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The world would be a better place and people would lead more prosperous and peaceful lives if they would learn to shield and block their ears from what people say or how people percieve them.

All I see here is someone who wants a change of state not because of hardship but because of what people think of her.

Sherina... Go on and leave the marriage.

And after that I hope you would not get into another marriage with maybe a murderer or armed robber just because "you don't like the way people look at you when you say you are single and divorced".

When would you do one single thing for your own personal happiness instead of what the inconsequential people on the outside you give control over your life think?

xtervaganza:
ok sir









If they are meant for each other they will find a way to get back together

Ain't advising her to leave. She has all the indices with her and can best decide what is good for her.

1. Acer aspire 1

160gb Intel Atom procesor

25k


2. Dell D830

160gb,3gb ram, Core 2 duo, Extended battery life. Windows 7.
35k.



Both sold

roselynbas:
does the start up light show that it is on?

If yes, if you hear the windows start up sound, it is means it is the screen that is bad.

If no, simply bring out the RAM, clean the pins and insert it back properly.

If it still does not come on. Your mother board may just need cleaning and that may solve it.

If you are not a computer technician. Please, visit one.

Impressed. .Would be interesting to have an active female here. I however hope you did not undergo a sex change.

emma4ph:
Good Evening to everyone here"

please help me out"" because i format my Desktop Computer to Windows 7, since then my sound is not working again and also i took it to a computer engineer for proper solution, then he's asking me to bring 3k....

state the model. Would give you a link to download it.

deji2009:
Dear Olaztan,

Where did you bought your laptop/desktop or windows 7 from ?

Your copy of windows is not genuine, i.e. fake copy.

If you can get into windows save your data on an
external usb drive and get an original copy of windows.

I may not be of help but that's the truth, moreover I would
have been of help if I am a nigeria resident. The advice have give is
the correct one. Therefore, look for adetwin, onegig or zyzxx on this forum , they
would offer a chargeable service. I have using computer since I was 6yrs old
and know the inside and out of a computer. Do it the rightway don't
get cracks, it wouldn't be of help.

The windows update nullified the activation.

He needs to purchase or find a genuine windows key before it would work. He should send me a pm.

Just download speecy from piriform.

It would display everything.

xtervaganza:
kids these days getting engaged



no wonder the divorce rate is high.




what happened to discussing it like adults?



Na wa ooo

Discussing it like adults.?

How do you do that with someone who would accept no wrongdoing and play the victim card in such a situation like this? I guess you didn't see where she made several attempts to get in touch and resolve this.

Doing anything more would make her look desperate.

hazel01:
Yeah I thought of that too,I wasn't angry with him at all,I only brought it up to let him know it was wrong,But his response really threw me off balance, the fact that he could have tried to put the blame on me and play the victim card,showed me he is not sure of our future together...even after telling him of my disappointment in his attitude several times via calls and text he refused to reply or even accept his faults made me realize I should back out before it's too late,I was only shocked he could react like this because I thought we shared something rare and special.

Damn....that guy na wa. To be able to play the victim card out of this.? What!!!

You know what you want and deserve sis. His actions is reminiscent of someone who lacks respect for you and the relationship. You are better off than being with someone like that. It maybe painful at first but you would outgrow it..

MarvellousGod:
Your marriage is what you make of it.... Marriage needs manure for continuous and blossom growth... Go out with your partner, see movies together both at cinema and home, play ludo, cards etc together, buy things for each other, crack jokes, go on holidays, pray together, do those things that keep the bond so strong and love evergreen. ...

Learn to forgive cos you ain't perfect too.
Never assume or hold unhealthy suspicions in your mind.
keep no third party
Above all, Let go of whatever ego you have when it comes to your partner.....

Marriage is sweet cos many marriages around me are just sooo

At least a silver lining in the clouded sky of the family section.

