shock now, just tell me that didn't happened! Ok?

And why are you shocked, lol? I know 3 separate cases of sisters fighting over the same man. One moved with her elder sis' hubby (they're still together), the other married her younger sis's toaster and the last 2 sisters were fighting over a guy who was toasting me while keeping his options very very open (I bailed). In each case, the men were charmers and cheaters.

tomakint: I was jolted after reading and still in shock now, just tell me that didn't happened! Ok?

Do not ever underestimate people's ability to always go for what they want, whether it is getting rid of you or begging you to come back. Nigerian women have been taught to endure any and everything. I keep saying, it's not the wives you should be worried about, look at the children learning the behaviour that they can do whatever they like, there will always be someone to forgive and understand and accept. Same reality in churches, hence no christian is afraid of God, because they have "claimed" forgiveness already before the sin. Same with relationships. The transgressor doesn't care about your feelings, they just want you back because you made them happy (at the cost of your happiness). So they will fight to mend things, and those type of people are the charmers. I'm yet to hear an erring hubby apologise because he hurt his wife's pride by cheating, they'll say "I can't help it I'm a man or the devil made me do it, or this is somehow your fault, but sha accept me back with the love you had before".

I'd have said that, but I guess people can add pressure to the erring spouse's begging n make you take him back. A lady brought her niece to come help her in Lagos plus go to school. That was how niece started acting like wife to her hubby, in front of her. Neighbours began to gossip, so she got fed up, caused a scene. Hubby came and threw her and her kids out, and told niece to stay. 5 yrs of nacking niece n some other chicks, hubby came back to beg (with family, gifts and of course Pastor). She took him back last year. I don't know how a human being can treat another like that and she forgives him. There's no demon in the world that will possess you to forget your duties and be so shameless. Then expecting forgiveness and demanding that you be accepted back with love. Wow.

Where are all the people always insulting naija girls, pls let them come and talk to their fellow man. Your hubby is greedy and selfish. And he knows he's not right. A lot of people will say "pray, m'dear", but here's what will work fast: leave your phone for him to see one of those msgs from your ex. Yes, there will be a fight, but then cry and let him know how lonely and neglected you felt, as he was too busy with all the other women in his life to notice you. If he loves you (heck naija guys feel their wives are property), he'll sit up and worry about you. If he doesn't care, well, sadly you've got your answer. I don't get the selfishness of men: I'm dealing with 2 cases of husbands, who after throwing their faithful wives out for gf, came back years later.

They broke their laws, 11 hours a day for 300 pounds per month is about the same rate as bank job in naija (and no-one working at that rate likes their job) plus since they illegally tried to get her in, had she annoyed them or quarrelled over pay later, they could easily report the nanny to Border Authority and have her deported. And I don't think when they deport you, they give you time to get all your belongings and cash, they most likely tell you to write the bank and you start fighting internationally. Plus for a case of false employment visa, govt has the right to seize the salary. Think about that before we say this chick was moving to better life. I know some naija family who took a girl to US as nanny, she did nanny for almost 16 yrs and the only schooling they paid for her was Dental Hygenist (lower than a nurse).

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cikadile: I am a professional, earn some money, at least enough for my needs
I got engaged in January, to a guy about 4 years older, a banker...
he says he loves me....that he will make me love him, etc
I agreed..from Jan till date, he never has se

He also never gave me an engagement present, not even a ring

I don't know how to ask a guy for things, I expect them to give me if they want...but this guy just never did...it goes on and on


So guys, is this strange to you too?
I need answers


P.S...he was a faithful, nice enough guy, but meeeen, I could not go ahead..I was spooked off
but I now wonder, is it that he wanted to marry a professional he would not have to give money, or in my case, spend a kobo on?
Or that he did not have it...hearing now that UBA HND people are not paid much...but I mean, not even to give a little?

This one pass me o

Well, I think you dodged a bullet. He sounds like my friend's dad (her mum told us the gist). When they met, he was in Ministry and she was a teacher. So money was tight, she was understanding to the point of paying for half of the wedding (this was the 70s). See suffer her mum suffered! She became a head teacher of a state school, he moved up in govt small, but nothing changed. He would divide schoolfees into half and even if they hadn't paid teachers' salary, he wouldn't care. My friend almost missed a semester of college because her dad was waiting for her mum to bring her share, he refused to pay for the whole, yet he smiled when she came out with 1st class. He only buys foodstuffs if he wants to eat, if not, soup had better materialize with meat and not from his pocket, as he believes that feeding is a woman's job, though her mum has to support her family+other people on a BLOODY state public school teacher's salary. Cheap is cheap. Your fiancee owes you a ring, he could get you a small one and replace later (my housemaid's bf did that, he wasn't a banker!). And borrowed your car for intro, nearly fought over change, cannot buy a gas cooker for his elderly parents?! I get one elder bros who's almost as irresponsible as this fellow. Do you know on my N8000 allowance, I gave my mum N1000 for water for the house, yet money is tight for a UBA banker! This man is a miser, and you cannot change a miser, you can only accept his faults. Decide wisely.

I'm not in support until I see the construction drawings and a health and safety report. Is that area safe environmentally? What will the school building look like and be supported on?

