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Zeemoor:
I'm tall
By tall, I don't mean some rail-thin 'agali' but tall and curvy

Curiosity kills the black cat..Just took a peep.

Hmmm. ..lips sealed.

Agybabe:
And motivational/marriage-talk speakers would advise us to marry our friends. #JustSaying.

Yeah our friends but we make new friends and what stops your spouse from being your friend?

Driven:
Why dont you help her make the choice by removing yourself from the picture? I'm not a rabble-rouser, but I just had to ask, cos to me, that's what every self-respecting person would do.

One other thing you seem to be blithely unaware of is the FACT that she is already cheating on you emotionally with that guy. Perhaps she is doing the same physically too. Leave her alone to sort herself out, and move on with your life, cos she isnt available and ready for a new relationship. What you should want is someone who is SURE about you, not this one wey dey play kalo kalo.

Sorry about the mess though. As long as you dont forget to take care of yourself, you'll be fine.

Perfectly said. She's the one that need to sort out issues herself. not you.

Zeemoor:
Ain't short, mister
Ajegbodo nwa eni kunra

I'm tall
By tall, I don't mean some rail-thin 'agali' but tall and curvy

Oro pe mo nwa eni kunra abi?


I just smiled at your comment. If only you knew... .

And you just couldn't help but add the word "curvy" to it abi. Lol. Anyways....it's all good.

samuelson06:
1. She disturbs and talks a lot.
2. She wouldn't allow me concentrate with my computer. I do MS-SQL and most times, domain name search.
3. She always complains about missing me and visiting NL forum so much.
4. When spending the night in my place, she'll want me to be holding her throughout the night and always asking about my dreams in the morning when she didn't even allow me to sleep.
5. She calls so much and always asking "where are you?"
6. [BLOCKED]
7. She always wants to work where I work.
8. Always want me to hug her when I open the door to welcome her.
9. Always ask who I chat with at any time on Whatsapp. Wish there was a way I could be online and she sees me offline on her end.
10. She hates football and most times, we'll quarel fighting to choose between Telemundo and SS3 and she wouldn't let me go to viewing center.

But I love her on the other hand...
1. She'll wake me up early to go to work anytime she's around and prepares food [arranged] in a tray for me.
2. She's a friend with the kitchen.
3. She does her 'home work' very well like a Calabar woman.
4. She is slim and looks small but matured (fig 8 ).
5. She is very humble.
6. She hates joints.
7. She is hardworking.
8. She encourages a lot.
9. She prays a lot.

I need your advice. Am just feeling confused but I need my own time and space. I need to be free.

You know what you need?

A reset. Someone does half of these for you and you are still thinking of quiting. ?

All her crave for attention and stuff is natural and would pan out with time. For the other aspects that may seem to be intrusive of your privacy. All you just need to do is to talk to her and reassure her about things. Your current actions or inactions MAYBE stiring the hornet nest and making her doubt you that's why she's kinda asking too many questions. I would do same if I were in her shoes.

There's no doubt you have a good woman who's got your back. Hold it tight, hoes plenty for outside o.

Zeemoor:
Trying to console yourself, huh?

*In my Ibadan accent*
#teamsortgai#

Yeah. Trying to. Most of these tall guys no just want make we hear word. Maybe they take their tallness to the bank and cash it out.

So you short like moi? How short?

2 weeks.

Felt nothing for her. Knew it was fake and i was trying to make it work but i guess my heart was just not into it.

When you find it hard to do basic things needed in a relationship for example calls and other little things then its better to just call it quits and move on.

braine:
When you find them, what happens?

I guess he wants to hand out an award to them. What's with all these thread about tallness? Is it the new Nairaland fad?

lomaxx:
That's your typical Nigerian girl. Never sees anything wrong in their unwise actions and hence doesn't feel there's a need to change.

So far as she sees nothing wrong in her attitude, there's nothing you can do.

I believe if you must leave the company of someone to another for a discussion which won't be brief, you should tell the person you're with to excuse you and give a hint that the discussion would be long so that he/she knows whether to watch you rant back and forth or do something better with their time.

If she doesn't do these, and still not see anything wrong in what she does, she needs psychiatric care. Her judgement is impaired.

Exactly. I guess most just lack courtesy or respect.

Just inform the person you would be away for long, not needlessly chatting away while he/she is sitting there. And these type of people are the ones that would cry blue murder if same is replicated or done to them.

gtbee:
Hehe...does that put food on the table?

abi o. Tall guys these , tall guy that. Op.... I hope it puts food on your table.


#teamshortguy

deji2009:
I'd advise you to look for either adetwin or onegig on this forum.