Thank goodness there are still people out there who still believe and are having what they wish for unlike what most want us to believe on this section daily.

hazel01:
Recently we had our convocation with his mum present and my both parents present, we entertained our guests few feet apart and still he couldn't greet my dad, while I went to greet his mum, I noticed he was acting like he didn't want the extended family in attendance to notice we were together, he didn't even introduce me to his mum as his girlfriend, when I accused him after the event and everyone gone, he said I should have introduced myself on my own without expecting him to,while he was there looking at both of us, when I asked him Why he didn't greet my dad he said I was selfish and turned everything against me and made me look like a villian while he acted the victim, when I left his presence in annoyance he claimed I have a terrible attitude and didn't call me for days and to think this guy gave me a ring on our last day on campus, a lot of people saw the ring and started congratulating me
I am really not sure if I made d right choice breaking up with him because I really love him,and he claims he does too, nairalanders what do u think?

What's with the ego?

What happened to making millions of excuses for them?

Just a simple sorry would have resolved this. Some people are very shy when in unfamiliar environment. He may have wished to do all that but reality is different from the corner of your room.

The issue should have been what you guys should have made fun of yourselves and laughed over. It aint too late to resolve things and get back. Look at this as a minor clog in the wheel.

EDITED..

Just read your later submissions... you should be able to make the deductions on whether to move on. You alone have the whole details and the best to make a decision on this Goodluck

MizMyColi:
The Orisirisi types of food buyers

Okpa
Garnished Moi Moi
Beans and Potato (this one sells her own in a car. I don chop am once sha)
White Rice and Ofe-Akwu
Abacha
Cassava flakes and coconut
Agege Bread
Plantain Chips
Baked Products.
Fish

With the way those people advertise their wares ehn.....
It's almost like, pesin fit finish the money wey hin make for one day ontop food matter.

You sure this is computer village. ?

Maybe some other village. Can't remember seeing an Agege bread seller or any of what you listed there shouting their wares.

Some things may seem like fiction but reality has shown that they are a reflection of what goes on in the society.

And most are not foolish. They have just been programmed to live on the negatives. So when someone spills an unfounded secret or balderash to their hearing, they go on seeking ways to justify it. Ladies are fond of that.

"My friend told me this. My friend's elder sister said that. "All these would be digested without individually sifting through the rumours.

You see ladies telling their friends not to trust that guy and so on. He has a side chick, why would he do that, he does this, he does that and these friends are only itching to replace or perfect another plan when the cookie crumbles. They even have an anthem now. Show me a man who doesn't cheat and I would show you a virgin with two kids. When these kind of stereotypes is repeated too much. The lies becomes the truth.

I don't actually pity those who don't take cognizance of what they have and do their investigative work with a clear sight and mind. Nothing is wrong with someone giving you a tip off but be discrete and logical about things and be the one to decide what you would do with such information. You dont want an enemy who is disguised in sheep's clothing playing your life like a game of chess.

alex406:
You can journey down to ibadan from Onitsha then board another vehicle from ibadan(iwo road) to ilorin.

Which kain long journey be that?

Op. Search for kwara express on google. Get a phone number off their site and call to ask where they are located in Onitsha. They run straight service from Onitsha to Ilorin.

lol.

Following. Where una keep this thread?

What you see is a web portal for logging in..


It is simple html page to control users of a wireless network.

They call such systems hotspots and its not a programming language.

mutter:
To her husband being a womanizer
I quote
@coogar he even admitted to me dat he had not been faithful in d past but promised he wld never cheat on me again. D real number he didn't tell me, but d ones I know is two.

Exactly because of the vows and things like STD a woman should marry the right partner. When you focus your priority on material or other things rather than the character and decency of the partner, do you expect the devil to become an angel overnight because you married him?

As regards the privacy- as long as you go looking into things you cannot do in the presence of the partner you are snooping.

The words in red still states that he cheated during the marriage not before. Just read more carefully.


@coogar he even admitted to me dat he had not been faithful in d past but promised he wld never cheat on me again.
"He had not been faithful"....I guess you only start carrying that "faithful" tag when you tie the knot. But nevertheless, the guy is the real tyrant here.

Any words of advice for the lady?

Seems you got experience.

Mcbussy:
Yes,but d experience of a child plays more part in defining his/her personilty.