OP, even though you say you want your bf, you're apprehensive over his coming back and his plans for your future, you want him to discuss said future immediately and that your plans are different from his. Well, I kinda agree with everyone that it seems you're not really into him anymore (maybe you never were). Try to figure out what is causing that, do you like him as a person, and are just managing till someone you like more comes to sweep you off your feet? Is something going on that makes him less attractive to you? The worst you can do is waste his and your time. I think you should have a clear talk with him, better for both of you to be free to go after what you really want than for you to feel like you're stuck with him, while he loves you. No?

Dear children, as you grow older and hopefully wiser, you will realise one thing: a time will come when your partner or spouse's natural flaws will begin to irritate you. It MUST ALWAYS come. And during that period, the world will re-align in a manner to show someone else to you. That person will probably NOT be better than your current spouse/partner, but because your current person is annoying you, all you can see are his/her flaws, so the new person will automatically look prettier/nicer/perfect/whatever. It is upto you to decide whether you will keep jumping to greener grass or sit down and ask yourself "why can't I work with what I've got now, until I see that it is no longer good?"

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septua: My ex called to confess he has just been goin totally crazy about me and how lonely he has been all the while, and cld not find someone else,.. spendin hours on day time cals...i took pity and decided to cal bak d next 2days and, his gal pickd d fone to warn me seriously to stop disturbin her guy dat he said he dosent want to talk to me anymore...and the next day he cald bak to apologise and told me he has ended his relationshp wit d gal..and in d evening dsame gal used his number to cal me to tel me dey r now livin 2geda. Hian!

LOL!!! Why are men useless? And why are women still fighting over a guy?? If a man is cheating, you should fight him, not the other woman. How many women can you fight before you get tired?

She doesn't really like you. You're the guy around her helping her to heal over her ex. Women lose to possess things, there is NO way a woman who loves you will describe you as "someone like that". Women care when you change your fb status to "in a relationship", yet this girl is saying she went to see "someone" and "someone like that" after over a year of dating?! Your chances of getting hurt is steadily getting higher, and she'll probably move onto another guy. If she stays with you, it's not that she loves you, it's because she knows she has the upper hand. Tears come easy for 90% of women, shey you know? If you like, play a tight game and talk to her "like a man" or "beg", she'll stay for now. But remember, women can marry you and NOT love you and you will NEVER know. Though most likely in her case, she may end up with a new guy, not the ex (have seen your situation before, you may end up breaking up with her after wasting your time). Tell her to leave you and make up her mind, no contact for a month, and you, stop chasing waterfalls. And oh yeah, stop loving her virginity. Really. As a woman, it's an excellent tool for controlling men, because we know it trips guys. It doesn't make me a good person more than the next (I can show several virgins who will make your life hell, and several virgins who are sweet).

Tell her right now. She deserves better than you and stop using her as your sleeping bag since you already know you wanna break up. Men! Later you'll come and wonder where all the good girls are, after treating them badly.

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Tell her you've moved on and thank her for her prayers.

Actually the best li I heard was from my ex. I contacted him to say hello and he started yarning how he still liked me, we should reconcile. So I said sure, but wasn't sure. Till the day I saw his engagement picture (he had wedded before I contacted him). When I asked him, he said it was for papers only, then later I found out he had bought a house with his 'fake' wife. He still kept lying and saying it wasn't true. Men sha.

Most idiotic, one monkey who's last name is Odukoya. He said we should settle down and that if he ever found out I was keeping a spare outside, he would leave me. Fast-forward a few months, it changed to "why should I tell you I'm keeping a spare outside, Onegai, are we not all looking for what we want?". I knew then he had a babe out there. Sure enough, 2 weeks later, he started acting up and broke up with me, lying about me and saying I was crazy. I've given his name to an MFM pastor sha LOL.

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Real Techniques come in sets of 4 and 5. Good quality brushes cannot be bought in sets (as someone who has owned brushed for over 10 yrs, I can say this honestly). There is a set that is about 18 which is N15,000. It's decent, but not Real Techniques brushes.

Beauty Tip: pink and purple is sooo in fashion right now, but it's a trend, and you shouldn't spend too much on it. For light skinned girls, Miss Rose lipstick in 20 (black container) and dark skinned girls can wear Wet n Wild lipstick in 521A. Both are purply-pinks with good pigmentation and wearable day and night and best, under N500. For more expensive brands, try MAC Girl about town, N3700 and Khuraira Cosmetics BabyDoll (price upon request).

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@Bammytal: you need a good makeup artist to show you the right steps and products. She will also let you test the products out. Your skin may not be as oily as you think it is (the weather contributes) and then you should be told what to buy, and how to apply it. There are several good brands on the markey that are NOT Mary Kay or Iman. Contact

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In Lagos, there's someone selling Real Technique brushes (very very good, please check their reviews on line). They don't shed and blend well and are US-made. Sets of 4 go for N6,500. If you have someone here to pick up for you?

Happiness is pretty, but the makeup artist didn't do a good job on her. Hopefully, once the competition starts, the organizers will call in the pros. And I'm worried that she may be photo-sensitive like most albinos, because sometimes studio lights cab get very hot. I wish her all the best.
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