Doubt he can get the components for such system. The system is kindof scarce and rare.

freshdude2:
Still fair. The problem, though, is that Case 2 is the most common form in our society today. Have you heard of "pami n ku" women? Apparently, they don't mind being punched, they'll speak their mind as caustically as is possible and will, in fact, belittle a man who doesn't respond like a neanderthal.

I'm not going to condone violence, my point is how do we protect men from verbal abuse and implosion into physical violence? No, lip-taping and de-boarding don't count?

**How do you make that?

Your last two paragraph is what we should be talking truly about. We all agree it is bad to physically abuse anyone. No matter the gender. There is no justification for hitting someone. No matter what. Violence does not solve anything , just aggravates things but you need to see the advice given by most ladies on a thread on this family section that when someone verbally abuses you, you should return in kind with words. That aint it just abuse? You should just say yours back.

No condemnation. No advocation for the stoppage of all abuses from all genders.

5minsmadness:
Yes, a physically abusive person can change depending on what made such a person become physically abusive in the first place. I'm going to use husbands here as my example since it seems the thread is favouring that direction.


SCENARIO 1.
Some men do not enter marriage with the mind of beating their wives. However as marriage progresses and stress piles up, they become irritable and sometimes frustrated. They realise that they are no longer in control of situations as much as they were before marriage. They feel restricted and the burden of being responsible to the family and society as a married man bears down on them. Such men, if they cannot handle this stress, become perpetually angry and lash out at the slightest inclination.

The situation above is further compounded when such a man marries a quarrelous wife. Coming home from a hard day at the office only to meet a ferocious tiger of a woman who will tell him he is not up to his mates because he does not have a new car, he should stop squeezing his face and provide 'chop money' for the house, he should find money to give her to buy that new high heeled shoe that costs n70k, his mother is the one disturbing them because she is a witch etc etc, will further depress his psyche and make him want to lash out. Some men might 'walk away' at this point with the woman screaming behind his back that 'he is not a man'. But some other men would have had enough at this point. He might scream at her to shut up but she'll simply scream back that he should make her shut up. The tirade will continue until the man gets physical and slaps her. Suddenly he is a physically abusive husband. Nobody wants to know how it came about that he slapped his wife, all they know is that he is physically abusive because all men are potentially physically abusive.





Solution: He should talk to his wife. Let her know the way she talks to him vexes him. Explain to her how she can pass her message across without being verbally abusive.
He should also learn to control his temper. Realise his wife is prone to being verbally abusive and let her know when she starts using hurtful words.
Both couples should realise they are facing the challenges of life together. It is neither of them's fault that they are going through these challenges. A united front will make the challenges easier to overcome.
Communication is the key. Sometimes people misunderstand what other people mean when they use certain words. A colleague of mine says 'don't be silly!' to almost everybody at the office. He means it as a joke but a new person might take it the wrong way. Communicating with and understanding your partner leads to less friction between you two.

And most times such issues should be taken as a case by case thing. Each individual is unique and what lead to such action is always very different so we cannot actually make blanket statements.

However, I would be more leniet and considerate of someone who makes a genuine mistake and is remorseful and seeks ways of correcting it(especially if its a first time offender. We all have some acts that we actually don't know reside within us until when in compromising situations and they boomerang in our faces) rather than someone who lives in denial of their violent and abusive nature even when they have in the past shown acts related to such like them intentionally breaking their phone screens out of annoyance or having a caustic tongue.

This set are whom i believe can't change or may find it hard to change. Because they believe they are very good (earthly angels) and not above mistakes and there is no need for revaluation even when they show such negative vibes continously.

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ayobamiakinrind:
hello,pls this is my issue; I opened a HP 655 to remove a stucked sdcard. but in d process,I broke the HDD cord. pls can u sell this to me or help on how to get it.

I hope the cord didn't break off the board and damage the teeth.

What errors is it giving you?

lordmayor4:
Anyone with a good working laptop for sale?

What's your budget bro? Here's one of the numerous others.

Brand:Dell Latitude E6400(Almost new) US used.
Processor Type: Intel Core Duo 2.53 GHz
Model:
Memory: 4 GB
Screen Size:14.1"
Hard Drive Capacity:750 GB
Backlit Keyboard: Yes
Dell Webcam: Yes; above LCD
Operating System: Windows 7 Professional
Asking Price: N65,000(Negotiable)

cluzdcobra:
Pls I got this problem with my laptop(Dell inspiron).recently wen I plug in the charger I noticed dat D̶̲̥̅̊ track pad n all oda external devices plugged 2 D̶̲̥̅̊ system via usb port e.g pad,mouse don't seem to work...but wen I remove D̶̲̥̅̊ charger evrythng comes bak 2 normal..n D̶̲̥̅̊ chargin seems S̤̥̈̊Ơ̴̴͡ slow now,takes too long to get even 10%...don't undrstnd it..pls help.