If u raise a child in a ghetto and extremely violent environment....he will most likely be delinquent no matter how noble,cultured and civilised the parents are.

Some parents in bad neighbourhoods refuse to let their kids socialise for a reason.

The truth is that if we keep up this argument,it will never end....I believe d nature vs nurture argument is older than Psychology itself.

I understand you but in your earlier post you were talking about the next generation of jews hating the Germans. Which infers from what you said that experience can be passed down to an unborn offspring. Only traits can be passed down not experience because its not built into the genes.

mutter:
I did say that there are exceptions to the rule but you know what-
Most women know already that they are dating a womaniser and go ahead and marry him hoping to change him. When you get married to a man and you know he throws his net in many ponds, do you think he will stop going to the other ponds because he has drawn out the net in your pond? You got what you purshased. Again to this there are exceptions.

No not blind trust, you need to evaluate and the rest but you don`t need to go snooping around, that is humilating yourself and breeching his privacy.

I have enough dignity to know my value .

I am all for doing your due diligence before marriage but I like issues to be taken case by case. I can't recall the woman here saying her husband is a womaniser or something. Even if he is before marriage there's what they call vows. He made the vows.

I have never seen a woman put a gun to a man's head and led him to the altar. He knew what he was signing up for. It's either he learns to be responsible or continue being a bachelor and doing whatever he likes. That's me being secular. We haven't even looked at the religious implication, what about STDs and other things connected to such a lifestyle? If he is not satisfied with what she's doing, talk to her about it and if she doesn't change after repeated talks and interventions. Learn to live with it or Divorce is always an option. Though a difficult one but a responsible one than sleeping around.

As for snooping around. What you consider privacy may be something open for someone else. I don't even share the idea of keeping secrets. There's nothing like privacy between couples. 2 becomes 1 and this is in all acts.

mutter:
Yes a woman typed this! To advice another woman.

Firstly marriage is based on trust! Do you think you can control a partner? He can have twenty phones if he wished to. He could change his number ever so often. You have absolutely no chance. Most times you only find out what the man wants you to find out or what he doesn`t give a damn if you find out.

A marriage is based on trust and respect. You have to respect your husband and trust him enough not to snoop after him. How can you respect someone or have regard for him if you have to invade his privacy and snoop after him.
And secondly where is your pride and dignity that you feel so insecure to have to do this.

I am one of those women that say my husband is the boss because I say he is. My husband has all rights over me because I gave him those rights as a sign of my love and respect for him as my husband. I handed him over his authority over me freely whenever had to fight for it so he knows the source of his authority. He knows he got it from me, I am his king maker in our Kingdom so why should he abuse the authority when he knows the source? I don`t want to brag but there is nothing he would not do for me as long as it is a reasonable request. That is because he feels good when I ask and he feels even better when I appreciate.

You are entitled to your opinions but truth is even if you do everything possible. Lie down flat, perform the best action in bed, be submissive and all that. Some men would still go ahead and cheat. It is not ideal to accuse the victim of not doing enough because reality points to the contrary. The man who couldn't put his fly under control should take responsibility for his actions and take the blame.

Also, trust is being evaluated daily and every second. There is nothing like blind trust. benefit of doubt you may say. But complete wholesome trust is BS. If he does something suspicious, it is only natural for you to ask for clarifications.

mutter:
IF your husband is fliring it means he is looking for something he is not getting home. You can`t change your husband but you can change you. Go into yourself and check what you are doing wrong or omitting to do.
Start working on your marriage.
Getting a husband is not hard but the biggest challange is keeping a happy home. Yo need to keep the live alive and kindle the fire every day.
STOP snooping around. His Tel. is not your biz.

To think a woman just typed this.

Smh. So it's her duty to keep her eyes off ? If he didn't do any wrong, she wont need to keep snopping around.

You are one of those who take nonsense and make men feel they are invicisible and continue all sorts of rubbish.

She should start working on her marriage? . Where in the world does it take a single partner to make a marriage a success? What happened to the man keeping to his vows ?

adrusa:
@onegig

I dont know for the other people, but I speak out of personal experience for myself. I have had materials posted through USPS that you track out of US and then disappear forever. Not once, not twice. Personal. Not that someone told me. And I used my office address; one of the most popular teaching hospitals in Nigeria. If you get your package, maybe it is some small items, any big items; phones, laptops etc, forget it.

Asked an official here. Said you should go to the nearest post office to your office address taking your tracking number and identification along. She said there's a registry for all items and its hard to go missing because someone has to sign off for it before it is taken out and sometimes they don't deliver to home you have to come pick it. You have to go there to check. You may be lucky those items are still there.


For the naysayers. Here's a package by same usps and china post I just picked today. All arrived a week after shipment and both electronic gadgets. This is not to say I give a green light using them. Use your discretion.

Mcbussy:
Op,nice job....but I'm gonna argue about John Locke's tabula rasa.

Truly,cognitive traits and capabilities are passed from parents to offspring. But what John Locke was saying is dat a child comes to the world with a blank slate (tabula rasa) i.e blank mind...the child's experience in life is written on that slate and therefore is one on the key factors that develop d individuals personality.

If you look at urself. your childhood experience, the kind of environment u grew up in helped shape who you are today. Every individual responds to d world according to his own experience, views and perception.

Definitely, parents can't pass their own life experience to their ofsprings through the genes. If that was the case, every Jew born in present day would naturally hate Germans even without hearing the world war 2 stories. African Americans would still be feeling the pains of their slave ancestors... Lolz

So I think the scientists that related genetics with "tabula rasa" must av had d wrong perception of what John Locke meant. Memory and perception cannot be passed by genes. It is possible to pass cognitive capabilities and patterns.

You foget that there is a difference between traits and experience. What the jew had was an experience and not a trait. The trait passed on by parents typify how a child would respond to an action or event.

Solutions are there but who's gonna implement it.

The problem ain't lack of buses but the movement of students out of school almost at the same time. You imagine having 20,000 students leaving the campus at the same time. It's sure same would continue to happen. Same happens in lagos at rush hour periods because there are no alternative routes or means of transportation.

Until the lectures are structured in a very unique way using computer simulated models, there is no end in sight. Even if you provide 1000 buses which is not feasible same issues would still continue.

Unilorin has a classical issue of having less than 5 per cent of their students on campus and a campus that only has one exit and is 8 to 10 kilometers from town. There no other means of transport out except the road. You can't walk from the academic area to your house neither can you swim.

Go to the park around 12pm and see how taxis would be begging you to come board their cabs.

This is the result of dating without an aim. Be frank and straightforward from the start. Are we in this to play around or have a goal which is marriage..

If it were well defined from the start I doubt you would have such issues and no one would be feeling pressurised at the moment.. If that was sorted out you would have a realistic time by now for settling down and Working towards that goal would have been much easier.

Firefire:



PAINFUL but necessary

You mind if pray difficulty should be a necessity in your life? Would you say amen?

amedave:
dearie relax call a spade a spade...women has also failed us woefully example the former speaker of hOuse of rep...and one thing you need to know is true leadership is not being tough but calculative....people like ngozi happen to be tough but she can't understand a common lay man maths on the economy of the nation....we don't need tough confused and emotional women we need rational humans...thank you

And all the men that have failed us ages ago and continue to fail us,what do we do about them? Ban them and and go look for angels from heaven to come rule us ? Because she failed as speaker, all women must hide under their beds and not aspire to leadership positions?

Your excuse is illogical.

adrusa:
@onegig

I dont know for the other people, but I speak out of personal experience for myself. I have had materials posted through USPS that you track out of US and then disappear forever. Not once, not twice. Personal. Not that someone told me. And I used my office address; one of the most popular teaching hospitals in Nigeria. If you get your package, maybe it is some small items, any big items; phones, laptops etc, forget it.