The charger you are using ain't the recommended one.

Get another dell charger. It would end the issues you are currently facing with ypur system.

It depends on the individual. If it's a one time thing that just happened and the person has come to terms with such a behaviour as being bad and unacceptable and the person involved is willing to work on such act, then to me they have achieved half the change that is desired and just need to work on things and persevere.

The first system is still available.

Tyz:
thanks I will try dat.

No issues.

Taking notes.

Some dell high end Used but very clean laptops available for sale on this link.


https://www.nairaland.com/1972416/laptops-sale

obadizena:
@ onegig.
I've seen your mail. Thanx a lot!

Welcome.

Ayoolajumoke:
oh oh, I won't even love to see him again let alone talk with him, my brothers even hate him more than I do. Thanks for the advice.

Hate is a strong word to use and a very bad thing to harbor. It not only consumes you but has psych effects on your decisions subconsciously. You are doing yourself more harm than good. Just learn to move on and learn to live with his absence. Tough but life throws us various tribulations and this is your own cross to carry.

What he did was despicable but just learn to forget it. You should thank God your mum stood by you and not throw you out like he did.Just forge on and excel in life. There is more to life than hating on someone who for all intent may be dead or even doesn't remember he has offsprings somewhere.

And mind you there's nothing like a "broken home", just a family with different architecture, peculiarities and description. Stop attaching negativity to yourself. Nothing wrong being brought up by a single parent.

Tyz:
the system memory tested OK but the primary hard disk self test .
quick test stuck @ 0%....

You have a failing hard disk. Replace it and you would be able to complete installation. A 320gb costs around 8k now. Try and buy an external casing to be able backup your files.

obadizena:
Excuse me Sir, ur PM
never arrived. Kindly re-send it.
Thanx once again!

Sorry for the slow response.

Tyz:
No bootable device insert boot disc and press any
key error.
when I try to re install Windows 7 it say Error 0x80300024 Fix Windows is unable to install
to the selected location. but I can see my hard drive as 463gb
my laptop is HP 630 Core i3

Restart your ayatem and enter the bios setup and go under the diagonistics. Carry out an Hard disk test and report. That your hard disk is displaying doesn't mean it is healthy. if it passes all the test. Please endeavour to fprmat completely before continuing with the installation.

obadizena:
Hello Sir,
My desktop PC is HP Compag dc 7600 SFF, Pentium 4, 3.20GHz dual CPU, 512MB RAM/80GB HDD. CD-RW/DVD-ROM COMBO.
First, the DVD ROM stopped responding. Later, the PS/2 mouse cursor got frozen in the centre of the screen. The device manager is showing. [......the driver may be corrupted or missing. (code 39) ] Then the keyboard also stopped responding.
How much will fix and upgrade the system to 2GB RAM and 160GB HDD. Also, how long will it take?
Memory type is DDR2 PC2-4200.
Memory slot: 4DIMM

sent you a pm. respond

obadizena:
Hello Sir,
My desktop PC is HP Compag dc 7600 SFF, Pentium 4, 3.20GHz dual CPU, 512MB RAM/80GB HDD. CD-RW/DVD-ROM COMBO.
First, the DVD ROM stopped responding. Later, the PS/2 mouse cursor got frozen in the centre of the screen. The device manager is showing. [......the driver may be corrupted or missing. (code 39) ] Then the keyboard also stopped responding.
How much will fix and upgrade the system to 2GB RAM and 160GB HDD. Also, how long will it take?
Memory type is DDR2 PC2-4200.
Memory slot: 4DIMM

sent you a pm. Please respond.

obadizena:
Hello Sir,
My desktop PC is HP Compag dc 7600 SFF, Pentium 4, 3.20GHz dual CPU, 512MB RAM/80GB HDD. CD-RW/DVD-ROM COMBO.
First, the DVD ROM stopped responding. Later, the PS/2 mouse cursor got frozen in the centre of the screen. The device manager is showing. [......the driver may be corrupted or missing. (code 39) ] Then the keyboard also stopped responding.
How much will fix and upgrade the system to 2GB RAM and 160GB HDD. Also, how long will it take?
Memory type is DDR2 PC2-4200.
Memory slot: 4DIMM

I will get back to you.

basille:
All hard disk test i conducted reported: failed.

There you have it. Your hard disk is bad and needs replacement.