Sorry about your items that went AWOL but twice that i have used them i had no issues and both were electronic gadgets. I was also very sceptical but they proved me wrong. First it was a brand new tablet from you the uk and the other was a laptop and other computer parts. When next someone sends things to you through usps, china post or royal mail just get the tracking number handy. 5 to six days after those coy notify you that they have transferred it for onward shipment to Nigeria. Head over to nipost website. They have a tracking page. Input the tracking number. It would display the actual date the package was recieved, the time and its location. Head over to the post office with your id and tracking number. In minutes you would get your items. I normally use the ebutte meta office and have a bit of understanding with them. They informed me to always include my phone number on the package and after that they have been the ones calling me of its arrival. I am heading over there today to go collect another item and i would upload images. I was a worse critic of them in the past but in the last few months my perception of them has changed. There are lots of issues with them still but once you are vigilant you shouldn't fall victim to the thieves amongst them.

I won't dignify the ignorant fellow that has been cursing up and down the thread like a tout. It shows the way he was brought up.

Etinosajay:
Mr shipper and mr know it all. I won't be surprised if you fail most of your school exams this way. You blindly quoted me because u thought you had an information or misinformation to pass accross.

FYI, I'm not the one expecting a package dude. Read d thread properly before you start hurrying your misinformed fingers and brain to type poo.

Lexyp is the one expecting a package from USPS.

Now, to my matter with you. What's the name of your city and what's the zip code? What's the zip code of Lagos, Abuja? Calabar? Because you're obviously confusing american zip code nomenclature for nigerian postal codes or maybe even phone codes.

You should read properly next time before your hurry your fingers.

Lol..I should ask you if you have comprehension issues. I know who is expecting a package but I directed my message at you because you seemed to be passing the wrong information about Nipost. I gave you reasons why you may have a bad time with them and ways to avoid such. But what did you respond with?

That it is childish to put your phone number on your package. All I did in my first post was to help anyone who needs the right info so as to avoid delays with Nipost.

As for your American style zip codes. You just keep mixing things up. So what happened to the american styled zip codes with hypens in between? If you want to know why there are hypens between most American zip codes. e.g 11637-5758. Google is your friend bro. make use of it.


Oh...Now it's about grammar. ? Zip codes and post codes?

My last response to you.

Etinosajay:
Firstly, I'm not sure why you quoted me. Secondly, you apparently didn't read my posts that you quoted in a hurry. Thirdly, Nigerian states don't use zip codes in shipping parlance. Fourthly, you don't see people writing dem damn phone numbers on top of dem packages, or do you think its school hostel where u name and tag all your items? Finally, can you in your extensive knowledge and wisdom of shipping and postage, explain why it takes average of 3-4weeks to deliver to Nigeria, an item sent from USA/UK for example, but average of 1 week thereabout to deliver to USA/UK, an item sent from Nigeria by standard or registered post?

You like arguing blindly I see. Don't print your number on the package you hear. someone’s giving you heads up on helping you get your package more easily and faster but you keep on arguing about what is not.

Nigerian addresses don't use zip codes? With that I just need to rest my case. seems like I took a time travel machine back to the 90s by talking to you.

And If you don't know . I recieved all my packages within 6 to 8 days after it left the destination Nipost is not to blame when you wrongly address and not input the right zip codes. They are not perfect and not at the point i would wish they are but they would be more efficient if ignorant people like you would take time to research things before buying and shipping.

Etinosajay:
Go to www.trackitonline.ru

Try track it there and see what comes up. All in all, once the package has been handed over to Nipost, you will most likely not know until it gets delivered to you, and this will take several weeks because of how our Nipost people work.

People get packages everyday, so rid yourself of worry and expect your item. I know that thefts and package bypassing is not new in this country, but you will get your package.

Depending on the value of what you're expecting, you should consider using UPS or FeDex next time.

You guys should stop making comments not supported by facts. I am not the biggest fan of Nigerian run compnaies but you have to give it to nipost. They have improved alot. Have you tried tracking the item using their online tracking tools?

Most people ship without using the proper zip codes or telling the shipping company to include their number on the package. I have bought things twice now. One from the UK and another China. and Nipost were the ones that called that my package had arrived and I could even track it on their website. which post office it was and the different procedures it has undergone